Has this sub actually changed anyone's mind?

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-12-23T21:17:46+00:00

Yes. I moved from blue to solidly purple

hugship · 2019-12-23T21:23:53+00:00

Not sure about how effective this sub is in changing the minds of those actually posting here, but I thing it’s good to have a place for lurkers who may not have “picked a side” so to speak to see each side’s arguments.

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-12-23T21:25:26+00:00

Yes. And the more I understand of women the better I get. I think women in general are very interesting. The more I learn, the more fascinating they become. Physiologically, men and women are fucking different.

isn't the rational thing to do is accept this premise and believe it?

For men, it will seem rational. But we have different minds. Broadly speaking of course. All this RP shit gets really janky when you are forced to actually get to know people on a personal level...which is where all the fun is.

gertrude_is · 2019-12-23T21:32:20+00:00

I used to be really red and gradually mellowed out. Mostly because of getting more life experience and realizing women are neither wonderful nor the monsters TRP makes them out to be. Most women are somewhere in between.

Seeing some of the arguments here, especially by purple flaired posters helped me interpret the evidence of my eyes. Centrism seriously lacks cool factor in most areas of life and wins you few friends but honestly, you usually find truth somewhere in the middle.

ReachForYourDreams · 2019-12-23T21:20:28+00:00

I like the fact that women are honest (not all the time) in this sub.

It gives me a new POV and a new motivation to live.

Maybe there are good girls left. It motivates me to improve and go back to shagging.

I like the fact that men over here are mature and know what's up, it also gives me motivation to be a better man.

Did this sub change me? No but it made me push harder.

AggravatingTartlet · 2019-12-24T05:22:46+00:00

Yes, mind changed by some things.

I thought almost all men could have sex/relationships if they wanted them, but you guys tell me a lot can't, and I believe you. Must be a lot of women who are just not bothering to date. I don't believe women are all chasing chad - it's just not what I see.

I didn't have a good concept of the level of hate many men hold towards women until this forum, and now I see it clearly. Women cannot win that war. There is no logic that can outlogic that kind of hate and bitterness.

I do understand though how being alone and rejected can turn you to hate and have you believing the worst of the opposite sex. I get it. I can't say I wouldn't be the same about men if I were in your shoes and had been rejected by men.

I've also come to realize that the reason behind a lot of how the world functions is because everyone is afraid of men. Women are afraid of men. Men are afraid of men. And that's why society is structured in the way that it is. Men want women to be a soft place to land and soft and predictable and nurturing etc because they think it's hard enough dealing with other men without women also being hard to deal with. I've gotten that message loud and clear since reading PPD.

I'm still blue, if I have to be a pill at all. Not proudly blue. That's a silly concept. I'm just blue because I'm totally not red and i don't think I'm purple.

HellenicLady · 2019-12-23T23:13:20+00:00

Yes, I used to be a self-hating woman that thought that women should sacrifice their well-being to appease men/society. Now I realized that women gain nothing by trying to appease men as most men have absolutely nothing to offer to women, except maybe a headache and self-esteem issues. This sub, along with my personal experiences, helped me realize that men don't deserve anything and their entitlement is disgusting.

wekacuck · 2019-12-23T21:39:38+00:00

Well you shouldn't really view it as some sort of evangelical thing trying to change other people's minds or keep score. I would focus more on your own beliefs.

There are plenty of things I would say that perhaps it would be most accurate to say that I hadn't made my mind up about before coming here, but that I have now "picked a side" as it were. Well, I don't really view it as "picking a side" so much as having made up my mind on certain issues to the point that the common arguments are resolved for me. But sometimes a new angle to things comes along and I reevaluate.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-12-24T00:08:42+00:00

I'm still red but I understand where women are coming from on certain things and agree with them. So on certain topics? Yes.

goatismycopilot · 2019-12-24T02:22:57+00:00

No, it has helped polish off my men are men assumption, it doesn't matter whether it is the mostly condescending ones I deal with at work or the local rednecks at Tractor Supply loving on my dog who is super extro, if anything it makes me appreciate working class men a touch more. On balance they have always been nicer to me. Confirming they all pretty much think the same way is helpful though.

sadomasochrist · 2019-12-23T21:23:15+00:00

Engaging with the users and women here was a seminal point for me to understand that TRP was only one fork of a woman's double edged dating strategy.

