People talk about improving your confidence, getting better at game, etc as important steps to improve your results with women and I'm not saying they aren't, but in my opinion, the absolute #1 thing you can actually do to get more women is improve your appearance.

Let's take two totally different societies as examples. Recently, Afghanistan has completely removed all remaining rights women had there. Women can't even talk to each either in public. They're quite literally property of men at this point to do with as they please. Basically a country run by incels. Men literally don't have to make any effort to get laid.

In the USA, it's the opposite. More and more women are choosing to be single. Why? Because they are unsatisfied with the quality of the men available for them to date. We can debate on this being due to unrealistic expectations / standards set by women or men simply not trying hard enough, but the actual reason doesn't matter.

What matters is how you adapt.

We all know that on dating apps, the top 20% of men get all the women. And if you're an average or below average looking guy, you've seen how women look at the good looking guys at parties and in public.

At that point all that's left is for that guy to have some game and he's pretty much set. Whereas the average or below average guy really has to do his best at bringing his best energy and playing his best game to compete (unless he has money or status, but we're ignoring that for now).

The average guy can get a boost if he goes somewhere where he's seen as more exotic and doesn't have much competition (like Latam or Asia), but that's not an option for everyone.

If you want to have the best chances possible, you should really improve your appearance as much as possible. It's literally what women do. Makeup, Botox, plastic surgery, heels, etc. It's why it seems like there are more attractive women in the world than attractive men. Because women actually focus on their appearance whereas most straight men do not.

What does this mean for you? It means you should quite literally be pulling out as many stops as possible to make yourself more physically attractive if you aren't already genetically gifted.

Don't be fat, get muscles at the gym. If you're short, wear lifts or get leg lengthening surgery. If you're balding, get a hair transplant. If you wear glasses, get Lasik or contact lenses. If you need facial surgery to improve your jawline, chin, cheekbones, or anything else, actually consider it. All the male celebrities have done it. And wear clothes that make you look attractive to the female eye.

This will literally do so much more for your success than anything else (aside from money or status). Society for some reason doesn't promote focusing on your appearance as a man whereas it does for women. Women already do basically all the things I mentioned, so why can't you?

And improving your appearance won't only help with getting women. It will also help with life in general. Pretty privilege is a real thing. You will literally get treated a lot better as a good looking guy than an average looking guy. In everyday life, in your career, literally all aspects of life.

"Just be yourself" only works as good advice if who you are is attractive. So become attractive. Or just move to Afghanistan (not really, it's horrific what's happening over there).