This entire subreddit seems to be about seducing women, what about seducing men?

indiantakeoutmenu · 2021-02-08T06:25:11+00:00

Physical affection, it's so important, I'm not sure how true this is for other people but I have been touch and effectively affection deprived since I was a small boy. Women please, hug men, kiss them, have vulnerable moments, don't try to force it. Forehead kisses, playing with hair, cuddling, hugs, holding hands, stuff that makes him feel like you want him, open up, talk about your day and listen to him when he talks about his, give or take advice, do things that will help you bond, establish trust. This is probably the most generic advice you could find but it really works wonders in my opinion. Personally when I feel like I'm wanted it's is probably one of the best feelings ever. If you'd like an example, I was once spending time with my gf when I decided to put my head on her shoulder and when she stroked my hair and played with it, I was tearing up though I didn't cry until later because of just how loved I felt in the moment and the atmosphere was just perfect too. Hope this helps :D

little_asian_man_89 · 2021-02-08T07:28:06+00:00

A woman told me to enjoy my day, and I've been in love with her ever since I left subway the other day

banana_muffens · 2021-02-08T07:03:09+00:00

Wait, y'all getting seduced??

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-02-08T12:52:37+00:00

just showing interest and being positive... putting the phone down...

deep_in_smoke · 2021-02-08T07:24:28+00:00

Seriously, most men would probably think a chick isn't into them even if she asks them out on a date in the most classic format while dressed to the 9s and all around put way too much effort in. Why? Persecution culture.

The one thing I've found a female can do that will get any guys attention is just this. Hug them, let it drag out for a bit, when pulling back, don't let go, instead look them in the eye and smile. What you do from there is up to you. I've had several ex's do this to me with 100% capture rate. Some went in for the kiss, another looked away while blushing (still holding on) and another straight up asked me if I wanted to go back to hers and fuck. Either way, it works.

On the other hand it took me about 5 dates on average until I realized that a girl was into me because the idea of "she's just being nice" is hammered into my head, for good reason too. No one likes a creepy guy that get's attached over lunch.

EDIT: Do the hug thing when in a relationship too. Reaffirming your position is a great way to make the guy you love incredibly happy.

kylomorales · 2021-02-08T08:50:38+00:00

If a girl is affectionate toward me and touches my arm I'll pretty much marry her. In all seriousness though a lot of the principles are the same in that you should be an interesting and well developed person who can take care of themselves and looking for a man to add to your life rather than "complete" you

ladymicheee · 2021-02-08T12:44:13+00:00

I feel like the advice is the same for men and women.

I can't really 'seduce' a guy who doesn't think i'm pretty. I've tried though! I remember trying to seduce a guy I thought was super hot who played in a band, but he was into dark girls with big boobs and i'm white and pretty skinny!

And a guy can't seduce me if I don't think he's cute! (i've had many guys try and fail using all kinds of techniques and things that i've seen mentioned on this sub btw lol).

All a guy has to do to seduce me (and all girls I know) is be our type lol

So I think really it's just about flirting and then seeing if he's into you or not.

Sad_Farm · 2021-02-08T07:22:01+00:00

I would say the reason the sub doesn’t pertain to men is mainly because there really is no technique or game to getting guys. They really either like you or they don’t. Also the average women tend to typically have a lot more options as opposed to the average man. Honestly the best advice I could give is just to keep it as simple as possible. We are very straightforward in that if you tell us how you feel it is either a yes or no. You can play a million games but guys are either interested or theyre not. It is very hard to get a guy who doesn’t already have some attraction for you to like you conversely with women. So my best advice is to just be honest and communicate. Honestly when a women is confident in the right way its really attractive. Sex is as simple as asking them what they like. Just remember Every person is not the same and some guys really do want only one thing! screen very hard before commitment.

ProductivityMonster · 2021-02-08T12:45:23+00:00

Reciprocation - initiate positive conversations, compliments, physical touch, cooking, gifts, dates, sex, etc. Everyone likes to be appreciated and validated, not just women. The worst is giving into a black hole like you know the person will never return the amount of effort you put in, but continues to take advantage of you. Easy next.

As to specifics of the perfect date, it depends on the man. I tend to be more of an activity-based date person. Find something he likes that you both can enjoy. Perfect sex is one where you both initiate and both participate enthusiastically (no starfish). You both should communicate what you like sexually (and otherwise). It's great when she initiates in the morning after a night of fun as well and the cuddling afterward is great. Also, I really like going to breakfast/brunch with her after sex.

