"Dont be friends with girls"

2021-07-30T13:58:56+00:00

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Shadowfury957 · 2021-07-30T14:22:26+00:00

I think "being friends with girls" (or in other words having non sexual relationships, especially non sexual friendships, with girls) can both hurt you and help you.

In a very basic breakdown and there are exceptions to these rules:

It hurts you when you don't have any sexual relationships with girls, especially if you NEVER have had sexual relationships with girls.. I don't even want to say this because it's much more nuanced than that.. The point is that don't have friendships with girls if all you ever do is get stuck in the friendzone because you are basically training yourself in the opposite direction that you really desire. You are practicing not being (sexually) assertive with women.

Now if you have no problem getting into sexual relationships with women (and sexually asserting yourself with women), then there can be benefits to having some non-sexual relationships with women. Specifically it can help you have access to more sexual relationships with more women, and other things like better tighter social circles, networking, and even business.

Like I said this is very basic and there are exceptions to these guidelines.. It's so much more nuanced than what I wrote that this could be seen as just wrong advice in general, but hopefully it will be found helpful

EggoGF · 2021-07-30T15:35:14+00:00

As a guy, having a platonic female friend can be a tremendous asset. One of my best friends is female and she’s like a sister to me. For online dating, she helped me take better pictures, and I constantly talk to her about what girls mean when they say this or that. She’s given helpful advice on outfits and a variety of dating scenarios, and she’s offered to introduce me to her friends more than once. We were out at a club in LA last night wearing sequin outfits and were turning a lot of heads. At one point a porn star approached us and seemed interested in one of us. Nothing ended up happening there, but that kind of shit wouldn’t happen without the social proof.

Saurid · 2021-07-30T12:32:45+00:00

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PoPoChao · 2021-07-30T14:00:09+00:00

I def have female friends and have met women through them. I think it’s important to continue being friends with women who are mature enough to respect those boundaries and you actually have fun hanging out with them. If you don’t respect them and think they’re dumb and stupid and only good for a lay, then probably not the best to be friends with them.

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-07-30T13:44:20+00:00

My two female friends are actually my friends though. They’re not girls who turned me down sexually and I’m settling for some fake ass friendship where I’m secretly lusting after them lol.

If a girl rejects me I’m just gonna keep it moving, I’m not settling for less.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2021-07-30T13:00:08+00:00

If your entire online/social circle is just women you are interested in sexually, women will notice that and lose interest. You should absolutely have platonic female friendships so your future partner knows you can be trusted, especially around their friends.

If your only goal is to sleep with women and not make a long term connection then by all means, make no female friendships and stick to the plan, it’s better to not be unclear about it.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-07-31T00:47:35+00:00

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Just don’t be friends with girls you have any inclination of feelings for....

Let's think about the some popular ideas about manhood that are reinforced among boys growing up. Not the same for every guy growing up, but common enough that it's part of the general culture most guys grow up in:

Men don't cry (or only cry in a very narrow set of circumstances).
Men shouldn't need help; we need to be self-made and be able to handle it alone.
Emotions are weak and feminine. (Except for anger. That one's usually acceptable.)

And there's the infamous: "boys will be boys." The idea that there are things that boys just do because they can't help it. No control over themselves is possible.

A boy just hit a girl he has a crush on? (Or he has been mean to her because he has a crush?) Boys will be boys.
The boy got angry and punched the wall? Boys will be boys.
And so on.

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All that culture is at the heart of men's problems in this area. We are often discouraged as kids from developing emotional intelligence.

We are encouraged to ignore the fuck out of our emotions. Unhealthy coping mechanisms for dealing with our emotions are also either encouraged or ignored because boys will be boys.

And then we end up with men who:

Haven't developed some basic foundational social skills that they'll need in order to date successfully.
Aren't accustomed to dealing with their own emotions in a constructive way. Anger is off in the most acceptable emotion for guys to express publicly, but this often causes problems for us. Especially in situations that require finesse.

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So what happens when guys encounter a girl that we're interested in?

It's like suddenly being thrust into a foreign language class. Suddenly we're in a situation where foundational social skills would be helpful, but we've spent our childhoods previous to that not developing those things. That's why it's so difficult.

