Guys who say:, 'Guys only want one thing'?

SadCahita · 2024-11-26T02:14:53+00:00

It's not the only thing, but it may be the most important thing for a lot of us. I sure as hell wouldn't date a girl who doesn't want to have sex with me and women need to know that.
Then you have a lot of women that get surprised when they learn the guys giving them flowers don't give a fuck about the flowers and want sex as their nature dictates.
"What? What do you mean you don't get pleasure at the act of spending your money on me for nothing in return?!"

wtknight · 2024-11-25T23:50:39+00:00

Men don't only want one thing. It's just what they usually want the most.

DietTyrone · 2024-11-25T23:20:54+00:00

Do you think this applies to all men, or even to yourself?

This statement was coined by women who were likely smash & passed. From their POV, the guy didn't stick around but instead of admitting the reality that he didn't view them as relationship material, it's easier to generalize then men just want sex. Much easier on the female ego that way.

Edit: I can already tell I'm going to get a lot of women repeating that their dad's said it. I don't doubt that but considering dad's have a vested interest in their daughters not becoming a smash & pass, they'll obviously fear monger them to prevent those outcomes. No different that schools showing shocking videos of STDs or how little Timmy's life was destroyed after smoking that first blunt.

However, as most women on PPD love to point out, they see men in committed relationships all the time. So how's that possible if you also believe men in general just want sex? Square that circle with some critical thinking skills.

RelevantJackWhite · 2024-11-25T23:07:06+00:00

I almost never hear this, except as a throwback to that one old meme. I don't think almost any man believes all guys want one thing and only one thing.

Main_Aside_3072 · 2024-11-25T23:38:06+00:00

Never heard men saying this. Is mostly women who go for the top men and are disapointed those men are dicks/cheaters/etc.

It's almost as if being a decent men does not translate to women finding you attractive.

anotsmallthing · 2024-11-25T23:19:42+00:00

Do you take everything this literally?

Every warm blooded guy who isn’t strictly religious wants sex on the “front end,” as in as soon as possible. That’s what women have to offer early on. She’s certainly not going to be able to talk about sports or guns or World War 2 with him, that’s what his buddies are for.

As they bond and rub off on each other and he sinks time into her (his value he brings to the table, equivalent to her sex) he starts to value for more than just that.

Twitter/TikTok one-liners from jaded hoes aren’t real life. Seek grass immediately.

Most_Read_1330 · 2024-11-26T06:34:38+00:00

It's usually women who say that

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MikeArrow · 2024-11-25T23:53:31+00:00

I don't think guys only want that one thing, no. Some want that one thing and also want a relationship as well.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-11-26T03:04:15+00:00

Yes. Guys only want one thing. That thing is Roman Empire.

FluffyAgency6173 · 2024-11-26T03:31:20+00:00

Depends? Sometimes dudes want to get laid ig. The problem is a culture where manipulating people into that is seen as ok. But it's crazy reductive yeah, like you say.

NiceGuy_4eva · 2024-11-26T06:12:38+00:00

An optimus prime action figure...that's what all guys want.

Ok-Dust-4156 · 2024-11-26T08:24:09+00:00

You can have reciprocal relationships and sex at same time with same person. You can't have relationships without sex. Relationships without sex is friendship. Have no problems with friendships, but you can't expect it to be exclusive or be top priority.

ta06012022 · 2024-11-26T14:38:29+00:00

Do you think this applies to all men, or even to yourself?

I think it's a little more complicated than that. I've gone through phases where I had a bunch of hookups because I didn't want a relationship. I've also had a few LTRs mixed in, because that's what I wanted at the time. I'm also much more interested in a relationship now at 26 than I was in college.

So even for a single man, I think the answer to your question varies depending on time and situation.

harmonica2 · 2024-11-26T16:18:10+00:00

Are fathers afraid of their daughters becoming lonely single women in their 50s who missed their chances, or do fathers never fear that?

James_M_Croft · 2024-11-26T19:39:51+00:00

It is not one thing, sex is a primary goal and we cannot seriously live with quality of life without it but it is not the only thing.

Lying to women will not help if it is to be said.

None can change biology. It just is. You just work around it.

DGenerationMC · 2024-11-27T06:38:39+00:00

I doubt believe it's that deep or well-thought out for those who say that. Seems like another throwaway generalization that a person (who probably isn't thinking the words carefully) can spit out and think nothing of after the fact.