Someone also mentioned loyalty/respect. Flirting with other guys (ie keeping your dating profile up)/having single guy "friends"/backup plans (who generally are waiting for your current boyfriend/crush to slip up so they can have sex with you), playing mind-games, doing shit-tests, being indecisive with his love, trying to get multiple guys to fight for your affection is all really annoying and a turnoff for guys with self respect. It shows you don't love him and are more in love with yourself. It's another easy next.

aslimeysnek · 2021-02-08T07:46:19+00:00

Not really talked about much here because men are usually the ones to do most of the work. My advice would be to just be direct in what you want but hint it. We are simple creatures really, most of us are driven by our need to reproduce so it's not too hard to seduce us. Be fun and sexy

verboze · 2021-02-08T14:45:09+00:00

Lots of good answers here already. Here are my two cents: specific ways my gf seduces me include:

eyeing me with sexy eyes and a mischievous smirk
sending sexy pics of herself (nothing raunchy necessarily, simple pics of her smiling, winking, etc with captions like "can't wait to see you tonight")
sending me articles that may not be of interest to her, with captions like "I think you'll appreciate this", and having me discuss it with her. Basically showing she tries to understand me / knows my tastes
resting her head on my shoulder/chest, resting her hand on my belly, or running her nails on my body, kissing my neck/cheeks randomly as we're watching a movie
coming to bed wearing her perfume I like
getting up and making breakfast for us, and watching me eat with those sexy eyes full of satisfaction (I enjoy cooking and often cook for us, and when she does it just melts me)
grabbing my hand / being affectionate in public without care of who's watching (which is weird because I'm not into pda much, but when she initiates I just melt into it. It's actually grown on my over the years)
gifting me something unique, like a hand-made scarf and putting it and adjusting it around my neck, saying things like, "I think this looks good on you. Do you like it?"
complimenting me for basic stuff I wouldn't think deserve praise (like, "you drive well, I always feel safe with you when we're driving places")

... and many more subtle soft things like that. I think those things work on me because, as a man, I'm used being stoic / rough / stern in my day-to-day; she brings out my soft side with such actions, and that creates internal balance got me.

_-__-__-__-__-_-_-__ · 2021-02-08T11:56:41+00:00

Ask men out. It’s not just about asking men out. It’s about being the kind of woman who would ask men out. The kind who doesn’t have those kinds of self-limiting beliefs. Who is woman enough to take rejection. The vast majority of women won’t. And that will give you an edge. You don’t have to actually do it. Just be the kind of woman who would.

GopnikMcblyat03 · 2021-02-08T07:47:45+00:00

Maintain yourself and laugh at our shorty jokes thank you

Maxibon1 · 2021-02-08T12:09:37+00:00

Simply have a conversation with a guy that is the best way to catch them many times I have had a conversation with a woman and it’s so nice to just talk that you go home at the end of the evening or day and you find yourself thinking how nice that conversation was and you’d like to talk to her again and before you know it you’re talking again and then you realise damn I like this girl and it’s over you’ve hooked the guy

DefiantDepth8932 · 2021-02-08T14:13:48+00:00

I think women deserve a different subreddit like this that focusses on their perspective. Not to exclude women or turn them away from here or something, but no matter how inclusive we try to be, women are always gonna find it hard to find any advices relevant to them considering how large the difference between number of men and the number of women participating here is

ZigZag80D · 2021-02-08T18:50:48+00:00

In all seriousness, I like a girl who ignores me. Maybe try not talking to him at first and just look at him. Keep a healthy distance and admire him from afar. Everytime you guys exchange glances look away and smile to yourself in a flirtatious way. He'll think to himself "Does she like me? No, probably not. Would I even be interested? Maybe." That's exactly where you want him. The key is to get him to think about you. Get him to think whether you'd be a potential mate or not. The more he thinks about you the more he'll convince himself he likes you because he'll think to himself, "I think about her alot, maybe I do like her." Then he'll start to build you up in his imagination. He'll make you the perfect girl in his head. Then after a week or two of that you go up to him and introduce yourself. He'll be so nervous because his perfect girl is talking to him.

I remember I read something somewhere that human and chimp mating is similar in that it all starts with eye contact. Quick glances at one another and their reaction afterwards signals interest. Eye contact is what gets the ball rolling. I find it to be true in my own personal experience. Never underestimate the power of body language in human attraction, especially eye contact.

