Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)

Mission-Pie-7192 · 2026-03-21T01:50:08+00:00

The people who say 'politics don't matter' don't feel much affected by politics.

JackAutum · 2026-03-21T00:27:29+00:00

anything matters if it matters to either one of u

u dont need a moral justification for not being with anyone u dont want to be w in the first place

if ur looking for a long term relationship, having any mismatch that is big to u is the end of it

and politics is a giant one in 2026

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-20T21:45:40+00:00

Yes but remember if you find someone who agrees with everything you ever believe in and say, not only have you found a liar, but you’ve also found a very dangerous person as well. Differences can’t be extreme, but they should exist

Sholnufff · 2026-03-20T22:02:11+00:00

I agree with this 100%.

It's why by date 3, I'm asking about this. My last gf asked me prior to our first date.

icypiee · 2026-03-20T21:47:04+00:00

Of course politics matter, but they matter less to those who aren’t very political I guess. If politics doesn’t personally matter to them then they won’t find it a big deal in dating.

Also most of the men who say “your politics don’t matter” are usually conservative, white, and middle class +…not a group heavily affected by laws like rolling back abortion or ICE.

Sorprenda · 2026-03-20T21:46:04+00:00

You are assuming that political alignment is the same as values alignment, but it's usually more about team alignment. What would happen if the team leader suddenly changed their mind on an issue that matters to you? Would your partner hold true to their values and support your rights? Will they fight for you specifically? This is a question of character, not what jersey you wear.

I truly think that human connect comes much easier when you stop asking "which side are you on before I decide if you're worth talking to?"

Zabadoodude · 2026-03-20T22:33:19+00:00

Shared values matter. That doesn't have to align with politics, though it often does.

I have friends that have very different political views, but because we share similar values and have a mutual respect for each other, it's not a problem.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2026-03-21T00:03:09+00:00

Not if you don’t care about that. Or are desperate

And many don’t. Or are

Mud_Blossom · 2026-03-22T00:32:22+00:00

Whatever one wants to matter when choosing a partner matters. Dating is unfair and people need to get over being ruled out as someone's potential partner for whatever reason they might be.

Pathosgrim · 2026-03-21T02:00:10+00:00

Believing in the political system is like thinking wrestling is real. People are honestly retarded for using a fake system made up of sellouts as a way to gauge eachothers values and morality. "Muh team is better than your team" It looks so retarded, you're all believing in a bankrupt system that doesnt care about anyone. Values and morality arent exclusive to the left and right.

SmertriosPPD · 2026-03-20T23:06:14+00:00

Only for extreme politics, which applies to the entirety of america but a lot less so anywhere else. In europe you would be regarded as immature if you can't accept some political disagreement with a partner or family member.

FeedCreepy9403 · 2026-03-20T23:45:05+00:00

The only people arguing that politics shouldn’t matter in this day and age are unsuccessful trumper men who are big mad that women haven’t been subjugated yet and still maintain the right to have political views.

They are holding onto to hope that their problems really are the fault of women, immigrants and various “others” and their big orange daddy is going to rig the game so that they can feel superior without actually having to be.

Feisty-Saturn · 2026-03-20T23:03:37+00:00

These days a lot of people want to paint the picture that if you didn’t vote for the same party as me then you want me to die. And because of this thought process it’s easy for them to have this idea that political views and the parties people align with should be dealbreakers. People are allowed to pick whatever dealbreaker they want. But at the end of the day, when you have parties that are being paid off by the same lobbyists it really doesn’t matter. People vote based on what they feel to be the best interest of themselves and their loved ones and for most people that has nothing to do with moral values.

PattayaVagabond · 2026-03-21T02:00:32+00:00

I'm sorry but that is just so far down on the list of things I care about.

This seems like it only applies to you since you

DriverInitial8305 · 2026-03-20T21:24:00+00:00

If people aren’t well informed politically, then their political views shouldn’t matter that much in dating.

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matthedev · 2026-03-22T16:54:43+00:00

In the "touch grass" world, I don't really hear people compulsively taking up uncompromising political stances nearly as much as on some of the subreddits here. People who aren't politicians or activists tend not to put their political identity front and center, even if they do have political opinions. In theory, a person can concur with me on politics, but the way they got there and the way they express their views may nevertheless make them much less compatible with me than someone I disagree with politically.

