What I’ve been saying!

GlitterLoveAngel · 2020-02-14T23:19:47+00:00

I remember thinking I was asexual just because of this.

kaylazomg · 2020-02-15T05:45:29+00:00

My version of kinky sex is the man being completely immersed and in love with my pleasure, because I’m my experience it’s difficult to find a man who enjoys giving pleasure and seeing a woman’s reaction to pleasure vs only being concerned with their own pleasure.

I say I’m kinky because I’m open to being creative with sex and having fun with it, not because I’m into some hard core shit lol. I wonder what other people’s ideals of “kinky” are. Seems like there’s some variety of opinions...

ny-lady · 2020-02-15T01:58:42+00:00

Its sad how many guys today that think 'vanilla' sex is boring/bad when its actually what makes many of us women go. Sensual passionate into each other vanilla sex is hot when you're into each other. So many women want passion and sensuality, its whats can get us off/wet.

Or they seem to think 'vanilla' sex is just mish when its so not!

Now I know some women like some kink and thats ok but I know many of us women want passion, foreplay, making out, sensual touching each other, etc even if we like it to get a bit more rigorous when we get going. We need to work up to that not start with it. We need to be 'woken up', we are not a man.

rosapalmera · 2020-02-15T01:12:45+00:00

I dated this guy who was into BDSM and would keep referring to the sex we had as vanilla sex. I don’t know why but it really rubbed me the wrong way (pun intended).

liquid_lightning · 2020-02-15T07:44:51+00:00

Frankly, I’m sick of “sex positive” people. They literally can’t talk about or even think about anything else.

RiteWriter · 2020-02-15T01:27:12+00:00

The they complain about how they can’t connect and find love 👀🤷🏻‍♀️🙄

pacachan · 2020-02-15T07:43:21+00:00

I've been called boring or bad at sex in discussions so many times for being antiBDSM/antikink/antiporn in general. It's an immature rationalization from pornsick people and shows a lack of basic respect. I also think the "kinkier=more enlightened/fun" mindset is boundary-pushing and messed up, makes no sense to do sex acts for the wokeness component

BookwormJane · 2020-02-15T02:00:33+00:00

Making women think they should have anal sex (a practice that can lead to fecal incontinence, anal prolapse, anal fissures and greater risk of contracting a STD) is not sexually liberating. It's inducing women to engage in abusive relationships and self-harming practices.

pinkyberries · 2020-02-14T23:45:41+00:00

Cannot believe anal, threesomes and BDSM are now 'normal' and expected by many men. Disgusting.

Worst is, if you've done it before (anal, threesomes) with an ex and you tell that to your current then he might expect you to perform the same thing for him or "you don't love him enough".

Connecticut06482 · 2020-02-14T23:07:02+00:00

I took a screen shot of this one 🙏🙏

mememe88888 · 2020-02-15T03:57:50+00:00

Seriously....Whyyyyyyy?!? I’m so happy so many women are getting CLEAR AS FUCK and can see what’s going on now.

liquid_lightning · 2020-02-15T11:19:47+00:00

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2020-02-14T23:20:37+00:00

Tattoo this on my forehead

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-02-15T12:12:10+00:00

These idiots get their 'sex education' on PornHub and have no IDEA how a woman's body works.

They think they just need to climb on top of her - with no foreplay - and bang away until their oh so magic member automatically makes her have a vaginal orgasm. And thanks to porn, they also think any woman is only too happy to have anal sex with them.

Most don't really know (or care) if a woman climaxes or not, just as long as they're getting off.

JuddHerpatow · 2020-02-14T23:53:20+00:00

Shaming is nonsense. Who cares what people like? You're not a more worthwhile person because you like to be peed on, Troy.

