Women really don't like men who LOOK YOUNGER than them

throwawaylessons103 · 2022-04-25T16:53:16+00:00

You probably simply lean too far on the "feminine" side of things.

No one said guys 30+ can't attract women. What women here say is that the notion every man "ages like fine wine" while women age like milk is BS.

Both men/women who eat healthy, workout, keep up cleanliness and have a sense of style can still be attractive 30+.

Magnito-was-right · 2022-04-25T19:38:41+00:00

Most women don’t want to date guys that still look like teenagers. Men do though. This guy selling wine at the supermarket asked to see my ID and was shocked. He said I looked younger than his 16 year old daughter and then he asked me out.

baresquad · 2022-04-25T16:57:33+00:00

Do they really? I’ve had a baby face my entire life and my only experience has ever been that older women are really into that

Older women started taking notice of me around 23 and now at 27 I still do well with 30-35+. If I had a dime for every time I heard flirtatiously heard “you’re a baby” I’d be buying twitter today

Women aren’t a hive mind and taste in men can vary meaning out of shape bald dudes can also do well in dating.

2022-04-25T16:45:59+00:00

I do. I like men who look young. My fiance got me because of his boyish looks.

EulenWatcher · 2022-04-25T16:48:10+00:00

Considering you attract teen girls, I could guess you don't just look young. You look teen-like. It's a huge difference, one can look youthful and good for their age, but they don't necessarily can pass as a teen. Women generally aren't attracted to young boys and if you do look boy-ish, I can imagine how it can cause certain issues.

AnastasiaApple · 2022-04-25T17:07:53+00:00

I love young looking or better yet actually younger than me.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-04-25T17:09:40+00:00

I find it absurd when PDD women claim that guys over 30 are unable to attract women because they're out of shape

Can I have a link to where that was said because I never saw that. Most guys over 30 can't attract college age women, that doesn't mean they can't attract women

Women over 30 and women in their early 20s have different tastes, what a shock

januaryphilosopher · 2022-04-25T17:04:34+00:00

It's more that if you look like a teenager, you kind of need to be in a situation where it's obvious that you're not a teenager for anyone to want to ask you out - because adults shouldn't, you know, ask out children, and even if they're in their late twenties and you seem about twenty they might think that's a bit weird. Just make your age known somehow and you'll probably notice an improvement.

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-25T17:23:31+00:00

Why are you equating youth with actually taking care of yourself?

AngelxEyez · 2022-04-25T19:44:20+00:00

I’m 24f and my boyfriend is 23m and hes got such a baby face! He looks 16-17 just in the face (hes tall so it offsets it I suppose)

I saw a pic from his highschool graduation and he seriously looked like he was graduating from 8th grd wtf. I definitely couldnt have dated him if we had met 3 years earlier!!

Definitely a late bloomer, and I look forward to seeing if he keeps the babyface or if it continues to mature! Ill be happy eitherway

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-04-25T22:41:06+00:00

Correct, most women like men who look about their own age or a few years older. But these guys think they’ll still be able to date 18-22 yr old women when they’re 30, 40+, or that they’ll do better even, which is rarely the case. Most college-age women date men around their age from their school. There is also a difference between being 30+ and being sloppy. Both men and women can look great or awful in their 30s, but men tend to think “men age like wine, women age like milk” when it’s really a matter of effort and genetics.

gofigure62 · 2022-04-25T18:26:07+00:00

Sounds like you look like a child and are upset that women aren't attracted to children.

Normal people don't want to date barely legals when they're adults.

It's great that you take care of yourself though. Most men don't. You may look like a teenager now, but you'll probably look more age appropriate in another decade or so.

SouthernGrass3 · 2022-04-25T17:28:42+00:00

This will probably serve you in the future, but right now you might still look a little bit like a kid to the women your age. If you look 5+ years younger when you are 35, that would be a very different situation. If you can bulk up that would help a lot though.

2022-04-25T20:07:35+00:00

i think ones who claim that are people who think at 30's, they will attract average teenage or 21 year old girls easily, not late twenties or 30's, women are attracted to guys that look their age normally, not significantly older or younger.

that being said, i like boyish men and have seen women irl or online hit on guys like that, my ''femboy'' friend has dated and has been approached online by girls, though he's early 20's, not late.

it also depends on place and generation, i think america overvalues roided muscles and ''thicc'' figures compared to most other countries, but zoomers are a bit more open to thinner or boyish guys, a friend in france and one in sweden reported women didn't have problem with skinnier youngish men.

Johnny_Autism · 2022-04-25T21:09:43+00:00

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acornfroggie · 2022-04-25T23:12:10+00:00

I'm a little older than my husband, and I love it. You couldn't pay me to change it. I'm happy that I look way younger than him though, because I want to look cute and bubbly, and I like showing off that he's unexpectedly younger. If he looked younger, it would make me look less cute in comparison. I like that he's younger and looks young, while I'm smaller and even more babyish.

