Men who feel like constant "roasting" or insults disguised as jokes, should be a normal part of a relationship are a giant red flag to me. Many of these men have underlying hostility or contempt towards you and women in general.. This is way beyond a little witty banter or lighthearted teasing. Some men will constantly "joke" that their girlfriend looks bad that day, about their mental health, body or physical features, joke about hitting them, insinuate that they're annoying, and just pick apart a woman and everything that she does.. They're telling you how they really feel about you. Please listen.

ESPECIALLY if it's a topic you've expressed (verbally or non verbally) that you're sensitive about.

Never been a fan...I don't understand why so many women act like they're ok with this. Maybe some truly are? Not to mention these men tend to be, at best, super immature and exhausting...but likely verbally and emotionally abusive. Life is not a 24/7 comedy central special with mean spirited putdowns...and I have been told I have a great sense of humor. Roasting should be more for people you are not romantically involved with, but even then, it's often problematic and misogynistic, or at least questionable, when men do it to women.

I believe a man who is dating you or in a relationship with you should actually like you as a person and that should be clear. Unfortunately, I've been in situations where it wasn't.. I feel there should be a level of tenderness a man has towards a woman he says he likes or loves...I think you should be laughing at situations and observations, and sometimes over silly things that each other does or says..but he should mostly be laughing with you, not at you.