Men are hornier, more easily excitable than women and are more into the very concept of "women" then women are into "men".

Then what? How to be a being that falls on the side of having excess, unwanted desire?

Imo there are two ways. One is letting go of desire ala buddhist monk. I think that's valid and actually doable. "The root of all suffering is desire."

The other is be at peace with yourself anyway. And that means unconditional love.

If you want women more, in a way that women don't want men, if you see a simple beauty in them that is a burden for them, the way for you to hold onto this IS unconditional love. You are holding onto your love for women without expecting anything in return. That's the ONLY way a man can truly responsibly be with women. You have to have that foundation deep down.

It's not so much about changing how you see women, I think only psychopaths truly don't see others as human. Humans can be incredibly hot, or be seen as such, it happens. It's about treating your OWN excess, unwanted desire with understanding and love. You have a way of seeing the world around you that causes issues and makes women easily unconfortable, it's your excess part you can never EVER ask for validation from women or expect them to do anything about it. And yet, if you love that part of yourself and always have room for it in your heart, then you are always leaving room for loving women. It has to be unconditional.

And it's not about treating women in any way either. Not about simping for them or whatever, not AT ALL. It's simply being in peace with the part that you have to cut out and put away. Because you DO have to do that for women's sake, every man has to.

If you don't expect anything, that's when your love is truly unconditional, and if you truly don't expect anything, you won't be spineless cause your desire won't need a thing from anyone else. You will be just you, as you are. And part of you is that excess desire that is "too much", and therefore cannot be anything else but unconditional.