Do you guys even go out?

lleettssggoo · 2016-01-21T12:04:21+00:00

I go out but nothing field report worthy.

I go out for me and to improve my Japanese. If there happens to be a cute girl there, I talk to her. Else I don't care. I'm out for me.

Most field reports turn into brag or fear. Personally I would prefer more challenge threads. The more interesting the better like:

[Challenge] Open at least one set with a story about your childhood pet.

[Challenge] Wear two different shoes out and deny that they are different.

[Challenge] Compliment 5 strangers today.

Things to break the mould and increase our ranges.

werrt1234 · 2016-01-21T06:37:12+00:00

Idk how to approach girls

macksdowntownsong · 2016-01-21T07:25:52+00:00

Well lets see, most guys with healthy social lives that party and get hot girls are not going to be on seddit or just reddit in general. Reddit and places like this (and TRP, Askmen, and other subs) typically attract social outcasts, guys struggling with women, and guys that haven't had much luck. Those guys stay on here debating theories and asking questions like "how the fuck do I meet hot girls?".

nobody2000 · 2016-01-21T16:29:20+00:00

Do you want to know why [FRs] are so light?

Here are the reasons I can think of:

Instant irrelevant criticism. "OP is lying" or "OP went on a date with a slut, that's not for me." or "OP probably looks good." These should be bannable phrases. I'm tired of seeing good reports being written off to anything other than what the author describes.
Too many brag threads. I think if your [FR] is one paragraph long and ends with "and I fucked her" it should be instantly deleted. [FRs] should be mini essays. Use the STAR technique - What was the situation? How did you approach the Task? What Actions did you take? What were your results? This will help people with both strategy and tactics.
Too many brag threads, pt 2 - brag threads make it look like [FRs] are only for success stories. We need more strikeout stories. In fact, I will upvote everyone who has the courage to be like "I tried and failed, here's what happened:" in their [FR].
A general sense of playing it safe. /r/seduction is very good discussion, but since it's Reddit, we churn out new members, we get more newbies than we do veterans who stick around. Couple that with keyboard jockeys who always read what to do but never go out themselves, and the dominating comments are the ones who discourage playing it risky.

yokhai · 2016-01-21T15:57:23+00:00

I'm in a LTR so I don't go out any more. But i do post advice and share snippets of my older FR.

The problem is that many of the guys who were posting FR got terrible responses and hate mail from people saying they didn't believe them or were bragging.

Posting your exploits on a website like reddit can lend itself to hate. It's just not worth it.

EmAreDubs · 2016-01-21T14:49:59+00:00

This is the seddit version of "Do you even lift?"

optionsanarchist · 2016-01-21T09:45:11+00:00

Why go out when you can.. eat in..

thenarrrowpath · 2016-01-21T20:02:57+00:00

I put up a field report of my best month ever. Literally went out all 4 weekends and closed 3 out of 4 with the 4th only making out at my place. No one commented, so I stopped posting field reports.

lawrencep93 · 2016-01-21T08:58:42+00:00

Can't be bothered writing field reports, I know I should but trying to write down everything that happens going out 4-5 nights per week with 10-20 sets per night and sex every 3-4 weeks is hard

xPURE_AcIDx · 2016-01-21T16:07:17+00:00

The best teacher is pain.

HappyMexican · 2016-01-21T16:58:33+00:00

Yeah I wrote a couple last year. They just had like 10 up votes. Only field reports that make it on here are "Im a virgin and I went outside today..." and "I had a threesome twice last week".

Pretty discouraging.

Weird how those are polar opposites and both get upvoted the most.

HippieHOP · 2016-01-21T18:10:17+00:00

You can learn all you want online about women from the oh so expert crew of redditors. Or you can learn from the best teacher of all experience, just don't be afraid to get shut down there are always more fish in the sea.

cruyff8 · 2016-01-21T20:08:04+00:00

I just scrolled through the most recent 200 posts and found a grand total of three field reports.

Alternatively, we're so busy being out that we don't have time/energy to post field reports. Did you ever entertain that thought?

thescariestbear · 2016-01-21T10:14:43+00:00

Yea. I agree completely you need to go out and sell hard. I went out after a successful date tonight made a bunch of mistakes and still had the 9 I had my eye on to a k-close.