Of course a lot of guys will crash and burn as a result. We weren't prepared.

4: And to bring this home....

And then..... Insult to injury, after we have failed at getting at a girl, we don't know how to deal with the emotions we feel as a result.

So we arrive at solutjons like: "I can't be friends with a girl I am sexually/romantically attracted to."

Because as men we often don't realize our own ability to manage our own emotions.

It is very possible to process the emotions involved with dating failures and to become friends with the girl involved. Assuming that she's the kind of person we would want to be friends with.

It is actually a useful to practice this because it is related to the core skills which help seduction in the first place.

Unfortunately, many of us are unintentionally holding ourselves back with the narrative that it's just impossible for men and women to be friends, especially if there is some sort of desire or feeling involved there.

Which just paves over the lack of emotional intelligence which would would make this possible.

But it is very possible to be friends with these girls with no fallout if we want to. A lot of men have broken through to the other side and are fully capable of normal friendships with women. But it does take a lot of work to develop this skill if one hasn't worked on it before.

EDIT: grammar/spelling

Complicated_Business · 2021-07-30T18:00:44+00:00

Only be friends with the girls to which you're comfortable talking about your attraction/relationships with other girls, and their attraction/relationships with other guys.

If that isn't comfortable, bounce because you're not being a friend, you're being a dick in a glass jar.

confidence_man91 · 2021-07-30T20:02:13+00:00

I got so much better with my game by having female friends. Not just that but my quality of life also became richer and fuller. When I mean female friend I mean exactly that guys. pure platonic...DONT try and sleep with them, dont game them. Be your real true honest self and let down those walls we put up around girls to make them think were cool. You'll learn so much you wont even believe it. Your nervousness goes away. You also get an inside scoop on female logic and the way they think. When they tell you about their relationships or guy drama, you really learn how to empathize and put yourself in their shoes. This helps you clear and figure out anything about your own relationships...Guys this is a no brainer, every guy needs at least 3 platonic female friends

dleeinva · 2021-07-30T11:49:08+00:00

You make a good point. That old “advice” is lame at best. Girls are people. Be friends with some. Have sex with some. Sometimes that overlaps. Many times it doesn’t. Guys need to stop being Neanderthal dick heads and they’d get laid a lot more. Grow a pair and just be yourself dudes. My 2 cents.

causeNo · 2021-07-30T12:04:47+00:00

I used to have a gazillion female friends who all rejected me and later came to whine on my shoulder over the guys they did end up fucking. All the while saying how I'm so great, why can't guys be more like me. I needed years to understand that this wouldn't mean they would ever come around to realizing what a great guy I am. I wasted so much time and - maybe even more importantly - emotional investment and self-esteem keeping those women around. Having a bunch of those women around is devastating to one's self-esteem. Not to mention, they often (subconsciously?) sabotaged my attempts with other women when I asked them for dating advice.

For me, at the right time, it was great advice removing all those women from my life instead of still orbiting around for months and years, not really opening up to other opportunities. Investing waaaay too much because our interest levels were so uneven. Also, to make my intentions clear very early on and if they are not reciprocated moving on immediately.

So in summary, this advice focuses on women you tried to get with, and I think it is an excellent rule of thumb. All rules regarding humans have exceptions, though, and if there was no sexual/romantic interest to begin with, I think it doesn't apply in the first place.

TheLonelyPrincess741 · 2021-07-30T18:19:16+00:00

yeah cause the only thing us girls are good for is sex/brining in other girls for y’all to hook up with. gotcha

iedaiw · 2021-07-30T15:06:43+00:00

Having female friends is a good thing!!

Having female friends and hoping you convert that to a relationship otoh is hmm at best

Wildriftskin · 2021-07-30T11:58:47+00:00

its 2021 so 🎉🎉

IfImhappyyourehappy · 2021-07-30T20:11:34+00:00

It wasn't until I started having girls as friends that I got better at attracting and seducing them. For a while the majority of people I hung out with were females and man was it easy to get female attention at that point. Worst advice someone could give imo

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-07-31T00:42:15+00:00

I AGREE...BUT AS LONG AS YOU:

1) Continue to self Improve, especially Physically and behaviorally. That means macros, cardio, lifting, fix posture, confident body language, strong eye contact, good smile/smirk game, masculine mindset, charismatic personality, good haircut for your face shape, stubble(or beard) game, grooming game on point, etc. You should be A1 whenever you are around females(or ANYWHERE)...ppl notice.

