I didn’t think I needed to say this, but the alot of guys never ceases to shock me. A relationship requires more than just hangout alot and fucking. First of all, if you dont declare its a relationship, then there’s no cheating when she dates/fuck other guys. You clearly didn’t wanna be a boyfriend, so why should she act like a girlfriend?

There has to emotional intimacy, sacrifices, actually giving a fuck about each other even, etc. And A This whole “it’s just vibes” mentality only benefits people who don’t want responsibility. It’s why situationships drag on forever. This brings me to a problem I see with the manosphere. Only focusing on how you feel without any consideration how you’re making others feel makes you a shitty romantic partner.

And here’s the bigger pattern I’m noticing:

A lot of guys see dating for months as a relationship because they don’t actually like being around women. They see dating as the “hard work.” But it doesn’t take effort to show up, sit next to someone, eat food, watch Netflix, explore town for fun, etc. If that feels exhausting to you, you don’t like that person. At best, you just want something casual.

If you enjoy someone:

• you WANT the label because it represents closeness  • you WANT to define the relationship  • you WANT to build intimacy  • you WANT to communicate

If you don’t like women?

Then you avoid:

• emotional vulnerability  • accountability  • labeling  • clarity  • intimacy  • partnership

And for all the “Redpill is about discovering the reality of dating” none of them seem to be aware when they clearly want situationships.