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You only told him that you ended something with a guy a few months ago. That could mean anything from a lot of hookups to a fckn three year old relationship, yet he wanted to shame you so you get defensive instead of talking about why he hasn't been tested in ages, if he's been tested AT ALL. Argh, I'm tired of these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:42 AM
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Just seeing how men want to make homes for male bees who get kicked out of the nest when food is scarce or how they seethe when they see how hyenas live. They'd do anything but examine the actual human society we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:36 AM
12

As a teen, I was rejected very badly by my crush and as a tween I was bullied by my crush. Do I hold onto it? Hell no, I've gained experience since then and I don't see those as my worst experiences. My actual worst experience is my narc ex. An actual memory I'd want to wipe out of existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:31 AM
23

I have a small chest and I hate when a guy blatantly lies about it. I can't imagine being so childish that lies soothe their ego. If a guy says he loves my breasts - it's a compliment. If he feels the urge to say he loves my small breasts - it's icky and I think twice about it. If he says he loves my big breasts - I dip, because it's honestly fucking offensive to think so low about my intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:08 PM
2

Like, men were waiting for her to become 18 so desperately. She knew that being a minor didn't protect her any more. Hell, she knew that even when she was a minor it didn't protect her. She may found it inevitable, so she wanted to choose banal things like the outfit and her looks, or leaning back on the fact that she chose to sign the contract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:59 AM
2

I think she just tries to gain a semblance of control back. She can't decide when she'll be sexualized so she tries to control the where and the how.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:54 AM
21

Like, Brad, it's an insane cope of yours to think that you're a better person than guys with a decent size and that all of them would treat a woman terribly. Maybe you would if you were the same size and it's all projection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:52 AM
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It's the either or mentality for me. Men can go for beautiful women with good personalities but god forbid we do the same. And it's like soothing themselves with the fact that all beautiful/handsome/big chested/well hung people are defective inside. No. And I'm saying this as a person who was bullied for her looks. I know my bullies were horrible, but I also know that not every beautiful person bullied me and also not every bully of mine was beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:50 AM
23

Even if I say I'm fully satisfied with the size of my bf's penis, this guy wouldn't comprehend that I probably chose someone who I'm overall satisfied with (including his personality, his values and his penis size) and I don't say that about any men with a micro and a domination fetish he tries to overcompensate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:45 AM
60

Or just work, even. Going to a coding bootcamp. Anything, just don't concentrate on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:41 AM
55

It would be recognized as the grooming it truly is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:38 AM
62

This! Ben Affleck's was downright scary. The way he says "it's me" is so fucking entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:35 AM
11

Same with Ben Affleck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:34 AM
12

That's a fair point, I have to admit I haven't considered that. My mental imagine was not downright treating the child as an adult, but maybe telling them in a way that's age appropriate (if that's possible at all, I mean, telling a child that father loves someone else or father disappointed me will still leave the child questioning - shit smearing is def not the appropriate answer, but stating how it can't be reconciled might be)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:29 PM
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Yes, especially the last part. When women divorce the father of their children, they're always told not to turn the kids against him and to be discreet. Why? He did what he did, the mother doesn't need to be secretive about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:37 AM
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It's astounding how he went through stages of denial and refused to just get through with it and delete them. I mean, the first refusal of accusation is kind of human nature, but the rest? Wtf man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:34 AM
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These kind of situations where we have to protect our privacy like that shouldn't even exist in the first place. Nevertheless, I'm proud of these young women, they were fiercely protecting themselves and by holding that man accountable they are also leading by example. I wish I've seen videos like this when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:32 AM
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And a lot of times they don't even want custody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:22 PM
196

HOW is that encouraging? This should be a time of "I'm here no matter what".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:21 PM
5

LoGiC, my ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:26 PM
11

Ah, even a nice homemade dinner with some decorations, flowers and a small gift would be amazing. He probably wouldn't even have appreciated her dressing up at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:15 PM
4

Right? Even if some women weren't particularly good with it, they'd still do better than most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:13 PM
54

Also, dry spells don't work. What works is replacing the old ways with new, trying to take pleasure in regular things. If there's nothing to replace the old habits, dry spells are just taking a break from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:55 PM
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I feel like most women have children thinking "yeah, I would take care of them even after a divorce" and a lot if men are like "If a divorce should occur, she will take care of them anyway". So many "fathers" with second families. I mean, there's life after divorce, but you shouldn't neglect your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:48 PM
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Anyone with a modicum of conscience. Who know the consequences of their actions. Who take responsibility. Which is like the bare f*cking minimum after you make someone pregnant, but alas...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:43 PM
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I'll start being sex positive when men will stop thinking about sex as something they do TO me, that they take away, that they conquer me, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:35 AM
8

I had such a mindset shift in a really good way. I'm not selfish, I'm not demanding, I still care about balanced relationship dynamics, but I know when I'm not getting my needs met or when I do way more than he does etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:32 AM
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Evan talked a lot about her abuser without naming him, but everyone suspected Marilyn Manson for quite a long time. Also I really loved Rose McGowan's support for her and the other women who outed him as an abuser. She'd been with him waaay before he became notoriously abusive and she told us this much, but she said that it doesn't mean that she will defend him at all, because we need to beleive women' s words. I wonder if Dita will say anything, because she cares so much about her image. I hope…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:30 AM
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Wow, the pain p*rn point really hits close to home. Even though it feels therapeutic sometimes to see the truths of life and our society, it actually makes it harder to function in it. I'm trying hard to carry the knowledge and protect myself but at the same time, be open for happiness. Thank you for the reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:11 PM
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Recently on tiktok I've seen an awful lot of male comments along the lines of "men marry who they want and women who they can" in response to the saying that women sleep with who they want and men sleep with who they can. Thankfully most women and girls read a lot and can tell these men instantly that studies actually show that women are happiest when single and men are happiest and healthiest when married so marriage can't be dangled in intelligent women's face as a bait any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:05 PM
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What he calls agressive, rude and unpleasant is probably just women who don't fall over themselves for him or reject him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:54 PM
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If anything, his statement should make him sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:31 PM
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Lainey is not always my cup of tea, but I still follow her because she tries to be as nonjudgemental as she can and she posts some thought provoking stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:54 PM
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Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:51 PM
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Nooo🤢 It's always suspicious when they talk shit about some woman. It's almost always because they want to ease your feelings about them. They always wanna fuck them tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:50 PM
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And yet we are called insecure when we stand up fir ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:44 PM
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Alsi, finding someone attractive who is on screen at the time is one thing, but searching them up is just meh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:43 PM
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We don't necessarily want kpop idol level grooming, as it's time consuming and they are doing it for a living, but man, they could learn some things. Decent skin, good hair, self expression and well fitting clothes, being healthy and fit. And no, we don't want crusty ass brad pitts and dicaprios any more. ThEy aRe PaSt tHeIr PrImE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:42 PM
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Masseurs are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:35 PM
10

But finding out if a woman has boundaries or not shouldn't be about pestering them for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:49 PM
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I'd throw out any man who said that to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:47 PM
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They aren't my favourite animals, but I really like when I'm around one. They can give so much love and a lot of people just fail to understand the signs of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:37 PM
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Give me bunnies instead, but you are goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:34 PM
49

This is it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:32 PM
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Being young, pleasant and pretty rewarded me with a ten years older narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:29 PM
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He's like one year away from not being accepted as a sperm donor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:38 AM
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25 is the safest age to have children so being attracted to someone 2 years above that might be more natural than to jerk off to girls that are 7 (or more) years younger than that. Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:34 AM
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The dildo doesn't give you "accidental anal" (and yeah, the bar is in hell for sure)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:27 AM
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Help, my wife heard about the metoo movement and she takes it seriously while I usually brush her concerns off with nasty comments. I'm also a racist. Now she doesn't want to have sex with me, I wonder why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:25 AM
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You can also view it from a different perspective and come to the same conclusion. I have a boyfriend, we are there for each other, I love him immensely, but... My relationship doesn't help my issues. They are mostly my own thing to deal with. My comfort and well being in life is my own responsibility. I can be sad at any point of my life and it will mostly depend on me, not on the fact that I don't have a man around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:34 PM
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They make memes like this like it's a flex on us, but it actually makes them double pitiful instead of just regular pitiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:22 AM
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Yesterday, I participated in 9 gangbangs and 10 orgies and I loved it! (I live in a porn trope alternative universe, that this guy must be notoriously watching)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:03 PM
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I'm really sick of men treating women like porn categories, sprinkling it with a huge amount of racism. These aren't just preferences anymore and they can't gaslight me into thinking that these are. Edit: fetishizing certain races as freaky and less stuck up is basically stating they would like to degrade you during sex. It's just vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:58 AM
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I don't like pickmes and they seriously hinder other women's situation, but my heart still breaks every time I see a gorgeous, kind woman servicing her ungrateful gross man. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:00 PM
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I don't get the obsession with cut/uncut, but besides that, I fully agree. The blowjobs are just a way for her to get out of sex, and she still basically services her husband with it. And then he complains because of his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:50 PM
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He wants her to orgasm purely for his own ego. If he truly wanted to please her, he could, but he practically rapes her instead tgen complains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:47 PM
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Love in your twenties/thirties isn't exactly strategizing either. You just know how many problems there can be and try to eliminate the possibilities of it, so you can freely explore each other and the world together. Like hell, I need mutual attraction, and I don't need emotional baggage and financial problems, is that hard to ask? Also, it literally isn't the norm to have high school puppy love. It doesn't happen to everyone, it doesn't have to, and if it happens, it isn't always good. Grow th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:35 PM
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It would absolutely diminish any desire in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:29 PM
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I thought like this when I changed my mind about sex without condoms, taking the pill, etc. I was on the pill during my first two relationships and holy fuck, one of them cheated and the other had several exes and seriously disliked condoms. I've been tested and all, and I'm all right in every aspects, except for the hard to beat residual hormonal acne, but... Never again could I share my body with a man who doesn't care about my health. Never. In fact, most men are so mediocre or even bad at se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:23 PM
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I'm so proud of you! You really did what was best for you in this situation. I couldn't imagine how much he would have wrecked your self esteem. On top of a mental illness, you really don't need that (I should know, my depression had been exacerbated by my ex who constantly looked at pictures of other women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:14 PM
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It's not even wanting to be hard to get, it's just learning to love and prioritize yourself more. Women are conditioned from birth that we are the last one on the priority list and that male attention is the most important thing in our lives. We are just returning to ourselves. And it may be hard for some - it is for me - but it feels incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:51 PM
9

That's the best Xmas gift you could give yourself (and thise who love you). Be sure to stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:18 PM
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Apart from a few exceptions, everyone loves sex, if it's good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:55 AM
27

Also isn't it concerning how it screams "I wanna hurt you"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:44 PM
7

Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:27 PM
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I can't wait till it gets in full swing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:07 PM
57

Just goes to show who is the logical sex and who makes it about sex all the time😄 Projection from them, as always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:06 PM
29

By all means, go and disable the passing of your genes and kill your libido as a bonus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:05 PM
5

Fortunately these are past experiences. And yeah, they probably like him because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:32 PM
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Why do they always "joke" with the things that are the most hurtful? They just disguise hurting people (especially women) under a veil of jokes. It's not a joke if someone fears for their lives. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:28 PM
50

No normal child would do that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:26 PM
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My abusive ex (age gap relationship) pressured me into resorting to "pulling out". I think I got a few gray hairs from stress in that last two months of the relationship before I could flee. After I left, I used to have nightmares about having his baby. I was so trauma bonded that I genuinely think I would have kept the baby and stayed and would have thought he would treat me better pregnant. The reality unfortunately is that pregnant women are abused and controlled even more by their abusers du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:22 PM
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I never understood what is it about begging for a certain gift. I agree that you should communicate what you like, but gift giving is more subtle than that. It should be a bit niche or something. Thoughtful. A PS5 is not any of that, and I would feel like I'm dating my own son, which is utterly disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:44 PM
29

They are Polanski fans but won't watch Tess with me, yet go and watch Once Upon a Time in Hollywood? Wtf? Even though Polanski is a dirtbag as a person, the writer of the book the movie is based on saw through the double standards women face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:34 PM
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I think it actually shows more insecurity when you tolerate this kind of behaviour. Why are you afraid of telling him that it's disrespectful? Are you afraid that he will leave you then? Why do you think it's better for you to be with someone who disrespects you than to be alone? I know it's not always the answer, because sometimes girls and women just internalize today's libfem mentality, but I think everyone experiences distress when they know their so is fantasising about others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:30 PM
3

This, but also consider that if he suggests going without condom, there shouldn't even be a next time with him at all. He doesn't mind risking your health, and he probably doesn't mind risking other women's (and his own) health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:52 PM
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A guy I've been with used to watch porn. Couldn't keep it hard. Stopped because I told him I find it unsettling that he watches porn. Could maintain his erection after stopping watching it and sex became way more attentive and much better. I couldn't keep seeing him though, because the thought of him finding porn okay and his orgasm more important than the horrors of the industry just kept haunting me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:18 PM
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And little girls too. My uterus shrivels up at the thought of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:12 PM
58

She sure sucked some disease out if all his dates had sex with him/sucked him too. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:05 PM
37

Wtf, you literally just came in someone, but she is the one whose body and whose life is on the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:47 PM
20

And most men's is... Touch! And you can express it by being his sex slave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:28 PM
6

Umm, why does he care more about some rando than hus girlfriend? Who cares?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:27 PM
10

No one should agree to be treated poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:01 PM
16

Umm, what, average at best? Not that her looks should determine her value but look at her radiance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:00 PM
7

They didn't deserve my beauty and youth - that's the only conclusion I have. And here I am, still looking nice and taking care of myself and they still don't deserve me with their balding heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:57 PM
11

Truly the weaker sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:15 PM
53

Mindgeek still has other porn sites, which are still supported my mastercard and visa. It's just a facade, albeit one that at least had some consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:51 PM
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I have had bullies who hurt me pretty bad (even phisically) , but I have risen over that. Going to therapy and achieving what you want in life helps a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:38 PM
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Every guy is attracted to teens, it biologial👁️👄👁️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:31 PM
11

What do 40 year old men have to do with girls in their late teens and early twenties? Those girls/young women are shining like diamonds both in looks and personality, and what are you doing? Looking like a hairy, saggy ballsack and having a midlife crisis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:03 AM
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I'm 26 and I've been groomed by a man ten years older than me when I was in my early twenties. Couldn't go to parties with him, he couldn't bear any socializing, was grumpy, started to develop a belly and started to wrinkle. Was nowhere in life. Nope, thanks. Worst lesson of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:59 AM
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Misogyny is when you know they think less of you than animals. Not that I don't love animals with all my heart, but... That's telling. Also notice how even if you thought about your dog's greying hair, or its movement getting slower, if bringing the ball to you took more time, your love still wouldn't change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:56 AM
118

Once my cervix got hit hard and the "ache" was not in the slightest way satisfying. It felt like constant cramps and it freaked me out. Never again (not like mist guys could reach it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:49 AM
55

Honestly, I'd rather die alone than with a man like him by my side. But we all know that not having a man doesn't mean that you're alone. Most women have support systems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:44 AM
29

There are a few videos circling around that are bridal/photoshoot/"power of makeup" looks and they seem to be stuck on those. Those aren't examples of everyday makeup, but men treat women as if we are doing bridal or cosplay makeup or are preparing for an event every day. Not to mention how the lighting in these videos make it seem like extremely heavy makeup can't be seen in real life. How do they don't know that for photos and videos (and stage) you do things that will look obvious up close. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:17 AM
3

It honestly sounds so much better. It's not sexualized and the "repaying" isn't about being salty, but a nice gesture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:31 PM
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Why the fuck is he spying in her bank account? As I understand he didn't ask for the login, but searched for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:20 PM
3

I'm proud that you were strong enough to make that decision, you did what's crucial to protect yourself. No apologies make that thing right, no one should say that to you, especially during sex when you're more vulnerable and what should be about bonding and enjoying yourselves. And you know that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:28 PM
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Yeah, he's truly an ass of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:00 PM
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If having sex with women makes them impure, then I kindly ask men not to do it with (or to) us. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:57 PM
9

Kind eyes, a characteristic feature, a messy wavy bob, unique style with secondhand and cozy clothes (can be feminine or masculine), soft colours, soft lips, minimal makeup (or none) on the skin, but maybe a bright lip or a lined eye if it suits them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:53 PM
16

He's likely not saving up for you, but for a future girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:49 AM
32

I swear I thought this was satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:21 PM
6

You explained well what rubbed me the wrong way about this. Just the same old patriarchal ways disguised under woke lingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:48 AM
19

It absolutely is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 10:55 PM
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And when she opted for a breast reduction, men were all over the internet saying how she's a disgrace, not realizing that they don't own her, she doesn't owe anything to them and that she wouldn't even glance at them ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:29 AM
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I have a few tampons in my purse at all times, just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:51 PM
77

As we know men benefit much more from being married in old age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:31 AM
59

This! I'm 26 and I'm fairly prejudiced with men (I think most of them are douchebags), but to think of a 20 year old guy who sells himself... I would just think: poor baby. Poor poor baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:03 PM
74

He mentioned 5 year olds as the best example for victims. That tells a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:56 PM
40

We all know that's not the point. The point is, if it hurts you or it makes you suspicious, and you know it's not because of your own internal struggles, it's a problem (I'm not saying that there aren't instances where there's both an internal struggle and a valid concern regarding the other person present). Red flags are just that - clues that there might be a bomb somewhere urging you to pay attention and be cautious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:12 PM
25

Having BPD doesn't negate the fact that his behaviour is concerning. She's labelled crazy, but nobody bats an eye that he's studying how to murder a spouse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:02 PM
6

As if you have to had done porn to sense the irrational double standards and see the blatant misogyny. They just want to shut us up by calling us whores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:20 PM
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That's precisely why they belong to the same category. If they don't stand up and use their voice against those men, they are with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:32 PM
11

Whoa, that fuckin hurts, but yeah, that's the truth. May all of us be free from any encounters with these pornsick men. I shudder at the thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 07:05 PM
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In "cavemen times", women had sex with multiple men and the men didn't know whether the children were theirs or not so they possibly provided even to those who weren't theirs. I'm sure it would be alright with this guy, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:34 PM
105

All you need is block, block. Block is all you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:17 PM
110

And small breast don't have anything to do with sexual satisfaction, but cock size has an impact on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:11 PM
45

Yeah, like "Congrats, we are now conditioning them with the most powerful thing we can (without using hard drugs)".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:04 PM
46

He wants you to go full pickmeisha and prove yourself to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:06 PM
57

That's the thrill in it for them, though. Not the perfect body, but that they see something that's taboo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:37 PM
32

Emotional stability? So you admit that relationships with men ruin us? Well, from 20 to 26 I've been challenged too (by a narc, no less), but I can confidently say I'm now more stable than I've ever been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:35 PM
9

Limited circumstances is called boundaries, fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:53 PM
57

And that you always end up "unlocking" locks that you don't even find valuable, while the "locks" you truly want to open stay closed to you forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:50 PM
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And they say women have no humour😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:46 PM
43

Uhh, wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:05 PM
71

Giger actually based the horrors of the alien franchise off the fear of your body being penetrated/used without your consent, aka rape as experienced by women, and how it's the most helpless, horrible thing he could imagine, so there's that. (the mental gymnastics here is atrocious, by the way)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:08 PM
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There was a The Vice report on China's "leftover women" and the women who wanted to focus on getting ahead in their careers founded a group called "lean in", inspired by that book. Among other things they too have found that these "feminine" traits and behaviours are expected from them but they don't get rewarded for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:10 PM
18

Not only that, but they know you're attractive perfectly well even without you constantly expressing your sexuality. And we all know their imagination will still run wild without you doing anything. We don't have to break our backs impressing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:27 AM
111

An incel saying he's volcel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:37 PM
104

It's a super psycho thing to MARRY someone when you only love the hair (or boobs or insert whatever else). And it's not that far from this when they don't marry for love, but for "wife material". You can see so many marriages like this when you wonder why they talk about the ol' ball and chain or how they don't want to go home or don't like spending time with their wives, how they aren't interested in making them happy and seeing marriage as duty. Or when you see women in advice subs who are wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:15 AM
170

There's much much less tough face going on, and a lot more smiles and kind facial expressions than among straight men. I always went for kind faces on OLD, if I rarely found any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:05 AM
13

I was always bombarded with how every problem in a relationship has two sides and I was desperately trying to improve my side, not realizing for long that it was fruitless because I was with him. I also made mistakes and I was caught up in them, feeling guilty, not realizing that no matter what mistakes you make, you NEVER deserve abusive behaviour in retaliation (not to mention that thinking back, I realized he has always been abusive, just in ways that hurt me just enough to feel like shit con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:10 PM
4

Porn is the most sex negative thing I can think of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:01 PM
1

By a textbook abusive narc, no less (he did his best to fit the descriptions for sure) 🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:32 PM
27

I don't know where he lives, but women have never been "allowed" to just go and hookup without any consequences. I'm definitely not advocating it because it harms women much more than they get out of it, but... Holy fuck, we are ostracized for being sexual, men obsess over our body count, we are bombarded with images every day since our birth how men would like us to look like/behave/etc. I will very well continue to hold men to some standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:02 PM
9

I meant how they won't stop even when the other person gets hurt. That's right, they truly don't know when to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:32 PM
12

With the pube beards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:27 PM
11

The other part of it is also true - LVM tend to "joke" about serious things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:10 AM
41

Sometimes you know that the other woman is being manipulated too, so you can't blame her - but you are also too powerless to warn her. You're just glad you are on the other side now - and sometimes you don't want to admit it, but you're also glad that now you aren't the one in the center of it all. I think she knew that she will be there with the kids when they are at Elon's place, so she tried to minimize the issues as much as she could. And when in the end she said that she's so blonde - she r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:08 AM
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Not to mention that you're conditioning yourself to associate it with pleasure each time you do it during sex. It stems from somewhere but you're basically rewiring your brain even further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 09:41 AM
12

How about being so confident about your worth and your preferences and mindful about your wellbeing that you are selective about your partners and demand pleasure and safety? So unapologetically sexual that you don't mindlessly recreate scenarios that traumatized you or what you were conditioned to like, but instead unlearn that and shamelessly explore yourself? Try to unlearn looking at yourself from an outside view and just move the way you fucking want during sex meanwhile being with someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:16 AM
3

This is true about nerd behaviour too, not just about nerd looks. Like, I want a guy who is passionate about the field he studies/works in, sometimes tells me about his day and I can't understand certain things, but it's okay, cause he explains and I do the reverse with my field and he listens enthusiastically, and that we can talk about certain "nerdy" topics, etc., I absolutely love that and it's sooo attractive! But the reality often isn't that. I like guys who are reserved and a little bit s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:58 AM
27

A woman is constantly abused, betrayed and cheated on, yet the victims are somehow the men in the story who have to pay because they couldn't keep their dicks in their pants. I'm not saying that she didn't basically play russian roulette by not using protection with these men, but Jeeesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:48 PM
16

It's a well defined moment, believe me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:41 PM
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He forgot the part where he impresses the woman first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:50 AM
46

Glad you left that phase behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:48 AM
72

Especially as brushing teeth is only the starting point of dental hygiene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:45 AM
4