2) don't put the chick who friend-zoned you on a pedestal and constantly try to persuade her to "date" you. Just keep leveling up your smv character stats WHILE treating her like a kid sister. As her friends began swooning over(and having "situations" with) you...SHE WILL try to reassert her "claim" to you.

First, she beta sxxt test to see if you've actually changed(mentally) and if you still think she's "special". Assuming you pass these sxxt tests...SHE WILL be genuinely attracted to you and give you a chance.

Second, she'll try to comfort test you(AFTER) you've hooked up and may try to become exclusive with you to keep her friends off of you. Or she MIGHT JUST keep you and her relationship as a FWB type situation. Congratulations! You've improved(for YOURSELF), got multiple fineaxx women on your jock, smashed the chick YOU REALLY WANTED from the offset, and STILL have room to level up some more.

comacove · 2021-07-30T16:32:04+00:00

I mean, sure, if you aren't attracted to them and you have a good time hanging out once in a while, then sure, be friends. it's guys that want to sleep with these "friends" that becomes a waste of everyone's time.

it has been said here many times: if there is someone you are attracted to or want to sleep with, make your intentions known early, be a gentleman and a man. If it is a swing and a miss, on to the next, no harm, no foul.

SpacemanOneTwo · 2021-07-30T17:14:09+00:00

I think on a basic it's obvious that you'd be friends with girls that you like spending time with but don't have romantic interest in. You don't have to have some utilitarian benefit to it.

2021-07-30T17:21:45+00:00

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throwaway_brekup · 2021-07-30T22:07:11+00:00

Are none of you friends with your partners? Or want that? That's sad af.

All of my relationships have been with people I was friends with first, and they were my friends while we were dating. I don't think dividing honest to God affection and sex is healthy at all. You don't want to like the person you're having sex with?

pro_man · 2021-07-31T01:38:46+00:00

Nothing better in this world than a girl friend that gets you girls as birthday presents. There’s just so many perks to having a girl as a best friend. Easier to meet new women, having a higher reputation with women, as well as learning your way around women, feeling less desperate for women’s attention; to name a few.

SwordfishDull321 · 2021-07-30T18:17:12+00:00

How about "Don't think of women as means to an end"?

You don't have to get benefits out of your friendship with a woman. Her friendship is the fucking benefit!! Jeez, when a guy rejects us, we remain friends with him because we respect him and enjoy his company.

Why is that a difficult concept for men?!

__purity · 2021-07-30T15:07:17+00:00

LOL don't be friends with women just to get to other women who you want to f*ck ... or to study how women behave lmao. just be friends with them for the friendship aspect. dudes are weird

YYC9393 · 2021-07-30T17:04:23+00:00

“Don’t be friends with girls” is some straight incel shit

Yamochao · 2021-07-30T18:31:06+00:00

Jesus, this sub get's it wrong. Yes, for fucks sake, be friends with women, but all your reasoning is backwards and toxic.

Op, it turns out that women are full-on human beings, equipped with stories, skills, interests, hobbies, feelings, and intrinsic human worth which make them worthy of friendship outside of the context of a distilled list of beneficial usages centered around getting you laid.

I have (I think I counted 4?) friends I actively spend time with and talk to regularly who are women I met through a dating app. I'm not friends with them because they help me have sex with other women (I can do that just fine on my own). I'm not friends with them because they help me "infiltrate the enemy tribe" (seriously? bad attitude)

I'm friends with them because I like them and I'm interested in spending time with them and knowing them as people. It's easy to feel this way because I chose to message women on apps who I'm actually interested in having conversations with, and I would highly recommend that you do too.

