Let's step back and look at the typical situation:
- You're socially close to a girl that you like.
- She has chosen to trust you—probably the hardest thing about meeting women—and become friends.
- You're not a random person approaching her ever again.
You are on her radar. You are not a random dude. She's aware of your existence and she has accepted you into her world. She's let her guard down and you get to experience her uninhibited personality.
Now, you may be in the friendzone because either she rejected your advances or you never made any in the first place, and now it seems 'late.'
But she still knows you! She's aware of you! All you literally have to do now is work on yourself and start making her feel curious about you. Don't force anything.
It is so much harder to get out there with random women, even after you have improved yourself in all viable aspects, because you're still a stranger.
But not with the friendzone girl!
The hardest part—trust and friendship—has been achieved with your person of interest. Now you get to have fun and play your cards to your advantage, knowing that she's going to pay attention.
It's not game, it's a game! Abundance mentality, confidence around others, all that shit. Being friends is kind of a level-up in this game. A subtle advantage with enormous possibilities.
Think about it and have fun with it, you get to become an attractive person and when you reach that level, you're just going to harvest your success with that person because she already knows you.
If you did show your intentions with her already: she knows you like her. And she's going to step into the plate as soon as you become the best version of you. The effort of bringing her in, getting her to trust you and know that you have compatible values, has already been made.
If you haven't shown your intentions, you're a clean slate. You get to pique her interest and make her wonder things all the while you make improvements to yourself. She is in your orbit, and that means you already have a leg up.
Think of seducing a woman this way: 0 means you are complete strangers and have to do absolutely all the work from scratch. 100 means you've seduced a woman. Being friendzoned—or rather just 'friends', not romantic acquaintances—puts you somewhere at point 50-60.
It's a huge advantage. Use it, but don't be a dick. She has in fact let her guard down because she sees you as a friend, so there's no need to creep her out with sudden casanova oneliners (which aren't you, anyway). In my experience, this is exactly the type of situation where you let your successes, whatever they may be—a job promotion, getting other girls interested in you, grooming yourself and attaining a hot physique—do the passive flirting for you. These are the things that will make her second guess the friendzone, and you can only benefit from that!
EDIT: As some have already put it, yes, even if it doesn't work out with that person—and I don't want to sound mean or sexist—she is not completely useless to you. She is social proof for getting more girls. She is gifting you with social proof. So take it.
EDIT #2: Discussion's heating, which I think is awesome. My opinion regarding people "hurting" over being in the friendzone is that it is a terrible look. On anyone. Terrible and pathetic.
EDIT #3: I'm genuinely loving the divisiveness of this post, haha.
My advice: Take the higher road, guys. Accept that you two are not a match (you know what you're worth as a romantic partner and that's her loss, it happens all the time!). But don't unleash the full extent of your wrath because she didn't fuck you when you laid your heart out for her, you poor, easily-affected thing.
Think positively. She's a friend, and she can get you laid easier than it would be without her.
Do you guys really not see this advantage?
FINAL FUCKING EDIT: I genuinely don't think most of you really get it. I'm not saying that you should be anybody's bitch at all. No, you shouldn't be 'waiting your turn' with your girl, you submissive idiots. I'm saying that you should keep as many girls close to you as you can—yes, even those who may have explicitly or subtly 'friendzoned' you—because they will be useful to your pussy-finding quest, either with them or with other girls. This requires a lot of maturity and confidence in yourself, but if you manage to do it, I promise it'll work better for you. Take it or leave it.
Much love, you silly fools.
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