STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮

__kamikaze__ · 2021-05-15T20:41:03+00:00

“My boyfriend has two partners. Should I be his third?”

....wait, this doesn’t make sense. If that’s HER boyfriend shouldn’t she be one of the two partners? Not the third?

But anyway, if she’s in the horrible position to ask this she might as well be the “third”. He clearly doesn’t give a fuck about her.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-15T20:55:25+00:00

side note: the third always picks up the trash after the other two. also, scheduled hugs. and no interacting with each other or discussing the big papa bear.

joke aside, this is some galactic-level pick me libfem logic gymnastics that I'm simply not prepared to relate to mentally. why don't they call it a harem and be done with it? and it's not modern, puhlease.

FDS-GFY · 2021-05-15T21:54:13+00:00

I always say to poly people that I am not enlightened enough to be one of them. They take me seriously too 🤣

Mcccy · 2021-05-15T18:48:14+00:00

I absolutely hate poly men, ONLY cause they never chose poly people as partners!

They always drag a monogamous person into this mess, is it some sick power play? Why can't they just find poly people and idk, go be poly with them?

heroic_nincompoop · 2021-05-15T21:01:06+00:00

I read this article and the kicker is that their relationship didn't even last. The other two girlfriends he had didn't like her and called her "manipulative" just because she wanted monogamy. 🥴 I understand relationships are supposed to help us learn and grow, but if someone's causing you so much intense turmoil, you gotta ask yourself if it's even worth fighting for...

crazykitten27 · 2021-05-15T19:38:06+00:00

This reminds me of a tic tok I saw where this woman was talking about how happy she was in a poly relationship. She kept going on about how her boyfriend was on a date with a woman who is thinner and prettier than her. And that she hopes he gets laid tonight you could just see the deadness in her eyes it was incredibly heartbreaking and of course when the comments called her out for clearly not enjoying this ploy bullshit she defended him like her life depended on it. It was probably the saddest tik tok I've ever seen. She was broken and dead in the eyes.

MysteriousLife7 · 2021-05-15T23:54:45+00:00

“My mind could rationalize polyamory, but my heart rebelled” oh yes sis of course your poor confused heart is trying its best to catch up with the clown level mental gymnastics your mind is trying to pull off 😭🤡 How much have you been gaslit and negged to this ultra low of the low?

zazaleaz · 2021-05-15T21:28:42+00:00

Can I just set up house with the two other women and leave him out of it? That sounds alright.

spicyspa · 2021-05-15T20:14:42+00:00

Now it's not just a matter of her being a side hoe, but if she's on his left or right side.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-05-16T00:11:02+00:00

Polyamory is just patriarchy on steroids.

ScalesHaveFallen · 2021-05-16T00:59:32+00:00

Modern Love? Modern emotional exploitation 🤮

AcadiaLeather5071 · 2021-05-15T22:15:15+00:00

Love is dead and reddit killed it. 🙃

Unironically though- what the fuck?

Aocwannabe · 2021-05-15T18:16:10+00:00

I am disgusted by the attempt to normalize polyamory- which disproportionately benefits men. Polyamory is NOT radical and it is not pushback against “patriarchal” systems like monogamy. It just harms women who are then shamed for feeling “jealousy” when they don’t want community d.

I’d be okay with polyamory IF more men were desirable. But they’re not! So women resort to sharing. Maybe I’m just jealous because I can’t even find one guy that I’d like to sleep with so it boggles my mind that polyamorists have the energy for multiple partners? And don’t even get me started about the STI’s....

sjefsiljuuus · 2021-05-16T00:03:29+00:00

«YoU kInK sHaMe Me I cAnT cOnTrOl It» men who gets pissed because their girlfriend isnt into what they define as poly, to guiltrip the girlfriend to agree with being poly so they can cheat around as they want:)

ChanelOberlin2015 · 2021-05-16T08:59:32+00:00

Yes any man who wants multiple women to f**k is INHERENTLY negative value because he is a narcissist who needs multiple women begging him for crumbs of attention and commitment in order to feel like a "man." Don't be fooled, it isn't about needing "muh sexual variety", it's about hurting women. We know from porn that most men need to hurt women to get off sexually. They need to humiliate the woman...for some reason I wish I understood. What better way to humiliate and wound a woman than to make her compete with other women, in her own home, for love and affection? That way she will NEVER feel like enough because the man is showing her every day she is not enough and gaslighting her into thinking that the very idea of her being enough is delusional, selfish, and abusive. Can you think of a better way to tell a woman "you are worthless?" than that?

AcademicMobile1 · 2021-05-16T11:20:45+00:00

I remember I commented on this article "Why would you want to be one of 3 disappointed women?"

Some pick me got very mad and wrote me a big essay about how I'm a sex shaming assumer, which I never read because a hit dog will holler 🤣🤣🤣

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-05-16T07:11:28+00:00

Polymeishas scare the shit out of me.

_electrafire · 2021-05-16T01:47:00+00:00

At least this article seems a bit critical about polyamory. I’m honestly surprised

AnonPinkLady · 2021-05-16T08:46:59+00:00

Poly and threeways are complete bullshit and just modern man's manipulative way of getting a harem

bizzybumblebee · 2021-05-16T04:54:47+00:00

this is what i think about polyamory lol https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4

likearealreptile · 2021-05-16T03:14:28+00:00

sO mOdErN aNd PrOgReSsIvE

MissIncongruousNY · 2021-05-16T13:12:32+00:00

This is gross. The NYT should be embarrassed for publishing such crap.

lunarfulminate · 2021-05-15T19:02:42+00:00

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the-lonely-spirit · 2021-05-16T13:53:51+00:00

Only poly relationship I saw where there were multiple men and one women was on TLC I think? And I think two of the men were actively competing and one of the two was really fked up. Of course the whole dynamic was messed up and the woman got pregnant. But imagine having that many Dads to take care of one child? Good for her I say!

eclo · 2021-05-16T16:53:32+00:00

Poly is basically just woke male misogyny on steroids.

jasmine-blossom · 2021-05-16T05:02:10+00:00

As a person in a modified poly relationship I can definitively say; this shit does not work for most people, and you have to be a very specific type of person with very good, very honest, very communicative partners for it to work at all.

I would not recommend it to anyone unless that person is 100% sure that they are doing it for the right reasons and they found the right people.

Most people are not cut out for it.

Poly men very very often suck as much or more than mono men. The complication of adding more people to a relationship is significant and not to be taken lightly, and vetting must be done even more thoroughly than ever if you want to weed out the bad guys. Again, I do not recommend it to anyone, it mostly doesn’t work.

Title	STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮
Author	Aocwannabe
Upvotes	559
Comments	64
Date	May 15, 2021 6:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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