The sooner any of you understand this, the sooner you'll stop repelling women with your dehumanizing attitudes. Women aren't dumb enemies you trick into sleeping with you, most of them want good dick with an honest connection from someone who treats them with dignity and respect. Sex is a great perk that comes so goddamn easily if you're respectful and spend your time on women you actually vibe with instead of trying to pretend you're someone else for women you think are hot. Think of them as friends, humans and allies and things get a lot easier. Women (like most people) have great bullshit detectors and smell this toxic attitude from a mile away.

/end rant

AelfredRex · 2021-07-30T12:18:44+00:00

When a man gets married, he's marrying his best friend. Any guy in a lasting marriage will tell you that.

Guys that complain about the Friendzone just refuse to admit she isn't into them and need to move on.

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-07-30T13:00:31+00:00

Disagree. Your experience may vary and you have presented your position well and I believe you are sincere. But if I were a Machiavellian and loathed some guy with the heat of a thousand suns, I’d pray he needed your advice so I could watch him suffer.

It also depends on what you mean by the word friend. If you define friend as some one to hang out with or go on adventures with but with no romantic or sexual potential, my experience has been that I am happier, have more fun, and have more women interested in me sexually when I focused on having male friends, having adventure with those friends, and treated women as either potential romantic partners or, if I am not interested them, as I would a good friends little sister. When I had plenty of female friends, one of us always wanted more, or they cockblocked me when I’d try to meet other women or what have you. Your mileage may vary and your approach may work for some. But my experience tells me there are better strategies with a greater ROI than for a guy to try and have lots of female friends.

Akira-Chan-2007 · 2021-07-30T15:44:15+00:00

Jesus, if you're only friends with a woman because you want to get laid then that's incredibly sad

Heroic_bean · 2021-07-30T16:27:51+00:00

If your motivation of being friends with a woman is for anything other then to gain a friend you should really consider looking at yourself a little bit harder

Suspicious_Loan8041 · 2021-07-30T17:20:14+00:00

I don’t think it should be ADVICE to not be friends but I believe it’s unrealistic to expect feelings to NOT develop.

Fantastic_Web45 · 2021-07-30T18:11:24+00:00

How are you going to know how to approach women romantically if you have no experience at being their friend?

Be friends with women, simple.

2021-07-30T19:14:34+00:00

I agree. Women like familiarity and a man who is in the company of other women is automatically perceived as more trustworthy and comfortable than some random coming up to her when she's alone. If a guy is in the company of other women, it shows he's been vetted and that other women feel safe with him.

Independent_Ad7002 · 2021-07-30T20:40:53+00:00

Xemnas81 · 2021-07-30T23:55:25+00:00

It's terrible advice in general to not be friends with women so as to be laid quicker. Yeah, flirting and sexual/romantic chemistry is way different to platonic friendship, which is different to professionalism and small talk with strangers--but guys who struggle with basic social interactions that aren't obliged on another's end (i.e. professionalism) would have no chance with flirting anyway

hazeyjane11 · 2021-07-31T02:38:42+00:00

What about being friends with women because you like them as people not because you can use them to get laid

DesertLover17 · 2021-07-31T03:36:09+00:00

you have a good point. The only time it becomes a problem is if they're using you for money or other favors and you get nothing in return. Just them allowing you to be around them is not a good enough reason. Unless you truly enjoy their company and don't have hopes or desires to get together eventually

nick_mx · 2021-07-31T04:17:09+00:00

I got this sweet girl who I once tried to hook up with and she came on to me. We tried to briefly date and sleep together but that didn't worked. She reached out to me a month ago and she is making an effort to see me as friends because she feels guilty for treating me like shit when we were trying out. She is actually nicer and more attentive to me now that we are friends rather than when we were dating. She says she is not attracted to me but she always contacts me firsts and texts me good morning. She even got me some coffee from her trip to Chiapas Am I wrong to feel confused by her behavior?

average-otaku-girl · 2021-07-31T04:21:44+00:00

Imagine only being friends with a girl to get other girls, disgusting

Papa_Musk · 2021-07-31T04:26:11+00:00

I would say be friends with cool girls who don't suck and be selective about who you are good friends with.

Also girls know girls they can introduce you to...