By the way, I'm absolutely certain the teenage girls are just being friendly with you. Teenagers do not like older men. Men way overestimate cues on what attraction is. There was even a study where men consistently believed simple eye contact was flirting. If they were actually into you wouldn't you be creeped out? You'd get in trouble, you know.

ZaraFlips · 2022-04-26T00:53:15+00:00

I am quite attracted to men that LOOK younger, just not those that ACT younger, which usually means that they are younger lol. Have to be of the same generation as me for a relationship

Freevoulous · 2022-04-26T12:43:09+00:00

I have a bit unique perspective because I was unattractive in my 20s and then become attractive in my 30s, by a significant factor (went from lower 5/10 to 7/10, possibly 8/10 on a good day).

Between age 30 and 35 I got laid and possitive attention mostly from women around 25. Women my age, they started treating me...weirdly? Some got dismissive, some got almost hostile verbally. For some reason I became a butt of sexist jokes, and treated like I was a stupid meathead, even by female feriends who knew me for years. Some acted both attracted to me and strangely rude for no apparent reason.
Even relationships with female friends I knew since HS got weird.

Its almost like if a guy who got hotter over time breaks the "natural narrative" and women cannot decide what to do with that.

daisydaisydaisy12 · 2022-04-26T15:58:26+00:00

Go with the gay men. They can have you.

modidlee · 2022-04-25T17:15:14+00:00

If you can attract younger women I wouldn't even care about women your own age. You're actually winning. I've lost count of the women my age who are shocked when they learn I'm the same age or even older than them. I'm in my 40s and realized I've never been with a woman in her 40s even when I was younger and going after older women. I don't feel I've really missed out on anything either

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-04-25T17:17:12+00:00

I don't think it's that they hate it, I look pretty damn young myself, I've only gained maybe 10 lb since I graduated college 14 years ago, and thanks to my parents and their wonderful genetics, combined with staying in shape and eating well, I haven't aged physically that much.

I have found that some women and man quite frankly get a little resentful when you're an older man and can genuinely attract younger women, I remember when I was 31-32 a few years ago, and I was having me a nice little fling with a girl that was quite younger a freshman at my alma mater, it wasn't on a regular basis but some of the looks and shit we would get when people would find out the age difference , I mean some of my most consistent downvotes in other groups is when I mention my wife is 13 years younger🤣🤣🤣

LouisdeRouvroy · 2022-04-26T00:13:50+00:00

The feminine and feather like K-pop singer is attractive to teenage and young females precisely because he is pretty like a girl, which makes women sexuality more acceptable to themselves as it's thus completely harmless for them.

But that's who they swoon at on a screen. Who they open their legs for in real life, is not to a harmless androgynous hairdresser. But to the dominant man. Women want to be dominated in bed, as anyone who's practiced them in bed a bit. At different levels depending on the girl, but 90% of them want a dominant man, and when occasionally they do want to dominate, they want their dominant man to let them do so, because it shows how much they're worth to him. True dominatrix getting off at humiliating beta males are quite rare.

But intellectually, women cannot accept this part of themselves, especially after decades of saying that the private is political. Hence the hypocrisy of their discourse.

The equivalent for males is all those racist types who still can get it hard with a woman of another race and thus have to reconcile such discrepancy between their thinking and the hard truth.

Physical-Pie748 · 2022-04-25T17:46:16+00:00

because over 30, they want men with money status good height , face and hair doesnt matter that much anymore. they are over it. they had their fun with good looking men, now they want to settle down. and good looking players f boys are not husband material

NOSjoker21 · 2022-04-25T17:02:29+00:00

I'm a 32-year-old with a baby face and I regularly get ghosted/swiped left on apps with the occasional angry message of "you're a minor get off the app", etc.

I really don't want to have to put a photo of my passport on Bumble but um....

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Your_Couzen · 2022-04-25T17:12:06+00:00

Same man. When I go out I attract either gay young men or young girls. I have a cardio body but lift weights so I have this thin but muscular look but overall it adds to my youthful appearance and I have a whole racial regimen. My step sister thought I was 22. She’s 25. She just found out I was 30 and it’s shaken up our friendship.

ogsimpology · 2022-04-25T17:48:52+00:00

Women, like men, would ideally want it all. An accomplished man, with a steady paycheck, settled living arrangement, hobbies, interests, activities, inside of a young mans body.

This is, ofcourse, unrealistic. But it's the ideal. And whatever comes close to ideal is what they'll take. Sometimes wanting more, sometimes settling for less.

Would you set you IDEAL type as the type you're willing to realistically accept? No. Because that's not ideal, it's realistic and you might be fine with it. Not ideal tho. It doesn't have to be for most people anyway.