I know it's easy to say "well duh, AF\BB" but you have to understand, it's easy to misrepresent BB as simply the lower of the two choices.

Truth of the matter, from a male perspective, it is. And she'll treat him accordingly, given enough reason to and or time, hamstering, running into the wrong guy at the wrong time etc. But regardless, women absolutely select long term mates differently.

And so when I pulled up studies on mate selection and saw what amounted to a formalized explanation of this, it sort of clicked. What women at PPD omit, is these men are innately less attractive and that they're, most women, are settling.

This becomes mathematically certain as you understand how women select and the pool of said men, anyways. But you see that women select against arousing traits for control over men in their LTRs.

But either way, these women were shouting from the rooftops they don't want RP men for their husbands, and on that point, they're right.

It also helped me understand how people post hoc rationalize things that are easy to observe from the outside. I always thought it was ridiculous that Rollo theorized that women basically conspire against men.

It's far easier to understand it simply that women have the best intentions getting into these relationships and marriages, simply that they don't have the hardware and wide arousal windows to support the moral claims that men have in these relationships.

If we gave men female arousal characteristics and both genders had the same sex drive, men and women would likely behave exactly the same.

These two realizations solved, for me, any incongruence in this forum.

So anything that seems weird, ask yourself if women have this opinion in good faith and they just can't follow through, or if it has to do in regards to the differences in how wide the arousal window is.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-12-23T21:58:16+00:00

I mean, I've changed a ton since I found this place, but idk how much of it was due to this sub. I'm way less uptight and way more of a peace loving hippie than when I first found PPD.

I'm just here to be a dick to people though, lol. I don't consider the debate here to be particularly interesting anymore. My ilk has more or less dispersed and disappeared over the years, so I am now the token anti-TRP man on this sub.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-12-23T22:45:34+00:00

It’s given me a more negative view on men, so it has that going for it, which is nice I guess.

Wallstreet3 · 2019-12-23T22:29:43+00:00

I turned from purple to the color of coagulating blood.

WIA20XX · 2019-12-23T22:37:03+00:00

This and FDS has made me a much better player.

I have always been skeptical of the Roissy/Roosh take on the PUA concept of The Red Pill (itself stolen from The Matrix - who have taken the idea from philosophers)

What is interesting is how much "hypergamy" can be mitigated by by being conscientious.

On the other side, it's clear that dating 18-25 year olds is basically a pass to be utterly selfish, because lots of girls in the prime of their lives are drowning in a sea of dicks, so if you manage to snag one, she's lucky to have you.

The man in her life is the equivalent of a new Kia Rio, and the best she can aim for is a used Honda. That should light a fire under dudes to realize they don't need to do as much as they're doing but instead pay attention to real needs.

This fate of woman after all that time spent to become attractive, all those years for something far less than a prince.

Megan Markle is on top of the world now with her husband still having hair, but his older brother shows her future man, while she'll probably still look like a goddess. The cruelty and pointlessness of a woman's pursuit.

Understanding how these chicks can't ever seem to get a legit W has made me much more open to their ideas.

2019-12-24T00:32:04+00:00

It just made me far more idealistic, to my detriment IMO. That said, my flair was red and it's now purple, so I do consider myself as someone open to having my mind changed. I'm the type of person that will take a contrarian position as a shit test with my friends, because it helps me to understand their argument more, even if I later agree that they're right.

But if you were presented with a premise with strong evidence and a equally strong logical backing, isn't the rational thing to do is accept this premise and believe it?

I'm open but I basically don't trust anyone's "evidence" here. My main take-away from PPD might be how sub-par the average person's critical thinking skills are; for as much shit as TRP gives liberal arts majors, the "studies" that are shared and the wild conclusions made from said studies (mostly by men) are a direct reflection of a flawed education system, and frankly the reason as to why someone like Trump is president.

When I have seriously looked into common PPD issues (hypergamy, causes of divorce, whether women are monogamous, the okcupid study), I found that the studies were either entirely misinterpreted or that there is enough conflicting data to show that there is just too much variability between people to make any sweeping conclusions.