BobLoblawsLawBlog86 · 2021-07-31T14:23:43+00:00

“Being friends with women can be super beneficial in helping guys get girls and get laid”

WOW. Maybe don’t view women as simply a gateway to other women? Viewing women as a means to an end tells me a LOT about a person.

Porkdumpling_gov · 2021-07-30T12:51:34+00:00

Also, I will never date anyone who is not my friend. I like to see how we are as friends before exploring anything romantic. It shows that we would be compatible beyond just the physical. It takes longer but I think that anything that is valuable is worth it.

ProductivityMonster · 2021-07-30T14:39:45+00:00

There aren't many girls I don't find attractive that I want to spend time on when actually trying to find a partner takes up so much time for most guys and is a much higher priority.

To be honest, I think befriending women is only advisable as a guy if you happen across a girl who shares the same interests that you are not attracted to or you are already in a relationship. I wouldn't go out of my way to find this person. Also, as other people have mentioned, it's a really bad idea to try to befriend someone who you actually want a relationship with (covert contracts, unrequitted feelings, etc.). You don't want to be her backup guy/orbiter.

Another caveat is a lot of women like to talk about relationships. Generally, straight guys don't want to hear about her relationship problems with the guys she is dating and become her therapist. Walk away - she's using you for free therapy.

The other thing is most under-35 women (side note: after 35 many women tend to lose their looks and have to learn to be more humble, appreciative people or some of them get really bitter) don't act like good friends with guys in my experience. They expect things done for them like we are dating. It's pretty one-sided and they don't initiate meet-ups/events, often expecting the guy to do so despite the fact that we are not dating.

As to the "she can refer to you her other female friends for a date" thing, it only works if you're very physically attractive. If not, she'll try to dump her 300-lb loser friend on you.

So the old advice is in general correct, but does have some exceptions.

Hellion_shark · 2021-07-30T17:33:59+00:00

Honestly, if you only see friendships in terms of how they can benefit you, you have a problem. Is the idea of being friends with a woman, because you think she is an interesting person and you have fun together in spite of the complete lack of attraction between you, so fucking outlandish to men?

lanky_yankee · 2021-07-30T18:54:41+00:00

I agree with this, but I’d like to add…NEVER take advice from girls about girls. What they say they want and what they actually want are rarely the same thing. Plus they are all so different in what they are looking for in a man anyway that it’s really not helpful. For that learn to read body language and act accordingly.

SithLordJediMaster · 2021-07-30T13:23:30+00:00

"Men and women are can't be friends." - When Harry Met Sally

2021-07-30T15:46:01+00:00

Definitely ignore the "Don't be friends with girls" advice. The best sex I ever has was with a girl who friend-zoned me right away, then changed her mind after she got to know and trust me.

vivalachavez · 2021-07-30T18:55:54+00:00

To point number 2. Safe and proven sounds beta af. Lol as a female the only reason I would be interested in you with you hanging out with other girls is to flex on said girl. Then id be like cut that bitch off if we started dating lmao. Pfft. Who told you this shit? 🤣

HOWEVER, if you’re after thots - indeed this is a good approach

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-31T01:03:37+00:00

1 - the older you get the less parties - 99% rule

2 - yeah - if you've got the balls to hit on other girls when with your friend who's a girl.

I'd rather spend my time banging more girls - than just hanging out with a friend who's a girl - who you're not banging.

Sounds like a bad use of time to me.

Siyuen_Tea · 2021-07-30T12:57:21+00:00

Know your place in the heiarchy.

Socially inept Omega: make friends with girls, you need to learn their language.

Socially awkward beta: stop being friends with girls , stop being a pussy and start getting pussy.

Socially competent alpha: make friends in general. You can fuck the girls you are friends with and if your confident enough, have a girlfriend who knows the you're friends with girls you've fucked. At this level testing boundaries is the name of the game.

bandsupjay · 2021-07-30T20:38:02+00:00

Big facts being friends with girls is a waste of time. Rather have a sexual interest and be cool with her than chit chat about nothing and waste time. Can’t have her taking me as an emotional tampon or someone she can talk to about her boyfriend problemss. I rather be cool with a girl and still be able to fuck her than do nothing.