The part where she says that it's "because you let him" is true though. Like, you see that he doesn't step up and continue to stay. FDS is mainly about this step - that you ruthlessly stop being there for those who aren't deserving of your attention. From what I understood, it isn't ambigous. It's not telling us to make him afraid by pulling away - it's about leaving people alone who don't demonstrate that they want you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:33 AM
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And if they are talking about a woman in a way that demeans them (usually unsolicited), like how they aren't that good looking, how they are annoying etc. - they are most likely into that woman. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:25 AM
8

I always tell men to just see if someone is leering intimidatingly at a woman and block his way of vision or look at him like you know what he's doing. It takes surprisingly little for a harrasser to be ashamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:12 AM
16

Welcome, girl. And best of luck on your journey to come. One thing I can say, it will be liberating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:00 PM
179

I seriously question most people's reading comprehension skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:56 PM
5

I have dad humour. I don't question the naming of it, but it's just general cheesy/wordplay-based humour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:40 PM
22

They probably mean the time when they are told to pick up their socks from the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:39 AM
13

This sent me💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:38 AM
15

The guy overdoes the "playful" judging of her accent in the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:36 AM
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Yeah, it's obvious it brings her down. Of course talking is easy, but I'd rather feel loneliness alone than beside someone. It's the most horrible feeling. And she's constantly reminded of how her husband sees her. If you're alone, it's at least with your own thoughts and you can do things to take your mind off of the negativity. When you're living beside the negativity himself, that's impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:55 AM
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I always wonder for a short while whether it's a good thing. I feel defeated and hopeless in this regard. I know it's a good thing, because I can protect myself better, but truth really badly hurts. Not just because of the internet, it's enough if you have one good(?) male friend who tells about the shit he hears daily. His acquaintances saying what depraved categories of porn they watch, how they are on to fuck the secretary while planning for a baby in their marriages, how they'd rather be wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:58 AM
7

Coach of laughable disgusting ragefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:38 AM
15

While my ex didn't do anything on my accounts I know of, becaused I changed everything in time and I use 2 step authentication where I can, he used my photos for a fake tinder account and god knows what else. And he somehow stalked down my new landlord in a facebook group for renting ads and he threatened me with smearing shit on me so they break the contract, or harrass me there until they have enough of it and kick me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:20 AM
21

They always tell everyone to communicate. Well, she communicated her wishes clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:49 PM
20

Let me present you the difference between mature and immature people who play video games. The woman can clearly differentiate between a nice gesture she can cherish and a sign of serious commitment. And she wants both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:48 PM
21

Lostprophets' singer Ian Watkins sent a message to one of his victim's mother saying that if she belongs to him then her child does too. He later received calls in prison from a "fan" and telling her about the fun he had with his victims. It's terrifying to think whether mothers were among his fans who contacted him in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:41 PM
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Fun fact from my gyno vaguely associated from the std part. When you are not using barrier protection, your bacterial floras (yeah I know we are clean and all but we have it and it's natural) try to adapt to each other. Until you do that, both of you can experience mild irritation that goes away in a short time, but your body goes wild with this process if you try to adapt to more people in a short timeframe. We aren't really built for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:07 PM
34

Handle your own friends, please. Sure, I can be very social, funny, nice and all, but this disclaimer usually means that the friends will be rude as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:22 PM
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And then MRAs have the nerves to say that women are allowed to be emotional and how they cry their way to a favourable outcome in court. The delusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:54 PM
10

Without hate, my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:28 PM
12

I looove that acc, it's on facebook too. The comments are golden as well. My bf mentioned that in a programmers' facebook group the men laughably took one of the posts about male and female programmers seriously and managed to misunderstand the point completely - which is by the way, to reverse general chitchat about men and women so people can see how casually misogynistic our society is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:21 PM
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She's so adorable, no wonder why he loves seeing her that happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:48 AM
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I had a chat with one of my kind of distant gfs, but when we talk again, it's about a plethora of topics and it's really nice. She's in a situation where she stopped dating and went exclusive with one of the guys. She's a radfem, so she doesn't give men the benefit of doubt at all, she's guarded and cautious, but she's also really sweet and a delight to talk to, she just dates the FDS way - waits until a man proves his worth to her. Her now bf is very butthurt about this (at least that's what I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:42 AM
2

It's just so funny seeing them calling us a hate group, and then you go on their profile and it's all real hate groups there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:21 AM
3

Or a HVM who is genuinely pursuing you and wanting you to be his partner in life mentioning their ex to you at all? Especially if it's on a regular basis. Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:17 AM
2

You can go for so many shades of blonde, there are many techniques that hairdressers use to make it look elegant, or make the root growing process more bearable, just lurk around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:13 AM
9

It's one step further into the "Smile!" narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:50 AM
6

The soundtrack is I'm in Love With My Car by Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:41 AM
11

Try watching the news, buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:36 AM
18

For the sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:32 AM
9

Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:03 PM
18

On a sidenote, it's so sad that we question if we are deserving of an orgasm. If having an orgasm was rewarded to only the most perfect looking people, men would rarely ever get them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:41 PM
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They would say it's bullshit as soon as the responsibility had been put on them. Like "uhh, if you have sex with a woman, your sperm changes her dna, so it's your responsibility to provide for her from then on 'cause she's an extension of you🤷‍♀️", yeah, how about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:34 PM
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And it's not always efficient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:30 PM
35

They would go as soon as the frequency of sex worsened, not to mention the attention they wouldn't get during it. And a woman addicted to ogling better endowed and more muscular men? The world would burn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:21 AM
36

That "sweetness" is probably trauma bonding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:18 AM
35

After seeing that I just hope he takes himself out in the trash and she gets a chance at being with someone who truly loves her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:21 AM
12

The Tchaikovsky and the Kate Bush part sent me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:53 PM
15

And more often than not there isn't even an appreciation post by the husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:14 PM
104

He keeps coming home! Captain Bare Minimum! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:12 PM
42

As I understood the mom was trying to make her feel better by saying how she looks like herself again to alleviate her self consciousness. At least I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:21 PM
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I'm so sorry that you had to endure that. Women are often under the pressure of giving in or they have to face that their partners will probably cheat. I'm glad that you (and more and more women it seems) found that your well-being is above any guyʼs sexual "needs" and how anyone who doesn't respect you isn't worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:05 PM
8

Accusing women of being superficial... With a "sex account". Oh, the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:21 PM
31

Most men only want children so they can leave some trace of themselves in the world, in lieu of anything meaningful they created. They just tick it off the list, now their genetic material is out there, that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:19 AM
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Or an age-appropriate, fit, educated, affectionate man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:12 AM
18

Ugh, never seeing the dog again was a bummer. When we wanted to meet to exchange our belongings that we left at each other's houses, I asked him to do it when he takes the dog for a walk (we lived quite close to each other). It made the memory a lot less bitter in hindsight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:08 AM
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I love seeing how she is thriving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:55 AM
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I just talk about Reddit's "one intact women's sub" occassionally and he knows. I will sometimes share certain stories with him and we talk through the issues with it. Where many men on Reddit would take the side of the LVM in the story, he sometimes doesn't even want to discuss anything about it, because "it makes him sad how there are so many women in such draining and awful relationships, often with children too". He sometimes slips in a few memes in conversations with his friends and colleag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:52 AM
17

Forgive the old Jane :) What matters is that now you know better. My ex mentioned one if his friend in bed, like man, what the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:40 AM
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GC was often misrepresented too, like they literally want to kill trans people, how they are conservative and religious etc. - none of this is true, as they were very much concerned about the well being of trans people and they were also very much liberal. It's easier to smear shit and deter people from coming here, or in the case of women, be blind to the shitty treatment you receive from guys and the reasons behind that, than to come here, utilize your reading comprehension and face reality (n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:41 PM
12

Not a roid guy, but someone who worked out AND was a narcissist at the same time, so of course the latter was expressed through the former in many ways. He mocked my butt, that it was not like the veery firm ones he saw on female bodybuilders (who had unimaginably low body fat percentage at the time the photos were taken). He told me that the way I look now, I'm just average. Triangulated me by storing butt pics of an ex and maany downloaded pics of bodybuilder women on his desktop (I used the c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:30 AM
15

She looks literally the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:41 AM
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Inviting each other for drinks and meals is a very basic thing among friends and acquaintances, it's just a nice gesture for signaling that you want to talk to them and are mindful of their time. If you invite me on a date, I presume you want to talk to me and you are mindful of my time. If you want sex instantly, or want someone that will 100% interested in you immediately, hire a hooker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:40 AM
3

A farm is a fucking goal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:22 PM
23

You don't have to sacrifice yourself in the name if love, especially as a relationship can't really help a person in that scenario, only to a certain point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:21 PM
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As a depressed woman myself - it's on me to get better. I'm on medication and I go to therapy too, and the road gets tough sometimes, recovery is not a linear path... But no man or woman owes me support. If they see I really want to get better and they choose to support me on my rough days, it's great, because they get to see me on my fab days too, and honestly, I'm an intelligent, kind, loving person who has much to offer. I told my boyfriend that if he wants to go, he shouldn't ever sugarcoat …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:18 PM
3

Good. Just let them seethe while they won't ever get a chance with us and these kind of HVM will. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:22 PM
60

Sunscreen and retinol all the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:43 PM
20

Oh no, this is the one mgtow loses their shit over. Get a grip guys! (they want us to die, reee)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:36 PM
9

They think the idea of it is the same as living it. There aren't any men (and I mean any, because even with seemingly HVM things can go south) who you can trust with your well being and your life. There's no person like that. It's just foolish to do so. Now you mostly have the power to rely on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:09 AM
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Did one fwb and one one night stand. Never again. They weren't as bad as they could have been, but it's none of the things they are promised to be by the libfem rhetoric. And yeah, I chose these partners fairly well, it's the setup that had no benefits for me. Sex in a loving relationship is just so fucking good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:04 AM
6

Been in the same boat. The sofa and the nice bookshelf, nightstand, lamps etc. made such a huge difference, it even helped my mood. Don't underestimate the power of a cozy, clean living space. The cleanliness is hard to keep up with my lack of energy, but it's worth it when I push myself to do it. After you're done with watching a movie, working on your laptop, etc., if you look around and see nothing... You feel even more isolated and like you won't ever have your shit together. I wanted no mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:55 AM
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Same came to mind. One of my not too close friends and I stayed in our hometown for a week at the same time so she brought me a dish she was experimenting with that day and told me about. All I did was assured her that her cooking is always delicious so the new dish will turn out great too and then she brought me some when it was ready for dinner! To my fucking house. I couldn't get over that simple nice gesture and how she thought about me, I keep that in mind ever since, and you tell me there …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:23 PM
76

Thanks for drying up my vagina by making me feel like sex is a chore for me to do that is basically emptying your balls so you won't cheat. Sounds great, sign me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:07 PM
9

The joke is on them. There was a study about how porn doesn't affect sexual satisfaction in relationships... With horrendous methodology and with the obvious reason to calm down porn addicts so they won't quit. They lapped it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:49 AM
7

Please be safe and wishing you the best on your journey to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:41 PM
22

They don't seem to care about the shitton if dark triad men who use women, right? And women expecting effort as a way to dodge being used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:16 PM
2

Yeah, you should be nice to his family but people seem to forget that their family should also be respectful towards you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:18 AM
20

They don't even deserve my activewear look, because that shit looks too good on my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:16 AM
5

Be with someone who prioritizes your pleasure. I'm slowly overcoming my anxieties around receiving oral. The biggest issue for me is that I thought I take a lot of time to come, but I found that it was usually because of the anxiety itself, it's a vicious cycle. My partner chooses to do it anyway, and when I say after a certain time that I can't come, he just asks me if he can continue, and assures me that he wants to, so we just do so. Usually I come within like half a minute after that. It bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:13 AM
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It also goes to show that lingering love for him/familiarity/financial easiness doesn't worth it to get back with them, because in the end, you will be worse off financially and emotionally when he leaves again (and he most definitely will).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:43 AM
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Well, I love a date like that, but it doesn't prove a man's intentions so it's a huuuuge fucking no in the vetting stage. When you reached a stage of comfortable commitment, it's absolutely lovely, but you should still spice things up and go on more elaborate adventures, romantic dinners etc. too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:11 PM
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I like chest (even stomach) hair on guys if it suits them and it doesn't poke out of their shirts at work, because then it's just inappropriate. Pubic hair too, if it's neatly trimmed. Beards too, if it's not beardfishing and it's washed/trimmed/generally cared for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:16 PM
8

Yes, practicing good boundaries are very important and a HV behaviour. You have to gain each other's trust and gradually get close, not to mention how you can't just expect regular emotional labour at a whim, but within our own timeframe and emotional capacity, we can enrich each other's lives nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:04 PM
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If you aren't just "friends" with me to get in my pants, if you actually put the effort in the friendship, then I will give you physical affection (and of course, I will be a good friend). My gay guy friends are all proof of this. It's not women's fault you can't be a normal person with no selfish intentions to bring into a friendship. Also, don't call each other gay for expressing affection towards each other. Maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:15 PM
9

Yeah, you can sense that they definitely put black and ugly in the same category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:23 PM
8

Up until I was 16, I had been the spectre. I hadn't grown into my features yet, I had horrible undereye circles, was pale with long, messy, dark hair, was thin and bony as fuck... The way men treated me, I would very much like to haunt them in that form in the afterlife. Jokes on them though, I'm not exceptionally pretty by any means, but I've grown into my features, I have a round butt and an elegant frame, and had some boyfriends who treated me very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:05 PM
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I used to be the spectre then turned into the blocker.🤷‍♀️ Suck it up, incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:57 AM
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Sometimes I want to just... Fuck. But the thing with occasional objectification being hot is that it's only that way, because it isn't the norm. Like, that I know that genuine attraction and connection is expressed towards me regularly, so I feel safe and content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:36 AM
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A guy who likes you won't deliberately say things like this. I am quite cautious about not rubbing it off on people, but I can't avoid that while having sex or kissing passionately. After these times usually I was the one who rubbed the foundation off their face and told them to go rub it off. They just told me that yeah, we were doing things very sensually so it's no surprise. They may have told me that they find me beautiful without makeup, but because I liked to wear it when they approached m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:50 AM
22

If you look through these lens what men say about FDS... You know, how we are all ugly and black... It just reeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:02 AM
21

Also: don't sleep on dusties' dusty ass pillows!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:36 AM
5

I don't condone this kind of behaviour at all, but I won't compare it to the worst guys' either. At least you were upfront about wanting just sex, most guys fake a relationship for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:29 AM
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I don't follow it, but looked at it and we are diverse as fuck. Love you all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:13 PM
34

I have small breasts and I have a feeling that our breast size doesn't matter at all, men just refuse to accept that we are diverse human beings and they desperately try to push impossible standards on us so they can break us down. There is a very unattainable mold you can fit into as a woman according to these men, but in reality, I, as a small chested woman and you, as a big chested woman have no problem attracting men. 🤷‍♀️ About the P shape - there is a tactic among PUA and redpill men, that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:40 PM
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I assume women with a "flat" butt and big breasts. Well, I guess they haven't seen the beauty ideal of the 2000s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:28 PM
7

Better not check them at all just to be sure my feefees are intact!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:21 PM
38

It also stood out to me that he said he's "outnumbered" and "voted out" by the female family members. Something just stinks about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:41 AM
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Meanwhile men can mock vulvas endlessly without repercussions. Your post wasn't even a declaration of "this is good and the rest should perish", like you immediately said that even vaginas vary and what matters is compatibility and the rest is taking care of yourself in general. Oh, and yeah, don't beat your dick into oblivion. That's all there is to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:32 AM
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B-b-but those women are older, they just act like they are young! – Sure, Brad, with porn sites' questionable or non-existent verification processes, it's highly unlikely. Also, even if it was true, you still fantasize about seeing someone younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:09 AM
11

Basically no matter how you look, it can be used against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:43 PM
14

Cooking for my future gf is the dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:22 PM
31

Well, who the fuck does she have sex with, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:46 AM
19

One of my friends was very outgoing, but she didn't "put out" for anyone, only after vicious vetting. A guy didn't make the cut, so he made up rumours about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:13 AM
4

Oh no no no, you don't even go on that date, your time is worth more than to be at a dinner with someone who doesn't even want to see you enough to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:00 PM
7

For the promise of being treated better they hurt others. .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:16 PM
7

Racists are doing these practices in many other countries including mine, but more covertly, and not en masse and it's absolutely horrifying to think about even on a smaller scale. I have no words for what is happening currently in the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:14 PM
2

When rigor mortis kicks in, probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:43 PM
15

You go with your Uggs and pumpkin spice, girl! I will go with my own shit I like and the world doesn't stop because we like different things, nor does any of this make you or me better than the other. Men should understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:32 AM
8

Do you really want to take that trip together if you've already made up your mind? I know it could get even worse if you also have an argument on this, and only you know what's in your best interest, just asking if you think it is a good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:00 AM
7

Warn her. Send the screenshots. Then stay out of it, because you will probably be described as the crazy ex. You don't want to spend your energy on that. But even in my pickme days I would have wanted to know. She may stay with him, but give her a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:56 AM
5

Tinder's game really shed a light on how they would rather protect a cheater than tell the gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:52 AM
8

So fucking much, sis. Today a lot of women on Insta (who I otherwise look up to) were talking shit about Rowling again without having the chance to actually read her new book and I felt so down. Lurked for the first time in a while at the GC seedit(?) and easily found an article that made sense of this shitsmearing that is happening now. FDS can often lean towards pinkpillish subjects, male depravity and all, but I really miss the GC part too. FDS is why I'm still on Reddit at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:50 AM
9

Tbh I'm not American, so I don't even know who the fuck Offset is, apart from being Cardi's (soon-to-be-ex) husband. 🤷‍♀️ Just goes to show how she has risen above him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:40 AM
4

I don't know, could we concentrate less on Reddit's opinions on FDS? It just makes my blood pressure unnecessarily high, because I know fully well even before reading it that they do not comprehend a single thing they read here and they just like to take things out of context so they (men) can lessen their negative feelings about women rightfully calling them out. These men won't ever understand what we want to say, and by the way, FDS is for us, not for them. Reddit is a misogynistic cesspool, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:35 PM
13

There were incidents in my home country where the obgyn tampered with biopsy results so he could perform a hysterectomy or in another case couldn't cite a valid reason for tying a woman's tubes. All of the patients were from a certain minority. After this and many other recent and not so recent horrible medical practices that boiled down to racism in the history of mankind, I can't believe that it's only driven by money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:25 PM
38

relatively minor slight, my ass. since when did it become normalized to actively seek sexual gratification outside of a relationship? going to a strip club is like shouting from the rooftops that you want to get your dick hard by paying for watching women who you find hotter than your SO. or who are basically anyone but your SO. but oh, it's just men bonding over a shared interest!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:51 PM
6

It's not fake. A twenty-something woman is behind it and she set the age limit in Tinder so that she would only see snd match with 45+ men. She then fills the account with (anonymous) screenshots of her convos with men. It was interesting to see the evolution of the account - more and more male depravity is surfacing as time passes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:59 AM
8

I always just ask... Can they read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:33 AM
34

They really think men view paid sex as they say on reddit, like how it gives them intimacy and such? Go look at real interviews with johns and see their true disgusting reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:10 PM
46

You know it just means that I'm not like those entitled b*tches, duh. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:23 PM
29

This is absolutely how their backhanded compliments sound, lol. No difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:19 PM
28

If the symptoms are there, you can't even protect yourself with a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:17 PM
27

Whoa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:18 PM
88

I have a high sex drive, but yeah, sex isn't fair for women and I need certain conditions, precautions, etc. Most men just don't cut it for me. It's very rare when I trust a man and I'm attracted to him that much, when we are completely free and wild with each other... And I absolutely despise how sex is commodified. You can't talk to men without them starting to talk about sex less than a minute into the conversation. Innuendos, remarks, softcore advertisements in your face every day. And porni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:20 AM
135

Manwhores are disgusting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:12 AM
75

"I want to be the one who ruins them in my own kind of way"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:32 PM
19

Those female apes often cheat and at least they benefit somewhat from being in a society like that (they are protected, the children are cared for, the alpha doesn't leave, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:30 PM
157

I will make them give up their dreams by only appreciating their beauty, youth and submissiveness and break down their ambitions that take their focus away from me, even for a minute. This way, if they come to their senses later and find out that I'm a worthless douchebag and I can only make them feel somewhat good in bed by only giving affection to them that 3 minutes of the day, they will be trapped because they neglected their growth in all areas of life because of my manipulative ways and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:48 PM
24

Most men aren't even capable of giving enough time and attention to one woman or perform in bed with one woman, don't think these men you see are able to provide and care for multiple women. Usually there is the "safe" and comfortable option for the long term and as many flings on the side as they like for fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:14 PM
21

Yeah, there's a tweet somewhere that says something along the lines if why do we spend so much money on skincare if we sleep on these crusty sheets and pillows at these men's places🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:18 AM
13

Lesbians are fucking awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:22 AM
16

That's where you say someone is clearly unhinged, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:09 AM
2

Thank you for your concern, fortunately I'm in the process of getting diagnosed and referred to a therapist. Thankfully, insurance also covers about 10 sessions so I can save up for the rest if I need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:00 PM
11

I can totally understand. I'm also bi, and yeah, there are so many beautiful women, but I just acknowledge their attractiveness and move on. God forbid I made them or my SO uncomfortable, and honestly, if I have a well nurtured emotional connection with someone I only have eyes for them and save my sexual energies for them because they are the ones I want to show my love for. If a picture of an attractive woman comes up on my feed, I will not turn away, but actively wasting my time by searching …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:42 PM
552

He's ugly, she's average, that's already way above his league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:36 PM
33

Of course they know! Who would be clueless about that if you lust after other people constantly, your SO will feel inadequate? Also, it's just blatant disrespect. Everyone seems to say that ugh, you're controlling them etc. but they miss the point of caring about each other and choosing each other. It's just porn! Yeah, and you're humiliating your partner and making them feel like shit. You're conditioning your brain to find your SO less attractive with the most powerful reward your brain knows,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:30 PM
16

Wow, I'm sorry to hear that, good for you to be extra cautious then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:43 AM
13

Excuse me if it's rude, but why don't you use condoms? You've only been together for a few months, he doesn't do anything about his issues and you feel like you have to have sex to make it work. Why would you sacrifice your health, risk side effects and take the risk of stds from him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:32 AM
7

The mental effects of an abusive relationship are horrible. You don't trust yourself, you still feel like you're walking on eggshells, even if the threat isn't there any more, you're constantly on edge, you feel like you aren't capable and it impacts your professional and academic life. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:48 AM
40

Where I live, we call it slipper too. And my dad kind of has the same mentality as yours. He has a provider mentality and finds joy and fullfillment in that, he is a well rounded person with hobbies, many friends etc., but he has such great boundaries with them. He is a "slipper" in small things too, he loves to call my mom endearing petnames. And he also told me that I too deserve no less and even though he won't say anything bad about who I am with, he hopes I will find a man who will think th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:03 AM
14

Yeah, sorry I don't want to experience that literal brainfry of a relationship again that basically worsened my anxiety and my general mental health like 10x. Ableist, sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:53 AM
67

Preach! He so desperately tries to get a grip, it's laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:45 AM
23

Ugh, I absolutely agree but it just invoked a thought about another depraved thing men do. You know, wanking to acquaintaces/friends' facebook pictures, being on forums and websites where they exchange pics about their mothers/sisters, etc. Hell no. I'm so scarred that I even imagined that my ex would probably fantasize about my best friend instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:43 AM
18

