So recently I got asked to propose, which made me seriously think about the pros and cons of the marriage so I started with marriage vows.
"I, _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live."
Which honestly does sound great, two people vowing to be faithful, in good and bad times, in sickness and health till death splits them apart... except this part is completely non binding. Your partner can brake every single one of these vows and you cannot get any sort of compensation for them braking their vows. Also if your partner does brake these vows you still have to go through a lengthy and costly procedure to divorce them.
I used to believe that marriage exists because of the children, however if I make a kid outside of the marriage, mother can easily make me pay child support. And I can request shared custody.
In divorce I can be forced to pay child support for children of which I am not a biological father.
There is alimony. In divorce higher earning partner can be forced to pay alimony money for years to lower earning partner. Any wealth which was created during the marriage is going to be split equally.
As a higher earner which is equipped with a penis, and thereby I do not have a full control of who the father is there is no PRO's in marriage for me.
I should get proposed to... not ask to propose for a one sided contract which is not in any way in my favors.
Furthermore I can only see a benefit of such an arrangement only if one partner is sacrificing his/her career for the family. Otherwise there is some serious space for abuse here... because one partner can be supported during the marriage, and then on top of that get compensated simply because he/she earned less or nothing at all during the marriage.
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