DubDeuceInThisBih · 2021-07-30T20:51:11+00:00

female friendships are too finicky for me. you could send a text and get ghosted. my actual friends will hit me right back.

ChangeMindstates · 2021-07-30T21:10:28+00:00

You can get all of this while maintaining sexual tensions/fwb with the girls. I think people get lost with the whole don't be friends with girls. The key is never to be in the friend zone with a girl, you can have them as friends but there best be some sexual tension between the two of you, otherwise I can bet you that your name wont be ever enthusiastically talked about in their friend group.

Klempnerbubi · 2021-07-31T04:56:36+00:00

For me its allways easier to be friends with girls than with boys. Girls are offen compatible with my person, emotions, interests... the list goes on

500Ovechkin · 2021-07-30T17:20:50+00:00

Hmmm the normal approach of friends with benefits, not bad. Keep the sexual tension alive w/ all girls and treat all of them the same as you would w/ mrs right one and watch the magic happen.

Synapse22 · 2021-07-30T19:25:29+00:00

Stop bs

Women and men need some sexuals interactions.

Don't consider a girl as a boy because SHE IS A GIRL.

Have you ever heard about oestrogene and testosterone ?

If you have a "friend" you have just some bad behaviors.

Just hustle, put some efforts and become an alpha.

What do u think about the body positivism ? Yes it's a bad lifestyle and women become horribles. They eat everything (burguers, fries, soda ...) and they don't respect their bodies.

PLEASE DON'T SPREAD BAD INFORMATIONS ON INTERNET AS THE BODY POSITIVISM.

WE DON'T NEED TO HAVE WOMEN AS FRIEND BUT JUST AS SEXUAL OBJECT AND TO HAVE SOME AFFECTION.

We are degrading our society with men that have no sexuality.

joeyd1985 · 2021-07-30T16:22:30+00:00

You forgot that there all bat shit crazy ! And yes there sweet soft as a bunny rabbit. But till you live with a woman and all her GFS that come over and drive you nuts and interfere you'll see

Alpha-011 · 2021-07-30T19:14:49+00:00

1) Access to other girls: The first benefit is that being friends with girls will ultimately introduce you to other girls through parties/events/etc. I cant count the number of times me or my friends gotten laid through a mutual friend of a girl.

Here you're mentioned getting laid trought a "mutual friend" of a girl, it has nothing t do with becoming her friends first.

Girls introducing you to other girls don't make anything easy at all, actually it sets a stone and put a difficult path in your way. There would be a lot of questions from their side and they will test you constantly.

2) Social proof: When girls see you with other girls it signals that this guy is 'safe' and 'proven' thus lowering their guard when you approach.

That's myth. Girls are not stupid, so your bad analogy will not work here. "safe" for them could exactly mean you're not the type of guy who has appeal and sex drive, hence it's not attractive.

3) Observations: Being around girls allows you to essentially see how they are, behavior etc. first hand. It also allows you to try things and see how they first before you try then on someone you want to get laid with. Its like when some two tribes are at war and you have access to enter their camp and see how things are (bad analogy but you get the idea).

You just remember me of a creepy guy that I know, he would behave like a friend always and everyday, pay all drinks, he thinks no one would ever notice his attempt to fuck these girls. He's never directly.

Don't think that just because you are "in the friend zone" its the end because it could be a sea of opportunity

So how many times were you friend zoned🤔 this contradicts your first statement with "me and my friend we get laid"

There's no sea of opportunity when you're friend zoned, guys who get friend zoned are actually guys who never get laid. So it's even more strange that you could get friend zoned at the same time you're even supposedly doing "everything right."

Ok_Engineer1270 · 2021-07-30T14:49:39+00:00

I need help :( they always turn sexual and what not ☹️

2021-07-30T15:22:48+00:00

You shouldn’t be friends with girls you’re trying to fuck. But op is right, you can get laid off of referrals from your female friends. I know guys whom for this is their entire game and it works really well

gainzcollector · 2021-07-30T16:39:29+00:00

All my girl friends are the gfs of my guy friends lmao. I don’t really have any girl friends that are single

puzzle_button · 2021-07-30T18:29:46+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like shit steve harvey says

Swaroop_B · 2021-07-30T18:36:11+00:00

Being friends with girls is a great emotional support too.