How he makes it about himself is astounding. If we don't want you to talk to an old crush/friend it's because we've seen you pushing boundaries with them like flirting, sharing too much, essentially things that are bordering on emotional cheating, not to mention if you've had sex in the past, or still seem to have strong chemistry etc. But yeah, he conveniently left those things out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:38 AM
6

I can't bear it on myself but girl, I live for the witchy look, it must have been fucking amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:58 PM
5

In the comment she says that her friend posted it on IG, and the friend's bf defended porn in the comments, which is a red flag. I agree that the content pictured is great though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:55 PM
164

Bi women from an Eastern European country here, the Tinder experience is insane. Women of all ages are gorgeous, I was constantly too shy to talk to them and worried that I may fuck up, meanwhile the men... Just like you mentioned. But really, no matter if the women are twenty-one or approaching forty, they are... Lovely. And also have the intelligence, the accomplishments, the hobbies, the taste to show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:22 PM
22

What the actual fuck is that, omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:13 PM
29

Painting your nails and wearing makeup won't stop you from being a misogynistic pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:47 PM
13

Please, ladies, don't become shadows of your radiating, witty, incredible selves because certain men can't appreciate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:17 PM
470

God forbid she's friends with people who she actually loves and thinks they are worthy of praise, encouragement, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:06 AM
9

It is! Like, that lil' baby pup has just hit a new stage of development!🎉 Well, this guy too, but it's a bit late now, innit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:31 PM
25

There are penis sheaths that quite a lot of men use who aren't insecure and find it a great way to provide variety to their partners. Of course, you have to have a penis for that that hasn't experienced the death grip yet. 🤷‍♀️ Or pornsickness. No condom repulsed guys either. I don't promote it, nor I find it laughable, it's neutral for me. If folks can find ways to be compatible and they both enjoy it, I'm all for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:25 PM
15

If I had a cent for every time a man said those things... There is a post about this, guys. We've heard it a fuckin thousand times. Get a grip, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:57 PM
19

I too went through this. My friends and my family were seriously worried about me, they said I was a mere shadow of myself. The confidence, the radiance, my femininity, my wits... All gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:01 PM
23

Of course. I am naturally a funny, easy, insightful person and some guys completely stifle this, meanwhile there is that rare type I can banter easily with for hours, where we amplify each other's humour and deep thinking and where I feel like an absolute prize and I don't have to worry about anything. That is what I search for. Only one of my relationships was like this and quite a few dates had the potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:59 PM
15

Good for you! I wish I knew it sooner, it stinggggsss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:34 PM
19

Ah, there's a Dom sub😄😄😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:31 PM
21

Crime stats, girl, crime stats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:23 PM
25

Someone put this men in high heels please for at least three hours per day so he can learn some humility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:19 PM
17

Also, jokes on them because a woman will at least know how to pleasure their partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:22 PM
65

It's an ancient evolutionary urge to feel, embrace it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:57 PM
58

Ugh, this. He thinks they are doing boyfriend-girlfriend things and care about each other, but oh, they haven't had "the talk" yet so it's okay to fuck around, right? The woman probably thinks they are in the courting stage and it's not on her mind that he fucks other girls, but that's the way men are, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:28 AM
23

As if that's the same thing... Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:21 AM
43

I wouldn't be in either woman's position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:33 AM
25

"He's under pressure" lmao, they will justify everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:11 PM
33

I just looove her reaction. It's all about these gestures for me - he genuinely wants to make her happy with these little things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:32 AM
21

I'm afraid I will get used to the vibrations on my clit and it will hinder me to feel pleasure just from oral stimulation. I like clitoral stimulation the most. Any advice/experience?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:13 PM
36

Imagine making your partner's traumatic past experience into an insecurity of yours. The nerve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:56 AM
32

What bothers me about this is how you said that he told you that if you don't want to hear negative comments from him, don't talk to him. It's not how any if this works. One should be able to put their snarkiness aside if they talk to a loved one, especially if it hurts them. It shouldn't be a take it or leave it scenario. It's a childish way to think like this. Just imagine any other person in any other scenario. If I talked to one of my friends and always brought up something they feel is hurt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:04 AM
28

They want to break down women's confidence so early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:29 AM
5

This. I know this phrase has been overused for the wrong reasons, but communicate. Once and clearly. Then spend more time with your friends, go out, do things by yourself and let him know with actions what he will miss. If he's that lovely, he will try to meet your needs. It may or may not last long though, so watch out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:10 PM
3

Off topic (though not entirely, because of the constant mentioning of cis in the post), but I love your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:31 AM
172

I hope she gets picked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:36 AM
57

Negging idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:45 PM
74

I haven't even watched a lot of his films, but this was absolutely devastating to hear. The sheer bravery and resilience, how he kept his privacy but marched through his goals. How he kept in touch with kids who had terminal illnesses and supported them while he was battling one himself. Heart wrenching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:40 PM
158

Wow, it was so incredibly liberating to read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:50 PM
31

I think it's about caring about their appearance and hygiene as much as women do. Decent clothes, skincare, looking after their hair and teeth, exercising. I'm surprised how many men don't do the bare minimum, but expect women to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:36 AM
17

They are evolving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:28 PM
4

I used this once too! He threw a tantrum when I went off birth control that he doesn't want to wear a condom. Like, really? I'm not fucking children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:21 PM
81

When the woman is in her most vulnerable and dependent state, and after, when she needs the help while she cares for the baby... It's when most narcissists won't hold their shit together anymore and start to show their true colours in full bloom. Abusive behaviour, cheating, even fucking crossdressing, everything they were afraid to show and now have no fear over. Not just narcissists though, regular men do this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:12 PM
40

Preach! They know what women like. It's literally everywhere, they couldn't escape it if they tried. They just don't want to woo you and they want to know how little effort they can get away with. It's not rocket science that we like nice things, nice gestures and consistency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:48 AM
9

If what he says is true, then wouldn't he want to change his influences so he can have more fulfilling relationships and sexual life? Of course he wouldn't, but this is so baffling to me. If they came off of fanservice anime and porn, a whole new world of satisfaction and pleasure could open up to them. Of course, that needs work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:34 PM
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Notice in the response how the gf had to justify being out of breath. He didn't immediately believe her, she had to tell him she was laughing and that's why she didn't have any air, "so he believed her and apologized". No, just no. You don't have to prove that he harmed you. Disbelief shouldn't be his first reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:22 PM
2

This is so important. I was 21 when I started a relationship with a 30 year old man. I only found out how much shit he put me through when I gained more insight from my environment, and I matured a bit more. Sure, I was an inteligent young woman then, but inexperienced and I had to have a relationship with a halfway decent guy my own age to realize that the older guy didn't even do the bare minimum. He's back at his game with a 20 year girl, even though he's 35 now, I guess it just goes to show …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:15 AM
11

His narcissistic rage came up during sex (I hurt him emotionally and he brought it up during sex) and he started to throw a fit about how I am worthless/how he's disgusted etc. while he was in and on top of me. He also almost always threw a fit about how he dislikes condoms (I gave up birth control because I became depressed and anxious).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:43 PM
22

Yeah, they sound/act serious, but don't forget that relationships aren't really considered a "dating for marriage" kind of deal, just like in America. They are men and they don't hesitate to use someone for sex/service for a long time, just like... men do.🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:40 AM
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My very LV uncle told me (he could be very insightful if it wasn't for his own actions) that I have inherent value as a person and I also have an immense power over men as a sensitive and intelligent woman, so I should never ever settle and God forbid I run after a man. Be yourself, lure them in, pick and choose however you like and don't ever let them mistreat you or they are out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:04 AM
76

I'm 25 and I just laugh at these videos. It's always men who look like a hairy testicle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:53 AM
26

I'm Hungarian myself and not all guys are like that, but generally if you keep yourself away from fuckboys and don't give in too easily, they will want commitment. In my experience, it's always been a bit more like "well yeah, I like you, I'm looking forward to meeting you again and after a month I ask you to be my girlfriend". So yeah, they are mostly intense, they like buying you flowers, dressing up, etc., and they are dating to be your boyfriend, but the guy you mentioned is just way too cli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:51 AM
8

It also means that a 15 old girl's smv is about as high as an almost 50 year old man's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:43 AM
8

And even then, Amal is waaay out of George Clooney's league these days looks-wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:40 AM
16

The most notoriously creepy and invasive man I (unfortunately) know and who also has a reputation of being creepy is one of the most conventionally attractive man I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:33 AM
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Or if they say men want "natural" women... Will he wax all his body hair, stick to an expensive skincare routine for years, take care of his hair and style it in a way that looks good, looks fairly natural and doesn't damage it? Does he have a toned, proportional body that men expect from women? (We all know he probably doesn't even have a decent hairline or non-crusty skin)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:27 AM
30

There is/was a neonazi website of a list of "traitors", aka women who are either openly anti-racist, are dating/married to black men or have had children with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:06 PM
57

I'm really starting to think that this is just some powerplay for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:04 AM
12

What he's saying is true, but you don't just tell this to people you want to be with. I mean, the whole FDS mindset revolves around this sentiment, but that doesn't mean we go around telling this to men. We use it to get over men, to not get too involved too soon etc., not to deliberately hurt someone. It sounds like he's either provoking you to break things off with him (especially with the second statement) or he's negging you and wants you to be desperate to keep him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:52 AM
29

Aaah, once a gay man at a party complimented my butt, I will never forget that! It was the best thing, because he had no secret agenda, no ulterior motives, it was just pure appreciation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:00 PM
30

One of my exes told me that my ass is mediocre at best and is starting to sag (he knew one of my best physical assets was my butt - no fitspo, but veeery round compared to my small frame, so he used to compare it to fitness models' so I would feel less). Two men I've been with since then complimented it time and time again because they couldn't get over "how nice my body looks".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:57 PM
4

You can't share the burden of gestating and bearing children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:03 PM
71

Aaaand, here we see a truly mentally unstable person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:30 AM
65

Me too. It's veeeeery dark brown, but most people have mistaken it for black and asked if I dyed it. Also, black hair (even if it's dyed) with pale skin looks incredible, especially if you have the style to go with it. I have blue eyes and I love that my looks are kinda snow white-esque. I don't get why men are afraid of striking features.🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:20 AM
9

"That's a bit deep but I think way outside the box."🤢☠️ Truly outstanding people don't need to rub this kind of shit in your face, because you'll know they are exceptional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:59 AM
17

Negging is a big one. Talking about/talking to/meeting exes. Having girl friends who they are/were(?) attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:04 AM
127

They are even expected to mommy their parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:19 AM
20

And the writers make it look like this behaviour works, because they get together in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:12 AM
48

Also, raising him for what? The next woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:06 AM
16

Twice. 🤡🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:12 PM
17

This kind of entitled behaviour IS abusive if it escalates. Who in their right mind would jump to the conclusion that previously abused women like to be beaten? These guys like to think how they are better than abusive men, but they are nowhere near truly nice high value men who have good personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:15 AM
47

The only part for me that I don't agree with is that they will notice it and complain. Sometimes they just continue to live in filth or "protest" by not doing anything and waiting for you to do the chores again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:15 PM
13

I'm happy for you, but please keep an eye out on him. It can be a red flag if he says all his exes were abusive, watch out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:47 PM
19

You would think that if he knows the woman is leagues above him professionally and is willing to date down, he would at least try to be a pleasant person to be around who celebrates her success with her. I had periods in my life where I struggled, but the success of my then boyfriend or my friends made me feel happy for them. If they do worse or shrink themselves I still won't do any better! And you can work to make the most of your situation, you don't have to compare yourself to anyone else (e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:57 PM
72

Please be wary of sharing your address with him. I don't know much else, but there's a reason you also spotted his throwawayish phone and the details about him just feel wrong to you. Trust your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:33 AM
60

Assuming it can get hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:48 AM
24

They've just found the loophole to feminism by blurting out "equality" now and then. And "dating down"? They secretly mean that in the looks department.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:50 PM
13

What a queen! I was skeptical of how it will turn out, but it's a well thought-out, to the point video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:53 PM
52

Well, he probably only washes himself if he wants to fuck, so it's easy to project🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:20 AM
31

Just ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:14 PM
20

Oh no, it's become a trigger word for a facepalm for me at this point. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:58 PM
78

I wouldn't even explain this to him, he's simply rude, be rude alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:42 PM
45

Girl, you deserve so much better! Wishing you strength for the leaving part, I know it's hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:59 PM
132

I said it before but I'll say it again. No man has ever treated a woman better just because she paid half or assumed masculine roles. If the majority of men will treat me as an equal, if I'll have equal opportunities, an unbiased healthcare system, there will be just as much research regarding female problems as male problems, if I won't be at risk of being abused, assaulted, straight-up murdered, etc, THEN I will assume the roles they want me to. Maybe. Because at that point, I'll still be the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:05 PM
67

There is AskFDS, where women from FDS go and give advice/answers to these men for free, because they want to. In our personal lives, we should have no obligations to act as therapists for men. I will help a man who has proven himself to be worthy of it, who helps me too, who I can rely on. But it's my personal decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 12:31 PM
45

It's negging, but it's veeeery bad negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:39 AM
25

Yeah, right? Most negging men I met at least gave backhanded compliments or triangulated me while giving me a compliment. Not that it worked, because I know their ways and that's an immediate red flag for me that they would be manipulative, but hey, at least it's a tiny bit less straight up repulsive than bullying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:38 AM
15

After overcoming the obviously disturbing part, the rest is also laughably idiotic. The last one? Oh, pursue common interests together, like going to events and camping! No shit, Sherlock, we want to spend our time meaningfully just like men, who would have guessed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:34 AM
44

So are we blamed for their shitty standards too? And their lack of self-discipline?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:34 PM
71

The only skids are in his underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:46 PM
48

In most cases they just traumatize you, hurt you, etc. You make yourself better, you learn from your mistakes, you make better choices. It's you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:09 PM
16

Yeah. He portrayed himself as a very cutesy nice guy and told me that this shit wasn't intentional... But I highly doubt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:48 PM
21

My ex started talking about other women before sex. Just casually throwing in that I shouldn't worry about that flaky patch on my skin because even xy female friend who has perfect skin and isn't as pale as me(?) has some sort of issue. Or he told me how xy (actress or acquaintance) looks good. How his ex looked better with glasses, how a coworker is hotter with glasses. I don't why I stayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:41 PM
3

It's easier to say that they aren't sexually compatible than to face that his views on sex are twisted. And I say that having been involved with BDSM in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:35 PM
19

Isn't that Sade?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:30 PM
12

As others mentioned above, it's an abuse tactic, and by reading your replies, I'm sorry to hear how it already escalated to a certain degree (and I'm also glad you haven't experienced even more serious things). My abusive ex not only tried to make my friends less in my eyes, he tried to smear shit on me in their eyes too, all while masking it under worrying about my depression. It was far too successful. (The other scenario when a man talks this way about one friend is when he lusts after her an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:34 AM
1

Absolutely! The extent of the anger, the toddler like tantrum, and the blatant usage of his current girlfriend is just awful. It's all about choices and working on healing your wounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:24 AM
10

They probably do it badly if they do it as a part of a fantasy that leads them to sexual gratification. I wouldn't trust them to clean the kitchen counter with a hardon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:53 PM
14

Gentle femdom basically means that you are mommying him. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:51 PM
11

If the relationship/breakup was rocky, then you can be upset, or feel a bit emotional in a time like this even after a lot of time and with someone by your side - but it shouldn't be too intense or last for too long. A surge of memories together with the conclusion that you weren't meant for each other and you don't love them anymore, maybe some residual hurtful feelings if you remember how they did you wrong, etc. I absolutely had that, but at the end of the thought process, I was calm and I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:49 PM
140

Why can't we exist in peace and do our thing without men feeling entitled to our time, attention and body?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:59 PM
27

Neither does one wrong and one complacent, and I'd rather be aloof so I have better chances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:56 PM
38

Uh-oh, if she's been with one guy before him, he will obsess over the previous lover's dick size even after 40 years of happy marriage (I can't stop laughing at that infamous Slate advice column post).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:58 AM
37

Yeah, they are visual, but can't for the life of them pick out jeans that make their butt look good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:56 AM
3

I don't believe she was planning this, but I agree with you that even though it's admirable that she achieved so much at such a young age and she could say fuck you to them in a way, the best realization for her will be when she will not give a damn about these lowlife men at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:13 PM
40

It makes sense but it's also so baffling to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:09 PM
25

There's a sub called LesbianDatingStrategy and as a bisexual woman I was welcome there. I don't know how active it is though. I don't know if there are rules there about this, but in the comment section I've seen plenty of references and discussion about being bi and what it entails. How hookups and dating expectations are different, the dangers of bi dating (couples searching for a unicorn on dating apps, etc.).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:57 AM
43

Oh, more like a ring from aliexpress!💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:04 PM
36

She dodged a bullet. I wish she hadn't been used by him in the first place, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:01 PM
180

We may get less attractive with age, but everyone does. Women who look after themselves will age better, not to mention how the baseline attractiveness for young women is sooooo over the top, that it's not much of a loss to decline from there. Like, God, have you seen women in their early 20s? They are fucking gorgeous compared to men in their 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:34 AM
210

Not to mention all that libfem bullshit about how it's empowering and improves confidence and body image. Like, it's in no way empowering to let people exploit you, and even onlyfans has a huge risk of people not paying/stealing content/threatening/outing you etc. And we also shouldn't let nudes be marketed as something that helps you make peace with your body image. If you are confident and value yourself (including your body), you don't go hunting for scrotes' comments about how they find you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:30 AM
87

Guys who talk like this usually look mediocre or subpar. It's baffling to see, but not really, because if you're showered with images, stories and promises of getting a smoking hot woman just for existing, it's easy to get entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:14 AM
23

The "So, is this a date? No, it's a fig." is actually a cute drawing of two ants on a date I saw. Should anybody try to joke with that in reality, I would be so mad, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:10 AM
18

My ex supposedly really loved my intellect. I never tried to appear more than I am, I never purposefully made him feel less (he was a smart guy too), I never acted like a "smartass". But when there were disagreements in certain discussions, I would calmly state my facts and I encouraged him to settle it by looking up the necessary information, instead of arguing back and forth. I would have taken it well if I was disproved (though I kinda knew I wouldn't be because I was well versed in the topic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:41 AM
67

It's a good tactic to not let him know your intentions. This way they give themselves away and don't try to future fake. Wish I knew this sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:45 PM
18

And to demand sex early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:42 PM
47

It scares me that maybe they had the chance to utterly disappoint a woman in bed. Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:36 PM
47

I practiced saying no to lackluster date ideas/last minute scheduling, etc. - it was my earliest try at FDS principles. It's life changing. Even if the guy turned out to be a LVM, I count the first few dates as fun, because I said no to no effort so he tried his best. They usually do. NVM don't try at all so they don't get a chance and weed themselves out. HVM don't even entertain the idea of wasting my time so they put in effort from the beginning without me having to "guide" them with my decli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:34 PM
60

Women should just go around saying casually that the "muscly frat boys" and "young studs" category is a blessing, and that we enjoy those not only because of the beautiful bodies, but because of the guys' stamina and huge dicks. I wonder how well they'd take that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 01:41 PM
29

Rape culture is real. It's no wonder marital rape was legal till the mid '90-s. I'm sorry you had to go through this and that you had to question yourself if it's rightful to feel the way you did about it. I hope you're alright❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:49 AM
14

This. Even time wasters want to move in together, and will plan trips with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:02 AM
36

It is a well known fact among therapists that children's intuition feels off when there's a family secret of any kind. It is a well advised to explain everything to the child on their own level of understanding and not to keep things secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:36 AM
14

The right people will put in the mutual effort of not letting the relationship degrade. Your love will keep them special and you will be special to them because they love you. If you aren't right for each other, this will just make it easier to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 11:29 AM
52

What I really love about this community is that putting each other down like we are socialized to do has no place in here. Like, I know I don't look conventionally attractive, but I have a fit body and some good features and strengths and I know what I can get if I set reasonably high standards. The lady above me is model tier gorgeous and knows it? Hell yeah, I wish her the best and I hope she keeps those standards fucking high. Jealousy and bitterness has no place in here. Especially as some m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:19 AM
76

Groomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:18 PM
54

The wasting of nail polish sounded so fake (or huge pickme). I don't have any problem with women who like acrylic nails or just make the effort to put on nail polish (more often than not I admire their nails), but I'm the (I guess "nOt LikE otHeR GiRlS") short, clean, no fuss nails type of woman and that remark was infantilizing as hell. Like, "every woman cares about their little colourful nails, uwu, you're so vain".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:11 AM
9

This. They know so little about healthy body weight and mass, that explains well why these men are usually a blob (skinny blob or fat blob, doesn't matter). Also, good for you, I'm trying to gain a bit more muscle mass too, the results in half a year will probably put me out of this guy's preferences. (I'm 52 kgs now and 170 tall, and I look too skinny even for my own taste)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:03 AM
14

"I'll explain it to him"💀What, that you can't hold in your period and that when you suffer from cramps he shouldn't act like an entitled fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:28 PM
18

There's a time and place for teasing (and he certainly didn't earn that any time). There's a way to tease - but you need to find out about the other person's sense of humour first. Even if they are self-deprecating, you shouldn't just assume that you can tease them. Also, have a sense of humour other than being an asshole who negs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:39 PM
36

Even if it's hard at first, because you suffered psychological damage, it's still easier dealing with depression and anxiety (that was the combo I got for dealing with abuse) on your own (and with the occasional help of friends and family, but I mostly did the work on my own) than with a man who makes you even more miserable. Trust me girls, it's aaalways easier without a sabotaging partner or just plain deadweight of a man, even when you think you drifted away from friends or some of them turne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:37 AM
118

I admit that this (along with other FDS principles) sounded harsh to me at first. But I've seen what happens when you loosen the boundaries, it's constant heartache and questioning yourself in a best case scenario, and psychological damage and failing at major things in your life at a worse (but not the worst) case scenario. I also mused at whether it means that we as a couple stop supporting each other as a unit, etc., but it doesn't at all mean that. It just means you choose well who you suppo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:32 AM
55

WhAt DiD yOu Do? The scary thing is that (I don't know the context) no matter the situation's magnitude, there will always be men who do this. A news article about a father who killed his whole family? ThE eX WiFe mUsT'Ve BeEn ToRtuRInG HiM aNd He FliPPed OuT. Like yeah, you'd rather blame the mother who divorced him and fleed from the abusive behaviour (that later came to light), than to admit that some (we know, nOt aLL) men are deranged? That's why a man will only ever be high value if he cal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:18 AM
8

She didn't deny it, she just says that it's not common knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:37 AM
13

The another one on the way part really got me 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:27 AM
12

I think people say it with in certain closet bi men in mind, who have side action going on (trying out blowjobs poses risks, but 90% of the people I know don't use condoms for that, even during hookups), but have condomless sex in their long term straight relationships. But that goes 2x for straight men who cheat without a condom and then go have sex with their gfs who risk their health already with being on the pill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:08 PM
80

also, certain stds have significantly more negative effects on women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:50 PM
72

they lie about getting tested 2. if they didn't care about you getting tested, he didn't care about his previous partners so he more than likely already caught something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:49 PM
32

Judging by the good examples that are occasionally posted here, average (or below, even) looking women with standards often find men who are kind, thoughtful, consistent and reliable and who like to woo their woman. These guys are just mad that we appreciate good character and integrity more than their shitty pickup games (because let's face it, they only get laid because they are deceptive). On debate subs, the question is often "are you a ten?", but guuuys, you aren't even a 4, what are you al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:09 PM
102

