Wife’s new 23 year old bf

Striking-Trainer8148 · 2023-07-01T13:14:16+00:00

Send him a mental thank you card for temporarily babysitting your kids and ex.

Bro do you remember ourselves at 29? The prospect of taking care of someone else’s kids was LOL.

Bipolar_investor · 2023-07-01T20:39:15+00:00

She was never yours, it was just your turn

Which_Emergency_2413 · 2023-07-01T12:48:02+00:00

I mean we all know on the surface this looks like a terrible idea for her. On the other hand, you can even find in this group stories of young guys hanging around with older women and families for years. Idk I just hate being replaced before the divorce is final. What a bitch

JohnnyLaw281 · 2023-07-01T12:47:21+00:00

Honestly, the only thing I would be concerned about in this scenario is whether or not he is of sufficiently good character to be around your children. If he doesn’t give off any perv vibes, then I wouldn’t worry about it.

If your kids have questions about why mom has a rotating list of new guys in her life, you could address it at that time

ideliver22 · 2023-07-01T14:35:28+00:00

Not your monkey. Not your circus.

Be the stable and consistent one in your children’s lives. Play the long game and be the parent your kids need

DatabaseSpace · 2023-07-01T20:10:28+00:00

It’s funny how the narrative out in the world is that leaving a women for a younger one is a scumbag move and all single mom’s exist because they were abused.

In reality that’s exactly what the women are doing and it’s totally acceptable to ruin a family and go have sex with a 23 year old.

This guy is a punk and can’t get any girls his age. Straight up loser. It’s her fault but he should know better. This is why family law needs to change and nobody should be getting married anymore.

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-07-01T13:54:54+00:00

Either way, he’s immature.

If he is a mature guy, he would not even entertain a relationship with your ex wife. Kids, co-worker, not even divorced yet, age difference…….not a good situation for a 23 year old.

Thinking he could make this work as a relationship is naive. Being naive is a form of immaturity. Maybe well intended, but no idea what he’s getting into.

Either way, I see zero chance of this ever lasting. He’s immature.

Your ex is equally immature. She’s either consciously bringing a boy-toy around her kids, knowing it won’t go anywhere or equally naive enough to believe a 23 year old has an interest in her mess.

Amazes me how some of these women still believe that they can spread their legs into a meaningful relationship…….

Zealousideal-Bear-37 · 2023-07-01T19:45:43+00:00

Lolol is all I have to say . Wish him all the best , stop thinking about the bitch , and move on with your life . Plenty of advice here on the sub man. Or just do what I did at 37 . Get jacked , get some tats , get a Ducati and have the ladies crawling my man .

captainchippsixx · 2023-07-01T13:42:03+00:00

Slim and none. It’s free tramp AZz. He’s not paying for anything yet. When that changes, he will be see yah.

This is a good that you will be rid of her. You are young still! Don’t let her come back! Because she will. Time for you to focus on your purpose and being a dad.

I would call the principal and just say, hey nice school your running there. Im sure families would like to know you approve of unethical teachers working with their kids.

Watch strong successful male!

upfnothing · 2023-07-01T13:28:44+00:00

Sucks….Someone else’s problem…cowboy up.

Awakeningof17 · 2023-07-01T19:00:26+00:00

Wow, you've got their lives planned out for them in your head, even down to them having sex 3 times per week when the kids are with you. This post is all she this and he that. You are obsessed with them. What you need to do is forget about them and what they are up to. Focus on you and your kids. Sort yourself out, get in good physical shape and show your kids how awesome their dad is. Or you could continue showing them you're an insecure, jealous and depressed excuse for a man. Increase your value and you'll be able to secure your very own 23 year old.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-07-01T20:11:15+00:00

If he's good to your kids then who cares. Let her disappoint someone else in the bedroom for once.

rexxleo998 · 2023-07-02T06:27:12+00:00

Get your passport is the best solution. Take a trip to Thailand

dnbndnb · 2023-07-02T08:18:00+00:00

This is an affirmation play. She gets to say “hey, I can still land a hot young dood! I must be damn hot!”

Meanwhile he says to himself “man, this is fun! She puts out easier than girls my age and I don’t have to work at it!”

It can never last.

Significant-Air-2302 · 2023-07-02T14:08:58+00:00

Hang in there. I know it's difficult by try to focus on yourself and the kids. Unfortunately she's no longer your responsibility in any way shape or form other than the mother of your kids. That's it. Whatever she does on any other areas of her life other than being a good mother doesn't matter anymore. Focus that anger resentment or hurt on yourself. Change that energy into something useful, hit the gym, think of activities for your kids, be the best version of yourself in many shapes and forms.

