Giving up birth control?

Platipus6 · 2020-11-13T01:22:36+00:00

He doesnt need to ejaculate inside you.

ETA jesus christ where did these blinkers regarding birth control come from?

Why is male sexual entitlement just a given?

Why is male ejaculation during PIV the highest priority?

Why are we doing mental gymnastics to solve the problem at the end?

"WHEN I get pregnant I'll just get an abortion"

"I'll just fuck my hormones and puke my lungs out by getting Plan B every few months so he can cum in me"

"I'll go on the BC pill and fuck my hormones for decades so he can cum in me"

"I'll shove a piece of plastic or metal into my cervix so he can cum in me"

"I'll get invasive surgery to remove my tubes so he can cum in me"

Fucking really?

Solve the problem at the beginning. No sperm in your vagina. Simple.

He can have unsatisfying PIV with no orgasm like we do, then he can pull out and finish himself, like we do. You can "cuddle" during because it's all about the iNtiMaCy.

Or he can go get a vasectomy while you watch.

Your priority is not getting pregnant. Feeling safe and secure during sex that you will not get pregnant. Fuck his orgasm.

Moira_Spice · 2020-11-13T01:28:21+00:00

Check if you can get a Cooper IUD. They're non-hormonal and last for a long time. This, in addition to condoms will keep you safe.

You should avoid getting abortions (I'm NOT a prolifer, I'm pro-choice fyi) because they're a real pain in the arse and if you're in USA, they might become harder to obtain as times goes on. I'm not sure of the medical impacts of abortion.

Personnally Ive given up BC totally and I'm waiting for a tubal ligation (permanent birth control).

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-11-13T01:43:51+00:00

I got off the pill after 20 years on it because of the horrible damage it did to my body. I'm for condoms and even pulling out with the condom. I also track my cycle using an app and I never thought I'd ever say this but I rely a lot on abstinence. If I'm even near ovulating it's a hell no.

straighthairgreece · 2020-11-13T01:57:49+00:00

Ask him to get a vasectomy.

astrophylite · 2020-11-13T02:30:05+00:00

Could you elaborate more about what you've been reading that it does to hormones?

I'm curious mostly because doctors keep trying to push BC on me. I've tried 7 different brands/types and the side effects are always really unfortunate (mostly acne, nausea, and headaches). I wish more doctors understood that altering your hormones isn't pleasant for many people.

CatSweets · 2020-11-13T01:38:52+00:00

I gave up the pills and got a copper IUD some years ago, also because of problems with hormones. My boyfriend at the time always used condoms also, I like to combine 2 methods all the time because abortion is not legal in my country (except in cases of rape).

I like the IUD because I don't really have to do anything, and it lasts 10 years.

Danigirl_03 · 2020-11-13T01:58:43+00:00

I have a hormonal IUD(Mirena) it’s good for 5 years I’m on my second one. I love it, for me at least I don’t have a period on it and haven’t in years. It’s highly effective. We do use condoms as well as my conditions to ditching condoms is long term exclusive and we each have a clean STI test. I quite like my IUD, and hormone wise I’m far more stable than when I was on the pill.

However it’s definitely a personal choice.

OrangeyPanda · 2020-11-13T15:41:15+00:00

Even if you're on BC it is very irresponsible not to use condoms. Stop using condoms when you want a child, its just not safe otherwise. I have a small hormonal IUD simply because I don't want a period, and we use condoms 100% of the time because we BOTH take responsibility for birth control.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-11-13T01:10:24+00:00

Condoms and pull out with plan B as back up.

Vmwvi · 2020-11-13T06:47:25+00:00

Tell him to get a vasectomy. Either he gets a vasectomy or don't have sex. You aren't married, and sex is NEVER a requirement either way. Why are you already having sex with him, and why are you sacrificing your body for HIS pleasure. There is no reason to pump yourself full of hormones and irritate your whole reproductive system, all while raising your chances of getting cancer, because a man doesn't want to pull out. Not to mention, why isn't he already using condoms? Birth control is not failproof, and can lead to a fetus developing outside the womb (needs to be aborted, or you and it will die.) What is wrong with him? He isn't even using condoms; how can you trust him with your health. You're still meant to use condoms with birth control, to prevent a pregnancy. If you don't want to have kids with this man, don't have sex with him. If abortion was banned tomorrow, you got pregnant, and the baby was found to be likely to have several disabilities due to his incompatible genes, would you be fine with raising the kid? Abortion is not the go-to. It's still pumping you full of hormones because your bf is too selfish to either get a vasectomy or not orgasm anywhere near your privates. If you want to be childfree, back to the vasectomy. He is already showing LV behaviour by not using condoms for HIS pleasure.