Like sure Brad, we "resort to" dating strategies that make it harder for guys to date us so we can... desperately attract more of them? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:54 PM
205

Comparing us to TRP and MGTOW, choosing a black woman as a picture to illustrate how "ugly" we must be according to the text (the woman on the picture is in no way ugly btw, though I imagine she must be a bit older than the average age here, idk), and the age old belief that women are damsels in distress and have no problems with countless shitheads approaching us who we have to weed out. Oh, and don't forget, 40-50 year old men run the world and they are attractive so they choose women in their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:51 PM
136

The pic he chose is very telling of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:44 PM
8

Oh, how many times I have dealt with guys who made certain points in conversations about their beliefs and opinions and I had to find out days after that it was all the barfed up nonsense of one semi-famous man. There's basically a local Jordan Peterson in my country and I sometimes read things from him because he's a bit of a political figure too and has a few good ideas about urban development, but I've never submerged myself too much in his ideas. Booooy, but when I did... All of the argument…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:29 AM
19

He CouLd bE a bRoKeR or A dOCtoR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:15 AM
7

Applebee's is for a quick grub (for some) when you're already in a relationship and feel like it. Is he broke? Well, how does he want to support a future wife and mother? Yeah right, they just date to waste our time and have regular sex. And even if someone doesn't want to marry or have children - you want someone who can add to your life. If the woman is well established she likely wants someone who meets her expectations. Also, here in FDS I've seen a lot of women chiming in with cheap but imp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:09 AM
22

Ugh girl, I'm so sorry. My ex made a fake profile for me somewhere too (or just advertised in my hometown how I'm easy), because I got a surge of messages/requests in a few days on Facebook all from scrotes in my small hometown. All my friends and my parents suspected his hand being in it (he was fucking a girl in my hometown so he spent a lot of time there, but he still wanted revenge on me occasionally, this was not the first time for petty behaviour). Literal manchildren. I hope you're doing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:49 AM
7

This. We all know how men can deadbeat or manchild their way out of fatherhood without an ounce of regret. At least they have to pay? Oh, don't worry, they find their way out of that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:42 AM
37

Because surely men are better feminists, huh? As time has proven again and again... They don't just use it to their advantage to get women to perform femininity and hypersexuality for them or exclude women from their own spaces and police the language they use to describe their experiences. /s While I don't necessarily agree with your choice, it's my personal opinion and I understand that I have no place in policing another woman's choices and beliefs. It's none of my business. Why can't men ext…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:21 PM
50

The audacity. When I got away from my abusive ex he went through all the colours of the emotional rainbow - from "cute" promises to threatening me in one day. I had none of it. They don't understand that you get to the point of not wanting anything to do with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:03 PM
7

Sorry to bother you, but do you have any formulas to share? I know everyone has their own unique style, I'm just curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:40 PM
8

She should glue it to his chin at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:35 PM
27

If I heard that, I would roast the shit out of him, because he needs to spend his time supporting his partner who's giving birth, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:33 PM
11

Sorry, I should have known better, I didn't realize how dire the situation is now. I remembered that certain topics are controversial here and that there were a significant amount of downvotes in the past, so I assumed that this is a topic like that. You know, the washing genitals stuff (no joke, I vividly remember), do you use a mild soap, nothing but water, mildly acidic god knows what, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:21 PM
50

Absolutely. You just CAN'T measure the impact of your grip in any way, you can't control it, you can't really keep the pressure steady (especially while having sex), and even if all of the forementioned things were false, you don't know how much pressure the other's body can take. Everything is extremely dangerous about choking, and you're risking your safety each and every time. Not to mention the added horror of people doing it with strangers. I wouldn't really trust anyone with the responsibi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:15 PM
385

Schrödinger's douchebag: he is either joking or not, depending on the reaction. I hate that choking is so normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:53 PM
72

Woke bros use the language that describes them to a T against us. Suddenly every woman is emotionally manipulative, gaslighting, coercive, violent, misandrist, xyzphobic, etc. I get it, women can be abusive, but the crazymaking is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:54 AM
43

Feeling sexy can be tied closely to wanting to appeal to the male gaze, but we are a dating strategy sub, so we want to appeal to men in certain ways. We can recognize that at the same time we can be wary of them, we can know their true nature and we can be incredibly selective with them. I get that the purpose of a drawing with a feminist message isn't that it appeals to the male gaze, but we don't live in a utopian society where we are immune to our socialization of appreciating things that ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:15 AM
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Ladies, we can like these things, why the downvotes? I get it, it's not the main point but if I've been conditioned for 25 years to like these things, then I'm sure as hell gonna keep some of my preferences. I'm trying to get rid of most of my makeup (only using it now because of my bad skin), but non-restrictive, sexy bralettes for my small breasts? I will like the shit out of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:35 AM
43

Also, what money? Most of the guys who comment there have none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:03 AM
72

Well, jokes on men, because MRAs often cite a study about sexual assault that has a faulty methodology: it involves groping and minor slapping as assault against men, but it's not involved in assault against women, so the data is very much skewed. If we took it out, the severity of women's sexual assault would come to light, and they couldn't really cite that anymore when they say how "men are assaulted just as much". Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:02 AM
11

Fax n logic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:56 AM
41

She looks like she's straight out of the video for Strangelove, but somehow even better. I wondered what you consider a timeline not for replying, but for initiating a text/call/etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:02 PM
203

Tell me more about how nice you are while talking about women deserving to be murdered.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:26 PM
13

I'm not overestimating some women's self control, but he seems like the coercive/manipulative type. I met a guy like that. Being on a bus with people on it didn't stop him from trying to get me to fuck him right then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:40 PM
597

Oh, and if they want you to be dominant, it just ends with you performing for their weird fetishes and behaving exactly like they want you to. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:35 PM
59

If there's a huge gaping wound on your leg and I tend to it, will you say that I'm discriminating against your arm? Yeah, it's perfectly healthy, but the skin on it would also benefit from a bit of disinfection, hydrating and soothing, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:14 AM
24

Most of them aren't even attracted to an adult fertile woman's body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:08 AM
11

Exactly. We hate their behaviour, we hate that crime statistics are the way they are, we hate that they see us as less then human. And we call them out. It's not even close to like, being aroused when we see a video of them being raped and abused that a huge percent of men enjoy watching about women.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:06 AM
9

The double standard is truly sickening. Like gosh, yeah, an attractive partner gets me so aroused before and during sex that I need less time and stimulation to orgasm. I don't salivate over guys out of my league, but I need to be attracted, that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:51 AM
10

As far as I know, femcels think like this too. They know they could technically have sex with guys, but they don't want to be dehumanized, degraded and used (which is called sex nowadays). I realize that even beautiful (or just average) women are also used for sex, but it can even be worse for women that are considered ugly. And men (and incels) are surprised that they dare to call themselves femcels, even though they could have sex with a few guys. Like, no, for men, even bad sex is satisfactor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:45 AM
22

The etymology of the word spinster is one of my favourites! Like, you called me a woman who can provide for herself, thus she isn't coerced into a subpar relationship/marriage? Boo hoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:43 AM
32

If you want to help these women, help dismantle the fucking patriarchy where multiple incentives are pushed on these women to pursue "sex work". Blackmailing them certainly doesn't help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:39 AM
49

That was a long way to say how if a guy pays for a date, you're obligated to have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:29 AM
32

To be fair, I'm not religious, but I believe in higher power and when I read the Bible, certain things impacted me very much. It always surprises me how many Christian men utterly fail to live up to Jesus' values (like it's shown in Mary Magdalene's story for example).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:54 AM
153

Women get loved on the condition that they are fuckable, and even then, not always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:12 AM
43

Sex behind a dumpster, I'm 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:38 PM
29

I pity them, because in my perspective even though looks are not everything, these girls... Look absolutely beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:35 PM
6

Thank you, ladies! I'm looking forward to verifying myself on discord, following the social media accounts (hopefully they don't get deplatformed, because, uh, Twitter is also a cesspool), and I also downloaded the handbook, because it's a useful reminder from time to time! I hope we can continue our conversations (it was absolutely refreshing to have a female only space, even when there were disagreements). You all helped me so much directly or indirectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:49 AM
134

It's controversial to have agency as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:36 AM
55

One would think that female hate subs mean the countless subs that promote casual or downright cruel and explicit misogyny, the censoring of women's voices, the mockery, the porn subs of trafficked and tortured women, those that sexualize minors, the ones where literal horror and blood is depicted as fantasy (in drawings), the ones that allow explicit comments of rape fantasies... But alas🤷 It's the one that promotes refusing to give men our body and soul for nothing and the one that promotes de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:35 AM
5

Ladies, you helped me get a grip on life when I was vulnerable, we discussed different kinds of therapy recommendations, I read a book about abusive behaviour before but I got another recommendation about how to stay safe with men I don't know (The Gift of Fear), you helped me when I was about to lower my standards and was bound to be treated shittily, you helped me realize that I had been fed lies by the current feminist trend. And most of all, you never discriminated. I talked to a lot of you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:50 AM
1

Yeah, there's a very high risk to that unfortunately, that's why I said that I completely understand those who don't want to deal with any of it. I managed to find a man who matched my criteria before (we broke up for different reasons), but it's a rare situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:11 PM
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There are a lot of requirements for this to work. He has to concentrate enough on the girlfriend as a baseline, he has to have a productive (not necessarily monetable, just something that has a tangible result) hobby and a healthy hobby besides the gaming, and he needs to do the gaming in moderation. I like to play games occassionally, but if I only did that and considered it a full time hobby and source of interest I would be really empty and immature. I don't blame those women who consider it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:00 AM
7

They are just vile. This is either projection because at this point they would fuck anything even if it means abusing an animal, or their minds are just so rotten that they can't imagine one of the purest unconditional companionship that is between a human and a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:37 AM
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Yeah, that's decinitely how it is. Women try harder even when the system is very much rigged against them (we all know what the school system had been like for centuries - it was designed for men, yet we persist and excel).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:31 AM
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Patriarchy is when those stats are real, BUT it's still men who make most legal decisions (even those that decide about our reproductive rights).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:57 AM
3

Yeah, women often perform it on girls but let's not act like it came from the sheer free will of these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:24 PM
29

And if you let yourself be treated like that it's essentially YOU treating yourself like that because it was your choice. If you love yourself you don't treat yourself indirectly as a disposable toy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:01 PM
23

If you're a student he shouldn't demand half of everything, period. My ex was an utter douchebag, but even he didn't demand me anything more I'm capable of giving. He worked full time and I'm a student with a part-time job that I lost due to covid. He paid on every date (we were together for a year and he paid for dates for the course of our relationship), and when we lived together I only contributed a fair share of rent and utilities based on our incomes and I bought groceries occassionally. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 10:27 AM
3

The truly scary thing is that I had an acquaintance who had both casual and serious relationships with women AND still thought things like this. No wonder, he predated on the most vulnerable and troubled women. He coerced them into sex, formed a trauma bond with them - so he preached that women like creepy, predatory, asshole behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:19 PM
35

Wow, I'm so glad that you managed to start over and establish yourself and that you shared your experiences with us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:42 AM
48

And it's not like you get mad at them for no reason! They do something shitty, you reinforce your boundaries and somehow you're the crazy bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:35 PM
291

This is what a mantrum looks like. What kind of domestic terrorism exactly? In FDS, it's not giving away yourself too easily, because it's important to vet the man. Also, leaving him if he doesn't treat you right. PPF? Recognising male pattern violence, female oppression and maybe opting out of dealing with men as much as you can. Them not being granted our body and soul is apparently terrorism it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:49 AM
29

It hurts so much to see that she even has children with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:30 AM
163

Ugh, and if you point this shit out they are like "omg, you can't take a joke" or "you're ruining the fun already", and I hate that. Men act like marriage is the ball and chain for them while it's scientifically proven that it has more benefits to them than it has to women, that it significatly lengthens their life expectancies etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:25 AM
2

She was a "lewd" Twitch streamer girl btw, so he had no fucking chance. It was absolutely pathetic and it made me change my mind about him very quickly. He "couldn't see" how it was like the thirsty guys' comments above him but it was just like those and it was plain to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:09 PM
104

It's sad all round. Another attractive, loving woman whose self-esteem and sexual life went to the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:04 PM
29

I know it's less serious, but always look out for smaller gestures too! I had a man who was a part of a few harmless Facebook groups (humour, tech, etc.) and he was dropping a reply (the only one I knew of but there must have been more) under a girl's funny comment basically saying he saw her on Tinder a few months ago and swiped right on her then. He tried all the miserable excuses on me, used all the methods to gaslight me, to deflect, etc., I was soooooo tired. edit: Oh, mind you, he was the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:39 AM
100

Unfortunately, the consquences would be way harsher on a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:33 AM
20

Tbh it's true, but that way the girl can't be sure that he would have chosen/pursued/wanted her otherwise and he more than likely won't value her for long or at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:02 PM
45

If they think of you as a walking fleshlight, they won't do anything more to you than they would do to a fleshlight, unfortunately. If someone is paying attention to you, they will know what you enjoy and they will react accordingly, it's no rocket science. The sad thing is that this issue truly goes deeper than what it seems and it's rooted in male entitlement and disrespect of women (with a huge help from misogynist propaganda aka porn).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:45 PM
58

This analogy really backfired on her. Take something that is obviously upsetting to most people and compare it to this situation, like yeah, you're right, most people don't want pent up dirty dishes, it's common sense and basic decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:41 PM
54

The last thing I read about shit like this was when a guy called stomach-kicking(!) and other vile things "high impact play".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 07:19 AM
18

It's also a bit like being bombarded with McDonalds' advertisements in the meantime - the men try to persuade you not to cook at all, but order their specialty of assholery instead because it may seem easier at first, but in the end it only benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 05:47 PM
3

Dating is just spending time together for them where they get to enjoy the benefits of having a girlfriend, it's nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:52 PM
79

He enjoys her fear, no doubt about that. In time, this amount will not be enough for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:48 PM
51

Let that victorian feminist ghost guide you when men try to argue with you about your rights and your place in the world, not caring that you're living what he can just casually talk about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:06 PM
19

Ugh, like I'm sure a child wouldn't bother a lot of women this way (she's not an ex, they weren't and couldn't have been involved, etc.), plus you can easily weed out homophobes in the beginning too. Like, why wouldn't you tell that? If someone doesn't want a man who has a child and is active in their life, let them go for someone else. It's a bit of a "hero" story, yeah, so he could even get brownie points from a lot of women who wouldn't mind the situation, why not seek out those women instead…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:58 PM
62

I get the message, but does every other woman who takes care of the house/children etc. get praised for doing that so the husband can work? Umm, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:51 PM
18

Preach! Imagine the opposite too: if you put all your effort into the relationship, where will you two be in five years? I can guarantee that even if you break your back catering to a man, it still won't be sure that your relationship will progress in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:41 AM
89

That's the reason why men don't date anymore, boo hoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:50 AM
7

Good for you that you got rid of someone who discouraged you from pursuing what you dreamed of! Congrats on getting that motorcycle, girl! I always dreamed about getting one, but I don't think I have the courage or experience I need to get a license for it, to maintain it and all yet, but you seem like you are the textbook example of someone who will be responsible with it and that machine will be in good hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:35 AM
9

And they continue to do so! Today's woke bros are perhaps less rigid in their way of thinking about some roles, but they sure are rigid in others. They still wholeheartedly support porn and sex work, the beauty industry, gender ideology and all, which all contribute to the erosion of women's agency and rights. If the number of women who want to opt out of being sexualized since being children or they want to escape the rigid mould of expectations they have to fit in or they are tired of being tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:25 AM
0

Especially as porn is mostly violent, it is addictive, it's filmed rape, it encourages the objectification of women, it encourages unwanted slaps and other violent behaviour and objectifying attitude during sex. Need I say more? It's also a rabbit hole where everyone goes deeper - which way, it may vary, but every way to escalate the sensory input is vile. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who watches it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:29 PM
146

Because sex meant pregnancy since the beginning of humankind for fuck's sake! Male birth control is constantly evaded, hell, "sneaking" is a theme in porn, and women's birth control has a shitton of debilitating side effects, and it doesn't protect from the many diseases these guys probably have and said diseases damage the female body much more when caught. Geez, wonder why men have to do the pursuing. Hmm, maybe it's that their orgasm is basically guaranteed too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:07 PM
52

It's easy to be apolitical if you are in the most priviliged position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 04:00 PM
65

What a queen, omg, I can't stop laughing😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:48 PM
14

Ah, she looks so good with that subtle sexiness in those men's clothes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:25 PM
28

Okay, this made me tear up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:33 AM
30

Ugh, I had sex with a guy who was big and boasted about his good fingering skills. Umm, the fingering was awful. He even asked if I enjoyed it because everyone said they were. The girls probably pretended to so he would stop it sooner. The sex was like 2 minutes of jackhammering and him dropping a gallon of sweat on me and squishing my lungs out. He strutted without underwear for a good ten minutes before sex so I could see how lucky I was. Well yeah, I like a decently sized dick, but it isn't a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:31 AM
68

A random douchebag, no less. He still defends him while "Jack" went out of his way to embarrass his wife? It's just awful. I would have expected nothing less than telling the guy that he shouldn't be this disrespectful just because his confidence relies only on one thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:26 AM
47

The ol' ball and chain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:57 PM
54

A classical girly beauty right there! Nothing unconventional about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:06 PM
111

This is why it matters that he's using two(!) kinds of power imbalance. No 21 year old undergrad has a business of being with a man who's basically on an extended power trip. Poor girl being gaslighted on being hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:14 PM
123

Poor girl gets harrassed then she's the one who gets yelled at while that scum laughs. When I imagine a pickme, I can't even imagine someone who is so far down the rabbit hole that they are shouting at girls who have been harrassed. This kind of behaviour always surprises me. These are the kind of women who are further abusing their daughters when they get harrassed by the step dads because they are jealous. These are the women that I can't pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:49 PM
74

downright abuse, questionable aged young girls, themes like a dentist exploiting an anaesthetized patient, incredibly racist titles calling black women literal slaves... stomach churning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:42 PM
20

It's easier the get on the pity train and accept the easy flood of pussy coming towards his way than to actually pursue a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:39 PM
5

I know, it's so disheartening. Like we clearly don't condemn masturbation as long as it's within healthy boundaries, yet they manage to bring up on almost every occasion how we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:30 PM
12

It's basically settling from the side of a woman. If there's a potential for stability, she may reconsider her initial views, she convinces herself that the man is attractive enough, even though he may not be her type at first glance, she "learns" attraction, rather than feeling it from the beginning, she convinces herself that even if the guy is not the best she can think of, it will be worth it in the end, because he wil not treat her like shit (which is a trope everywhere we see). And yet her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:47 AM
40

This is such bullshit. Why can't we untie porn from masturbation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:19 AM
73

If it happened, I'd bet they aren't that close in attractiveness and he just got used to her looks or watches teen porn and got used to that. I stay wary with men who believe in this "trophy wife is at most 22" shit. Not that I don't find the pretence of attraction of the trophy wife humiliating, because I do, but this trope is just the "men age like wine" and the "I'm entitled to a 10 because I make some money" showing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:01 AM
5

there's even bloodplay and knifeplay. (reenacting) rape is "noncon".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:53 AM
83

So beating a woman up goes by the name of "heavy impact play" now? Neutering yourself is called an "orchie" today, so I'm not surprised by any means with people's capability to euphemize horrible things, but this was too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:34 PM
9

At the end of my first two relationships, I used a bit of tracking. During the second relationship I had been emotionally abused and there were even some physical instances, so it wasn't a regular situation, but my brain often couldn't believe the utterly vile things he said, so I wrote them down. One would be enough for a sane woman to pack things up and leave as soon as possible, and when I could track these things and remind myself, it was much easier to escape the trauma bond. It was useful …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:50 AM
45

It would be more palatable if it was mutual. I try to reduce this kind of humour as much as I can and I only use it with those who are on board with it, only in certain situations, and if the dynamic is mutual. That's it. Uncultured swine is probably a toy story reference and it's alright, but something is so off there. It's not that we can't take men's humour, it's just that they use it with any lack of awareness. They also don't understand when we joke in the same way, like the girl who got as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 07:28 PM
20

Reading "throwing/destroying things in rage" so many times just breaks my heart. I know how these women had been walking on eggshells for many years and how it reduces your way of thinking to basically "fight or flight" and how it wreaks havoc on a brain/mind full of possibilities. It's incredibly hard work to relearn how to function without anxiety/self-doubt/mental barriers after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:14 PM
27

Haha, sorry, but that's so ridiculous! I'm glad you were wise enough to know how immature this reaction is of him. A grown man would warn you that you left it there BECAUSE you might need it, not because it bothers him. Like you said, he could have put it in a drawer until you come over next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:27 PM
53

He groomed her. She was vulnerable. The age gap MATTERS because of the power and the dynamic, it is said to be wrong because there's a huuuuge imbalance of experience the older man usually actively exercises or just passively enjoys the power. It's not because we are afraid that he looks like a sagging ballsack or that he will die much earlier than the woman, though these are factors to consider too, but because it's textbook predatory behaviour to lock down a young and inexperienced woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:02 PM
109

In my teens, I repeatedly and clearly said no to a guy in my friend circle, who was a friend of a friend's boyfriend or something and who was 15 years older. We were all in high school, the mentioned boyfriend was about 21ish, so I didn't even understand how the other guy was with us. He flirted with me, I didn't entertain him and I was as cold as possible, but he tried to get close to me and kiss me repeatedly later in the night. I always pushed him away, and after literally pushing into his fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:54 PM
51

Well, that's what you get if you want to date a girl ten years younger than you, considering fuck all about your compatibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:15 PM
41

Let's furthen the notion that our bodies (and us women having sex) are commodities/goods/objects, shall we? Nobody thinks that men's bodies can be alienated from them or that they can be used. Are there exceptions? Yeah. Yet is this statement true in general? Yeah. Women are constantly thought of as sexual objects, women are commodified, women are fucking trafficked because of their bodies and how they are thought of as less human than men. Yet these women willingly play into the notion, it's so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:05 PM
10

Thank you for your input. I too believe that it has a time and place and that it can be useful and eye-opening, I was mainly expressing my concern with those people you mentioned - the ones who have no situational awareness and overdo it or do it when/where they really shouldn't. The amount of these people are surprisingly high, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:52 PM
74

I hate the devil's advocate kind of guys. Especially those who take pleasure in the "stimulating discussion" and a "challenging another perspective" meanwhile it's a matter of life and death to me. You know fuck all about poverty and womanhood (or racial issues - but as an eastern european white woman I don't feel I have the right to bring this up now), yet you constantly try to challenge me on my views? Me explaining endlessly isn't enough, you want to go there a few more times? You're surprise…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:23 PM
15

I get the comments about not bashing motherhood and choosing what you want, but girls, this post isn't about that. It's about being foolish enough to put your life into a man's hands. I want to be a mother someday, and I would want to spend most of my time with my children, but I won't. I will do my side hustle, I will not risk a huge gap in my resume, etc. It is for the sake of myself and my future children because even though I will vet the future father ruthlessly, anything could happen. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:15 PM
49