Eventually that pain and resentment will go away. You will be fine. Everything will be ok we just have to go through this. Trust in the process 💜

Fresh-Brilliant4550 · 2023-07-01T13:44:08+00:00

You gotta move on. She can date and sleep with whoever she wants now, and there isn’t anything you can do about it.

The good news? You can too. Stop focusing on her and what she’s doing and build yourself up.

iSurvivedltd · 2023-07-01T13:47:42+00:00

This won’t last. He’s a rebound.

He’s 23. She’s ten years older. He will come to his senses soon enough

Be patient

SoupDense1670 · 2023-07-01T20:25:20+00:00

If they were screwing just recently and its been 2 months then let me tell you honestly they have been at it for longer than that. Get your self tested just to stay in the clear. Hit the gym, make more money. Fuck that 20 year old, he is just sticking around till he works with your ex. Get a new girl, hotter than her. Fuck bitches make money.

You can date a hot 25 year old. Then flaunt it around your ex to kill her inside.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-07-01T13:56:15+00:00

If you were dating a 23 year old we’d all be giving you high fives.

I know you don’t want to hear this but you’re going to make yourself a wreck keeping track of who she’s dating. Your goal is indifference.

And no, to answer your question this guy is not going to stick around. He’s going to get laid and then move on the second some responsibility gets put on him. But that doesn’t matter.

playerknowmore · 2023-07-01T16:09:02+00:00

Character! 23 year old cheating with a married woman lacks the character to sustain a long-term relationship. You may also factor in that faithfulness no longer bounds your ex to a relationship. This time, she went younger. I don't see how she doesn't cheat on him for money.

You supplementing her lifestyle will only last so long. Once support stops, there is no way a teacher can afford her attention. Find apathy, my friend. Hold her accountable for her bullshit. Many men have rebuilt a better life from where you stand.

bayouguide · 2023-07-01T13:16:13+00:00

Change the kids schools.

sicrm · 2023-07-01T13:35:23+00:00

the biggest thing you have to worry about is the guy your wife is dating a creep who poses danger to your kids or not.

everything else isn’t worth the trouble or energy. pour that into more productive things and use it as fuel if you have to.

Lumpy-Prior3261 · 2023-07-01T14:37:05+00:00

I don't know where you live but where I live if you are still married this is considered cheating . Sounds like they are doing a little after school specials if you know what I mean you could probably get them both fired from there jobs and this would ruin there teaching careers it would follow them were ever they went . You need a lawyer and fast . You have the upper hand here . But you are still married to a woman that's cheating on you .some states you have to live in the same house for a year before you can divorce . The UK its2 tears I believe

mrclark121 · 2023-07-01T18:26:46+00:00

Oh man that sucks what a tough read. Sorry for ya brother hang in there.

AdrianInLimbo · 2023-07-01T18:47:55+00:00

The line that got me:

"It's ok as the kids know him from school".

Alatornio · 2023-07-01T18:50:19+00:00

This new guy is a tool. He is going to implode his work life.

Im trying to see it from his side and honestly I cant. I would nkt date her even with no kids. Not from work that close and that environment.

Only thing I can guess is he is there for the juice boxes and snacks.

He probably tells all girls exactly what they want to hear.

Strange-Tip-1897 · 2023-07-01T20:30:35+00:00

Get a 20 year old girlfriend. Stay toxic, my friend.

madmacaw · 2023-07-01T20:54:19+00:00

2 months!!! Jesus… ok that’s a lot to take after 2 months.. man my heart goes out to you.

xadmin123 · 2023-07-02T02:24:38+00:00

I wouldn’t want to be this 23 yo. Chances are he smashes and passes.

Significant_Idea_663 · 2023-07-02T03:30:06+00:00

Cold. OP gets no empathy, just suck it up, not his monkey but his wife? Life goes on just like that? Please tell OP something he already haven’t figured. He is here because he is hurt don’t just tell him to “ forget about it”. Please explain how that is done because we would really like to know.

joemoorcarz · 2023-07-02T05:51:01+00:00

Let's be honest I really doubt he thinks this will go anywhere except some easy sex. He has to know she's rebounding.

In the end don't worry about it. Her sex life is not your business anymore except where it impacts your kids. And realistically the more poor judgement she shows the more likely you are to wind up getting full custody.

When your kids start talking about mommies revolving boy toys, you can ask for a custody change.

Title	Wife’s new 23 year old bf
Author	Which_Emergency_2413
Upvotes	37
Comments	54
Date	July 1, 2023 12:22 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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