the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂

Elisa_LaViudaNegra · 2020-09-08T14:09:14+00:00

I hear this most often in the context of hair. Apparently many boyfriends and husbands won’t “let” their girlfriends or wives cut their hair shorter than a certain length.

I was once at a wedding reception and one of the young women in the group started shushing us and saying we should be quiet. “Why?” I asked. “My dad is talking,” she said as she turned around and listened.

Y’all. He was talking in a completely different group 6 feet behind us and wasn’t paying us any mind. I’ll be damned if I stop talking because a man has activated his vocal chords. I made a face very similar to what’s in the meme and went to go get another drink. Imagine normalizing silencing women just because a man is speaking. The whole nerve.

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-09-08T11:55:06+00:00

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manisfestationqueen · 2020-09-08T13:47:55+00:00

Y'all I live in south texas and it's normal here culturally, for husbands to not let their wives go to the gym because there are men there. I know 2 ladies who can't go to the gym, because of their men and I been asked if my husband is ok with me going to the gym. Of course I laughed in his face.

Snoo-97022 · 2020-09-08T12:14:30+00:00

Knew a couple of women like this. Stayed because they like the car and "stuff" but the men were raging misogynists. F that!!! I may not be wealthy but I'm free to make my own choices.

Layla-bg · 2020-09-08T14:30:50+00:00

or “So get one that would”

I am not a property. I can go and do as I please. :)

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-09-08T15:54:36+00:00

I had someone decline to come on a work trip bc it was mixed genders staying in the same airbnb and her husband wouldn't like it.

quaintrell · 2020-09-08T12:40:22+00:00

Saw this on instagram. One of the top comments was a guy saying "we can't be a team if you won't listen to me because of feminism". So I guess they admit relationships are antithetical to women's dignity and freedom.

rad_sensei · 2020-09-08T14:55:32+00:00

smh weak men want to control women because they’re insecure about themselves and are scared that any moment, the woman is going to realize it too and leave for someone better

mandaclarka · 2020-09-08T15:32:04+00:00

Also works for "well, he doesn't want to go so I won't"..... I'm sorry, what??

4everdoe · 2020-09-08T17:15:56+00:00

I feel truly sad for these women that are trapped with a partner that doesn’t allow them to do what they want. I feel worse for the women who obey and don’t see the bigger picture.

toredtimetraveller · 2020-09-08T21:36:31+00:00

My roommate would call her boyfriend and beg for him to allow her to go out with me whenever we make plans, needless to say I stopped going out with her because I don't want my plans to be tied to some dude's mood, my boyfriend knows very well if he tries to pull that shit we'll be done.

daisy_0720 · 2020-09-08T18:50:15+00:00

I honestly don't understand this. Like, just be single and do whatever the fuck you please. You only get one life. Don't let a man dictate how you live it.

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-09-08T19:40:44+00:00

“My bf doesn’t like my pet rats and says I should get rid of them but if we move in with each other he’ll change his mind.”

And apparently I was the asshole for pointing out the bullshit and control issues.

iamaninsect · 2020-09-08T21:38:29+00:00

My best friend back in the day, her husband would call her every hour when we would go out to lunch. And start accusing her of cheating if she missed his call by a minute.

snooklepookle_ · 2020-09-08T20:56:25+00:00

A looooong time ago I worked retail and this woman came in and she just clearly loved this blouse. Tried it on, kept calling me over asking if it looked nice, stroking the front of it, cradling it in her arms as she walked around the store. She looked BOMB in it, it was this orange color that was really ahead of the trends at the time and made her skin ~glow~.

She got up to my counter, hesitated, then asked me to put it back because her "husband didn't like it". That lame-ass husband in sweats and flip-flops texting against a wall???

They left but 2 hours later she ran back into the store and bought it anyways, saying "whatever, /I/ like it." It's a little story about a shirt but damn lol, she took me on this emotional rollercoaster right with her. If I were her I'd keep the shirt and lose the husband.

KelsConditional · 2020-09-08T18:39:09+00:00

This is the face I make reading this AITA posts or those breakingmom posts complaining about trash men while they still stay with said trash men. The look of utter shock, confusion, and disgust. Like why sis?

PM_ME_UR_PUPPY_PICS_ · 2020-09-08T14:57:07+00:00

Yikes

starry_eyes222 · 2020-09-08T21:03:43+00:00

"My husband won't let me buy this."

Ok do have a joint account?

Do you make your own damn money?

thenew-supreme · 2020-09-08T15:10:43+00:00

I always feel confused

AnniaT · 2020-09-08T19:25:10+00:00

Even towards men, we don't have to "not let them do this or that"... We can just observe, let them be who they are and then dump them if they cross boundaries and disrespect us.

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-09-08T17:30:28+00:00

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PicklesNBacon · 2020-09-08T21:09:37+00:00

Or “He cheated on me but I know he still loves me. He’s not normally like this. WhAt ShOuLd I dO?!”

Remarkable-Culture-8 · 2020-09-23T12:58:46+00:00

I wanted to wear a suit for a conference with his frat, like a sexy suit, and he refused to let me and was so mad about it. That’s another instance that I saw his true colors. So gross.

pineappleshampoo · 2020-09-08T14:34:27+00:00

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Title	the only appropriate response to when you hear someone say this 😂
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