I originally came here hoping to understand why I kept ending up in what seemed to be the same relationship repeatedly and how I could have more control over that. I quickly learned this wasn't the place to answer that but have stayed probably for the mental masturbation more than anything. Everyone here seems to be so certain of their beliefs in a way that I seem to be inherently incapable of, so it's entertaining.

DubsPackage · 2019-12-24T03:09:15+00:00

Not really, I mean I knew most of this stuff going in.

If anything, this board is a massive confirmation of everything the red pill teaches, and I don't mean that in an evangelical way.

For me the red pill was always first and foremost a discussion among men, not a static set of rules.

There are also ALOT of broken people out there.

Broken men and women talking past each other in bad faith.

Humans when you boil them down are not that complex.

They mostly want comfort and good feels, and they don't care what it takes to get it.

That being said, I think our purpose as men has to be bigger than that.

Women can afford to be petty and insular, men do not have that luxury, we have to think about "everybody" not just ourselves.

The "pro male" thing doesn't work as an actual strategy, it just results in a stalemate, "us vs them" and the only way to break that deadlock is violence, and guess who does most of the killing and dying : us.

The successful male paradigm is inclusive, abundant and has a higher purpose than self-masturbation.

king_of_red_alphas · 2019-12-24T03:09:40+00:00

This sub definitely helped me detox from Red. All RP subs have become unbearable echo chambers to me now.

It also put rest to much of the simplistic RP assessment of female attraction (all girls love an alpha bro!!!) when in reality women have a balanced combination of predictable, universal traits and particular, idiosyncratic traits driving their tingles.

This made it easier for me to think in Blue-ish terms as in “there’s somebody (or some people) out there for me”

Now, more recently, with the influx of FDS, it’s really driven home just how similar people are when they adhere to absolutist dogma (FDS/TRP)

These types are equally useless in terms of constructive dialogue as it is incredibly apparent that they are arguing from an entrenched, preconceived position and they simply want to stroke their hate boners.

mizzandrist · 2019-12-24T20:00:38+00:00

I went from feminist, thinking men were mostly good but there was just disparity in and old and outdated socio/political structure that needed updating, and that men were merely ignorant of what women experience as a psuedo equal class to full on hating men and realizing men actively participate in the manipulation of and maintenance of these power dynamics and most of them are inherently predatory.

I'm an actual misandrist and think feminism is misled in its trust of men at all.
I must clarify this shift has nothing to do with feminist rhetoric, and is 100% based on what I've observed through TRP, MGTOW, and Meninism.

This clarification is due to the tendencies of men on these boards to second guess womens understanding of themselves, and assume that feminism is the 'demon' that led me here, but no, it was you.

dmoneycrowgod · 2019-12-23T22:36:54+00:00

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M4sterDis4ster · 2019-12-23T22:04:16+00:00

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noNooodleArms · 2019-12-23T21:42:47+00:00

I used to be primarily pro-male and "redpilled" but have since turned equally pro-woman by all of the childish "men" here who are clueless about female imperatives or just don't care to empathize with them. It's clear as day that the vast majority of guys here simply lack social experience, probably because they are adolescents. And I say this as a guy who subscribes to many "red pills."

the_calibre_cat · 2019-12-23T22:25:04+00:00

Probably brought me back from the edge of red pill cringe bullshit, but I still think some of the sacred cows of contemporary blue pill thinking is fucking stupid.

PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP · 2019-12-23T23:16:34+00:00

No but even the RPers here have better discussion than the main sub and this place is a hell of a lot better than asktrp. That's where all the "he's off but you can't really pinpoint it" types hang.

King_Loser27 · 2019-12-23T22:51:47+00:00

Tbh, it's made me dislike relationships and the mindset of millennial women. I'd say I'm more redpilled now.

I came across the blackpill late 2018, had that mindset for a while, then found PPD. When I browsed blackpill subs (because they were readily available), I found myself agreeing with them due to what I've experienced in the past. PPD is more healthy, but man the women here are the most solipsistic, entitled, and unaware people I've come across on Reddit. The blackpill made me dislike some women because of memes and stories for how they treated people like me in the past. But now that I've actually engaged with them and seen how they actually think, I'm pretty red pilled. I agree with them on some points (improve, don't be a sperg), but I'm convinced I will never find a woman who doesn't think she's hot shit.