They can get away with many things by questioning the woman's sanity or by making the woman question her own sanity. Crazymaking and gaslighting is easier than ever. If your loved ones know about your mental condition, they can be turned against you too. No matter what he does, your reliability and your behaviour will be questioned, not his. I've been there, it's awful. Sometimes mental illness isn't even necessary. You're known to be self-conscious? If he deliberately lurks at other women's pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:30 PM
37

Holy fuck, how can you entertain a man who gets off to the idea of what traumatized you (and would traumatize anyone)? Poor girl. I can't stand the male cruelty of watching filmed rape and I can't stand the libfem idiocy of defending it exactly because of this. When porn and kink and everything under the name is normalized, rape victims will question if they are in the wrong for not wanting to relive their trauma and they can't question the intentions of the men who fantasize about raping them. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:03 PM
10

Ugh, the mental gymnastics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:09 PM
14

They also wouldn't leave a woman alone for altering their receding hairline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:45 PM
20

Ugh, when I was sexting with my FWB (my first and probably last) with mild BDSM undertones because I was sort of into it back then, it was all kinda nice (not really though, because I preferred it to be thrilling not outright vulgar), until he really got into it. He was just fucking weird and it incorporated all of his fantasies but none of mine. With sex, it was nice, because we found the things we both enjoyed, but with sexting it seemed like what it really was - weird as fuck. Disgusting. Der…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:29 PM
41

Why is dirty cheese sock such an accurate association?😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:15 AM
3

Thank you all for the responses and especially you for the question. I fell into an abusive relationship after this, because I didn't resolve my self-esteem and self-worth issues properly and I also wasn't educated enough on the tactics and behaviour of abusive men at the time. Since then, I'm much better. My mother is healthy, my friend's life started to blossom and she fights tooth and nail with her illnesses and keeps them under control. My cousin lives, which is a miracle, but it still hurts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:51 PM
44

Thank you for the educational text. I've always argued that the "fresh sperm" argument doesn't really stand, because the information that is used to produce sperm degrades with age, but I couldn't really put it so well. Shout it from the rooftops!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:30 AM
114

Prepare for standards and make it double!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:20 AM
20

It's so nice to hear! That's a reaction of someone who truly loves you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:41 PM
92

What the actual fuck. I've been with a guy who was the cute nerd type of guy, and fairly handsome too. He was a cuddlebug, we had decent sex, he brought flowers and made nice gestures. Our relationship went a bit stale after a while, but we were comfortable, we had fun together, etc. (and I loved him soo soo much and he also seemed very much in love for the first half year). He also had to present his diploma projects at the time and was studying a lot, before that he worked as a part of uni cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:40 PM
114

He compares it two a greasy used favorite shirt of his and when confronted with the cultural importance he compares it to keeping his fecal matter. He says how she's an adult in the same breath he says how she won't listen to reason. He says he's devastated because she cared for him, and the first thing he mentioned is that today's dinner won't be cooked. I lost count of the glaring red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:06 AM
12

Ah, that fucking awarded "aftercare" comment... And what constitues "healthy BDSM". Like, holy fuck, the whole dynamic is abusive, especially this time when he tricked her into being beaten till she passed out and without any remorse whatsoever. But aftercare and safe BDSM, right, it's more important to "differentiate the two" than how this poor women is with a sadist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:17 PM
431

Whoa, like, imagine, she wears skirts one day, and then, boom, trousers! She's probably borderline because of her unsure identity! /s 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:33 PM
35

This! You can be absolutely honest, you can even tell the truths that are harder to digest. You don't need to sugarcoat it either, but you must do it with tact!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:41 AM
34

Honesty without tact is just cruelty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:39 AM
25

I'm completely burnt out. I rejuvenated myself with passion for life, I can fancy someone, I can care about someone, but the true love won't be there. Done wrong by my first boyfriend then abused by a long known man, who I imagined I would grow old with. Got myself together, bloomed again and done wrong by a cute nice guy. I can't give any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:23 AM
30

Searched again, I think it has been deleted. I could easily search for the title before. Basically they defended it as harmless statistics and went on and on about what ifs. What if the guy used it for the betterment of their sex life, etc. They especially stressed how we don't know any circumstances so any comment bashing the guy is "a huge stretch". How he has the right to do things like this, because there isn't any implications. The two past girlfriends' statistics overlapped so many people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:06 PM
65

Well, many scrotes in the comments can. If only they wore their opinions on their forehead...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:38 PM
102

I present you the rational sex!🤢😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:37 PM
22

Which is a paradox in itself. Isn't it weird how porn stars, who have sex (according to my radfem views, it's more like getting raped, but yeah) with a lot of different, well hung men are the ones who have the most "virginal" looking vaginas? Clearly there's something wrong with the logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:41 AM
20

Also, they definitely don't have good personalities. I struggled for years because I thought giving chances to ugly men who seemed like nice guys would be the cure for men acting trash with me. It's been proven time and time again, by many women, that these guys ain't shit. They are shallow (that's why they choose you, who is way above their league) and they are entitled (them getting you doesn't mean they will appreciate you, they will only think that if they could get you that is a sign of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:18 AM
85

Did he ever go into detail of what he needed before it happened? Did he strive to deserve it, like he cared about his hygiene, tried to look as decent as he could without losing his essence? Did he pulled his weight like he should so you didn't get flooded with every responsibility? Did he appeciate you, did he keep the spark alive by surprising you, taking you on dates to have new, fresh and exciting experiences together? Did he concentrate on just being a decent partner and not betraying you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:05 AM
69

It truly is. Like it's so fucking pathetic that they just go "oooooh, better stick my finger into her butt, even though she doesn't have a prostate and didn't ask for it, I'm just so fixated on the taboo aspect and anal porn that I can't help myself", then "yuck, there's residual shit in an asshole, who would have guessed, now I'm disgusted by this woman who did nothing to deserve it and I can only thank myself for this turn of events, but I better go around saying that men should definitely try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 08:00 AM
5

I like this wording much much better than "if you don't love yourself, no one else will be able to", that really sends the wrong message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:55 AM
73

As a general rule of FDS: have things going on for you in your life that you primarily concentrate on. Don't lose sight of those things. If you have a solid life otherwise, but you are still concentrating on the excitement of texting a new guy, at least talk to more guys at once, but it's preferable that you value your hobbies more in your free time than you value texting guys. If you put yourself out there and concentrate on the thrill, you are basically training yourself to salivate when he ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:53 AM
47

Poor girl. She thinks he will get bored because she "only wants vanilla sex for now". Kink and sexposi libfems, that is what you get when you argue that BDSM is so fucking normal. It becomes normalized so much that when a young girl is one step away from being abused and raped (she admittedly doesn't want to do rough things), she will think that something is wrong with her and that BDSM is only a preference and that there's nothing wrong with a significatly older guy wanting to degrade her. I'm …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:43 AM
8

I'm so sorry. I don't know where you live, but in my country, the age of consent is also very low and I personally knew a guy who got away with so much shit because of this. He preyed on teens ten years his junior (14 year old girls) and at 35 he's now with a 19 year old girl. They always realized that retrospectively, he was incredibly predatory, pushy, etc., but they couldn't do anything about that. He got what he wanted, got away with it, and left the girls scarred (I know it, I heard them be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:29 AM
4

Well, that one isn't even a speculation like the others, because omfg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:26 PM
15

Ugh, this is and has always been some premium bullshit that I never understood. Korean women are so fucking done with men, japanese women are soooo soooo done with men (both with their own and with foreign men), eastern european women are alright on their own and when they aren't they will use these dumb men mercilessly and then leave them. If they want a mail order bride, they are downright cruel so I won't even go into that. Those women are submissive and domestic because their lives depend on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:43 PM
28

Yeah, I'm not denying that, it's absolutely true. Natalie is so out of place here. Also, the rest of the pictures are somewhat up to date, except for Liv and Natalie maybe, and something really rubs me the wrong way about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:28 PM
48

Google said that she was 18 here, but I don't know how relaible the result is. She looks so much younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:21 PM
68

Natalie was like 18 there (but looks a bit younger). I won't objectify my fellow women, but he is biased by blondeness and boobs in some places and by youth with Natalie. There are so many exceptional faces buried in all categories (Liv Tyler as a 5? Wtf.). Okay, I really can't get over the Natalie part, because Léon comes to mind and all the men who are eyeing her when watching that movie. I bet if it wasn't for being "legal", this guy would have put 12 year old Natalie in here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:19 PM
18

The little bit ugly, "nice" guy is literally this. You think that okay, I didn't shoot too high, but he appreaciates me, right? Wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:10 AM
59

bUt ItS JuSt StOiCiSm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:14 PM
7

Do they think that they choose us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:44 PM
15

Well, he's a cheater for sure, but I don't know much about the rest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:12 PM
8

the gendercritical sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:11 PM
6

Or he should stop at saying that it could be more moist, but that's the max. When I bake I like to receive honest reactions, but that's not an honest reaction, it's just plain cruel. When I bake something that's dry, we will eat it with a glass of milk, I will put pudding on top of mine etc. or I just say that yeah, it could be better, but everyone shoots me down and says that they appreciate the gesture nontheless. I just can't fathom being cruel to the person you supposedly love and who wants …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:59 PM
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I don't know, just wanted to share my first experiences with it: I found the sub as GC's sister sub but I came across the mindset first by Asha C. Connected the two in my mind, but these were two separate occasions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:27 PM
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I hope she stays true to her sane decision, but seeing that she asks this on Reddit to find something to hold onto lowers my hopes. At least she got second opinions on how she shouldn't hurt herself like this by giving him another chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 01:17 PM
83

Anyone concerned about someone "outing" the followers or having access to our pictures? My profile is private, but I'm a bit concerned about depraved males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:43 AM
6

Ah, I know, I know, it's fucking heartbreaking and a very harsh realization. He should cut off the ego games then, but he won't. He feels like he can do anything to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:24 AM
20

Magic portal, I'm dead.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:21 AM
1

In this case, I would advise you to communicate then see if he can keep his promises. If this feeling persists and the situation doesn't improve, then decide what's best for you, but I wouldn't rush into or out of anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:39 PM
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If she isn't up to par to your standards, then why be with her? I'd bet my left tit (thanks, random feminist redditor for the phrase) that he was initially attracted to her looks and he loved that he showed herself on instagram. I don't care about myself not applauding the instagram like-seeking lifestyle, but it's about her boundaries. She isn't his fucking property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:29 PM
32

Yeah, FDS especially advocates for levelling up yourself so you don't need to rely on anyone. However, you definitely don't want a cheap ass man who refuses to be there when it gets tough. Be it financially or emotionally. After all, we want a man with provider mentality, it's not just about the money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:07 PM
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Providing doesn't mean that they should save us. It means that they put the effort in and prove themselves to be reliable and generous for when you will sacrifice your professional life to have his children (if you don't want children, there are other factors too, but I'll speak for myself). You risk your health, you put yourself in a vulnerable position in almost every aspect of life (professionally too), so if he can't put the effort in in the beginning that means he isn't worth your precious …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:12 PM
51

Feminism wants to help them too (it's about being collective after all), but it won't magically make their choices feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:40 PM
4

Wow, the audacity. I'm so sorry. I lost my bunny a year and a half ago. When it happened I was with my ex. He said sorry and cared fuck all after that. He was repeatedly annoyed with me grieving him months after and crying when the memories flooded me. They know how it's callous of them. It's a harsh realization. I'm sorry for your cat and I'm sorry for how your boyfriend behaves. I know it's not much of a consolation, but it was such a relief that I could feel and live through my grief without …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:34 PM
75

Have they heard of the cervix?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:08 PM
15

Well, if that's what he chose then I hope he's happy with that life. Good for you to choose your wellbeing instead of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:17 PM
5

I think if that's the case, they assume those are your best photos and want a "candid" one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:15 PM
94

Unfortunately the focus is instantly taken away by notallmen, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:42 PM
107

Jude Law aged like milk tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:27 AM
64

Unfortunately many men just do it less obviously. They have an insta, they post innocuous things and then they routinely bookmark/search for porn/lewd content (but they don't like it), or they have a separate account for it. You won't really know if they handle the search/recommendations well. Ugh, why is it so hard to find a man who's not obsessed with this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:40 AM
14

Or a nonbinary male who payed for a nonbinary females nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:23 AM
11

She only mentioned "partner", and she also mentioned "prosthetics". Go figure😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:21 AM
31

She's absolutely right by thinking he must have noticed it a she went limp and stopped making noise. She knows that it was intentional that he cared about "finishing" more than he cared about her life. Also, wtf about the part that she's inexperienced with breathplay? The thing is, the risk isn't "just" the unconsciousness, but that the trachea can break and no one knows exactly under how much pressure, because you can't really feel how much pressure you put on it, especially not when you're in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:16 AM
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Aside from the obvious takeaway of not trusting anyone with nudes, no matter how much you think you trust them - what the fuck is this line of thinking men have? You confront them, and they deny it completely, then they try another lie, spectacularly fail... but it still doesn't end here and will lie to you for another time, just to be sure! It is so fucking insulting. Then they cry. And then get upset. What the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:04 AM
116

Utter assholery aside - do they understand how it's not just about the pay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:07 PM
28

This is awesome, thank you for the link! (edit: I'm not too knowledgeable about foreign comedians, I know the most talked about people, but I rarely hear FDS-y humor like this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:59 PM
4

That was my interpretation too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:36 PM
6

There's a show in my country where there are amateur actors and they mostly improvise when acting out the main plot points. It's shitty and it's usually pickme-heaven, but I was listening to it as background noise and there was a scene where 40-50 guy offered a modeling job to a girl in her early twenties. I expected sexual assault or something (it was used as a plot point before, deceiving, etc. and there is a "couple" where the beautiful teen is with a lazy and fucking old guy), but I was surp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:54 PM
40

And they actually care about the wellbeing of the people they lead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:33 PM
112

But only one specific way of motions and rythm will do (which I guarantee will be very tiring to do), teasing is practically useless and I will have to close my eyes to imagine the last porn scene I watched (which will be some absolutely vile shit)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:31 PM
43

hE wiLL, iF thE TimE iS RigHT! ThE CirCuMsTaNceS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:20 PM
75

Ugh, the charging rent to pay the mortgage move is the worst one I've ever heard (fortunately, I've only seen it on Reddit myself, but ugh).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:52 PM
67

They don't even "realize it" they just go into a relationship while knowing full well that the woman will be a good placeholder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:47 AM
4

Well, it would be a serious dealbreaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:51 AM
38

Accepting the things you mentioned are not settling but something even worse tbh. Settling is accepting that you wanted someone who is as educated as you are but you have found someone with a bachelor's who can hold conversations quite well despite you having a phd and initially seeking someone who could tell the same. You settle when you're fit and he isn't as much as you, but you like him. You settle when he is recovering from depression and you can see that he will be alright and you accept t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:16 AM
150

I will always laugh at my ex who didn't want to show that he loved me, he purposefully was cold when I needed warmth the most and who couldn't for the life of him blurt out anything that showed that he plans a future with me yet he managed to cry to everyone about me for half a year after I left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:23 PM
15

It reminds me of the "if his joke was funny, I'll giggle when I get home" tweet, and I'm absolutely here for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:17 PM
20

Ah, the classic case of "I'm the good guy". Hell no, you aren't, at least don't lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:10 PM
48

This "you're all gassed up" and the "y'all need to be humbled" thing is getting on my nerves. It's men who put so much emphasis on our appearance and who only care about that aspect, it's men who lick our feet like dogs when we post pictures, they are the ones who gawk at us and then they dare to be mad that other men appreciate what they appreciate and we know it? Or if we finally find that appearance is not everything and we can be confident in our bodies and concentrate on life, they chime in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:03 PM
23

They disguise it as a fetish and women actively participate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 02:00 PM
59

But they have been bombarded since their birth that they deserve a woman just because they exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:36 AM
45

Even LVM took me out to fairly nice places and picked up the tab, and I'm definitely not the most attractive woman. I also live in a country where it isn't really expected to woo the woman, you just sort of do the coffee and drink dates and it's enough. Why is it so hard to fathom that we are the prize and if you don't pay, other men will?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:35 AM
79

Wow, look! The trash takes itself out!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:29 AM
16

"The other side would have done it" is one of their best tactics ever when recruiting. If they brainwash them enough about how the other side is cruel (which is not far from the truth to be honest, but it's still exaggerated and twisted), then then everything they do can be justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:26 AM
3

Good to read you dumped him. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:20 PM
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No. She loved relentlessly, she loved unconditionally and the man was the one who wasted it by not cherishing it. She didn't know she targeted the wrong person with her love. It wasn't a waste of time then because she didn't know that she was mistaken. Once she knows and it hits her in the face hard, only then she will find that it was a waste of time. She didn't want to be with other men, she only wants to be now, because she knows he's an utter piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:00 PM
4

Men's Rights Activism. It could have been a good opportunity for them, just like Men Going Their Own Way, but they use it to undermine women's problems and do nothing about theirs. If you've ever seen shit like how society doesn't care about men, how they aren't allowed to express emotions, how our society is women-centric, how they rarely get custody but at the same time how women want to trap them with babies, how false rape accusations are prevalent according to them, how they are scared of d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:06 AM
10

Even children need rules and boundaries and examples to be set. Sure, your love should be unconxditional, but you won't buy everything for them on a whim. But I agree, your caring, loving, nurturing self should blossom in other areas (and with other people) of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:09 AM
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In a world where you might have got it because some shithead endangered you and you believed him because you were young/naive etc. and now you're called a slut by society it's tempting to call out how they shame you, but in the end, this kind of "activism" will only help the one who you got it from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:03 AM
61

Sometimes they don't even spend the money when they know they will have sex regularly. In that case, that's because if it happens without him doing anything, why bother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:57 PM
86

And sexdoll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:51 PM
31

Holy fuck, the worst thing I can imagine right now is having my ex's baby and being trapped with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:36 PM
44

Most if the time you won't know he was the bad guy, because he will throw a pity party that his exes were toxic. Not every woman knows that it's a statement that should be inspected more closely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:51 PM
95

This is not the first time I've seen a poorly written revenge fantasy like that. None of the advice here is benefical to shit men and they can't bear the thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:51 PM
1

I definitely agree that it's important to educate women about the systematic bias. As women we can benefit so much from therapy/medication (because unfortunately we are often traumatized), but it's a fucking minefield out there and we need to know who we turn to/what we choose/what are the dangers. I'm currently studying to be a therapist and I hope I can specialize in treating abused/traumatized/struggling women in a way that I can preserve my radfem views/mindset but not be a victim of the cur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:53 AM
20

Ugh, so much lovebombing and preparing his victim for abuse here. I just threw up in my mouth a little, it's absolutely a glaring red flag, you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:21 AM
23

You're so right about approaching these subjects without stating your opinion first. A change of mind is only a facade or it happens very slowly (if at all) and it's no worth to let a man pursue you whose values are a glaring sign of incompatibility and even danger (What does it tell about him if he proudly states he's into BDSM? He will more than likely push your boundaries at least.) Do you really want to slowly and gradually and more than likely unsuccessfully change a man's stance on porn an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:18 AM
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Your poor coping mechanisms need reworking though and the trauma needs to be taken care of because now it's there. If you suffer from severe anxiety you may need meds so it doesn't affect your life in a way that you can't work, can't sleep etc. until therapy starts to work. I really like that you mentioned this perspective and I agree with it, I just wanted to put my two cents here, because many women seem to interpret this view as a basis of dismissing psychology and psychiatry altogether becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:13 AM
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Ugh, this! That woman was endlessly shamed about it, but what's the difference? They are fucking in both situations, they (I hope) have feelings for each other in both situations, and literally that's it. This woman already contributes to the kids' well-being much more than she should if we have the same prerequisites of both the man and the woman in the step-mum/dad situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:44 PM
11

The Slate column would be so fucking funny if it was satire and not reality, but alas... It's a travesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:38 PM
17

I know it may seem biased, but the gay friend thing is actually great advice. Of course not all gay men will be your good friends, but it isn't supposed to be a generalization or "token gay friend" or "one of the girls" feminine gay man type of situation. I have four close male friends most of whom I know from my small hometown (all of them moved to the capital around the time I did and all of them are gay or were questioning but have since came out) and there are some other gay guys who are acq…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:32 PM
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I don't want to judge their looks, they are regular women, but isn't it funny they fit the description of feminists according to red pill/red pill women/tradwives/mra etc.? You know, the regular old jokes about how they may be not the fittest of the fit/makeup/dyed hair (especially unnatural colours) etc.? I have no problem with any of that, I wear makeup and I dye my hair a blackish darker brown than it is, I had all kinds of red hair too, etc., but no matter where I went, this description and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:36 PM
42

He has his excuses, I better believe him and do this all over again. Oh, that's the ninth time he failed me and his excuses don't add up? Sorry, I can't hear you over my clown wig!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:47 PM
123

The fresh water part killed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:57 AM
28

Being cheated on and being hit is just a normal part of life... for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:28 PM
55

I really like the term "self respecting toddler" 😁😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 12:38 PM
2

Absolutely, the hiding is my whole concern and that he can't let go. They were together for long, he was the one who broke up with her, but we talked about this once: my only need was to limit contact with her. He instead hid it. It's enough for me to think that he has no respect for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:14 AM
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That post is gold, I've seen it, but thank you for the recommendation. Yeah, it was basically the last straw that I read that post and became utterly disgusted with his intentions and I became conflicted about it being harmless or purely platonic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:01 AM
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I know that it would probably be the privacy breach anger, he would sulk and go around saying how unreasonable I was etc. and I want none of it. Meanwhile I feel torn now, because I want him to know that he's a little sneaky shit for doing that (I know, he probably knows well). The thing is, we are in lockdown together. I can't just block and delete. The best on my mind is to stay distant, but yeah, on the inside I hurt like hell and it's hard. Thank you for your sane input, I hope I'll gather t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:41 AM
24

She looks like she could get anyone and yet here we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:55 AM
27

Not creepy at all, I use this account for (truly) feminist subs so what I post here I post here, I'm not ashamed. I feel strongly about how shitty the situation is, it's just really hard to get a hold of when he's a true "nice guy". I've heard about their ways but I'm still so shocked and my depression is creeping back. It's not an excuse, I know. I haven't exercised FDS rules when we started dating so he showed HV traits and I fell before I had a chance to vet him. One year in, and I'm struggli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:48 PM
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This post absolutely scares me, but I'm glad I stumbled upon it. I've recently been questioning my sanity on this topic and I have a bad gut feeling about a situation like this. In a nutshell there are two close girl friends, but while I'm perfectly calm about one , I'm getting increasingly suspicious of the other. Just a bad taste in my mouth all round. The name dick tingles is hilarious but I'm really grossed out at the idea at the same time. And rightfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:57 PM
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This is important. I'm so sorry that someone used this traumatic event against you and I hope you won't dismiss this behaviour because a person who brings that up when they are defensive don't have your best interests at their heart like a friend should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:41 PM
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But we aren't shaming them for having mommy issues, are we?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:36 PM
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Oh, they shame her because she is a single mom, but guess what, she has standards because she probably has no problem finding guys to date. They think everyone thinks like them. The baby daddy part sounded a bit icky to me, but as I revisited it, I thought to myself that yeah, he asks her to be away from her child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:03 PM
13

I have the lowest of low value uncle who treats women like shit, but God forbid anyone who treats my mum, my grandma, my cousins or me any less than perfectly. Yeah, it's hypocritical, but alas.🤷 My father is less than perfect, but he's an incredibly kindhearted man and he knows my time is precious and he doesn't go around saying how I should settle because of this, but he tells me instead that I should be rigorous with vetting men so less time is wasted on LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:53 AM
83

