Why do you like when women send you nudes?

Barely-moral · 2020-11-17T14:56:36+00:00

Validation + its hot. Nothing more complex than that.

Vulcan1347 · 2020-11-17T15:33:15+00:00

I think men are more visually stimulated than women, and that's part of it. Some on here have said that if you send nudes, guys aren't jacking off to them, but just like to have them like trophies.

That's not true for me at all. If I get nudes from someone, I'm jerking off to them because I want to think about that person. And I'm saving them because I want the memory of that person. But I also like the validation that someone is thinking of me enough to send it to begin with.

I think women can enjoy receiving them sometimes from someone they're really into already, because it shows the guy is thinking of them and desiring them at that moment. But women don't like receiving them unsolicited from someone they aren't already attracted to.

A lot of men don't understand this, hence the proliferation of unsolicited dick picks on dating sites. It's not the visual that initially stimulates or arouses women, it's the idea that someone who you're already into is turned on thinking about you that arouses them.

ComplexProjection · 2020-11-17T18:28:19+00:00

I like to know I'm on the mailing list.

brojuststfu · 2020-11-17T14:55:57+00:00

It can be nice to know she wants you jerking off to her 🤷‍♂️

screamingIn2_theVoid · 2020-11-17T17:17:47+00:00

I don't. I like seeing them naked in person.

acari_ · 2020-11-17T15:52:04+00:00

It is mostly for validation and feeling special. I mean i can find naked women anywhere on the internet but it is special because it is a bond between me and the woman.

Hoopy223 · 2020-11-17T15:13:59+00:00

Because Men like naked Women.

Women get off on different stuff like fantasizing about how wonderful the guy is.

NinjaOfTheSouth · 2020-11-17T14:55:36+00:00

I thought people like nudes in general? I love when girls send me a ass shot or some titties. It’s nice

ThenIJizzedInMyPants · 2020-11-17T17:25:09+00:00

validation of course - shows she's more invested in me than other guys that are DMing her

also men are strongly visual - we can literally jerk off to one pic and it's different when it's someone you're talking to vs. a random porn star

wtknight · 2020-11-17T14:59:36+00:00

Because guys imagine having sex with that women when they see her nude and that turns them on. They imagine it when they don’t see her nude too, but not having to use as much imagination is always better.

Mayhem977 · 2020-11-18T08:34:21+00:00

If she was my girlfriend, yeah. If she was someone who I met on Tinder, no. It’s like being sent a dick pic you didn’t ask for.

ijustwannabeagoat · 2020-11-17T14:54:13+00:00

I’ve never gotten one, but taking the time to take a special photograph for someone is just an extra way to express affection and let them know you’re thinking about them. And is just fun.

Most importantly for me sending it shows real trust which can also be seen as a relationship milestone.

ciaotroia22 · 2020-11-17T18:53:52+00:00

As a woman I like when my man sends me videos. Pics don’t do it but videos? chefs kiss I like sending him nudes though because he likes them and it boosts my ego lmao

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DesertWolf45 · 2020-11-17T19:38:23+00:00

My ex and I loved sending each other nudes, but everyone's different.

Men and women aren't really different in terms of nude pic preferences. The issue is that men tend to send close-up dick pics, which women don't really like. Similarly, I want the full picture; close-up pussy pics weren't my favorites.

Notsonewguy7 · 2020-11-17T20:06:27+00:00

I personally don't actually. The female body just naked is like the male body just naked to me it doesn't do anything unless the body is actually doing something I'm just looking at a person. But that's my own thing I also spent most of my teenage years drawing people in the nude and painting people in the nude in art courses so I'm kind of desensitized to the human body being erotic outside of it doing something.

SecondHandMatron · 2020-11-18T07:53:50+00:00

It has only happened once or twice, and with near strangers.

It felt as I was being invited to start flirting or simping, but I didn't quite "feel it". It suddenly felt as I talking to a broken person, because to me it is not an appropriate way to flirt.

fanta_panda · 2020-11-18T10:52:44+00:00

From a random or someone I'm not attracted to, it's weird.

From someone I'm interested in or Ryan Reynolds, I'm down.