I go to the gym, eat healthy, and try to better myself (things I didn't do due to the blackpill. Thanks PPD), but I still have an overall negative view towards dating and relationships. It's just too one sided, fake, and transactional for me.

GrievenLeague · 2019-12-23T23:06:45+00:00

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Iron-Giant169 · 2019-12-23T23:17:59+00:00

I went from purple pill to pitch black.

boomcheese44 · 2019-12-23T21:52:19+00:00

Its been insightful more than anything. Things I've learned here helped me put the pieces together in my own life (Why are there not enough hot guys? Why is that perfectly good/average looking guy not arousing? Why has there always been a history of men sex-shaming women?)

I've also learned a great deal about the experiences of the average man. I didn't realize how painful it can be for them when they just want love like anybody else.

I consider myself purplish-black at this point.

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CHAD_TDK · 2019-12-23T21:41:29+00:00

Not really. But it does give some insight into the general thinking of the majority of Reddit, of the majority of women on Reddit, and of the majority of men on Reddit, and I think those are good proxies for the thinking out there IRL.

And yes, while it has not technically changed my mind, it has given me insights.

saronyogg · 2019-12-23T22:01:15+00:00

No.

Just confirmed or slightly adjusted some opinions i have.

Christian_Kong · 2019-12-23T22:02:10+00:00

Hasen't really changed my mind much but gives me perspective as to how differently people in different places and cultures can be from my small part of the world.

NPC55 · 2019-12-23T23:24:15+00:00

I think it actually helped me a bit regarding dating/talking to women in general. I like the women who post here and appreciate their honesty. I enjoy learning about how they think about this stuff. I think a lot of the men/women who post here appear a little bitter sometimes, but I still find insightful conversation here and there.

On the negative side, it changed my mind a little regarding people’s ability to empathize with the opposite sex. It kind of makes me think a lot of women aren’t as emotionally intelligent in some areas as I thought (I knew most men weren’t). Although I would rather know this as opposed to believing a stereotype that may not be true.

Twiteena · 2019-12-24T06:16:24+00:00

Not in a major way, no. I like men and most of them are fantastic but now I understand the uh, "anger phase" better. It explains this guy I used to know.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-12-24T06:50:58+00:00

Not really. Still reddish.

atlantisasalover · 2019-12-24T07:08:01+00:00

Ever since joining this sub a year ago, I've been purple, red, then back to purple quite a few times. I'm more sympathetic to men as a gender thanks to this sub, but also all of my stupid romantic delusions have been crushed. Don't know if I'm rp or purple, does being rp mean I have to like it?

geyejoe7 · 2019-12-24T08:03:21+00:00

Yea it has only pointed out that some men (RP) are actual human garbage. Referring to women as plates, refusing to continue pursuing a woman that won't have sex with them on the 3rd date, etc.

I didn't know about these people before, sure glad I learned about them though. So I can steer clear.

I'm not delusional about relationships, so the constant "blue pilled cuck" comments are fun. Simply having a gf and being happy is instantly bashed by TRP men, and I'm constantly being warned about the "cruel awakening" coming in the future.

I doubt it.

Women irl aren't that bad. Or polarised. Also "AWALT" is a phrase used by people who read too much reddit content, instead of working on irl relationships.

I haven't met much blue pilled people, so I can't say.

Purple pill (ironically) idk what stands for. If someone can tell me the exact meaning, I'd be thankful.

This sub is getting me more and more out of my former black pilled mind though.

The impossibility of a relationship isn't as realistic of an idea to me as it previously was, thanks to this sub.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-12-23T21:16:29+00:00

O look iteration number 357000 of this thread

Yes

Fusiontron · 2019-12-24T00:06:01+00:00

Yes and no. In any case, I'm definitely now convinced women will lie all the time about what they find attractive. Even the circle I date among (i.e. urban Millennial tradcons) are looking for a lot of the stereotypical masculine features, just a different manifestation of it. On the other hand, my theory of "woman want a guy who is capable of being bad but chooses to be over good over a good-natured guy" is defintely confirmed.

Bright_Itempas · 2019-12-23T22:22:32+00:00

I won't say my mind about anything has changed, but I've learned a good deal.

Namely, I have more in common than the older tradcon types than I do the young men, and that's 100% because I feel the young ones act like spoiled, whiny children.