Also, don't overthink things. Your rationale mind doesn't control mating, your instincts do.

STD_Tyler · 2021-02-08T06:40:47+00:00

1 - Take hours to reply to his text, or even days.

2 - Cancel dates and flake, you will look more cool and busy.

3 - Withhold sex as much as you can, it will make him miss you more.

4 - Go to his apartment and then deny sex at last minute, this will give him blue balls and makes him want you more.

5- When you finally have sex with him, put your hands on the pillow, that will make him feel disconnected and disgusted, then blame him for having an erectile dysfunction. It will give you more power.

Works 99% of the time....

Evol_Etah · 2021-02-08T12:24:14+00:00

Watch MATHEW HUSSEY on YouTube. Best advice.

As a guy I watch it so I'm not dumb af, not noticing when a girl is trying to flirt with me.

Also, there's barely any advice for girls cause all they gotta do is ask a guy to date them. And there's a success ratio of 80%

aliceindankland · 2021-02-08T07:56:19+00:00

Be attractive
Take care of yourself physically & mentally
Have interests of your own
Be able to converse about an array of topics
Don’t take yourself too seriously
Make him feel wanted by compliments, light touching
Be trustworthy. A lot of women can’t hold water & anything you tell them they tell everybody else. If he can trust you with his inner most secrets? He’ll most likely fall in love.

After that it’s about compatibility. You’re either compatible or you’re not.

Tall-Ad5339 · 2021-02-08T11:49:58+00:00

You have to open up about everything NOBODY IS A MIND READER. Bring it up to him start the conversation but intelligently with respect. You find more can be accomplished by sitting down understanding one another first.

raulonastool · 2021-02-08T14:17:14+00:00

There's this little thing women do with their eyes that drives me crazy whenever we're holding eye contact. The sexual tension in the room just explodes. I don't know how to describe it, it's kind of like a squint+smirk, which tells me "it's time".

RosteroftheSkalding · 2021-02-08T14:38:26+00:00

Massaging my scalp while talking to me has always been soothing is another way because rarely do folks do that.

mightymite88 · 2021-02-08T06:29:28+00:00

the same principles apply largely. level up your game, be confident, be outgoing, invest in your social skills. just small changes in wardrobe, diet, hair style, and posture can help, smiling more, listening more, asking open ended questions, not being afraid to 'close the deal'. its pretty general in terms of human nature.

Carpex_V1 · 2021-02-08T07:28:21+00:00

I mean it is really subjective from man to man of what you said but if you want a man to kniw that you want to have sex is just show some physical affection. Go up near him, talk and touch him, not on just normal places but like on his legs, chest. A strong eye contact that is flirty. Touch his shoulder and lightly squeeze it commenting on his muscles even though that he may not have that much. Tease him through text, send pictures of your body but not nudes. Im sure that most of the men will agree to this when it comes to seducing for sex, but the date ideas and all other stuff varies from individual to other. It is pretty easy to seduce a man though

RikuXander · 2021-02-08T06:49:42+00:00

For me I want her to have an interest in me and be able to have intelligent conversation, to be able to talk about smart things.

I value time spent together, regardless of if that is in person, or over some kind of voice chat.

I enjoy when she wants to do things I like to do, and like being shown new things to do as well.

As for dates, if she is planning a date, I'm pretty much down for anything, but generally prefer more low key things, avoiding large amounts of people put in small spaces.

For sex, I can't speak for every guy, but I enjoy cuddling and/or talking after sex, before sex, or really anytime.

TurkeyBoi44 · 2021-02-08T09:30:33+00:00

I'm a guy (19M) entered my first relationship a couple of weeks ago, had a very testing weekend but I think we got through it. I'm fairly scared of intimacy, and I'm honestly terrified of doing the wrong thing physically. She's touched my chest (hand under shirt) and it was a strange feeling

2021-02-08T11:53:15+00:00

Start with soft touches, massages and very forward messages about how you’re feeling.

And then find out what he likes, and do it well!! Good luck!!

Guys love how women in porn talk, you can’t fail with that!