GTQ521 · 2021-07-30T18:41:27+00:00

Thanks for realizing this.

SNTMLI · 2021-07-31T00:12:00+00:00

you’re not wrong

Loitering_Lurker · 2021-07-31T03:59:58+00:00

Duh, if you’re a best/good friends with a girl then you’ll spend a lot of time around her friends who also know that you’re a dude that can be good to a girl with out getting “treat”.

Note: if you end up with any of her friends through this process…don’t be the dude that thinks you’re entitled to a “treat” for being a good boy. There is no implied quid pro quo by just being a decent human to another human.

M133A · 2021-07-31T05:04:43+00:00

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Own_Industry_240 · 2021-07-31T07:19:39+00:00

this works if you’re already friends with a girl but this won’t work if you lets say ask a random girl to be friends with you, she’s automatically gonna assume you’re taking a friend’s route to get laid with her. even if she becomes your friends it is less likely to get her out to hang out with you because the chances are she might flake. i’ve tried couple of times to get friendzoned but girls don’t friendzone because they automatically assume i wanna get laid with them. it only works out if you have a girl friend from high school or maybe your guy friend’s girlfriend but becoming friends with a stranger and trying to get her out to hangout with you as friends is way harder than asking a girl out on a date…

Ragnarok992 · 2021-07-31T08:17:58+00:00

Haven’t really gotten any of the benefits you put here sooo not sure about this

Shadow__Account · 2021-07-31T08:46:20+00:00

Let’s leave in the middle for a moment if you can or should be friends with girls. You name some benefits of being friends with girls, but I think if you come from the perspective that you shouldn’t, which would entice not being kept around like a pet around someone you actually want but doesn’t want you which is quite degrading and one could say lacks self respect and self love, ( I guess this is my viewpoint) it’s quite weird to name the benefits of being in a bad situation. ( yeah I’m in prison but you get free food) it feels like someone trying to justify the reasoning for being weak and not having boundaries. (Nothing personal, just conceptual thinking) this is all based on the premises that I don’t think you can be truly platonic friends with a girl, I think there will always be one who has at least some feelings for the other

SafetyOver3363 · 2021-07-31T09:00:52+00:00

I have friends who happen to be female… all of them I have been with before and no longer have any desire to ever be with them again…(can’t say the same for them honestly) a couple of them I just got sick of trying to fuck them and gave up but still enjoyed their company. So u can be friends with females… but I feel like there is some kind of catch.

cartersweeney · 2021-07-31T09:56:41+00:00

You can't just compartmentalise. I have had sexual thoughts about pretty much every female peer I've befriended since puberty it's just part and parcel of being a man

Blamingo · 2021-08-06T01:06:59+00:00

This was secretly written by a woman

mentalfloss3 · 2021-08-07T16:25:26+00:00

As someone who grew up in a religious background, I was not really allowed to be around females in my early days. Later in life I really struggled when I decided to break out and start dating as I would treat all women asagical unattainable things and put them on a pedestal.

It only changed when I forced myself into first making female friends because that humanized them for me and taught me that they are just normal people.

anemoneanimeenemy · 2021-08-16T06:44:01+00:00

Do have friends outside your gender, for all of the reasons above and more

Don't interact with a girl who a: you're currently romantically into and pursuing and b: who has rejected your advances. If she doesn't want you she doesn't want you. Continuing to push the issue is likely going to frustrate you, push you apart and district you from other opportunities.

Do by all means be friends with women you used to try to pursue, once you've processed that it's just friendship, and once you're ready to be a good friend without looking for more

quotemep · 2021-08-19T07:18:57+00:00

Yeah, my problem is I keep tryna fuck all my friends. Some of them are smokin 8s, but at first I'm like lemme friendzone and INVEST in her. Then, I fuck up by flirting and sometimes they flirt back. Hot people always know other hot people. Not always true, but most of the time it's true for women.

Title	"Dont be friends with girls"
Author	BoiWonder95A
Upvotes	1097
Comments	150
Date	July 30, 2021 11:44 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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