If it's about constantly seeking my validation, then it's back to weird.

wetwild1 · 2020-11-18T14:53:45+00:00

I have a question that goes along with this. Why do men who have a woman laying next to them (that is not perfect but not hard on the eyes) still need to do this even when the women sending pics don't even hold a candle to her?

2020-11-17T15:53:21+00:00

Nudes mean she’s usually DTF

Bandit174 · 2020-11-17T18:18:24+00:00

Validation in that most women probably send nudes but are likely pretty selective about who they send them to so it feels better to be a guy who they want to send nudes to vs one they don't send them to.

ConiferousCalix · 2020-11-17T14:42:13+00:00

I don't like getting them, for guys that do it's because it's like winning game or they just want to look at it.

wekacuck · 2020-11-17T14:58:54+00:00

I have never gotten one except for obvious sexworkers drumming for business or pathetic scams, but for me at least sex revolves around the theme of "frustrated that women say no" so if it happened genuinely it would be extremely hot.

DrBoby · 2020-11-17T16:14:07+00:00

The value of it being hot is really low since there are tons of naked women on the internet, and it would have no effect if you sent another woman's picture, so it's not that.

The answer for me is validation.

I think a nude is as appreciated than a poem telling me that you want to have sex with me for exemple. In fact I'd prefer the poem.

alrightpal · 2020-11-17T16:42:14+00:00

I only ask for nudes if the girl is my gf and that’s cuz I wanna cum to her lol bout as simple as that.

2020-11-17T17:02:58+00:00

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xFallacyx69 · 2020-11-17T17:07:45+00:00

They don’t do much for me either. Plus if she sends to me her exes probably have saved photos of her and that’s weird to me. I’d rather just see her in person

itsnothingreally1 · 2020-11-17T17:56:24+00:00

Scarcity.

weightlosscommunity · 2020-11-17T18:15:50+00:00

We are visually stimulated unlike most women

fourenclosedwalls · 2020-11-17T18:27:19+00:00

i like when dudes send me pictures of their dick because i feel like i’ve asserted my dominance over them and made them debase themselves

SuspiciousAd5402 · 2020-11-17T18:27:57+00:00

For me I think it's about the rarity of it. Not a lot of ladies send nudes to me so I'd adore those send them. But if tons of ladies send them to me then probably won't care.

Matt_Door · 2020-11-17T18:51:34+00:00

Do you mean beyond the appreciation and love of the female form, especially a beautiful one? Likely the intimacy and taboo of it, it’s something forbidden “just for you”, and shows she’s into you.

Big_Balla69 · 2020-11-17T18:58:11+00:00

I don’t

Zakaroo_ · 2020-11-17T19:19:48+00:00

men are visual we see ass or pussy we like

Raquel22222 · 2020-11-17T19:21:53+00:00

I feel like it’s a power trip. Sometimes

LLL3peat · 2020-11-17T19:26:48+00:00

i appreciate when she sends them, but it doesn't matter to me either way. unless I can touch them and interact with them physically it doesn't do much honestly

MGTOWManofMystery · 2020-11-17T19:30:48+00:00

Men evolved to respond to visual stimuli.

BROWN-TOILET-PAPER · 2020-11-17T19:51:28+00:00

Never asked a woman to send me nudes. I wouldn't even dare to ask.

NMFlamez · 2020-11-17T19:52:46+00:00

Because tities. That's my legit answer Also titties that I will/could get to is a bonus. I've never asked for nudes though. I have received them twice in my life lol

PlanetSquare · 2020-11-17T19:56:25+00:00

I like receiving nudes. It's like enjoying any kind of erotica except this is a different kind of sexy because you actually knew the person and they are being explicit specifically for you, not the whole world. Sure I could look at nudes posted by random exhibitionists' on reddit and what not, and I do often enjoy admiring their beauty and sexuality, but there is an extra level of excitement when a woman sends me lewd pictures of videos of her. It's more intimate.

I think part of the reason I like it is because it shows she trusts me, which feels amazing all on its own. It shows she wants to tease me, she want's my sexual attention, she wants my lust. It's also a fun way to flirt I think.

