A sentiment from both men and women redditors is that many top-quality men just refuse to settle, for no other reason than playing with women and getting a constant stream of new sex. It is quite obvious that some kind of psychopathy is implied and ascribed to those men, the men are to blame. Is it really the case? (of course, there are some who are obviously psychopathic player, not going to deny that, But is the percentage of these players really comparatively high among the top 10% men?).

A bit of an anecdote, I am fortunate enough to have a period of glow up (no longer though), when I dated multiple women simultaneously over a period of a little under 2 years (majority hadn't made it to exclusivity talk). Many women were clearly attracted and interested in a relationship, you know it if you have been there (glow-up). Through the dating process, however, I discovered < 10% women were worth the time no matter how much they stated they want an LTR. I experienced similarly as many other men and in fact many lesbian women dating bi-women, namely entitlement, passive, indecisive, play games, demanding but not giving. So, you see that once the field is levelled (women-to-women, attractive men-to-women), the majority of women do not really know what to do to secure a relationship because they are used to being pursued in a bend-over-back way. If you know you are a high-quality, self-respected person with an important career, would you put up with these behavior traits for a long-term partner (regardless of men or women)? Rejection after a few dates is then the natural outcome.

It is just a natural weeding process. Unfortunately, most women turned sour and sent long fuming text to me even though I simply politely told them we will not work out (weeding is the point of a dating phase in my opinion). And most perculiarly is that when the gender is reversed, we don't see attractive women dating and rejecting lots of guys getting the same negative look.

That's in my observation also why a lot of high-quality men often did not marry the most attractive. A bit more caring, proactive, and a willingness to give and compromise goes a long way. Sex is boring after a certain point, that's what most common people forget. There are sex-addicted players but in my opinion those are easy to spot, and I am not sure if there is really a higher proportion among the top 10 percent men. If they attract lots, they must reject lots, it does not mean majority are player.