Hit Right in the truth.

LockNuts · 2016-04-21T16:01:15+00:00

The video is so much more in every way.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ikd0ZYQoDko

Freiling · 2016-04-21T17:04:30+00:00

I've been raped by a woman. This pretty much captures it.

Sabbatai · 2016-04-22T00:49:52+00:00

I want some opinions... be brutally honest please.

I had just turned 17 when I started dating a girl who was well into 18.

We had lots of sex. She got pregnant. I've paid my child support faithfully for years. That absolutely ruined me financially. I was ordered to pay almost 60% of my income for 20 years (and counting). There are reasons I am paying beyond 18 but I'm not complaining about that. Hell, I'm not really complaining at all. I am happy to support my child.

I attempted to get a modification based on the years of barely being able to pay my rent, having to borrow money just to survive and so forth and I even specifically said I had no interest in paying anything less than what I was ordered. I just wanted to know if there was a way I could pay less per month... for more months.

That request was denied.

So I spoke to a lawyer (friend, unofficially, not representing me) who asked me how old I was when she got pregnant. I was still 17. I turned 18 before my son was born, but 17 when she got pregnant. He asked how old she was. 18, nearly 19.

He said law varies from state to state and there are statutes of limitation in some but that she would be guilty of "statutory rape" in many states.

Turns out I could still file in the state where we both lived, where the "crime" happened.

Now here's the thing. I knew what I was doing. I wanted to have sex. She didn't have to coerce me. The few people I've spoken to say that doesn't matter. That I wasn't legally old enough to make that decision.

Now, I don't want to do this out of vengeance. I don't hate her for "making me" pay child support.

But everyone I've talked to says something along the lines of "She ruined your life dude. You WERE too young to make that decision even if you feel like you were not and you alone shouldered the financial burden of that choice you weren't allowed to make. Take it to court."

Now they all also say I'd have virtually zero chance of winning despite what the law says. Further, while she may end up in jail or paying a fine it wouldn't do anything to alleviate what I went through.

Part of me feels like I should do it because it is true that I was not legally able to make the decision. Also because she purposely got pregnant to stop me from breaking up with her. She's admitted as much.

The other part of me feels like... as I said, I knew what I was doing. She wasn't the first girl I had sex with. Just the first "adult." And she just happened to be crazy enough to stop taking the pill on purpose.

But then I think about the fact that if she is guilty of a crime and I let her slide... how can I ever say that a video like this "hits me in the feels" or that I "wish there was something I could do" to help people like the man in the video?

I understand it is a pretty big difference between being in second grade and being molested by your teacher and a 17 year old willfully having sex with his 18 year old girlfriend....

But that is why I am asking for opinions.

closetedapostate · 2016-04-21T16:50:10+00:00

I love this video and the fact that it raises awareness to the hidden trauma regarding statutory rape of boys; I just wish comments were enabled on the YouTube video.

Bickslow2222 · 2016-04-21T21:40:46+00:00

This was tough to read...I've been there, was there. The worst 6 months of my life. He is barely holding back so many tears, so much pain, so much emotion. It's so familiar and so painful.

Wiiboy95 · 2016-04-21T22:53:48+00:00

Can we put the video for this in the wiki/sidebar so it doesn't get reposted every two weeks?

riker89 · 2016-04-21T19:50:23+00:00

Time for me to unsub. This place is no good for my blood pressure or emotional wellbeing.

fosterco · 2016-04-21T17:01:28+00:00

The patriarchy is responsible. /s

kaluh_glarski · 2016-04-21T20:03:05+00:00

holy shit, that slaps you in the face pretty hard right there at the end.

ThogOfWar · 2016-04-21T21:04:43+00:00

Ugh, why can't he realize that it's impossible for men to be raped by women? He was sexually assaulted, dummy.

I mean, feminists petitioned that men can't be raped, because rape is power and women have none, so women can only sexually assault.

Rape when it happens to a woman, inconsequential when it happens to a man, according to the law.

compoundbreak791 · 2016-04-21T20:36:11+00:00

I thought this was pretty dramatic when I first saw it on television.

Demonhunter115 · 2016-04-22T06:02:06+00:00

I looked at this multiple times today, because it really makes me think. I talked to my friend about it, I talked to my feminist sister about it (yes, that leads to some crazy arguements), and of all the times I looked at it, I didn't even notice how he looks like he's about to cry in the end there. Damn.

CWBECK · 2016-04-22T16:59:51+00:00

Of course there are people in the comments whining about how it's not a post about women.

Can't we EVER talk about the issues that one gender faces without talking about the other? One of them literally said that imgur promotes a "white male victim narrative" as if it's impossible for men (race has nothing to do with it, sort of obvious that you're a biased dipshit who jumped on the "check your privilege" bandwagon) to ever talk about issues in society that THEY alone face.

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dontpet · 2016-04-22T05:45:02+00:00

What beautiful acting. If it didn't happen to him it captured something very relevant about a range of men affected by this issue. Beautiful.

DillipFayKick · 2016-04-21T18:28:55+00:00

/r/unexpected

azazelcrowley · 2016-04-21T20:29:24+00:00

How to do clickbait properly. Chilling video.

fbtra · 2016-04-22T10:19:09+00:00

I was banned from feminism for sharing this.

tmnt88 · 2016-04-21T18:01:38+00:00

Fuck

Rethgil · 2016-04-21T22:05:14+00:00

Great post. This has needed addressing for a long time.

sil0 · 2016-04-22T01:32:14+00:00

That last still when his eyes were red was really impactful for me.

Tymmah · 2016-04-22T03:20:20+00:00

As someone who was statutory raped as a 12 year old by a 17 year old, I still don't know to this day how much that really affected me.

Botanical-Concepts · 2016-04-22T04:08:20+00:00

Men making rape jokes like this guy Rodrigo Duertere about women is the crime on the century. But men actually being raped by woman IS a hilarious joke.

PFFFFT

dontpet · 2016-04-21T19:13:33+00:00

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PressedRat · 2016-04-22T00:09:31+00:00

This is an actor fam. Not that men's rape isn't extremely serious and painful, but this is like showing a movie clip from Forrest Gump to convey how serious Vietnam was.

wiseprogressivethink · 2016-04-21T22:07:47+00:00

No way that beta got laid at age 13.

BaconLondoner · 2016-04-21T17:55:13+00:00

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BrodyKraut · 2016-04-21T16:44:49+00:00

Should have seen my 7th grade science teacher. Wouldn't have objected if she had her way with me.

checkm8- · 2016-04-22T02:19:18+00:00

I WISH I got 'raped' by my teacher in high school. mmm she had a fat ass

noreallyimthepope · 2016-04-21T20:00:00+00:00

Low effort repost.

BatmansAlterEgoo · 2016-04-22T02:08:51+00:00

This guy is such a faggot.

Title	Hit Right in the truth.
Author	FFXIV_Machinist
Upvotes	2617
Comments	187
Date	April 21, 2016 3:34 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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