TERFSareawesome · 2020-02-15T00:06:59+00:00

I personally have ALWAYS had an orgasm through vaginal sex alone, which I thought was fairly normal until talking to some of my friends and seeing women talk about it online. I do think some of this is just due to like, how things are arranged down below for me (talking about clit placement, g-spot, that kind of thing). But I think another HUGE thing is that I've only ever had vanilla sex. I have NEVER allowed a guy to hit me or put his hands on me during sex. Obviously, no one can control if some crazy guy decides to do something despite them saying no. But I've always done a good job of vetting dudes, and if we're kissing or making out and he puts his hands on my throat, or "spanks" me (I consider that just straight hitting), or does anything to scare me- I'm out, and I'll take my stuff and LEAVE quick. I've been mid sex with some guy when he lightly spanked me and I told him very harshly "Don't ever do that, I don't like that". In terms of sexual positions, I am VERY clear about what positions feel good to me (mostly missionary and me on top) and absolutely dont engage in anything that I'm not enjoying or- God forbid- causes me pain.

I believe studies have shown that a huge percentage of a woman's ability to reach orgasm is their sense of safety during sex. I've always had that, so it's never been an issue to reach that point. I cant really imagine being able to go into that space if you're nervous or worried about what someone will do next.

So if some woman wants to come at me for not wanting do it reverse cowgirl or while getting hit in the back of the neck with a metal bar or whatever she can absolutely do that. I will take my 100% orgasm rate and high sexual satisfaction ANY DAY of the fucking week. I consider that much more of a marker of how "good" your sex was than whether or not someone like punched you in the back of the head. How is that even something to be proud of or thrilled about? It seems like the opposite of sexy, to me.

Parking-Act · 2020-02-14T23:26:22+00:00

The fact that they call regular healthy sex "vanilla" like its plain and boring should be enough to run for the hills. It is not normal for people to enjoy being choked and whipped and gagged during sex. Thats abuse, degradation violence not kink.

Think about what gags, whips and choking stem from? Kidnappings, abuse, racism, hatred, control, power, murder.

Now remind me again how that turns you on?

Like wtf!?

jojosbabymoms · 2020-02-15T03:26:21+00:00

The amount of shame I’ve gotten for not liking being tied up and punched around is kinda dumb?? And i don’t wanna sound like a pick me at all but if you really need to get your head stuffed in a microwave to get the slightest nut, i don’t think thats normal. And why don’t we just respect other people’s vanilla likes? 😬

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-15T02:48:34+00:00

I love this 🔥👌

siberiansummer · 2020-02-15T00:06:23+00:00

They also promote polyamory 🙄

ReignRain95 · 2020-02-15T03:05:09+00:00

stuff like this gave me gender dysphoria..

wakin_n_bacon · 2020-02-15T11:16:56+00:00

This reminds me of when Shia Lebouf was on Ellen and he said something to the effect of “I like traditional boring missionary sex” and the audience gave him a standing ovation. He seemed taken aback that he would get such a reaction but I instantly recognized why and it was THIS meme. Woman are tired of being made to feel like we need to be freaky. It’s refreshing for women to be reminded that attractive and high value men actually prefer to connect with their partner in a sexually intimate way that doesn’t involve anything outlandish or potentially dangerous. Just deep connection emotional sex is great and most women prefer it

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-02-15T17:05:00+00:00

Sex positivity is such a strange concept. Like I get that we should encourage people to live their lives as they choose, but shouldn't that positivity extend to those of us who don't want casual sex or don't enjoy indulging in kinks that make us feel degraded? I don't judge your sex life, please don't judge mine! Just because my turn-ons and wants are different from yours doesn't make me "sex negative." Far from it. I love sex, but I like what I like and I'm not compromising that for anyone.

2020-02-15T21:14:46+00:00

One time a guy tried to "spank" me and whacked me on my lower back so I turned around smacked him in the face.

DelicateDream · 2020-02-15T06:15:46+00:00

What generation is this normal for? Honest question. I’m an old millennial and this is so foreign to me.... I haven’t encountered such men, thankfully.

Title	What I’ve been saying!
Author	thestemgorl_
Upvotes	4459
Comments	125
Date	February 14, 2020 11:03 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f40h95/what_ive_been_saying/
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