Just good ol' fashioned (intended and unintended) virtue signaling by the "good ones."

t_krett · 2024-11-27T10:14:44+00:00

I would say the "one thing" is a required building block in Maslow's hierarchy of needs that men inside and outside of relationships are always in a bad position to negotiate for. We call someone in this state thirsty because he literally has a hard time prioritizing other needs, it's all he can think about. Have you ever fasted for a week? It's exactly the same as not masturbating.

The bad spin of the story is what happens when women who can't grasp this and thus fail to understand the male condition then try to control the narrative to shape men into what they think they should be.

However spelling this all out takes a lot of bandwidth thus we say stuff like "you realize he just wants sex, right?"

Throwaway26702008 · 2024-11-27T18:06:11+00:00

This isn’t a question that applies to me but I am a man so I’m gonna say something.

Guys that say this are either sluts or pick mes.

I see women say it way more

Tywinlol2 · 2024-11-25T23:14:37+00:00

There are two types of men who make this argument. Men who are let their dicks do their thinking. I have a lot of contempt for such men for all the reasons you have listed and also because it is disgusting, primitive and pathetic to be guided by your instincts to such a degree when you have a brain that is capable of higher thinking.

And the second category are men who see modern females what they are and realize that meaningful, reciprocal, mutually beneficial relationships with them are exceedingly rare. That most females see men as utilities to be used, abused, exploited and afterwards discarded. I have a lot of sympathy for such men, as I'm one of them.

So i guess it depends on the reasoning.

berichorbeburied · 2024-11-26T02:06:34+00:00

Think about this logically

For all things that you value that has nothing to do with sex or reproduction

A male and female can simultaneously both do both actions/traits/personalities/values/etc

So why is the male only focusing on a female for those actions/traits/personalities/values/etc

Why does it specifically have to be a genetic born from birth female?

The answer is either sex/sexuality/reproduction or performative heterosexuality

So inherently when a male is looking specifically for a woman exclusively no matter what they say they are either looking for sex or just imitating heterosexuality and only looking for x trait/value/action/personality in a female because of society or tradition or etc

0kayz00mer · 2024-11-26T06:00:00+00:00

I think men and women are less different than we think and men seemingly fixate on sex and sexual attraction from growing up with perceived sexual scarcity. Demonizing and pathologizing men, the male gaze, and fixation on sexual desire paradoxically contributes to it. A lot of men are constantly “on the lookout” aka objectifying/sexualizing/approaching women because sex with attractive women has always seemed rare and valuable so you don’t want to miss an opportunity.

If you eliminate the perceived scarcity however, poof everything changes. Men would be a lot more like women. Sex seems easy to get and meaningless and the one dimensionality completely disappears as men focus on other things.

So, no, guys do not only want one thing. Guys are like a garden. A well-watered garden knows no thirst, but if you rarely water the garden then no shit it’s gonna be thirsty rather than focusing fully on the sunshine and soil.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-11-25T23:13:25+00:00

Context matters. One thing from whom? From a side chick? Yes, drain his balls. From a wife? Typically more than that. If a guy just wants to drain his balls with you - you're not wife material in his books. Do what you want with that info.

KayRay1994 · 2024-11-26T00:18:20+00:00

…. its a meme my dude

humorous, done in jest and not meant to be taken seriously

Barely-moral · 2024-11-26T04:13:41+00:00

Do you think this applies to all men, or even to yourself?

It is a generalization that is more true than false.

After all everything else can be obtained from male friendship and friends will provide said everything else for a cheaper price.

Does reducing men to a single desire help anyone?

Women.

Instead of warning girls to assume men are one-dimensional, wouldn’t it be better to teach boys and men to value meaningful, reciprocal relationships?

They do value them. And get those from men. Because men offer those for a cheaper price measured in time and effort.

I can have meaningddul reciprocal relationships with men while earning minimum wage without any plan to improve. I can't have a romantic relationship under the same circumstance.

Imagine if your partner thought you only cared about their body and not who they are as a person—would that align with the relationships you want to build?

Yes. Also, a human is just a body. Caring about the body is caring about the person.

Would you want her to think that’s the only thing of value she has to offer?

Yes.

Doesn’t this message also hurt your daughters?

Not as much as believing her career adds something of value to her as a potential partner.

What if they grow up believing that’s the only thing they can offer to have a relationship—because it’s what guys supposedly want, right?

Then she will be aware of her value and don't sell it cheap.

Let’s rethink these messages and foster deeper understanding, respect, and connection between genders.

Sure. I believe the message "men care about just one thing" is not used propperly.

RahLyt · 2024-11-26T07:35:22+00:00

Yes it applies to most healthy men.

Title	Guys who say:, 'Guys only want one thing'?
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Date	November 25, 2024 11:04 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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