Shredder_FUCK · 2021-02-08T11:53:26+00:00

Compliments, Attention, showing interest (texting first every other time, inviting on dates, physical contact, etc) Show you care, no matter how small :) (At least all this is true for me(18m) lol)

EmperorTrader · 2021-02-08T13:15:38+00:00

i cant speak for all man, but personally alot of my friends and I just have minimal requirements and we will consider you a potential partner:
1) just be a 4/10, you can be below average and start out as friends on looks.
Let's be honest, looks do matter to a certain extend and i rarely see girls below 4/10 like walk around streets and university or work, maybe like 1 out of every 75? that is below. Also looks is subjective, but what im saying is looks dont really matter as you grow old, you realize that looks is just a small part, hence just be 4/10.
2) have same type of humor as us, you can't fake this, if it aint same frequency, just move on
3) show some hints or make way for us to ask you out. you could also be bold to say you are interested and have a date and see where it goes
4) congrats!

p.s sex and everything can be decided after few dates and seeing our goals and values. if it aligns, then good!

Jay_Bonk · 2021-02-08T13:39:25+00:00

There have been seduction for women posts and such, but yeah most of the people here are men. I'd say seducing a man is basically the same thing in essence. Being confident, kind, dressing well, being a multi faceted person with interests and opinions. And getting out there and starting the conversation.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-02-08T14:27:43+00:00

Honestly, a lot of the same stuff. Be confident, look me in the eye, get close to me, kino.

There's probably a bunch of fools here saying that girls don't have to try, but I think if a girl threw herself at him without any class, he'd be turned off.

MrWubbert · 2021-02-08T15:53:39+00:00

Initiation is sooo crucial. Even something as simple as hugging or kissing is 1000x better to a guy if they are not the one to initiate it. Also remember that sex, while great, is not the end all for male satisfaction. Some people try to use sex as a glue to hold a bad relationship together, and it always ends up failing. Valentine’s Day is coming up. Remember to get your man something other than yourself for the occasion. Sure sex is nice, but it’s too commonplace in a relationship for it to be the only thing you give your guy if you expect flowers, jewelry, and dinner.

WillFireat · 2021-02-08T09:57:59+00:00

Well, seducing a man is, in most cases, a piece of cake, u just smile.

modidlee · 2021-02-08T09:56:35+00:00

If a woman has to use techniques to “seduce” a guy she’s really just dealing with a guy who doesn’t like her

Kodamik · 2021-02-08T09:58:28+00:00

Shyness isn´t a disadvantage in women. Just be aware that if he is shy too, there could be a misunderstanding of unattraction and nobody getting what they both want.

Be persistent, laugh when he´s funny, comfort when he´s pensive. Try to make stories for things you communicate. Theres a difference to a picture and i did that, and a picture with a story. There´s a difference between this happened, and this happened and that story developed.

Tell him what you´d like him to do with you. Tell him what you like and what you dislike, give him the opportunity to support your notions and give him the opportunity to convince you to let go of some.

Try to make dates memorable. Change locality when appropriate.

If you´re a good girl, be honest and true. If you´re a bad girl, emotional blackmail can work where good girls fail. Just be sure to use your powers for his own good, not only your profit.

Show him that you are top 1 % equipped to be his girlfriend, because all the other available women wouldn´t dare to learn from r/seduction. Then report back to r/relationship_advice and convince other women to become the hero you already are.

EDIT: changed "Change locality several times" to "Change locality when appropriate", because OP wrote they already kissed. Changing locality is more for the first few dates.

iceicebabyvanilla · 2021-02-08T15:26:42+00:00

How to get a dude.

Approach him.
You won!

earsurgery9 · 2021-02-08T08:38:12+00:00

it's exactly the same the other way around

e,g - IF they are physically attracted to you, you flirt. And then sex happens.

jimmychango1 · 2021-02-08T09:38:16+00:00

Take off the sock, the job is done.

gabrielzalles · 2021-02-08T11:07:50+00:00

That’s called a stair master.

patsfan46 · 2021-02-08T16:40:21+00:00

Just smile or make a compliment about literally anything and it’s over

nuc1earwessels · 2021-02-08T17:51:45+00:00

I love it when a girl puts her arm around mine randomly when we're walking or waiting in line somewhere. It really makes me feel like we're "together".

During sex, wrap your legs around him, that's a killer move.

cryptobubblegum · 2021-02-08T21:34:19+00:00

She's trying to get a guy way out of her league but she's too shy to appear like low hanging fruit to get him. You boys don't speak Womanese, do ya?

shakakaisjshdhdd · 2021-02-09T00:47:05+00:00

Oh please you are a girl it’s too easy for you guys.