You don't want a guy who ignores your boundaries right after meeting for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:41 PM
160

I thought about reframing this a bit, not to justify the sentiment, but to use it to our advantage. From now on, I will understand this as not begging for things again and again, but letting go and reallocating our precious time to a person who doesn't need to be asked repeatedly, thus getting everything by asking for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:08 AM
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Doesn't demand copious amounts of free, unappreciated emotional labour, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 09:36 AM
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I'm glad you see this act for what it is. You learn from your mistakes. And omg, the steak dinner! Don't accept someone who can't take care of you at least as well as you take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:32 AM
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The only thing that counts is the refractory period, yeah, sure. I can't deal with so called sex positivity (which is actually sex negativity and porn culture positivity) any more. I'm just so fucking sure that it isn't "shame around masturbation" but death grip and addiction to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:57 PM
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If only it would keep them out. I have a bad taste in my mouth thinking about this because I envision it as a "gateway drug" with VR porn and the like and that it will just completely deprive them of any sense of reality and moral compass. I laugh at it honestly because it's such a cope for them to think that those forever uncanny valley pieces of sythentic material of choice provide anything of the sense of real sex and a woman's body, but yeah, they are deprived like that I guess. If they "pai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:47 PM
42

In what kind of world you "train" a man and in the same breath let him treat you like you were the dog? Choose the man, don't train him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:56 PM
41

Umm, I hate porn unconditionally, but PornHub is fucking shady, even if I watched porn I wouldn't dare to say that's my favourite. Trafficking, CP, scams, pornstars who committed suicide or overdosed, the verification process, etc. is all nauseating. The whole industry is to blame, but PornHub routinely got away with many public scandals and it's horrible how nobody cares even if these cases go viral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:19 PM
18

Gotta love how they really take their rule of not educating themselves very seriously. Looked at RPWofftopic and the top post was making fun of Dworkin's looks with a "spot the feminist" title, then talking about supposedly libfems with "colored hair and weird glasses" in the comments. Like, they aren't remotely the same but they couldn't stray neither from the "beauty is value" nor from the "hahaaa blue hair special snowflake" mantra. Well, to be fair to them you gotta keep yourself fucking dum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:10 PM
99

How empowering it is to slave for male attention that has very little benefit for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:06 PM
15

Liberal feminism in general glorifies sex work, is mainly pro porn, pro kink, pro hookup culture, pro gender theory (endorses feminine beauty ideals, supports transgender self identification, etc.). There's a lot to unpack here, but the gendercritical sub as far as I know discusses all of these points. Here at FDS we frequently emphasize the dating aspect - hookup culture to be precise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:05 PM
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I'm 190 cms tall and I have a huuuge penis too and I find your attitudes towards my garden gnome bros in the shortcel sub (not that I frequent it, why would I, I'm taaaallll) very disgusting. I, as a handsome man wouldn't ever touch you ugly and fat women ever. Why am I here and why do I care about you then? Uh, let me think for a few minutes. The blood doesn't come as easily to my brain because it has a long way to go... You know, because of how tall I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:12 AM
46

The state of these children breaks my heart. Imagine that the older one thinks that he can't count on his father if he has problems and not just that, but that he has no empathy and thinks so lowly of his little companion that he would have been alright with the dog living or dying on the streets. Diaper rash is the "best" thing that could happen as the result of neglecting the baby. She could die and he wouldn't notice...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:58 AM
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Clearly outlined warning, for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:31 AM
39

Giiiirl, this is gold!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:28 PM
110

This is so funny. So predictable. How can they sleep knowing they sound so pathetic when they manage to flatter then insult you on the same fucking thing in one day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:36 PM
33

Like, what? I'm sure she didn't propose him on leap day while holding a gun to his head to say yes then gave him Viagra and sat on top of him. Sorry for the image, but I literally can't take this level of refusing your huuuuuge fucking responsibility of doing things that were completely unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:28 AM
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They like to shift the blame on boomers as if their tantrums when they don't get sex/have to wear a condom/have to wash the dishes/you say you don't want any fetishist in female bathrooms etc. are any better. Male pattern violence is always male pattern violence. I'm by no means leaning towards the right wing, because in no way would I like to be denied my reproductive rights/work as a maid for my husband unpaid (or support their nauseating ideologies), but holy hell. I get it, if you just say m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:10 AM
25

A horndog at most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:09 PM
13

I'm truly ashamed that I haven't heard about her. Not just on my behalf, but on everyone's who didn't write about her when trying to mention the history of rock and roll. Little Richard and Chuck Berry are usually mentioned, yet not the woman who inspired them and preceded them in creating rock and roll music? It's a shame. On the other hand, I'm so glad I finally heard about her and her inspiring life and work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:08 PM
12

I think it's more about if you have to argue about one thing multiple times and you still see no change/wanting to change. Or things that are basic human decency and things you shouldn't teach him because he's a grown ass man. Communicating is important, sure, but if you can treat boundaries/needs well and you pay attention the first time someone's communicating it, you don't need to argue endlessly about most things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:54 PM
20

I wouldn't reply even to a nice text after him ignoring me (but seeing x and thinking you would like it is not an effort!). We've been socialized to be nice to men even if all we get is a crumb of attention. If he ignores you for long - no communication is communication too, he showed you he's not worth your time. Men often play games like that - if you answer, he thinks you're back in his harem and you still care about him - he gained back his pride, but that's it. I'm glad you communicated you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:28 PM
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If you asked in a more general sense I would say no. I'm not excusing cheating, it's a betrayal and an end of a relationship, but I'm not denying that people are mortal and they can mature. But in this case, what does it mean to you if he fucks someone else after an argument with his then gf? It doesn't matter if the girl was LV or not, it shows poor relationship skills and lack of commitment. Also poor boundaries - why did he tell you this so soon?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 11:03 AM
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I think it's useful to be reminded if how many LVM are out there. The sub has a lot of recovering pickmeishas (including me, and I have come a long way) and though we don't need to go full PinkpillFeminism, many women here live in a fantasy world it seems. We definitely don't need to switch to a scarcity mindset, but it's important to shine a light on many aspects of the strategy - and it's not just the dating part. I know there's the levelupstrategy sub but it's talking about the technicalities…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:59 PM
35

Not just abusive DMs. Look at post history too with any message. Also, don't do emotional labour for them, don't lecture them, if they want explanation just guide them to the proper subreddit and its sidebar at max. Sometimes they present themselves as having doubts/wanting guidance/arguing for a cause and accepting one of your points and raising their own... for like five minutes. Last time I took the bait and I thought we had a worthwhile interaction, agreed on some points and agreed to disagr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:06 PM
52

It's not controversial, it's well designed to elicit happy feelings, but in this case it's not about the game, but about how he's manipulative and wanted to destroy what makes her happy. If it would be a sewing kit, he would throw it out the window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:48 PM
72

You only see them during the most exciting moments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:36 PM
82

It's a form of cheating and we often process it that way, so there's that, but it's more akin to the betrayal trauma that addicts' partners go through. You know, when they promise not to do it, because it hurts you and it isn't worth it to put something above human love and connection, but then you lurk or he makes a mistake and you realize he lied to you about giving up on it and he did it behind your back while you thought things were heading to the right direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:12 AM
18

I was always compared to fitness models and told that my ass looks mediocre at best and is starting to sag by my ex who worked out and was fairly muscular but had a fucking beer gut at the same time because he ate like shit. My current boyfriend lives an active life filled with exercise but he's more lean than muscular (for context) and basically worships my butt (and my body, face, style, humour, personality and all). I was negged so much that I was afraid to sleep in panties at one of my best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:00 AM
90

That was sure a long ass way to say he shouldn't procreate ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:34 AM
247

It's so fucking sad that women have to be reminded of this. We constantly get shitty relationship advice and told we are weird for not wanting our SOs (ir preferably no one for the sake of the world) to watch (and beat their meats to) overstimulating material that is mental cheating basically, not to mention how it's the abuse and exploitation of women. Remember that porn watchers aren't just more likely to objectify women in real life, lose motivation to do good things in life, have decreasing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:56 AM
44

How many shootings have to happen to take it more seriously? This is a kid, and to think that even younger kids died at the hands of a shooter is beyond miserable. He shouldn't have had to demonstrate these qualities, not even adults should, but especially a student. Excuse me while I don't remember him peacefully, but beyond disturbed and nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:42 AM
28

Work/study, pamper yourself, read, pursue indoors hobbies, talk to your friends, exercise. Those aren't rules per se, but try to concentrate less on guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:33 AM
88

Well, I always feel bad for these women that they think they have to prove themselves to these men. Nah, sis, you still believe that if he was rich/interesting etc. it would be a fair "transaction" for your beauty. And you try to prove this to men who think money will stay but beauty will fade, so you're still even worse than a rich old fart. Just throw the whole ideology out, that's the only way. edit: I looked at the context, she just tries to argue with them but their responses are frankly na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:16 AM
17

He has no business fucking women then🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:55 AM
2

It annoys me to no end. Blurting out shit unsolicited and complaining endlessly and daring to say that they are expected to be stoic and I'm (and all women especially here) are childish and need constant emotional support and flood their children with their emotions? Wow, yeah, surely we are the ones who set our whole family on fire. I just can't. It's always projection. I'm not the one who floods my anger on Redditors in another sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:54 AM
3

I worry that she was pressured, we all know how managers etc. can be cruel to women who aren't fuckable in the eye of the public. We can't know if it was her decision or not, what were the motives etc. Yeah, I'm advocating for a healthy lifestyle, etc., but I've read so much about women who were complimented on their weightloss and health when they were mentally the worst they've ever been. She looks good on the picture, I like her music, I'm glad she's not with that leech of a husband, but... W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:41 AM
16

So he wants a woman who tiptoes around everyones feelings AND let's everyone else shit on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:27 AM
31

Haha, yeah, I only really see the glaring "I'm entitled" part. Yeah, you're sure an entitled scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:19 AM
9

I used to be with a man in my early twenties (I'm still only 25 now) who made me believe this crap. I won't elaborate, because we know what shit they spout, but looking back I feel sorry for my past self and judging by how much my perspective matured in just a few years it's horrible to think how these men prey on younger women, and groom even younger girls... And the patriarchal culture that not just the shittiest men make and uphold, but all men. The one where older men succeed but older women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:01 AM
54

Yeah, it was weird with the gender thing too, idk if it was done deliberately like joking with the name. Frankly, I'm a baby radfem, I clearly think about gender differently than she probably meant but if she believes that the baby's sex shouldn't be shared and Elon downright said the baby is a boy, than they clearly have many differences. And this seems trivial on the top of what we already know - how Elon treated his exwife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:31 AM
78

Why do they think their dick is special?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:23 AM
47

Okay, your first response is literally my first thought when they spout shit like this. How do they think they can stretch our vaginas? With what? I can't help the situation if they enjoy coercing sex onto a woman who doesn't want it (vaginal muscles are more relaxed if we are aroused) or if they have developed a deathgrip along with a porn-warped mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:00 PM
28

It's easy to see how the addiction speaks from them. Even if they say they use it "in moderation" - they still can't let it go, they still defend the abuse of women and they still can't imagine that masturbation can exist without porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:13 PM
116

Let's you do whatever you want to her? Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:56 PM
1

Just wanted to add another tidbit: in the setup I talked about the older girl offered to wait for me in the lit up stairwell if I felt unsafe going home in the dark (there was a creepy van in the neighbourhood with a lifesized doll tied to it, you can't make this up), and another girl I later lived with said I could call her on the way home if it felt safer to walk alone that way. Girls are so nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:50 PM
182

Ugh. Women's circumstances aren't any easier. If anything, we have to face our own sex's specific socialization and how it chips our natural confidence away piece by piece by the time we're grown up. What do we do to ease that? We fight for better circumstances to all women and girls, we go to therapy to undo the damage, we support each other. We aren't a free service to ease your mind, shithead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:37 PM
29

Right? They believe everything because they've seen in media that they deserve a beautiful girlfriend just for existing. Women don't think that way, because they are humans with needs, how hard is it to grasp? She won't find you the ultimate prize just because you're a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:33 PM
52

I believed in the notion that they will cherish me more, etc., but that really isn't the case from what I've seen in the world. I still find them cute but I wonder if I'll learn the truth the hard way, because I refuse to believe that "my Nigel" would do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 01:19 PM
6

Find roommates! When I moved away from my parents, I sent a message on facebook to a girl in an aparment searching group, who wanted to look together for a flat with other girls because whole flats were always better priced than singular rooms. She told me there will be another girl who messaged her too. We were moving to the capital because of uni, so we met up at the main train station and spent the day looking at the apartments we called the previous day. We eventually found a place where we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:21 AM
25

Make a plan on how you will leave and as soon as you can, do it. Have everything ready in your new life, so there's no going back. After you break up, block him everywhere. Until you can leave, "grey rock" him so he won't tear you down. Girl, this is not being cheap, it's financial abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:02 PM
3

Girl, you aren't obsessive at all. If he says these things he either just passes time or deliberately makes you feel insecure so you will be hooked on his approval. The latter happened to me, it's like negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:32 PM
10

A 10 year old boy would behave himself better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:28 PM
166

And that, my ladies, is the textbook example of The Mental Load (sprinkled with some "if I do it badly, she won't ask me again").
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:01 PM
9

I even struggle with the comfy ones - they are incredibly comfy for an hour or so, but after it just bugs me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:35 PM
3

No no no, you are still young. I'm 25 myself and I'm kind of grieving my lost (to two shitheads) early twenties but at the same time it's important to realize that you're still young. You can do so much in life, especially if you get rid of this man who disrespected you and made you feel worthless. You don't need anyone to bring you down that badly. I'm sorry you had to go through this and I'm not gonna sugarcoat this, you will probably cry a lot, but after grieving the relationship and your pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:19 AM
16

Another person can't make your life fundamentally better. They can improve on the quality of it, but sometimes you're alone with yourself and the goal is to find that time spent in your head as good as you can manage in your current situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:59 AM
9

I was taking a bus ride home with my ex and there was a creepy guy staring at me, sometimes up and down etc. My ex is a distinctly muscular, tall man, so any man in their right mind would be deterred by that, but alas... And he did nothing. I wouldn't have wanted anything special, from my experience a firm look in the creepy guy's direction would have stopped the behaviour. I expressed my disapproval of his ignorance of the discomfort and posing the guy as harmless. I may be in the wrong, but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:10 AM
28

Thank you for sharing the story with us, although it's heartbreaking to hear things like this. I (and I'm sure others too) wouldn't ever interpret it as victim blaming. I'm incredibly sorry for the woman in question but at the same time relieved that your friend managed to flee. No woman should ever experience life (and death) with an abusive partner. Though it's definitely NOT women's fault that these things happen to them, in world like this we still need to educate ourselves as much as we can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:03 PM
44

The picture is accurate. Soulless because of the lack of empathy towards women and the dopamine rush depriving them of higher purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:49 PM
35

Ugh, instead of taking it as an attack, examine the real message before you downvote others into oblivion. What is the takeaway of shaming Ronda for wanting to be aroused before sex? That young girls will learn that it's alright not be aroused before sex and you can ditch foreplay, that's what. Is it really that important to defend your specific case that you will gladly accept girls being used because they learn that they can "give in" even if their bodies don't desire sex? Edit: did the author…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:42 AM
44

Ugh, this! I've been in the place of both the envious and the envied one and now I can see when I was envious it was because I was anxious about my LVM ex-boyfriend's behaviour. Women can really misplace their anger sometimes. Feeling inadequate is expected in a society that places the most value on women's looks, but we need to overcome this (and ditch the men who can't control themselves and gawk at other women for minutes), and badmouthing eachother definitely isn't acceptable. It's downright…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:51 PM
73

Needs hips? Gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:01 AM
9

What does he expect with being that direct?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:06 PM
7

I'm sorry you had to deal with this. My ex also throwed tantrums when I started to hit rock bottom due to birth control and we had to use condoms. I let him be an asshole for too long, but when I finally had enough I told him after one of his absolutely childish tantrums that I'm not fucking toddlers. If only they realized how pathetic they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:05 PM
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Or they pretend to listen for two minutes and then start to fiddle with their phone, go around the room etc. and when you call them out they start to spout bullshit like how they are able to concentrate on both things at once. Meanwhile I'm here for them, listening to their endless litanies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:26 PM
8

Oh, and the check-ins(?) at the end of BDSM videos. Yeah, sure, it's not like it is likely coerced too.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:41 PM
9

How do they don't realize what they say? It's basically that all men should treat women like shit so they have no choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:00 PM
45

The last one is the most important in my opinion. If it feels like he would be with basically anyone who is pretty and gave them the time of her day, it feels wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:31 AM
37

As you get to know your values more, you start to realize how little you are attracted to those who don't share them. It's a refreshing experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:18 AM
10

I definitely had good experiences with the male vets I know (not romantically though, especially as one of them is gay). Like you mentioned their passion for helping animals really shines through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:14 AM
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Good for you to ignore him! Stay this strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:07 AM
37

My stomach just turned. Small dick can also be changed to weird dick in my case. And to think that one FWB and one relationship can almost max out this board... Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:44 PM
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It indicates a whole mindset and if you turn it around, it's actually great that you can learn so much about a person from these seemingly mundane activities... and act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:38 PM
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But then it's an echochamber! /s It's become a buzzword used for everything. It's a certain strategy with certain values and if it would be open to debate the very foundation if it it would be derailed into oblivion. As I've seen the regular debate is flourishing there, because we don't agree on everything as a hivemind, and that's great. There's also askfds. Tge existence of the sub is already being debated in purplepill, every regular dating sub, manosphere subs, libfem subs, and god knows how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:53 AM
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And CoMmUnIcAtE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:35 AM
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Don't forget that he just does a rewarding activity after battling his daily war! The least he can have is his dreams (of other women) fulfilled.🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:25 PM
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Yeah, what is it with "daily war"? Wtf? And staying off the streets? Umm, I don't know what it means exactly, but not being involved in shady things is called basic human decency and it's the bare minimum. Also he's probably annoyed with the conversation interrupting his gaming.😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:18 PM
221

He thinks he's been pathetic because he pursued you without getting a nude? He should feel pathetic because he asked for one. He probably goes around telling his friends that he's been a "simp".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:55 PM
14

Because they aren't sexually appealing to their pedo minds anymore. Oh wait, they also make fun of teen girls and young women. Well, I don't know. It's just the misogyny in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:01 AM
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Just let it sit that in today's society it's a normal thing to say that you're a "boob man". I get it, preferences, but this is just revolting. Yeah, I'm so shallow that I only care about boobs. It starts showing its true meaning with stories like this when they're not attracted to their wives without the breasts. Personality, for fucks sake. And her other physical features. Aren't you attracted to her face, to her body besides the boobs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:53 AM
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I don't agree with her, but she talks about the vulva, which isn't self-cleaning. The vagina is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:45 PM
23

In my dream world it would mean that women's flaws would be just as much accepted as it is for men to have a crusty wrinkly textured face, but as we know, most men who say things like that aren't of an accepting mindset, they just want to control women. They are either scared that makeup means more options and higher standards or they are of the "take her swimming on the first date" mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:57 PM
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With LVM it's like sex can only be fun and hot for them if it's not with you. And here I am, wanting fun hot sex IN a monogamous, deep relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:31 AM
3

That's great advice, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:23 AM
25

Ugh the top comments are just... Ew. Women are only interested if you don't care, that's why you should just pay escorts. What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:12 AM
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Is he worthwhile though if you can't share these things with him? I get it, there are therapists, friends, etc you can share this with and guys get lazy and even strange if they find out that you were abused. And it's no use for him to know about it if you've already moved on (and it's crucial to be in a right mental state and taking care of trauma before you start dating, that's a given). I still want to tell a worthwhile partner, don't know why. It formed me so much, it caused a huge dustrupti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:38 PM
44

As we have seen it with pornstars like August Ames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:47 PM
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The comments of men wanting a woman who is the same age and women who say that they are approached by same age/younger men prove them wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:31 PM
11

There are dishes that are literally just stewing some meat and vegetables (or just vegetables) together. Even canned vegetables and legumes. Pasta dishes, fried rice, throwing things on a sheet pan. Chicken breast fillet or pork chops are the easiest meat to deal with if you don't let them dry out. There are premade sauces, premixed spices. I'm not living in the US, but there especially so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:42 AM
15

Ugh, that's just unnecessary. As a bi woman observing my own healthy attraction to women has been groundbreaking. Like, there are so many aspects of a person to be attracted to (and not just inner qualities, but in terms of looks too). So many uniquely beautiful faces and bodies. And I'm not talking about the same 90-60-90 woman having red hair or green hair, tan or pale skin, but about different features entirely. Yeah, men have a fetish for everything, but I'm not talking about that. I'm talki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:17 AM
13

I'm not sure if you imply them dwelling on words aimlessly, but if you are, I'm sure I agree with you. Jumping on words and twisting them, arguing for the sake of proving someone wrong - and not interested in the other's perspective at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:26 PM
45

Ugh, same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:18 PM
41

The dangerous ones test you with pestering you. If you say yes for the 10th time he asks you he will not take it as "Hm, maybe it's not the best to pester her", but that "It takes 10 asks to get a yes from her". Also, he will now know that you can be manipulated with other things too. He will pester you to drink something with him and he will pester you for everything from then on because what he got away from this is that you can be manipulated/coerced into things. It's easier to say no for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:34 PM
1

There was a post about how to filter them out and it it would be useful for you if you are otherwise interested in the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:46 AM
41

Umm, I will pretend that I haven't seen the age gap. I get it, I want to concentrate on my inner qualities and I want to be environmentally conscious... That's why I sometimes browse second hand and try to buy only what I seriously need. But buying, like, 5 basic tees and maybe thrifting a few more isn't that hard. Men's clothes are more often than not "unmarked", meaning they are easy to wear and combine, they are no fuss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:51 PM
27

Or that men like small boobs/big boobs/small ass/big ass, but no women likes a tiny penis.😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:44 PM
23

Ugh, that Slate advice column with the old man asking an ex-pornstar if women can feel and remember differences in penis size, because after four decades of marriage he started to think about how her wife had 10 partners before him and there must have been someone bigger than him. Like omg, your wife stayed beside your ass for the two-thirds of her life and you are thinking about dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:26 PM
50

I'm 25 now and when I read this back then I was laughing endlessly about other women's comments saying how he looks like a wrinkly ballsack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:51 AM
21

Baking is therapeutic, honestly. You see the result of your work almost instantly, it's such a good feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:47 AM
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Yeah, that's great and all, but why accept the engagement mindlessly? Why is it the end goal? How do you know that you can trust him all your life after one year of dating? How many men we heard about who turned out to be abusers/fetishists/just plain old shitheads etc. in a few years? We care so much about the ring we are willing to go too fast. With certain celebrities it's still pickme behaviour, it's just pick me for marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:44 AM
2

Ah, I've experienced both the "helper" and the "in need of help" sides of this. I offered a lot of my time when I should have concentrated on myself too, and I demanded someone's time unaware of their well-being (saying that they can tell me if I'm coming off too strong, but unknowingly giving off an aura that suggests otherwise). Keep a friendly tone but guard your boundaries. She needs to realize it herself. And I'm not just talking about the dating situation - what she needs to realize the mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:22 AM
26

Someone said in another thread discussing this that then she should charge him for the days she doesn't use her apartment because of being with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:55 PM
24

