Found this gem on Twitter

riverofdenali · 2021-06-20T14:21:34+00:00

This tweet is so relevant. I used to talk about having kids so casually until I really sat down and evaluated the pros and cons of having them. I looked at my own parents who had kids out of obligation and I realized I never wanted to repeat that cycle. I can’t ethically or morally justify having children. I enjoy my freedom, my time, my money, and my sanity.

camille_san · 2021-06-20T13:40:54+00:00

I have almost always known that I didn’t want kids. During my younger, dumber, more reckless years I did become pregnant once and was planning to keep the child, until the father started showing his true colors. He started being extremely controlling, telling me what to eat, who I could and could not see, who “his child” would and wouldn’t be allowed around, etc, all while never going to an appointment with me or helping me pay for anything. I suddenly saw my future and when I got to the point that I was visualizing my own self-inflicted death I swiftly got an abortion. The man was beside himself with anger and called me every name in the book. I never regretted my decision once. That experience is also why I’m so terrified of the possibility of the option of abortion being stripped away from us. I wholeheartedly believe that I wouldn’t still be here had I not gotten the procedure, that shit literally saved my life.

lessadessa · 2021-06-20T14:18:35+00:00

As someone with zero maternal instinct, this is easy for me. And knowing how many men start cheating and jumping ship after the baby is born basically means I have no incentive at all to ever even consider having a baby. The thought seems so foreign to me, and I feel horrible for all the women who are abandoned by their LVM after going thru childbirth.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-06-20T10:21:15+00:00

Motherhood can be a cult

Always remember you can be a mother without giving birth.

Take that divine mothering energy and channel it into plants, animals, relatives that are unwell, friends that need support, foster kids or adoption.

Love is free to give and is the most potent energy to heal and transform.

Nurture others and nurture yourself.

You can still express the divine mother in your everyday life.

Edit:Just don't mother scrotes i beg you

tactical_viper · 2021-06-20T14:05:30+00:00

CF for life!!! Glad to see so many fellow FDSers are also CF. There’s enough children in the world and at least CF women won’t ever be susceptible to being locked in to a shit relationship. I’ll never be in a relationship again or have sex with anyone, but to the women that will, I highly suggest getting a bi salp so that no one can sabotage your birth control.

LadylikeElectricland · 2021-06-20T13:08:10+00:00

Male fertility is plummetting so this may be yet another choice snatched right out of our hands...

anonymousgirl99 · 2021-06-20T15:17:06+00:00

It really should be an "opt-in" to having children, vs an "opt-out" situation

PizzaNo7741 · 2021-06-20T09:05:22+00:00

I like this because it’s about critical thinking and analysis of what we have been conditioned into being for others.

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-06-20T14:56:22+00:00

Motherhood can be a wonderful thing, but I don't like how it's pushed as an expectation of subservience that ties you to a man - and at the same time the only true fulfilment a woman's supposed to have or wish for. Fatherhood is not pushed the same way, it's seen as a bonus; if it happens, great - if it doesn't you're still a man and your own person.

sleepykittn · 2021-06-20T09:56:10+00:00

Mhm but not just for petsonal reasons, REMIND the world we have the power to keep this species going. Thats our right, and as female beings its actually in our nature to be selective or deny.

dr_mcstuffins · 2021-06-20T14:27:57+00:00

Bilateral salpingectomy = 0.00001% chance of pregnancy. It blew my mind just how much this procedure reduced my overall day to day anxiety. Pregnancy anxiety is an existential issue, and I didn’t know how heavy a burden I was carrying until it was eliminated in one fell swoop. I’m a new woman. My sexual pleasure is also higher since the intrusive thoughts about accidental pregnancy are totally gone. My body is 100% for my pleasure. I don’t randomly think of breastfeeding when my girls are getting attention now - they are for me and me alone. Orgasm is easier due to the immensely reduced anxiety (plus it really does get easier with age).