NateHate1402 · 2021-02-12T01:51:37+00:00

Look good, be nice.

charm33 · 2021-02-08T07:05:56+00:00

Wanna seduce men? Be Hot and Be open/flirty

2021-02-08T09:55:37+00:00

Men aren't difficult

2021-02-08T07:16:26+00:00

Read the book His Needs Her Needs. This will give you a general idea of what men (and women) want.

2021-02-08T08:30:49+00:00

Its not about seducing men because women literally have to do nothing to seduce a man.
Dress slutty talk to him and youve basically got him

2021-02-08T09:30:44+00:00

There are way more males here

michellechristinebo · 2021-02-08T11:41:37+00:00

I am new to this app, and not sure if there is guidelines or rules to follow, and I have been wanting to ask men this question for awhile now so I am just going to do it and hopefully I can figure out how to find the answers if anyone answers. Ok, I am very much in love with this man, and even though he says he loves me too, his actions say otherwise. I understand shit happens and sometimes you aren't able to do what you said you would, but then wouldn't you call? I know we all get busy and cant answer texts right away but every time it takes hours before responding, but if I dont answer with in half hour he gets mad. And lately he constantly accuses me of doing some messed up shit, like sleeping with my brothers wife. I think I know what's going on, but I need to hear it.

hob814 · 2021-02-08T12:28:54+00:00

Hey, im not sure if i read the post here but there was a fantastic post about seducting men, and as a straight man it would most likely worked on me. So basically it is make us feel you need us. Like you count on him for protection, you ask him for a favor for help. So basically if your not trying to be the independent woman that can do anything and believe she is better than all men (women are better than men in some areas and men are better than women in other areas but come on be realistic no one can be truly independent) so if your not someone like that you'r doing great. About the favors and asking for help you should watch out, you cant act like he has to do it. He will do it the first time if you asked for something simple tge second thing you cant make him feel your using it. So if you found a safer option i suggest go for the safer if you are convinced with it. Because this can back fire so im worried

Ensifror · 2021-02-08T11:56:28+00:00

As a straight man, I have no experience dating men. I know what I think I want, but don't necessarily know what I actually respond to. So take this with a grain of salt. "don't ask a deer how to hunt, ask the hunter" the saying goes.

But dating me is frankly, easy. In my opinion.

I want lots of physical affection, without having to do the all the work myself. I don't want to just hug you all the time, I want you to hug me. And this extends to all physical interactions, not just hugs. Initiate.
I don't want you to "draw me out of my shell". I want to keep my issues to myself. If I need comfort, I'll be physically affectionate. And if I absolutely need to talk, I'll make that decision myself. Don't try to make me "express my feminine side" or whatever those magazines are calling it these days.
I want sex. Lots of it. And all kinds of it. The way I see it, there is no room for shame in the bedroom, and the more time we spend there, the better. Know, that when I want to cum on your face, it is not because I want to degrade you or think of you as subhuman like some women seem to think. It's because the thought of it turns me on.
Be respectful of my time. I don't want to wait at the coffee shop for 10 minutes for you to show up. And I don't want to be late for the movie because you need to do your makeup.
I want you to put effort into your appearance. Just like I put effort into mine. I am a visual creature. And I will love you more, and be more sexually attracted to you, if you're lean, fit, and have pretty long hair. Than if you gained 15kg over the winter and don't even bother brushing on Sunday.

Dangopak · 2021-02-08T07:00:46+00:00

For dating an alpha the secret is femininity. The more feminine energy one cultivates the more easier it becomes for a man to commit.

2021-02-08T07:57:04+00:00

be hot as you personally can, smile and be feminine

Logical-Degree-7152 · 2021-02-08T07:39:25+00:00

Ay, just be normal and make each other happy as often as you can...

nik_mm · 2021-02-08T08:51:42+00:00

Just smile game over

Deadpool-CB23 · 2021-02-08T06:35:57+00:00

What kinds of things do you want before she’s ready to have sex?

A little bit of a chase with push pull where he has to court you, but not too much. Most people have sex after a few dates. Being physically attractive also helps. Having great personal conversations helps build that connection.

What kinds of things do you want everyday that’s not physical, like over text or just hanging out?

Someone who will listen to me and laugh at my jokes and share some of my interests with.

What kind of date do you want her to plan for you?

The guy should plan the date.

What kinds of things do you want during sex?

Mostly that you enjoyed it and found him attractive. Looks also matter here.

After sex?

A lot of men don't like to do a lot after sex. They aren't into talking a lot or cuddling. Be sensitive to that.

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