Ugh, my ex definitely gets away with this. I don't know who he dates currently, but legend says she's with a 19 yo girl now and I want to warn her so bad, but I don't know who she is and she wouldn't believe me anyway. I would pity her even if she was a horrible pickmeisha like in the original post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:33 AM
11

Vaginal tearing can also happen if you're too stressed for long amounts of time or your hormone levels aren't normal for other reasons, because you will produce less lubrication. Vaginal tears are obviously prone to infections and infections can make your vaginal walls more prone to tearing which is a vicious cycle. It needs to be taken seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:50 AM
28

It's just a matter of circumstances and time. If words will not be enough to put you in your place any more, he will use other methods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:22 PM
9

I'm also like that. Well, I have let myself be treated badly when I was incredibly naive, but I soon sobered up. I think it's pride for me that shows its head even if my self-confidence is lower at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:51 PM
10

I'm also interested, just for perspective. I live in eastern europe, btw, but I like to learn about how men are in different countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:41 PM
51

Who the fuck is he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:23 PM
14

And it's less than him losing his penis. Like, she has huge breasts right now and she will have big or medium sized breasts. C cup is big enough, and he wants a D. It's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:00 PM
14

We should love men with they same capacity they love us. Always measuring how much value he adds to our lives and not just loving him endlessly as a person no matter what - because they can't do that with us either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:33 AM
20

I also don't think he will be able to perform like a "young buck".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:30 AM
2

I don't know if it's suitable, but I think Gimme Your Love by Morcheeba is a very FDS-y song about what a woman demands in bed/romantically.😬 Not much lyrics, but the woman expects the man to set the scene, to be relaxed, loving, creative, etc. And Skye's voice (and her radiating beauty in the video!) is just so lovely. Edit: I just realized it's not older music, but I don't know if it's on the newer music playlist or if it is suitable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:27 PM
17

What would he do if the mother was alive? I know that he wouldn't blame the death on the child if there wasn't any death... But the child is the same. This little girl he feels distant towards would be the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:21 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to experience this, I can't imagine what it must be like. And it's even worse to see things like this when you're just looking for a place to find some support and people who understand. I hope you manage and that you have people who understand you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:19 PM
64

The wonderful little life that both resembles you and the love of your life. That's just me, and I can't explain but I would cherish that I have the child that we wanted and that this child is a part of someone you loved but at the same time is a whole new person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:09 PM
5

Was your ex my ex (meathead, isn't able to identify the source of his physical symptoms, etc.)? He thought of my depression as lazyness, his mother's panic attacks as cries for attention, and just notoriously thought of mental and emotional things as abstract, made up, etc. I caught the word that when I broke up with him, he couldn't process his emotions, because he didn't want to admit that it is heartbreak, that he is mourning a relationship, that he made mistakes, etc. He kind of managed to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:56 PM
19

The DM song "World In My Eyes" came to mind, because it's too about a different kind of "travelling", and that picture is the budget version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:34 PM
8

Oh, he tried to insult all women (and especially those on this sub) being childish and emotional and after me not being impressed by that he tried to neg me by saying how he's friends with a few mods there and that they are (you are) more intelligent than me. I replied by saying that the mods are sure more intelligent because they would have blocked him by now and I listened for too long.🤷 Before that it was all a trainwreck full of already debunked MRA points. I only didn't block sooner because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:02 PM
9

Ugh the wannabe cheaters, pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:06 AM
12

And a different race that she fetishizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:01 AM
94

He will most likely think your panic attacks are fake too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:28 AM
44

WTF. I had an MRA who told me he's friends with the mods here. Did they took up a creative writing course at the same time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:27 AM
1

I was always into vintage 50s (and maybe throw in a bit of 40s too) style, but I didn't dare to experiment with it. I found it's actually very easy to dress vintage inspired and still don't look too out of place. I like more conservative clothes (like swing skirts) on a regular day, but I can also easily amp it up with a sexy pencil skirt if I want to. Throw a tie-neck blouse on with a fitted cardigan on top - all in neutral colours and voilà, it's work appropriate! I really enjoy Dita von Teese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:26 PM
11

And all the while you were the egg too that the race was for. You were there as an egg from the time your mother was born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:06 PM
20

Ugh, they sometimes can't even be genuinely nice. I once would have settled for just genuine niceness, but I came along so many manipulative nice guys who thought of me as a sex dispenser machine to put nice coins in. Fortunately, now I wouldn't settle for just niceness, even if it was genuine, bevause I know that alone without anything else equals a miserable relationship. For both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:43 PM
3

I think it's satire, but wtf is that title on the screenshot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:41 PM
16

Some of the probably want some reassurance and a way to casually talk about their problems without being called misandrists. I start to come to the conclusion that if you don't write AITA at the end and just tell it how it is, Reddit jumps at your throat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:15 PM
13

Ugh, my phone let the messages through, just didn't notify me, but whenever I went into my messages (to look at discussions with other people) it was there. It was essentially muting instead of blocking. I couldn't do anything about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:04 PM
35

That's emotional intelligence. Suppressing emotions is only beneficial for very short amounts of time, like not crying during a meeting or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:01 PM
79

I swear they act like children and then they wonder why no sane woman desires to have sex with them after having to endure their tantrums. Also, this is rape, full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:00 PM
36

If you feel like a fleshlight like you mentioned, it says everything you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:52 PM
17

I treat posts from the seduction sub with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:42 PM
34

The reply to this was that she calls the shots this time because she shouldn't be left alone in this, which is absolutely right. The first guy then replied with something like no, because both of them lost the child not just the woman, etc... They can't seem to grasp that she expected to nurture and grow a life in her body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:32 PM
8

Be honest and if you show enough regret I may stay with you out of pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:39 PM
8

Did the teacher ask the girls? I'm sure not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:35 PM
181

When sex addicts(!) say that you are about to fuck your life up, you're seriously in the wrong with your current decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:37 AM
132

Warn her. If she doesn't listen, that will be on her, but at least you tried your best to save her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:06 PM
8

Reading these I can't even imagine they are attracted to their boyfriends at all. I mean, he acts like you're his mommy, it would kill all my sex drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:12 AM
74

This gives me life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:42 AM
91

I'm allergic to the word 'simp'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:21 PM
32

Ugh, I shouldn't have looked. "You vagina owning people" "You saying rapey vibes is irresponsible"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:26 PM
26

The other side of the same coin is when they see the wife as someone they can't have sex with, especially if they already have children together and she's the good old mamma now who subsequently also cares for him (cooks, cleans, etc.).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:14 PM
24

And watching the baby being carried to term. I thought the pregnancy should have been the line when this manbaby starts to feel cornered and at least she could have had an abortion? But no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:39 AM
24

There was also a niche "college guy" subcategory that included conventionally attractive guys, but they are too Ken doll for me to be honest. Also, some supposedly good looking male porn stars, but compared to the women they are just average tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:20 AM
50

They just give themselves away so easily, don't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:16 AM
11

I was bullied for my looks for a decade and I still get the occassional weird glance, teenagers laughed at me about a year ago on the subway because my then bf objectively looked much much better than me etc. Yet here I am, I had three boyfriends since I was 20, two of them were objectively good looking and one of them thinks he's so lucky that I gave him a second glance. I still have insecurities, but I managed to reconsider how I look at myself. At femcel subs there's this mentality that makeu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:04 AM
31

Ugh. No standards whatsoever. I just can't imagine living with this attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:41 PM
65

They compare it like they would date an overweight woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:40 PM
78

He fucking robbed her of her life, I'm furious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:28 PM
12

Why do you consider your rejection of femininity as pickmeism? What kind of clothes you enjoy wearing? I'm asking because as for me, there certainly was a time where I rejected femininity as a part of being a "not like other girls" girl, but I recently started bringing back some things I genuinely loved at that time like shirts and dress pants, because after dressing feminine for a while I realized I miss them and enjoy wearing them. For a long time, I have been wearing feminine clothes, but I o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:27 PM
39

It's not just the supposed attractiveness - they let them be. They let them age. Women, on the other hand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:14 PM
12

Whoa, marrying your rapist sounds like a nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:14 AM
15

I found that if you do this, you will often find many things to agree on too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:51 AM
14

They were a bit close (because women often reenact trauma within the confines of bdsm), but then they went so so far away. This realization could lead to so many important conversations and yet...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:58 PM
5

It makes no sense. I'm sorry you talked to someone who plays such childish games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:07 PM
8

Sorry, but may I ask what did he use pinterest for that you found something out because of it? It sounds so unusual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:58 PM
11

But the point is, they want to give away their sausage so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:48 AM
21

I worded it quite poorly. The stories I've heard were in the gray area usually and I experienced that from him too with him being pushy and insistent with words and presence (he was wishy washy about condoms, alcohol, revoking consent, etc. with others but never crossed many men's imagined "rape line", and the women were the ones always condemned for coming to his place willingly for booty calls, etc.) but he did nothing physical at the time. It was another case when he was like how I described …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:19 AM
15

Breast size, shape and size of the labia minora, facial features, waist to hip ratio, anyone? Just generally not being a ten and demanding fair treatment? Having too fair or too black skin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:11 AM
4

I too see how incredible she looks (especially as I know how foundation doesn't go on well if I have blemishes and her skin must be perfect underneath), but sometimes it's like they take everything apart with certain women and it's ignored with others. You look like you have concealer on, you're not photographing yourself at your most unflattering angle, you're smiling so it will not be objective, etc. Ah, just why. Or if someone rates a woman high it's called biased and is deleted. Like wtf. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:05 AM
8

The makeup obsession is a bit understandable but they are inconsistent. A recent submission was rated fairly well (7 is like perfect there) and she wasn't told to take off the full face of makeup (done in a natural style) meanwhile others are scorned for even wearing a tiny amount. The whole sub is ridiculous. (and I'm not saying she should have been told to take off the makeup because I think she looks great but they claim to be so objective and rational... and that's reeeeally not the case)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:43 AM
9

I also hate unrealistic compliments. Not like "you're the most beautiful to me" or anything, because it's a sentiment rather than the truth and I can understand, but if it's completely off and untrue and not just in my perception but overall like that my smile looks the best even though I have a huge gap between my front teeth, or that my teeth look so healthy even though they are crooked as fuck on the bottom or that I have luscious hair but it's objectively mediocre at best and is not one of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 09:26 AM
25

I think this is a complicated issue. Some of the pickmes are on the verge of realizing their behaviour will get them nowhere and there are the ones whose minds can't be changed yet, or can't be changed ever. Also, many of them try to throw us under the bus, and if that happens I will not tolerate it mindlessly. We should call out pickme behaviour - I haven't exactly been a pickme but I had my ways and I wouldn't have realized how in the wrong I am if I had been "warned" and someone would have tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:22 AM
24

Almost the same happened to me and then he almost passed the line of graypist-rapist, and I'm 100% sure he will pass it with someone one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:54 AM
67

I have known a graypist, who reveled in this gray area all his life (I unfortunately know many girls who had awful experiences with him - I say girls because he predated on girls ten years younger than him and I was 17-18 when I heard many of these stories from my peers). I think these people are capable of more than that if the circumstances are "right" - with me, he didn't even react to me physically pushing him away and shouting "No! I don't want to!". He backed off after like 10 minutes of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:48 AM
56

Aw, that's really cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:03 PM
158

Oh, so he basically wants to hear from you how he can "catch" (trick) women who he'll actually be interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:58 PM
2

I remember this post, her bf was in a 10ish year relationship and doesn't want to post pictures of them on social media because "he's worried it will hurt his ex" to whom he still talks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:56 PM
20

I don't recall, from what I know so far it was a mutually abusive relationship. Depp sure said horrible things about her something akin to wanting to burn and kill her (of course it's not literal, but malicious nonetheless). But one thing is for sure - it's not black and white and no one should idolize either. It just bugs me when men jump onto any chance to tell how women are abusive but stay silent when women are abused. And 9gag always talks in a good people bad people humanity etc. manner th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:02 PM
1

English is not my first language so I mix things up occassionally between American and British terms😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:39 PM
31

If he doesn't respect her now, he won't ever. She needs him now, he's not there for her and is even contributing to the problem. For some men porn is more important than their pregnant gf and if it's not a sign that he needs to be out of her life I don't know what is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:37 PM
15

Why is this such a controversial opinion? There are environmental and biological factors of depression. Some people need medication, others need therapy, resolving trauma(!), etc. I get it, people who say to people with major depression that they just need to reframe or try certain things like mindfulness are annoying, but it's not a groundbreaking idea that women have gendered upbringing, gendered trauma even, and that your SO can contribute to the problem by being an utter shithead (like in.th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:34 PM
28

omg, it sounds absolutely disgusting. i've read several stories where it was even pictures of mutual friends and i'm kind of paranoid since. glad you're free from his bullshit now, it must've been traumatizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:25 PM
35

Well, it's revolting to even think about but if you're a "sex worker", you encounter many clients, they may want rough things and it sure is an advantage if it's less of a nuisance. I still have to admit that it isn't a remotely believable marketing ploy that you enjoy them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:24 PM
70

As we all know men also genuinely believe that service workers fancy them. Just how many times have we heard about men thinking that the bartender girl likes them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:21 PM
50

9gag is full of shit in general. Regular "girls" (soft porn) content and casual misogyny on the front page. Last time I checked it, two Amber Heard "justice, finally" posts were not too far from each other among the top posts on the front page, both with several comments applausing her getting fired and praising Depp like he's innocent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:15 PM
12

I consider some of his behaviour akin to negging, but that's just my interpretation. Maybe it's more of some kind of emotional immaturity and denial. I still daydreamed about the yearning between them when I read the book though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:55 PM
45

Darcy isn't even a kind man tbh, he's very flawed, but alas, the imaginary richness just kicks them in the balls it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:28 PM
66

Well at least we can function mentally and sexually after reading those. It relies on your mind to imagine things and doesn't just put hardcore pictures in front of your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:26 PM
8

Got half of the bones of your face shaved off? Breast and hip implants? Your vagina is not a vagina? Who cares, you're fuckable! With all the fetishes it doesn't even matter if you still have a penis. You perform femininity, you're good to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:52 AM
33

And the lack of self-awareness, holy fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:31 AM
13

Was her boyfriend my ex? I fortunately didn't know him when he lived in a place where one of his flatmates was a girl he hooked up with or when he lived with an ex (omg) while dating someone else, but I managed to continue dating him after learning about his history. Multiple facepalms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:21 AM
9

Spending on a meaningful way to spend your time is the most wholesome thing. Experiences, hobbies, learning (and not just in an academical and career sense, but for the sake of it, because you become more and you enjoy it) are some if the most wonderful things I can imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:11 AM
11

Ugh, the observation about how he thought of your relationship like he thought of the cheap table - spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:01 AM
5

The best approach is kicking his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:46 PM
15

There's no thought police, you can acknowledge that someone is attractive, but lingering glances or talking about it doesn't do any good, just think about it. I can't come up with any ups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:44 PM
2

That's an interesting point, I genuinely never heard about it, but now I'm curious. Thanks for the viewpoint!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:31 PM
32

One of them messaged me not too long ago and I was foolish enough to respond, because it started as a respectful inquiry. We agreed on something after a brief thought exchange and I thought that was that. After a while, he dumped all his emotional baggage on me, meanwhile calling FDS-ers childish, THEN told me how he's friends with several mods in this sub a how they are more intelligent than me. That creative writing was sure even worse than the one in the post, lol. I wasn't answering at this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:16 PM
4

The mystical unicorns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:06 PM
22

"first venmo request" - what? omg😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:01 PM
40

Also as sad as it is, being lesbian still wouldn't save you from their predatory behaviour and their thoughts. It's horrible, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:31 PM
48

He's just a HVM in general, seems fitting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:26 PM
42

That's how it is. The man who lit his family on fire was written about in a way that implies the wife/ex-wife made him snap and he was a nice person otherwise. Later the news surfaced that he had been abusing her before, that's why she wanted to split, but yeah, imply that this monster who set fire to this poor woman and their children was driven to do this by her. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:38 PM
10

They think it works, but jokes on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:50 PM
8

I get that there are men everywhere who would think like this no matter what the circumstances are but maybe it would help a tiny bit if their ideas wouldn't be reinforced and normalized by the copious amounts of teen porn out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:40 PM
17

Ditching your supposed best friend for a man who showed you firsthand how he's an asshole? Sounds great, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:08 PM
6

True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:57 PM
29

He basically grooms her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:26 PM
3

The man is damaged goods, because he received nudes etc. and I wouldn't want any self respecting man to have his mind damaged with pictures of women he can't get out of his head. He should advertise from now on how he's a slut who fantasizes about sex this much and can't keep his eyes closed. We all know how if a pencil sharpener sharpens many pencils, it's a good sharpener, but if a pencil has been in many sharpeners, it becomes useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:57 PM
10

I had many times where I deeply craved sex (like I would get excited about my hair touching the skin on my back😬), but I still could consider the physical and emotional risks rationally and didn't attempt to hook up at all. I know, testosterone levels, etc., but that isn't an excuse and sex is not a dire need like food and water. I don't want to talk over you, but many men talk about it this way, and they try to justify their actions, just like in another FDS post about them saying how "men need…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:45 AM
40

Slim chance? Really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:34 AM
77

But it's not even much more work, tbh. The measuring and mixing is the same amount, the frying might be 5 minutes more at max. That's how little he cares about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:45 PM
110

My gf/wife has issues with me not understanding how porn not only exploits women and normalizes violent sex and rape, but how it traumatizes her because I basically sneak to the bathroom to jerk off to hotter women than her instead of satisfying her in bed for at least once in a while! Umm, I think she has a problem! What do I do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:09 PM
30

Women demand equal treatment, she can pay for her own stuff - haaaa, omg. Edit: Translation: the woman who will trust you, love you, provide emotional support for you, who will go through the risks if having sex with you, who may eventually bear your children and face all those risks and complications too because she loves you may deserve spending some money on to court her, but only if she will be a mommy bangmaid and if she doesn't object to being considered an object and property (be it publi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:38 PM
254

...If they are men. Otherwise, just entitled bitches and choosing beggars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:11 PM
9

I imagine there might be other reasons too, like how men think in general that women (especially the beautiful ones) live life "on easy mode". I absolutely understand where you're coming from, if you're not miserable and shaking 24/7 and you can manage it just enough that you kind of keep yourself together, or if you have some good moments, then it's somehow isn't a valid concern in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:52 PM
12

She is probably relieved that he watches porn instead of pestering her for sex all the time, even if she doesn't want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:07 PM
22

I hate these people, really, I can't help myself. I knew a guy who doubted I had depression and thought I was just lazy, he also thought that his mother "made up" her panic attacks. He has a younger sister, who unfortunately has always been very close to him so his views rubbed on her very much. This girl recently started to have panic attacks too and I felt so bad for her that she still lives with her brother. Fortunately, he has a decent boyfriend and some great friends who help her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:03 PM
8

If you are in the company of people who do better than you to inspire you than aren't they lesser because they have you in their company? It's just a question that always pops into my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 03:20 PM
3

They overrate average men and underrate even the modelesque girls. That's the whole point of those rateme subs. Please, for your own sake, don't put your worth in strangers' hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:47 PM
88

Ugh, can I go a day without seeing a comment about how to mother your boyfriend if he doesn't want sex because he likely has depression, but you won't know it because men are conditioned to hide their feelings? Edit: a male commenter "diagnosed" a woman's boyfriend with depression after she said that he doesn't want to do anything despite her offering him "45 minute guided bj sessions". You can't make this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:11 PM
16

You've put this so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:04 PM
54

They could have just sad humiliated, negged, brought down etc. at this point. There's nothing humble about letting men use you because you think you're worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:10 PM
35

Having an amazing, loving woman by your side who you're also sexually attracted to... Must be so scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:50 PM
9

I could say a thing or two about this fair "fight it out" bullshit too. While I had one girl who called me names and tried small tricks on me and I genuinely couldn't stand her presence, but I had one boy who stepped on my feet in sandals with force so one of my toenails would rip open, I had a boy in kindergarten(!) who kicked me in the stomach totally out of the blue (we never spoke, he was in a different group) before a big kindergarten play we performed for the parents, I had two boys in pri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:41 PM
60

Why are they so entitled to being catered to them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:09 PM
15

Does someone know why can't I search for the pickmeisha hall of fame flair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:59 PM
56

I don't know how old you or the man are, but OMG. Posts like this really inspire me to call out men more when they are behaving inappropriatepy. Most of the time I can't bring myself to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:37 PM
29

Ugh, suddenly younger men and 9gag came to mind with all the bullshit fake optimism and faith in humanity sprinkled with rampant misogyny and jokes like this and maybe some soft porn too because men can't go a few seconds without ogling women. War flashbacks. I stopped looking at it for a looong time but recently went on: two "justice" posts about Amber Heard getting fired from Aquaman cast. I had to bleach my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:35 PM
64

This is important. He's a dickhead with you in women's best years according to most men (I don't agree with that sentiment but your early twenties are for building the foundation of your future opportunities), which is a travesty in itself. But seriously, now and later - he only deserves your time if he at least respects you, but even not then - he needs to add value to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:13 AM
174

And even using a dildo doesn't really count, because they have a fucking prostate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:10 AM
33

This. They only say it so they can seem "fair" and "rational", but if they were any of that, they would see how they aren't remotely comparable. Promoting violence against women is apparently the same as warning women against said violence and depravity and maybe occassionally calling it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:42 AM
38

Have you seen the comment "GC iS ThE tErF SuB"?😂 Oh, my God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:07 AM
81

They compare it to fucking r/Jailbait and r/BlackPill, wttfffffff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:07 AM
75

"BoTh SiDeS"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:18 AM
17

I love how I am thirsty for learning and how I have a widespread general knowledge (besides my academic depth) because of it. I like how I have an eclectic and unique taste in everything (but I'm not falsely prideful about it or anything, it's just nice to see the well curated things in my life). I love how I can convey my personality externally all while being environmentally conscious. I love how easily I can make people laugh and how my humor is not at all offensive. I love my ability to chan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:41 PM
5

Ah, cute dogs! I always get distracted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:25 PM
7

Her videos were the first FDS type content I watched. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:00 PM
5

It reframed in a way where it's not true anymore. Women don't oppose the video games, they oppose the neglectful behaviour that surrounds it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:58 PM
3

At that point if you're fucking a rubber ass why is it so hard to touch a bit more rubber? It baffles me. I'm sure it must be nice to have sex with a woman without condom, but with a rubber ass??? Why does it make a difference?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:54 PM
2

I'm not advocating for fleshlights or anything, but there are ones that are clear and try not to resemble a vagina. At least buy that, but not a whole fucking fake ass or a disturbing uncanny valley sex doll, for fuck's sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:52 PM
42

Jared, I'm the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:36 PM
51

In an alternate universe the man goes down on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:33 PM
20

Tbh, I found it kinda positive and funny (not the actual post, but the implications). Go girls, be independent and "disobey" the men as your heart desires and take no shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:10 AM
8

And he answered well to the questions in the comments. Not to put him on a pedestal, but when there are considerate guys genuinely intrrested what women have to say, why on earth we would want to be with a guy who doesn't care about our financial well-being, who wants to make us dependent on them, who demand housework from us in exchange "to be fair", etc.? Why? GooD LuCk fInDinG a GuY wHo WiLl PlAy ThE RoLe Of YouR FaThEr aNd PaY fOr AnY or yOuR tHinGs! MuH mONey, MuH RuLeS! There are considera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:53 AM
9