I've learned that my disgust at ETD types is visceral. I find these men pathetic, weak-willed, low value trash - lower, even, than your run of the mill RP misogynist.

I have some thoughts about what has made these (mostly young) people so weak, and these thoughts have further developed some of my politics and beliefs about childrearing.

Mr_Smoogs · 2019-12-23T21:19:12+00:00

noNooodleArms · 2019-12-23T22:13:59+00:00

It has mellowed me out some. Also, it made me question how many dudes could be "red pilled" if they tried.

CultistHeadpiece · 2019-12-23T22:42:32+00:00

what's the definition of a purple pill?

hammerhaunts · 2019-12-23T23:06:37+00:00

Yes, but not yours

jayval90 · 2019-12-23T23:37:10+00:00

It has expanded my exposure to other points of view. I haven't moved much in my belief system, though I certainly can defend and articulate it much better now. And I have become more empathetic to people with opposing views.

I've become more opinionated, but simultaneously more moderated.

For the record, my views are highly traditionalist (as in Orthodox Religious traditional, not whatever the 1950s were).

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2019-12-23T23:44:44+00:00

People tend to change their mind privately. What this sub does is allow people access to opposing points of view.

LifterofThings · 2019-12-24T00:25:43+00:00

Not this sub generally, but compelling arguments made by specific people have changed my mind about a lot of stuff.

_nephila · 2019-12-24T01:29:09+00:00

Lurking and then participating here hasn't really changed the convictions I developed through my own daily interactions, but it's useful for gaining perspective. Whether or not my personal beliefs have changed, I acknowledge that I've become softer and more considerate towards strange men and women alike.

resolutions316 · 2019-12-24T01:32:56+00:00

I’m far more purple than I started.

I would also say the dialogue has drifted towards purple overall.

SunflowerBurst · 2019-12-24T02:15:04+00:00

I went from purple to no pill after I realized some people are using pills as basically their religion or at least as their highest truth, whereas for me my faith and other values have always trumped anything pill related.

wazzoz99 · 2019-12-24T03:06:00+00:00

I moved from red to very dark purple.

spaceman_spliff777 · 2019-12-24T03:36:39+00:00

Change is like waves crashing on the rocks: slow and nearly imperceptible.

I’ve gone from blue pill “everyone’s oppressed” to fairly red, for a lot of reasons, but it took a long time.

It’s hard realizing you’ve been lied to for most of your life by people seeking to profit off your ignorance.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2019-12-24T04:48:37+00:00

It will transform more dudes to red than TRP ever hoped to reach.....

The lack of self-awareness is sad.....particularly since most of the kiddies pride themselves on their prestigious "college edumacation"...…..

raptor7061 · 2019-12-24T05:17:07+00:00

Nothing was more blackpilling than hearing the stories of women who have experienced life at different attractiveness levels. You get treated like SHIT if you're an ugly women and like a literal goddess if you're attractive. Yes, this is common sense but the extant that it goes to is insane.

This sub has definitely facilitated the transition from blue, to purple, to black as the abyss.

darksoldierk · 2019-12-24T06:38:32+00:00

It's opened my mind, I wouldn't say changed my mind. There are a couple users here that make fair arguments.

MrHerbSherman · 2019-12-24T08:34:34+00:00

Yes absolutely my beliefs have been super refined since I’ve been here, and some of the people here have recommended reading which has shaped my worldview both in sex dynamics and otherwise

czerdec · 2019-12-24T12:43:46+00:00

I used to think posting here all the time was smart. But now I see that it's just a dead subreddit.

dylang92 · 2019-12-24T16:56:56+00:00

Changed my mind overall? No, but I think I learned that every single pill (black, red, blue, pink) are 100% correct about a few things, but wrong about others. You can’t follow one ideology, only the sperg ones do

bonusfruit · 2019-12-24T17:03:26+00:00

I went from red to black

hekcellfarmer · 2019-12-25T22:56:44+00:00

Yes, I now lean red a bit. I feel like red pill likely works better for casual dating and such but tbh reading various pill forums and FDS has sort of made me lose faith in OLD In general besides for hookups. I feel like only organic relationships formed in classes/friend groups etc end up working out long term which idk what pill that is.

2019-12-27T08:45:52+00:00

I've been in feminist-critical, and even women-critical circles before so nothing has really changed.

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