Though, back when I was teenager and still thought that maybe I was bisexual instead of a lesbian, whenever guys sent me nudes I was disgusted and offended. I never understood the appeal, dicks are kinda weird looking, guys chest and abs just do nothing for me, and they often have hair in weird places like nipple hair. I just feel absolutely not a smidge of arousal. I couldn't understand why anyone would want to receive a picture like that, but I understood after I started receiving them from women. It doesn't even matter what part of the women's body because it's all attractive: neck, hand, legs, feet, chest, back, bum, naughty bits, anything. Even receiving pictures from random unattractive women I have no interest in can have some appeal.

Seems like straight girls also don't really like nudes from men though, even if they are interested in them, which also seems a bit strange If you're actually attracted to them wouldn't you enjoy seeing their body? It makes me think back to the comphet (compulsive heterosexuality) where women only think they are attracted to men because of societal pressures.

Copperstoner · 2020-11-17T19:59:29+00:00

It’s hot + if I know her and she does it extra for me, maybe in hot lingerie I’m feeling extra validated (?)

Dunno it just feels good

2020-11-17T20:25:23+00:00

I don't. I either don't care or find it disgusting or stupid. It depends on the situation.

restoration_ · 2020-11-18T04:41:02+00:00

I like the trust aspect

anonymouscausefuckU · 2020-11-18T09:28:24+00:00

A lot of it has to do with validation. It’s true that in terms of pure visual stimulation you can get more from porn, but it’s so much better when there’s at least some human-to-human interaction involved; men are social creatures as well. Just hornier ones I guess, or at least more visually stimulated ones.

Kellermann · 2020-11-18T11:26:30+00:00

We can place her accurately on the 1-10 scale and subsequently on the H/C chart. You need to know where you stand!

Throughawayman80808 · 2020-11-18T16:21:04+00:00

Because I want to see the vagina of a woman I'm romantically interested in???

BillyBerigman · 2020-11-18T23:18:32+00:00

SImple.

Healthy men want to look - so it goes without saying a healthy woman should want to be looked at.

And if shes sending you picks she wants you to look at her, and if you like her and she you you probably got a good thing going.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-11-19T02:04:31+00:00

I mean, beyond a woman wanting something sexual with you? Nothing.

If I wanted to ser boobs and asses I would go to porn. A nude from a particular woman means she trust you and is looking for something with you, that's the real rush, not the pick itself.

Sid_Insidious · 2020-11-19T03:01:10+00:00

Because men are idiots.

They simp for women online.They send pics of their genitals to strangers.

They think they're better/different than "all those other guys".

And they think they're one step closer to going from her Dumb Phone to her panties.

Really, it's fucking pathetic.

classicliberal1 · 2020-11-19T03:32:02+00:00

So I’m wondering what the appeal of nude pics are for you.

Young men are young, dumb, and full of cum. Hormones drive them to be obsessed with sex, so seeing that woman you know naked for the first time is a great thrill.

However, as men age and hormones go down, this becomes far less impressive. Sex is no longer an obsession, but rather a treat. The big head overpowers the little head when a man turns 30. At that point, a lot of behavior of young men, even from his younger self, seems ridiculous to the older man. I try to remember how much harder the mating game is to young men when I judge their actions. It's a lot easier for an older man to not give a shit about a sexual encounter or sexual competition.

That all said, I never thought it was a good idea to share nude pics. There's always a chance for them to be leaked or stolen, and they aren't as thrilling as the real thing anyway. Not everything in life has to be recorded.

WilliamWyattD · 2020-11-19T11:12:08+00:00

I do not want nudes. Sure, I'm at least somewhat turned on by any nude image of an attractive woman. But let's face it, in today's age, there are many ways to get those pics. Furthermore, in truth, the pics from a potential female partner will be lower quality than the best pics you could get online, and she will probably not be as objectively photogenic or attractive as a model. Finally, her sharing nudes online just shows a lack of common sense and concern for her own image and safety that is a bit distressing.

I also have no interest ever in videoing sex with someone. I'd rather just have sex again than watch video of me having sex with someone in the past. None of this ever made sense to me.

The thrill of nudity is in the in-person experience with someone. That way, you do your best to enjoy the experience and the sight of someone on its own terms without comparison to anyone or anything else. Honestly, most video and photography are inherently unflattering compared to being there in person. This is why, for example, TV and movies only cast good looking people. People of average looks are off-putting when put on the screen; but in real life, they are not. They may even seem attractive.