Icchy24 · 2020-11-13T02:50:43+00:00

I have a copper iud and i love it.

My ONLY negative side effect is that i spot longer than usual, sometimes 3 days instead of my normal 1 day. But my period itself isnt heavier than normal.

Granted I'm not having sex right now so its kinda pointless, but when i was actively having sex, it was a good tradeoff for me

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-11-13T16:37:53+00:00

Do what you feel most comfortable with here. There's no right answer.

oscine23 · 2020-11-13T16:54:12+00:00

There isn't a bc on the market that won't fk you up on some level. I took a low dose bc back in my 20s and my hair fell out for months after I stopped. I had bald spots. So many horror stories about IUD and implants. Never again.

throwmefaraway85 · 2020-11-13T03:52:02+00:00

Has anyone used a diaphragm before? I've never used hormonal birth control, refuse to, and have always used condoms in the past

But to be honest, I would like to try without condoms since it feels better (I would be doing it for me). I've tried different condoms and I find them uncomfortable and eventually it starts hurting

I'm only intimate with a long term partner, so not worried about STIs

Does a diaphragm with spermicide combined with the pullout method offer adequate protection? Anyone have experience with it?

Madholley · 2020-11-13T02:01:31+00:00

This is a really dumb question.

I'm celibate and looking into BC to lessen my ovulation pain and reduce my sex drive.

Is there an easier way?

My period cramps are bad, but when I ovulate, it feels like I'm getting jabbed with a long needle. It took my breath out this morning.

:S

complex_answer_22 · 2020-11-13T08:06:27+00:00

I like the mini pill. It basically creates a mucus plug that sperm can't get through. It doesn't have estrogen and you can quit anytime without major side effects. It's the only birth control I'd ever take after suffering the side effects of the traditional pill years ago.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-11-13T13:02:07+00:00

I was on a low-dose formula of the pill for years then switched to the nuvaring bc it's supposed to have a fraction of the dose of the lowest dose pill. Definitely noticed a difference. I've been rolling with it ever since.

Female barrier methods are uncomfortable, expensive and/or extremely hard to find. The sponge is pretty much gone, sheets and gels can cause irritation and Ive never seen a female condom for sale anywhere. And good luck trying to get a diaphragm/cervical cap in the US; demand is so low that you'll rarely find both a gyno equipped to fit you for one and a pharmacy that carries it.

I thought about long term options like implanon and the iud but decided against it. I heard implanon makes you gain a LOT of weight. Idk how I'd feel with a piece of metal in my body and iirc iuds work best for women who've given birth before. And I don't want to risk ending up in the position that I'm unable to get to the gyno to have them removed if I needed to.

I'm also pro abortion. The key to minimizing risks is keeping close track of your period so you'll know if you're pregnant right away. I think the medical option is only available if you're less than 2 months along and the earliest you'd get a positive pregnancy test is at about 1 month.

Regardless of the moral issues, if having an unplanned baby would significantly hinder achieving your goals (the dirty secret that isn't discussed enough is that there's a strong possibility that it would) then abortion might be the best decision.

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honeybeeroll · 2020-11-13T17:47:12+00:00

If you're in the US, a vasectomy is an out patient procedure that's fairly non invasive (tiny incisions) that can be done as quickly as 30 mins and is reversable.

You could also look into the Skyla IUD. This releases a very small amount of localized hormones to minimize the possibility of hormones screwing you up.

There is also the copper IUD, but VERY heavy periods are a side effect of it. Like going through a super sized tampon in an hour or less. The kind of period where if it comes when you're out and you don't have several pads or tampon, you can't make do w/ toilet paper. That side effect is supposed to calm down after 6 months but I've got a friend on it and it has not.

pinkzebra12 · 2020-11-13T15:15:22+00:00

I haven't tried this personally, but I've heard good things about Natural Cycles. It tracks your temperature so you know when you're fertile. On days you're fertile, don't have PIV. So if you combine this and condoms, you should be fine :)

A big positive is that instead of fighting against your body's natural rhythm, you're observing it and making decisions for yourself. It will have no impact on your body, but it will improve the amount you know about your body.

Title	Giving up birth control?
Author	runnergal12
Upvotes	45
Comments	62
Date	November 12, 2020 9:37 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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