Dating thoughts. At what age gap do things become creepy? 10 years? 15? 20?

pegleg_legal · 2022-02-25T01:47:41+00:00

Here in Thailand, anything over a 60 year age gap is frowned upon.

Successful_Chard · 2022-02-25T00:54:26+00:00

I've been out of dating game for a while now. But the rule of thumb I believe is half your age + 7. Not a set in stone universal law, but when you look at it it seems to work.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-02-25T02:34:05+00:00

Don't follow rules. Anything above 18 is fair game IF it's what makes you happy. Older women in their 30s will shame men who date younger women because they want to guilt trip the men to continue funding their (the older women) irresponsible lifestyle. This is especially true of single mom's, which you MUST stay away from.

Ridethelightning1987 · 2022-02-25T02:12:45+00:00

I’ll be honest. When I’m 50 and I’m not married ima still try for 20 something’s. Someone don’t like that can suck it. 🤷‍♂️

KnownLedgesIsPowder · 2022-02-25T01:58:51+00:00

Anybody answering this seriously gives too much a fuck about what people think about them. If you’re 50 and she’s in her early twenties no one cares except you.

Gattsama · 2022-02-25T03:54:32+00:00

I would not worry about it. These rules are from the same society that wants use to be wage slaves to women for life. Just be safe, open, honest and have fun. It really depends on the culture too. NY vs ND vs Thailand vs Philippines vs Columbia.

What might not even get a blink in one spot is taboo in the other. Bit ultimately who cares what anyone things about you except yourself!

SireSweet · 2022-02-25T02:48:40+00:00

I don’t see the problem if she’s an adult.

Any age is okay. You’re not dating anyone but the one person so they’re opinion should matter.

Anyways, as I’ve been learning age is just a number. Doesn’t really tell you anything about the person.

CaliDude75 · 2022-02-25T05:47:51+00:00

Purely hypothetical at this point, but 46M, my age range for consideration is 30-50. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Formal_Republic_4313 · 2022-02-25T00:55:09+00:00

Less than half your age plus 7

Alright_So · 2022-02-25T01:14:01+00:00

All relative.

SilverknightFL · 2022-02-25T02:26:28+00:00

My parents, dad divorced, married my mom 10 years his junior (and he was mostly bald due to scarlet fever). Even in the 50s, it was never a problem for them. But they were both smart and mature. Dad 35, mom 25.

roypdx · 2022-02-25T06:02:39+00:00

Age gap is nobody's business but yours as long as you are both adults.

knowbodynows · 2022-02-25T06:37:37+00:00

Date anyone you like! We need practice recognizing and doing what we like anyway.

The issue with age gaps only appears when you get more serious together- can you keep up with the others activity level demand, travel etc? And when you're 70, will a 40yo woman really want to hang out at home all the time, looking after you?

Don't worry about that stuff right now. Date everyone. Make friends with the duds.

fesanjani703 · 2022-02-25T19:53:48+00:00

My last girlfriend was 17 years younger than me. We started dating when I was 41 and she was 24.

MGTOWManofMystery · 2022-02-25T20:12:37+00:00

Why care? We live in a female-correct gynocentric social order that gaslights men nonstop. Do what feels best to you without hurting anyone.

Lonely_Fondant · 2022-02-25T02:05:35+00:00

My older daughter told me anyone I date needs to be closer to my age than hers. Seems fair.

jdhuntet · 2022-02-25T02:09:52+00:00

When I was 44 I dated someone who was 32. It felt a little odd to me (never dated anyone that much younger than I was) but no one had any issues with it. It probably helped that I looked young for my age and they did not.

Ended up breaking up because they were too immature and I didn’t see a path forward.

Was lots of fun for a few months though.

TonLoc1281 · 2022-02-25T03:46:52+00:00

Half your age plus 7. This is THE rule. Additionally, fuck what anyone and everyone thinks. That’s what leads to most divorces anyways. Facts.

derelictherds · 2022-02-25T18:43:54+00:00

Who cares what people think? I'm mid 40s and have dated women as young as 27 and old as 46.

ghostiewm · 2022-02-25T23:54:36+00:00

Creepy to me is stepping into pedo land. After consenting adult age, it's all fair game. Of course that depends on individual taste mostly. If I were looking, hypothetically, I would try to stay out of the extreme ends of the spectrum for physical ability declines at the old end and maturity at the young end.

WartimeDad · 2022-02-27T17:28:13+00:00

I’m dating a girl with the same age gap you have, so obv I think it’s okay. I’m done worrying about what other people think. You only get one life, enjoy it. People who are judging you are either bitter or jealous. It’s their problem.

letak2018 · 2022-02-25T04:15:58+00:00

I’m 50, she’s 42. No big deal at this age. It all depends on the age. 30/22 would be kinda goofy.

Dating thoughts. At what age gap do things become creepy? 10 years? 15? 20?

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Title	Dating thoughts. At what age gap do things become creepy? 10 years? 15? 20?
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Date	February 25, 2022 12:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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