BecretAlbatross · 2022-04-26T01:40:48+00:00

I mostly agree with your point that women on PPD are going to be a SUPER BIASED demographic and are way more likely to like feminine looking guys. Redditors in general seem to be that way, and in hindsight, the redditor women I know IRL seem to like that look.

2022-04-26T14:28:54+00:00

Can super relate to only attracting gay men.... Didn't realize teen girls were into my appearance either until I went to a family friends party and the younger sisters followed me around the whole time...

No luck with women my age . I am 31 .

DerekMorganBAU · 2022-04-26T20:28:42+00:00

Nah I look young too especially when I shave. I’m approaching 30 with a daughter and without facial hair I look like I’m in high school. Maybe even younger.

Never stopped me from dating or attracting women. Just keep shooting your shots

AbbreviationsHot1200 · 2022-04-26T01:10:34+00:00

Its genetics. Women want strong genes, men who have lived longer have presumably lived through violence and battles but survived, thus proving they have strong genes.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-04-25T17:16:08+00:00

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trilobright · 2022-04-25T19:37:23+00:00

What does PDD mean in this context?

2022-04-25T21:52:32+00:00

If you look younger, then just date younger women. Problem solved. Or change up your hair style, grow a beard, work out, or change your fashion to look more masuline. This is such a non-issue.

NockerJoe · 2022-04-25T22:31:44+00:00

I find that a beard with some grey in it is fashionable right now. I would go so far as to say some older youtubers and media personalities are growing their facial hair out a bit or even just dying patterns of grey in to accent it. It's become almost laughable in a sense, because a lot of people who've been dying their hair for the last ten, twenty years are now going in the opposite direction. Steve-O from Jackass is the obvious example since he's been dying his hair since the 2000's to look dark, but recently went in the opposite direction and is obviously dying it to look lighter that it was when he first stopped doing it.

I developed a few grey hairs in my early 20's during a stressful period and started a routine to keep myself looking younger longer. Sometimes I get mistaken for a teenager(both by older adults and actual teenagers), and at this point I would say my skin and hair are better than they've ever been in terms of quality just because I found a decent combination of products that work well. But the end result is that most of my matches on dating apps are women who are several years older than me looking for a boy toy and women in my actual preferred age range don't really go for it.

Johnny_Autism · 2022-04-26T00:26:43+00:00

Some men have cute boyish looks that aren't "mainstream" but there's also not many guys who look that way and are straight. the women who are searching for someone like that would still be REALLY into you. It's a low supply niche market, but you just need to find your target audience..

out of curiosity/thirst I looked through your history, you're actually cute. The redpill vibes would probably turn women off, but based on looks alone there's nerdy women who would definitely hit that.

MOProG2 · 2022-04-26T01:39:19+00:00

I think that's generally true that guys over 30 will struggle unless they actively work on becoming conventionally attractive (money, muscles, game, frame). When I go to the gym its largely empty and even the people in the gym look overweight. As you get older metabolism slows down, leading to weight gain (esp if you have those bad eating habits of your youth). Women in your 30s will want a man in his 30s more than a man in his 20s, but men are much less picky about age.

SUBLlMlTY · 2022-04-26T01:45:33+00:00

....lolololololololololoololollllolloolo

2022-04-26T07:34:24+00:00

Yeah this is so wrong. I prefer younger men looks or men who have that whole sexy silver fox things. Most men I see are in their 20-30s. I'm 41

2022-04-26T08:03:45+00:00

I'm 19 and look old for my age and girls tell me I look too serious and nowadays Kpop prettyboys seem to be getting a lot of action so idk about that bro🤷‍♀️

womandatory · 2022-04-26T12:12:18+00:00

Today in n=1.

NinjaSupplyCompany · 2022-04-26T12:48:44+00:00

*the women you know.

Your sample size is far too small to be claims like this. Plus you don’t even know if that’s why they don’t like you.

kimjongunthegreat · 2022-04-26T13:46:23+00:00

Skincare routine?

popitert · 2022-04-27T00:43:54+00:00

not true dude, you’ll definitely find a woman who’ll like you, she’ll probably be older though. everybody is different and has different point of attraction so i wouldn’t generalize. i saw your photo and im sorry you don’t score anybody cause you have potential.

2022-04-30T05:25:14+00:00

I prefer younger looking men myself, since they still keep their hygiene up and don’t age as fast as women do. I’ve seen women who are 18, 19 years old, already looking thirty something and they get nothing but “grandma boobs” comments. Meanwhile, the younger looking men are just... cat call noises ❤️

-KiNG-WaVy- · 2022-05-06T16:46:45+00:00

Well im fucked i keep on get asked if thats my real ID

Title	Women really don't like men who LOOK YOUNGER than them
Author	Johnny_Autism
Upvotes	51
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Date	April 25, 2022 4:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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