The country singer Elle King has a song titled "Drunk (And I Don't Wanna Go Home)." There's a section in the song that goes,
We're in the bathroom gettin' chatty, there's a line out in the hall
Tryna be my sugar daddy, gettin' handsy in the stalls
Singing ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh
I'm talking 'bout you-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh
You like my gin and tonic kisses, 'cause you know they taste so sweet
And I know you got your missus, but there ain't no one like me
Talkin' 'bout you-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh
Mmm, I'm talking 'bout you-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh
I've bolded the lyrics that are relevant to my question here. There's a concept known as the "Madonna-Whore Complex" or the "Madonna-Whore Dichotomy" that describes the phenomenon of a man not being able to love and respect a women he lusts for and not being about to lust for a woman he loves and respects.
You may disagree, but to me the situation the song describes seems to be an example of this phenomenon. If you listen to the whole song or read all the lyrics, you'll see that the narrator is a woman who's sort of a "bad girl" - she shamelessly gets wasted, she seduces a married man. She's a "party girl." One characteristic of a man having a Madonna-Whore dichotomy is that, in principle, he disapproves of and wants nothing to do with women who are "bad girls," "party girls," and "sluts," but another part of him can't help but lust after them and desire to engage with them. Likewise, in principle he likes women who are "good girls" - women who don't go out late at night to the bar, women who don't get wasted, women who don't frequently seduce men when they go out - yet the "good girl" bores him, hence why he needs the "bad girl."
And I know you got your missus, but there ain't no one like me
This line seems to describe a married man who has, on paper, a "good wife" yet finds himself, in a sense, addicted to the excitement, wildness, and sensuality of the "bad girl." Perhaps, as well, he finds it exhilarating and irresistible to "break the rules" and engage in a secret affair. The part about "getting handsy in the stalls" while people wait outside to use the bathroom further exemplifies the spontaneity and "rule-breaking" that might be so addictive.
This is my question: How frequently do married men grow bored of the "good girls" they have wifed up - how frequently do they fantasize about hooking up with exciting and seductive "bad girls"? Is a "good girl" wife really enough for a man? Will he not either fantasize about or actually go to strip clubs, acquire a sugar baby or side chick, and/or consume pornography depicting women acting like "bad girls"? It seems to be frequently suggested in the manosphere that if a man can just find and obtain a pretty "good girl," he will be set for life and his eye will never wander. Is this really the case?
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