We got enough video and photos of everything nowadays. Live your life in 3D and forget about recording every part of it.

Sid_Insidious · 2020-11-20T04:03:27+00:00

Send me some nudes and I'll tell you if I liked it.

Workaholiconew · 2020-11-20T23:25:40+00:00

Men are visual.

We like seeing nice bodies.

Also, it is nice to see someone is willing to make you happy, so rare it is these days.

2020-11-23T07:04:43+00:00

No. They do nothing for me and if she sends them to me, she's probably sent the exact same pics to some other dude.

Holler4Heller · 2020-11-26T21:27:16+00:00

Only if I’m romantically interested in the women does it matter. As spank bank material it’s very subpar.

TheExist3r · 2020-12-02T10:55:49+00:00

could i comment?

colttaine · 2020-11-17T14:49:17+00:00

Women are just candy. That's basically it.... Not healthy, but it tastes good i guess....

FirsToStrike · 2020-11-17T15:06:53+00:00

Shows trust and shows they desire me. It's no different than taking your clothes off for me before hopping into bed with me. Why wouldn't that appealing?

Also to answer what you might be wondering considering onlyfans- it ain't the same when a girl sells her body, because it means absolutely nothing about me, if she gives me nudes cuz I paid her then it isn't because she desires me or trusts me in particular. Men want to be desired exclusively, even if they themselves don't want to be exclusive. This is why porn is very different from getting nudes sent to you by a girl you like.

MasterTeacher123 · 2020-11-17T15:22:29+00:00

Men like nudes because it means

1.)I’m smashing

2.)I’m about to smash

It’s about what it represents, that’s why just buying or googling naked pics ain’t the same

Eastuss · 2020-11-17T15:50:55+00:00

Why do you like eating chocolate? Same thing.

Looking at naked women feels good. You're also curious about the people you know. I'd want to see my male friends naked too for curiosity, but that'd not produce pleasure.

If she shares it willingly it's also a babystep into being sexual with her as well.

learnedsuccess · 2020-11-17T15:58:30+00:00

Nudes don't appeal to me

fresh_af_laundry · 2020-11-17T19:45:53+00:00

Woman here. Can confirm, not a huge fan of nudes either

iamthemovie1992 · 2020-11-17T14:58:55+00:00

It’s mostly a trophy, because very few men are able to get nudes and it says “look at me I got this girl to send me nudes”. It also means, especially with OnlyFans, she thinks you’re hot enough to get them.

The men getting the nudes aren’t jacking off to them, which is what women don’t sort of get which is why they’re like “but you like nudes, why not pay for them?”. I used to know a guy who used to have girls send him nudes, but it wasn’t cause he was horny, he did for the simple fact he could

SonicBackScratcher · 2020-11-17T15:01:58+00:00

Old but 100% true

My wife has posted online, I can google her and see her boobs anytime I want, I've seen them just about every day for 30 years, I still like getting a new photo of them.

Its I suppose a form of validation when its someone you are just getting to know too, its the "I'm definitely interested" signal you can't miss.

medokay059 · 2020-11-17T15:48:48+00:00

i like the blood rush to some of my body parts .

Godot96 · 2020-11-17T16:13:57+00:00

From a lady perspective, nudes don’t do much for me.

When you get bombared with them I can understand. But scarcity for men makes them more valuable to them.

Especially if it's eye candy on top of that

2020-11-17T14:54:15+00:00

I don't care for nudes, I dated someone for almost a year and she never sent me a nude or booty pic and I never asked.

Now, would I like them and appreciate them hell ya. Send me a booty pic when u wake up show me u like me sexually.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-11-17T15:04:46+00:00

I guess it depends on who it is. Curiosity for strangers, maybe, and hot phone sexy times for partners or someone with chemistry that you’ve been talking to for a bit.

YouSaidChicken · 2020-11-17T14:41:09+00:00

Don't care personally, but a benefit is women can't do their standard lying to alter their body to try and look not as bad as they do.

With a nude, you can't do body shaping garments and changing how your body looks.

It also shows a woman is probably up for sex and not just wasting your time, although nothing technically prevents that, and she could just be doing it to bait for cash and prizes.

Title	Why do you like when women send you nudes?
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