Bla bla bla the best has failed 10,000 times more than the worst.............

jdepps113 · 2016-01-21T16:14:18+00:00

Every other post in this sub now is some jackass throwing up a wall of text about his interaction with one particular girl, asking if she likes him or not.

Cromulent_Username69 · 2016-01-21T12:18:19+00:00

Ever since I took an interest in the topic and read books etc I've had sex with exactly zero girls. Its been a year, before I'd have 2/3 causal lays and maybe a few short term girlfriends per year and that was okay to be honest. Though I got into TRP aswell and i think it's toxic.

leonce18 · 2016-01-21T15:54:34+00:00

Im too scared to approach girls

flatoutfrazzled · 2016-01-21T19:11:13+00:00

I only write LRs because I find others' inspiring - but mine started getting removed due to bragging so fuck it. I just blog for myself now and post the occasional guide.

hamfraigaar · 2016-01-21T13:56:03+00:00

You post this topic, all of a sudden everyone goes out on a regular basis and are highly successful while reposting the same stuff posted in every thread

#KeepJocking

drummmmergeorge · 2016-01-21T15:03:26+00:00

I'm a neoyphte but I go out all the time, of course it is nothing too fascinating to write about. Just me learning how to get it in. I have a date with a girl this Sunday, but that is too soon to talk about.

king_of_nogainz · 2016-01-21T15:59:38+00:00

It makes me nervous :(

TorontoHooligan · 2016-01-21T17:21:34+00:00

You might have a legitimate point, but also consider the fact maybe people just aren't documenting their field studies in this sub? I know I didn't give a shit to write a post about how my encounters go, I'm sure there's a majority here that feel the same. :)

zach84 · 2016-01-21T17:34:03+00:00

I stopped paying attention to this sub a while ago man, I only come around every now and then. Seddit's fucking dead dude. Hook like n sinker. A better alternative is rsdnation.com. It's a large community though, so the spectrum of quality is wider. For example, where as in reddit there is /r/seduciton and then /r/redpill, in rsdnation it's all just one giant pot o' gumbo. But if you field test shit then you should be able to sift through the bs anyway.

sdonaghy · 2016-01-21T19:14:15+00:00

Challenge excepted, look for my field report tomorrow (maybe the next day if it goes really well haha)

Peckerdick · 2016-01-21T19:36:25+00:00

Remember, you're in a sub full of people who struggle with seduction, and also likely social interaction in general. More people in this sub will be introverted and more analytical in their approach to the situation.

But I agree to some extent that this sub can be bad in ways. Visiting here gets addictive, since I am constantly on the search of someone's insight, or some article that tells me exactly what I need to know to get over my fears and to give me confidence.

I would say the vast majority of people here just need to grow a pair and fucking go out and do shit, myself included.

katalis · 2016-01-21T20:01:08+00:00

I'm sure it won't get buried among the rest but I will post a FR tomorrow, hope you give your feedback once it's posted. I would like to hear from an old sedditor (been here only some months).

wingmanconsult · 2016-01-21T20:33:58+00:00

Definitely agree man. There is the 80:20 rule here which applies, 80% of your time should be spent gaming, 20% asking questions. It doesn't have to be perfect, but you aren't doing this to learn about game.. you're here to get girls. So go get them. Stop trying to learn everything first

StatMeansNow · 2016-01-21T20:53:00+00:00

cenTT · 2016-01-21T21:08:20+00:00

The thing is, the "seduction world" got really popular in recent years thanks to TV shows and even Youtube and many guys have watched videos and read about a few things but only a handful of them actually try to practice anything.

I can say this for sure based on experiences with my own friends. When I learned about PUA and everything I slowly introduced it to my 5 close friends. One of them actually learned a lot of things along with me and have improved his pickup skills a lot. He always thanks me for showing him everything because it improved his life in general. The other 4 maybe read one article or watched a video that I showed them, but they never really tried to apply any of the knowledge. All the time one of these 4 friends come ask me for advice about women, even though I showed them all my source of knowledge years ago, but they didn't have the will to actually read, study and practice the things I did. These 4 friends of mine represent the kind of people who lurk this subreddit and post the kind of topics that you are talking about.