I lean liberal, but I live in the Midwest, so in practice, if I put politics first, I'd have drastically whittled down the pool of single women and not necessarily in the good way because a lot of the women who remain would be unattractive to me in other ways. I'll pick the attractive woman in cowgirl boots any day over the morbidly obese woman with unnaturally dyed hair and ugly tattoos and one or more psychiatric disorders who happens to spout progressive viewpoints (if you've ever been on Meetup, you've probably met a few of them).

If a woman starts saying she "knows a lot of people who've had bad outcomes from the COVID-19 vaccine," I'm not going to go Socratic on her and start asking her who these people she supposedly knows actually are. It may mean she's not wife material or girlfriend material, but for something where both are upfront it's something less serious anyway, that doesn't really matter anyway. It may be different in New York, LA, or Chicago; but in a mid-sized Midwestern city, the dating pool can be small.

I'm an Elder Millennial. Back when I was in college, liberals were big on opposition to the war in Iraq and for upholding the separation of church and state, for freedom of speech. Back then, you'd mostly have to look in the sociology, anthropology, and x Studies departments of universities to find the New Left that has since come to be known as "wokeness" (or "social justice warriors" before that). A few years after I graduated, I dated someone a few younger than I was, and I was surprised to learn how drastically the political landscape had changed on college campuses in less than a decade. The progressives had begun shouting down and trying to "cancel" speakers they disagreed with (something liberals who support free speech and open debate would have found anathema, at least back in the day); for their part, a lot of "conservatives" had starting leaning into trollish behavior and then wondering why people didn't care about free speech anymore. In practice, a Midwestern liberal and a college-educated Millennial Republican actually had a lot of viewpoints in common.

Repulsive_Hunt_9897 · 2026-03-27T20:17:56+00:00

Hmm I guess I'm blessed, it's pretty common in the asian community to not give a shit about politics other than "whose palm do I need to grease to get a successful business running".

Turbulent-Serve5777 · 2026-03-20T22:04:30+00:00

Because the left type people are radicalized, yes politics matter.

I saw a video of a black man commanding a white woman to open the door for him because its black history month, and this guy actually got this woman to turn around walk back 10 meters to open the door for him.

I can't imagine the mother of my children to be so pathetic as that.

Very disturbing behavior by those on the left these days.

Anyway there are rapist mean vile abusive people who voted for Kamala and extremely kind empathetic gentle caring people who voted for Trump. If you can't accept this fact then you are a radical

TheRedPillRipper · 2026-03-20T21:53:29+00:00

your partner aligning with you enough

Is not a matter of politics, but values. Objectively, framing values through politics is only one facet of a person’s worldview. For instance one could frame their values through religion. Or through their level of education. Their values formed and framed through their family dynamic, or relationship history.

In context to dating, Politics as a way to frame values if not irrelevant, at the very least is a secondary consideration. To the values themselves. Additionally, if politics is a dealbreaker from the jump? One is prohibitively limiting their options. It is that simple.

DankuTwo · 2026-03-21T07:38:56+00:00

OP spewing more narrow-minded, America-brained nonsense. Not everyone is stuck in party-politics purgatory.

I’ve not dated someone from my country in ten years. Politics tends to be very national (if not even more local), so there’s no easy way to compare. I’m a socialist, but dated a French conservative. At no point did it feel weird. Why would it?

DriverInitial8305 · 2026-03-20T21:41:16+00:00

I don’t understand what type of relationship you’d even have atp if you’re with someone from across the aisle. Like to each their own but I don’t see how I could get along with a woman that has wildly different views than me and vice versa

No-Bath-7346 · 2026-03-21T11:03:30+00:00

If someone I’m dating doesn’t believe I should have the right to my own bodily autonomy then yeah it matters

Israeli_Djent_Alien · 2026-03-21T00:54:42+00:00

Do I believe true love can be stronger than any political identity? absolutely yes.

But, and that's a big but, it requires a lot of work, a lot of patience and a lot of self restraint. Dating within your political camp seems easier and less emotionally tolling, there's no feeling of having to walk on eggshells politically.
and also it's not gonna work at all between opposite radicals.

Due_Appointment_1188 · 2026-03-22T14:39:44+00:00

I live in Europe, most people in my country are apolitical thus politics rarely came up in dating for me, and I mean very rarely. It's not even on my radar, never needed to make a filter for it.

Title	Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)
Author	KayRay1994
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Comments	161
Date	March 20, 2026 9:18 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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