Papaverinum · 2021-06-20T09:34:09+00:00

CF for life 😇🏆

Platipus6 · 2021-06-20T09:55:11+00:00

Helps you be shocked by men who want mothering too.

searchingforjupiter · 2021-06-20T12:46:06+00:00

so nice to see fellow childfree women <3

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-06-20T13:21:18+00:00

It definitely should be an option and alternative, not the necessity. I wish the next generation of young women would have enough examples of CF ladies who are doing great in their lives. I also hope the stereotype of lonely crazy cat lady would die out finally. My mom always pitied single and childless women, so I was growing up being scared that if I don't have kids, everyone's gonna pity me and point fingers at me.

It shouldn't be the end of the world and a huge disaster if women, for whatever reason, don't have kids. Sometimes I think that the biological clock's ticking is nothing else but the reminder of the society's expectations.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2021-06-20T14:07:08+00:00

I don’t ever want kids. I couldn’t imagine being responsible for another human being lol. And I value time, sleep and money!

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-06-20T09:50:40+00:00

CF and proud! 🤍

PizzaNo7741 · 2021-06-20T09:05:14+00:00

I like this because it’s about critical thinking and analysis of what we have been conditioned into being for others.

luciesssss · 2021-06-20T14:25:09+00:00

I think deep introspection is necessary before any life changing decision. But introspection on this matter doesn’t mean you need to come to the conclusion that you should be childfree. It’s ok if after the deeply reflecting on what you want you still want to be a mother/have children. It’s also ok to acknowledge the role the patriarchy may play in that decision.

TeamWaddles · 2021-06-20T15:27:30+00:00

I literally always thought of this: how is being a mother a choice when we are ostracized if we don’t “chose” it? If I suddenly loose all of my value because of it?

If I have to be so damn pressured into something, anything, it raises huge concerns, and motherhood is no different.

katiekat0214 · 2021-06-20T15:31:12+00:00

I'm 53, 10+ years post-menopausal. Knew from single digits I very much wanted to be married and have a happy marriage, and also knew I never wanted kids. I was married twice, 25 years, second time happy for 17 years. I was not at all socialized this way. My parents never pushed dolls on me, and were chilled out (after older sister and brother) and just let me be me: tomboyish, outdoorsy, and they recognized I loved stuffed animals, but plastic dolls? ew. Helps that I grew up INTJ, the kind of woman most likely to be childfree. That deep introspection comes naturally. I'm very grateful I had the privilege of deciding for myself what kind of life I wanted. The violence came in holding space for myself, my wants, my boundaries, against society. Fifty three, no regrets.

laffytaggy · 2021-06-20T11:58:12+00:00

I hear this and it’s something I am reflecting on. But do any of you ladies feel a strong biological desire for children? I think it is so ingrained in me, esp in my 30s, that it’s hard to think clearly on it. Does anyone feel that deep down urge to nest and have a baby?

OnlyPaperListens · 2021-06-20T15:37:39+00:00

The WHO statement about drinking was a jolt of reality to younger CFers. We really are just meat incubators to those in power.

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-06-20T11:50:06+00:00

Also CF for life!!!

Amazing_Wolverine_37 · 2021-06-20T16:06:30+00:00

It was always incredibly important to me to get a grad degree before having kids. Now I understand even more so why. When my less than valuable ex wigged out I could walk away pretty cleanly. Unfortunately not only are we trained to be mothers in waiting but we are expected to mother others well before we hit puberty. A lot of my current thoughts are around wanting more (with less rose tint to my glasses this time).

4BigData · 2021-06-20T14:32:51+00:00

Also consider being man-free. There not enough HVM for every woman, and many of us can be sometimes even happier with the freedom and flexibility that come from being single.

Reporter_Complex · 2021-06-20T15:55:11+00:00

I refuse to bring a child into a world that they won't be loved by equally high value parents, and have a very solid, and respectful relationship.

More so though, I have an extreme fear of vomit (emetophobia) and absolutely refuse to have children until they make a vaccine for stomach bugs lmao, dirty little things 😂

Title	Found this gem on Twitter
Author	intergalacticanon44
Upvotes	1133
Comments	62
Date	June 20, 2021 9:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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