And then they dare to go around and preach how they are superior to us intellectually, how they are like basically the masculine role model you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:51 AM
15

This is important. Shit-smearing, trying to make your friends get on his side, deliberately making you feel ugly are insidious tactics, believe me, I have experienced them by my ex. He might have seemed like a good guy, he genuinely helped the elderly when he saw there was a problem, he gave sound advice to his friends etc. - but he wanted to hurt me. Make no mistake, these things aren't accidental. Why would he say that he finds you not hot enough if he could have broken up with you respectfull…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:42 AM
25

I cried so much with each version I've read or seen (apart from the Disney version). I think it doesn't need a wholesome ending, it just needs to be more of a cautionary tale. It's tragic beauty lies within seeing how love and being selfless won't get you the honor the other tales promised you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:42 PM
70

And not just the paying part, but the "Omg I can't pay for camgirls and onlyfans girls or a premium membership for pornhub now? But muh money and muh body, muh rules! I hate these insecure women, reee."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:21 PM
32

Absolutely! Most women don't even dare to demand basic decency. And what's with that you're not a ten mentality, Michael, you're not even a three.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:53 AM
63

BuT wAS sHe A TeN? OthErWiSE sHe HaS No RiGhT To DeMaND sO MuCh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:27 AM
67

I used to go out with my girlfriends and men used to approach me. My narc of an ex constantly told me it was because I look easy. Well, thanks man, that's straight up negging. I wasn't telling him to brag, or to make him feel bad, it was just a regular occurence that was moderately annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:23 AM
264

I wAs UsEd fOr My BoDyyyy! Sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:30 PM
64

If it's a woman, it's pussypassdenied, if it's a man, it's divorce rape! So logical!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:27 PM
7

Your interests are, well, just your interests, don't ever give up on them if they make you happy. Aside from the fact that you don't need to cater to anyone, if you still seek some femininity, I advise you take a good look at yourself (not just on the outside, but among your inner qualities too) - I'm sure you'll find something to embrace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:20 PM
91

Childhood trauma, bullying, a first relationship where I was naive and he was a shitty, sneaky kind of nice guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:36 PM
33

Simp is supposedly a man who treats women well. They think nice guys get screwed over so they chastise men who are nice, because in their minds that is being emasculated and a pushover basically. If someone is nice and doesn't get sex in return it especially triggers them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:10 PM
5

Yeah, retrospectively this is usually painfully accurate for our situations with these LVM. Some operate with more or less tactics of the above mentioned, but they are mostly the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:48 PM
13

I'd frame it this way instead: if society goes in the general direction of women having to resort to or pushed into sex work and it's normalized and you can't see how they are abused and exploited and men defend their right to watch porn ignoring all this... The women are still at fault! In no way it is a concern that these boys will view women their whole life as sex objects. Nooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:55 PM
8

Why do you need validation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:03 PM
29

Or if we went around saying that you shouldn't help men if you won't get dick from them, if they aren't a 10/10, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 03:54 PM
53

I have only gay guys in my close circle of friends. It just happened to be that way organically, but it's so nice. If they compliment me, it's always genuine or maybe a tool to lift my mood up, but it's no flattery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 03:50 PM
48

The audacity... The point of dating more people at once is to have more options, not to neg one (or all) of them with the fact. A grown ass woman or man can see the signs that you're seeing other people, it doesn't need to be said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 03:43 PM
34

I've been there. He tried to neg and gaslight me, and told me it was shitty of me when I didn't answer the phone at a set meeting time. We set up an evening to meet and the time was clear, only the place needed to be agreed upon. He messaged me multiple times how he's so busy and needs to know the place too (we were like 8 hours from the meeting) and when I didn't answer in an hour or so (because guess what, I was actually busy) he started to get mad and throw a tantrum. Of course in a "sensible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:22 AM
69

Ugh, he didn't get it the first time, the second and the third either... How dense can they be? Edit: And oh my God, the side-eyed emoji gives me war flashbacks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:46 AM
58

Are these men virgins though? If so, then sure not because of their own will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:05 PM
22

Everything to defend their addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:47 PM
34

Oh, some don't even worry about inserting kindness coins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:03 AM
54

How can they prove that each upload goes through a mod team? It's bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:02 AM
126

Ah yeah, the "simping"! How dare he look at things rationally and realize that human connection is worth more than an addiction. Truly baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:13 PM
119

They might learn from it - learn how to manipulate the next woman, what secrets to keep next time, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:03 PM
60

One thing though: you didn't dump him because you were listening to strangers' opinions, or because of FDS, but because you realized how shitty partner he is. We are often gaslighted beyond belief by the man himself, we are conditioned by society to be understanding, to "just communicate" even when there's literally nothing to save and to tolerate shitty treatment by our SOs. Most relationship advice is from women who are also conditioned by the same society and men who empathize with the men in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:01 PM
7

Even though I'm not really religious, I completely agree with the sentiment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:45 PM
171

They like to co-opt "my body my choice" and other phrases where it really isn't applicable and where it has no meaning to justify their shitty habits. Honestly, it's not just that he was ungrateful and rude and ignored her needs completely - but she tried to make him realize how bad the industry is and he shat on her values. I feel sorry for the girl, but at the same time I also feel that "using" a cam girl just crosses the line of cheating too and she shouldn't have thrown her (very well inform…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:39 PM
32

Or about having the "decency" of a deadbeat father who just disappears, but doesn't conspire with his mother to fake his death. Just wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:48 PM
69

Honestly, a learned skill won't go away with time, like your looks. And you don't have to sacrifice your mental stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:36 AM
12

Like fine wine, they said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:26 AM
63

This will be controversial, but I wouldn't attempt to save someone who wants to help a violent rapist. And I don't even think there is a way to successfully save her either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:23 AM
48

If you can't resist, keep it very short. I started out this way and I soon found out it's not worth it to even respond. Now I don't even entertain the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:20 AM
54

He is either that dumb (which is definitely plausible), or he tries to go for the pickme-est pickmes so he'll have an easy time. Maybe I think too highly of him, he's definitely fucking dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:29 PM
8

For jobs or accomplishments - it CAN be a good thing but it also should be fair and without any undermining or hard feelings. Competition between us in these cases should be about concentrating on our part and making our best effort to prove we are suitable - and that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:25 PM
34

Even if it's about your looks it definitely shouldn't be a comparison. It's awful to hear that I am more or less than my best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:22 PM
8

I'm no native speaker myself, but checking out is definitely indicating an intentional thing as I understand and ogling is an even stronger word, basically staring, so you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:16 PM
9

Well, they still have to trust them with their body, so... Just sex and no expectations won't suffice. People who are into BDSM often say the same, but you literally have to trust someone enough that they will not bury you if you suffocate, but dare to call the ER instead. "Vanilla" still has it's own complications as it is, you have to trust them not to sneak the condom off, to disclose their STDs if they have one or more - and yeah, basically I woudn't trust anyone on these things without know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:59 PM
55

I would say it's more like you can't help if someone enters your vision and for a moment(!) you forget about yoursepf. It should be fairly unobservable when you catch yourself and you definitely shouldn't take a "better" look at them. Recognize they are beautiful (in your mind) and that's it. We will all see great looking people, but you shouldn't voluntarily seek them or voluntarily give a second glance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:36 PM
100

They also think that all (or most) men are like this, so why should they bother, another man would do the same so they stay with the current one. They are right in thinking most men are like that, but you have the option to not be with them and find someone who respects you. Or bear the consequences of not finding one and being alone, which should still be better (I say should be, because not everyone builds a fulfilling life alone, but the possibility is there) than being with someone who ogles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:32 PM
82

Fecal incontinence is the true sex positivity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:44 PM
176

This is a trainwreck. I didn't think I would ever say this, but I hope it's a man larping as a pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 02:00 PM
46

We aren't remotely comparable to redpill, incels, or mgtow, but it must be the same case that it's with women speaking and how men perceive it. You know, how if women speak 50 percent of the time it's already too much for them - in this case men can get away with saying absolutely hateful and vile things, and not just in the aforementioned subs but in the most obscene and disgusting pornsubs too, while women are called hateful for recognizing these things and stating them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:52 AM
91

They don't really love these women though. The moment any nuisance/issue or serious problem comes up, they're out the door. This is because they see their value in the services they provide, be it being an eye candy, contributing to status because of said beauty, doing household chores, bearing and raising kids, licking their feet... If these things get compromised in any way - aging, illness, pregnancy and postpartum difficulties with mood, health and looks - the woman's value is decreased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:47 AM
55

I feel for this guy. Searching for the unicorns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:40 AM
28

He can't find the dog's leash in two minutes? You won't go for a hike, even though you organized it a week ago. You're going to the concert you desperately wanted to go to but he was wary of letting you go alone? He'll be sure to bring up an outdated argument on the subway, then huff and puff and go home. That's how fucking petty they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:40 PM
34

I had been in a situation like that. I didn't want to have sex and I said it, but I was fine with kissing. He started to masturbate on top of me and I was disgusted, but I wanted it to be over so I could go home and never talk to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:17 PM
32

If they didn't want to deceive you, they wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:12 PM
27

I know we are much more than this and we shouldn't entertain the LVM idea of what do women bring to the table, but... This. I am thoughtful and caring and I have the right to be very, very picky about who I give my precious time and efforts to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:56 AM
23

There is a new statistic going around about wome assaulting men sexually just as much or even more so than they assault us. They regurgitate it endlessly, forgetting the minor statistic failure that is groping being included in their definition of sexual assault against males, but not included in what constitutes sexual assault against females. Bravo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:33 AM
22

Something like leech/parasite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:26 AM
4

If she knows it will deter him, then for sure, get it by all means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:23 PM
5

It's no use if he's that unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:36 PM
12

If you see a man who seems HV, don't tell them. He will prove himself and be glad to do so. Also, you can't really know by a profile if he's different or not, it's risky out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:34 PM
84

If the man likes flowers and he does more outrageous things for her, and appreaciates gifts in general, it could be a nice choice, but I'm 100% sure that isn't the case. The friends can see it. edit: I forgot to add that with men, I would choose a self-sustaining plant in a bottle or a regular houseplant even, but flower delivery is just fucking cheesy for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:11 PM
112

I'm so sad for her, but I have to say it: this is a warning for all women why you shouldn't give in to pay a loan from your account, shouldn't even share a loan, and vet the man ruthlessly if you want to have kids. My heart breaks for these women who do so much and receive nothing in return. They deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:32 AM
50

He was dating someone else and was a supposed friend of this girl, what the hell. Proof that these things don't clear them of the suspicion that they will harm you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:10 PM
10

Ah, beautiful and comfortable sleep- and homewear is everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:51 AM
8

I don't necessarily agree with you on everything, but face cream is literally to hydrate, soothe and nourish your skin, I don't get why your coworker thinks your face should get crusty because you don't have a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:50 AM
20

Whoa, you look great! I don't get how some men see an absolute beauty and the first thought that comes into their mind is... THIS opening line?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:26 AM
50

He's not your "best friend" if he doesn't care about your well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:09 AM
200

"You still don't have a man" - as if any man would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:03 AM
36

Poor woman saying she's the one who's too sensitive for this. Nah sis, no excuses needed, you're right to feel this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:12 PM
32

I hate that it's normalized this much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:15 AM
44

Absolutely. I just wanted to highlight that with these men you can conform to their standards, even be a virgin, it still won't be enough. That's how I realized being a pickme doesn't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:23 PM
163

Some things don't change with men: if you are attentive, intuitive etc. in bed, they think you must have sucked and fucked every guy on the planet to learn that skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:31 PM
20

Is this real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:06 AM
27

Some of the comments are once again sickening. Yeah, he abused her but she was a dick and all signs point to her cheating... What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:59 PM
19

They throw around words that also support that they gravitate towards a shitty political party despite hearing countless arguments against why it isn't a good idea and that their words don't match their actions, but I'm sure saying it's their cognitive dissonance would be dismissed instantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:09 PM
10

You better rap on somebody's job site, I'm dead.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:02 AM
14

They have seen the sources before, believe me, but they don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:22 AM
7

It went down in my mind like a terrible movie. He comes to me to help me with the flat tire. If I refuse, I'm afraid he'll get aggressive. If I accept his help, he will at least bug me for my number, and most of these men are instructed on the internet by "benevolent" pick-up forums to find a way around me giving a false number. Will he get angry if he finds out then and there? Or if I give him my real number, will he bug me endlessly via text/call? Will he use it to find out more about me in cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:20 AM
32

The source is "muh dick" usually.🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:05 AM
9

It isn't a good enough reason that he didn't socialize enough. Does he do it with men? I'm sure not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:02 AM
1

It isn't a good enough reason that he didn't socialize enough. Does he do it with men? I'm sure not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:02 AM
19

Consent and gatekeeping are thrown around mindlessly these days. I swear if they see activism speech, the only thing they learn from it is to use buzzwords and ignore the actual message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 08:13 PM
50

Flaws are an understatement on this guy's part. You will find that even women who suffer from their partners' porn use say that otherwise he's a great guy. You can still see that's usually not the case, because she tells that with the details - disregards her needs, choices, boundaries in in bed all the time, etc. - it's not a flaw, it's a telling sign that these men don't care about these women. These aren't otherwise great relationships. What constitutes a good relationship to this man? Meetin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:44 PM
40

They can't. Even men going their own way can't go their own way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:55 AM
11

Yes, this is so important: it can have an effect. Not on those who you're debating with, because they are a lost cause, but on those who lurk. I still get in the trap of debating privately - now that's unnecessary for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:54 AM
5

Putting aside (though it's hard) that the whole industry (and the websites too in term of accountability) is absolutely vile, it makes your sex life shit. Nothing to add here, sex gets unsatisfying and downright shitty. The emotional aspect of seeing (or knowing) your SO is going out of his way to get off to other people (as disposable objects - sorry, can't get away from thinking not just about the cheating part) is just emotionally draining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:32 AM
77

Jesus Christ. Never tell me again they can feel empathy towards women. The acts he advised to pretend are rare, because most women are just left to deal with it, they go to the clinic alone, etc., and then they tell if it happens, it's an act. Great job, boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:17 AM
12

It's such a pleasant thing when you find someone who loves to cuddle as much as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:00 PM
28

This isn't exactly just pornsick shit, it's downright misogyny and getting off to women doing the most degrading things. Well, which is essentially what porn is about, so you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:56 PM
38

And even if he doesn't share, he'll be sure to keep it. Do you want to risk getting his phone/computer hacked, getting a virus or just fiddled with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:46 PM
38

Yeah, he makes no sense at all. Basically, he couldn't say that his own set value is derived from being intelligent, kind, spending his time in a worthwhile way, or anything. He mentioned money and looks but in no context that actually makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:14 PM
99

What he can offer is money, but at the same time he won't offer money. He demands looks, but doesn't offer looks. We don't know what he offers besides his ego and supposedly horrible personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:57 PM
53

What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:30 PM
96

They see older, good-looking (the opinion on that may vary) celebrities and think they will age that way, but the truth is that those men were cuties and like 10x better looking back in the day than they are now. Those men who look better nowadays are that way because they have learnt what kind of hairstyle and facial hair suits their faces, they work out and have learnt to dress better. That you didn't care when you were young and look better compared to yourself doesn't mean you look good obje…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:20 AM
48

Hahaha, oh god, sorry I'm laughing but he said he regretted sex when he was the one who lasted 2.5 thrusts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:48 PM
53

He has the eyes of a serial killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:46 PM
6

Especially as there are many shops that offer a basic line, so you don't even have to sacrifice comfort if you want to be presentable. These are curated garments that are designed to be comfortable, look good, go well together in terms of colours and cuts so you basically can't go wrong. In this climate that caters to men in terms of fashion so much, there's no excuse. Their style doesn't have to be "marked", if you know what I mean, they can be as plain as they want and spice things up with thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:55 PM
55

They try to pursue the best too at the same time. They try with everyone basically, but what's new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:25 PM
1

Rigorous medical-grade skincare and professional multi-step peelings at clinics are a thing.
/r/askFDS21/03/20 05:30 PM
6

It's very insightful of you that you not tell him how you know. Wish you success in this situation. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 10:35 AM
16

Shouldn't have read this now, I have no words for how absolutely vile and horrible this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:43 AM
3

Why is that such a controversial opinion? Everyone wants positive forces in their lives. Men especially operate that way when searching for a partner. I still think OP can find someone, but more slowly and organically, through friends, maybe someone who has seen most sides of her and likes her nonetheless? My ex's ex had dark humor and had this sort of attitude, but he said he started to see her redeeming qualities after a certain time has passed in her company. I'm no bubbliest bubbly girl myse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:34 AM
18

I honestly get it, but why do you find bubbly people boring? It's a bit "not like other girls". Sure, you don't have to like everyone and some people can be fake as hell or even annoying by being almost forcefully positive. Also be wary of the guys you might attract, sarcastic/dark-humored guys often hide their true resentment and misogyny behind "jokes".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:23 AM
9

You need to check up on him and he has to be accountable. I hate to say it, but he might look it up behind your back, even at work/in the bathroom, anywhere where you can't reach him. It can be very addictive, but I'm sure you've already read your fair share about this on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:03 AM
15

I agree with the sentiment of not making the first step, but there are other things in the mix there. I wouldn't trust anyone who trashes their ex in terms of looks. Even personality, if he says vague things like she was crazy, etc ., or if he makes a point of degrading them. Yeah, I had a shitty ex, but I won't bring him up, ever, unless the situation absolutely calls for it. Did I also have an FWB who was weird-looking? Hell yeah, it wasn't my best decision, but if I go around telling everyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:02 PM
5

First you just feel something unsettling in the air but he doesn't do anything yet nor does he imply it. Then you start to feel like you're walking on eggshells. Or that something is off. I've been there and I won't ever entertain the idea tat a dog that barks does not bite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 07:44 PM
17

I get the vibes that "staying off the streets" might mean that he's not fucking around? Whatever, if that's her only expectation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 07:34 PM
8

Not having Reddit on your phone sounds like a great idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 07:14 PM
49

Have they ever heard of invisible women? No, because they refuse to see them. "It would only be fun for the first year." I would also tell him that if he wanted to be a woman who is seen, but that might not even be fun for a month, because creeps would find him before that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:44 AM
26

I laughed my ass off at the first comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:16 PM
20

I was talking more along the lines of good men are hard to find, and why are we even dating any of them... But the majority of men being shit doesn't mean that we should overvalue the semi-decent or decent ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:56 PM
24

She almost got the point, but... yeah, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:44 PM
10

My father is exactly like that. He works with rock musicians but he refuses all invitations to go to their parties, he seldom goes to the concerts, and if he does, always with my mother. He keeps contact with his friends but he chooses what extent spending time together should go. He catches up most frequently with another happily married father (still a healthy amount and the man is a very reliable family friend too) but he has stronger boundaries with friends who have been assholes to their si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:34 PM
42

Porn should be heavily, heavily regulated, if we can't fully make it non-existent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:52 PM
61

It's been proven time and time again that us striving to be equals this way doesn't bring equality that matters. If I split the bill I still have more chance to be sexually assaulted, that won't change because women en masse pay for half of the bills, it won't change men's minds, and if I'm not assaulted I will still be likely to be used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:33 PM
12

I found this kind of speech with the typed out smiley faces instead of emojis, the weird abbreviations like ppl, no capital letters, u and ur, etc. is used when people try to convey being supportive/friendly and most importantly non-threatening (I don't see why, but the common ground seems to be this). It's incredibly weird and I don't see why anyone needs to use it, when it's otherwise a mature message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:06 PM
10

I found a lot of times you can find things in common with most people you are drawn to. A lot of things. The people I've found common ground with still weren't for me. After I moved on from my crush, my first boyfriend, a lot of suitors, my next boyfriend (and even the man I'm seeing now, I love him, but the things we have in common might be other kind of things with others)... Whoa, I feel the current connection, but if I think about it, the men were all the same in terms of having some similar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:00 PM
13

Aaah, I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:29 PM
51

Nothing sexier than a woman wanting to please you because she depends on you. Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:11 AM
28

Oh god, the comments with escorts and Ukrainian women bullshit. My head hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:50 AM
32

But why aren't reports reviewed properly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:40 AM
50

I also worry for women's sanity who are closed in with pornsick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:35 AM
1

I'm so happy for you! I'm sorry you've been through all this, but you will not take any more shit from men from now and you will thrive with this attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:29 PM
1

This is it. What did women get for ever lowering their standards? Nothing. If we study the easiest example: if you give chance to an ugly guy, no matter how much better you look, he will not be grateful, instead he will think highly of himself and may try courting someone even better looking, because if he got you... You all know where I'm going with this. Everybody knows that even if this bad boy Chad theory was true, there aren't that many Chads wandering around. Let's be honest, truly good lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:27 PM
48

Oh how many stories I (and many other women) could tell about those "nice guys".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:23 PM
56

He knew what he was in for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:18 PM
56

They are talking about how she abused him. If the roles were reversed and she hit him after him "talking shit"... They would still blame her for hitting, thus abusing him. These men deserve to rot alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:53 PM
9

I was unlucky. I got together with seemingly great men, but one was basically covertly an asshole disguised as a good looking "nice guy" who pursued me, we were in love etc. and the other was a narcissist. I haven't heard about any of those situations before, I was very inexperienced. In the first situation there was an asshole brother involved who smeared shit about me and tried to distance me from my then-bf. The said boyfriend was also very conflict avoiding, and I didn't see it as a red flag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:01 PM
7

There was a sub called fatpeoplehate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:00 PM
15

That sure is rape! Seeing these girls and women being told that it's anything other than that is horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:57 PM
21

Is his dick made of gold or is it a guaranteed mindblowing orgasm? They like to ask the same question, but yes, their orgasm is almost always guaranteed, so it's not even a valid comeback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:03 PM
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Guro, snuff, incels, casual and less casual woman-hating, sneak pics about sisters, mothers, daughters, covert CP, fatshaming, yeah, it's all on the spectrum of subs that are running free, sometimes banned or quarantined due to immense pressure, but very rarely. Did I mention cult-like children grooming trans subs? I just can't deal with it anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:52 AM
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Or when they do it "accidentally", but it literally hurts and injures the woman because it's without preparation (and consent of course). They feel utterly violated but socialisation sits at the top of it and they still try to resolve, still doubt the man's intentions etc. It's so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:48 AM
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It's contributing to the exploitative and abusive system that harms women tremendously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:22 AM
23

My father also helped my mother and he now cherishes her even more than before (even before, he put her and me first, always). I just really hope he didn't have "needs" to take care of in the meantime. It gives me a tiny bit of solace, but the situation with men is still dire. Absolutely dire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:17 AM
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What needs? They always act like sex is a dire need to survive. It's not. Food and water is a basic and dire need. There are situations where you need to put sex aside. If your regular relationship is sex- or pleasureless, then sure, solve it or leave, but this is a completely different case. Men can't love the way women do, that's why we can support each other and have a strong safety net most of the time while they can't. It's not due to some skewed system in favour of women like they think. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:11 AM
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Sorry, but I couldn't care less, because he doesn't have basic reading comprehension skills. For the last time: FDS isn't about manipulating men into relationships, but vetting them, taking no shit from them and nexting them if they fuck up. You can manipulate someone into a relationship but it will never end well. We date men who already truly want us, that's one of the things vetting is for. You don't chase the man, you don't respond to low effort - because it leaves those who are high value a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:56 PM
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