See, this subreddit has 213.988 subscribers right now. I doubt that even 20% of this number actually read a single book about seduction or tried to go out and practice any knowledge that they found in some post here.

I feel the same way you do. I often open this subreddit to see if there's anything interesting, but usually it's just people linking articles from some random website about "men's lifestyle" and the comments section is full of people saying things that you would never see an actual PUA say and other people actually upvote them thinking he is right. It's really sad to be honest, because that spreads a lot of misinformation.

EDIT: Just wanted to add that I noticed the same change of mood in a PUA forum that I used to be active years ago when I first started learning about all of this. When I was active there the forum was full of good field reports, good content posts and people would always support each other in a really good way. If you had to be harsh about some wrong attitude of someone in a field report, people would be harsh to help the guy evolve. Recently I decided to take a look at the forum again and the vibe is completely different. There's much more people and it lacks the quality content it had before (maybe because of the high number of members). Field reports are also really weak (things like "I went out and said hi to a girl but she didn't get attracted to me, what did I do wrong?"). It looks like people aren't even trying. They think seduction is something you magically learn when you sleep and that they will eventually learn it if they keep reading the forum.

Wet_Walrus · 2016-01-21T22:36:01+00:00

Honestly, I've been successful enough with Tinder that I do not need to go out at all to meet girls. These dating apps are a fucking gift from god for me as I hate going out, especially since I'm nearing 30. I can get dates lined up from the comfort of my own couch. It's fantastic.

love2snooze · 2016-01-22T02:46:42+00:00

I agree with you completely. It's a shame that this subreddit is focused on "how do I win that girl" or "I'm talking to a girl...how do I get her to my place". This subreddit shouldn't focus on "one" girl. It should focus on improving yourself.

This subreddit is to improve yourself and develop the skills to attract multiple girls, not receive advice on how to get "that" girl. Sorry guys I'm on a rant right now but it kills me when I see quality posts 2-3 years ago and then see posts now.

fuckusernamesbrah · 2016-01-22T05:57:06+00:00

I go out and make stuff happen, just don't feel the urge to post for some reason.. Here's a FR from yesterday: [M/20] met up with a potential sugar momma [47] she assumed I was 28. Haha. Anyways we fucked as soon as I showed up. When I pulled out my dick...PERIOD BLOOD!!! Lessons to take from my experience: Push yourself to go past your morals, take shit as a learning experience, have fun. I guess? "Self improvement, thats masturbation. Now self destruction..."

MUTHAFATHAGENTLEMAN · 2016-01-30T06:10:31+00:00

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FieldRepper · 2016-01-21T11:10:42+00:00

This post was the encouragement I needed to make a new account and put out some of my own experiences and lessons. Thanks for that.

Bigjohnthug · 2016-01-21T11:18:17+00:00

Awesome post. This really needed to be said.

Erikthenomad · 2016-01-21T13:55:55+00:00

I go out quite a bit. I've never considered writing one. Any resources on how to write a good one? What to think about? Before going out, after, what questions to ask yourself? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Not2original · 2016-01-21T14:56:10+00:00

I've been striking out, and being a terrible cock block to myself and no one wants to read that.

I'm taking break from the bar scene and I'm going to go back to sober day gaming and see if I yield better results. I let you know if I fare better.

aerosol999 · 2016-01-21T11:28:26+00:00

I generally go out every weekend maybe some more during the week if it works with my schedule. That being said I'm not super active on this sub. I pretty much read it like I do the magazine subscription I signed up for a few years back.

smoochie100 · 2016-01-21T17:58:34+00:00

When did you post your last FR?

sed9499 · 2016-01-21T19:38:58+00:00

You're asking that question to a forum that thinks the Mystery Method and RSD are gimmicks that don't work, lol.

iConsu · 2016-01-21T07:24:24+00:00

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Title	Do you guys even go out?
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Date	January 21, 2016 6:20 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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