You can't change what you're attracted to. But most people can compromise on certain preferences.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-03-14T11:09:20+00:00

Yes you can. Men changed their preferences from only slim girls to thick girls thanks to the indoctrination amd brainwashing of the media. You will never ever see the media encouraging women to date short men, but you will always see the media encouraging men to date fat women.

RubyDiscus · 2024-03-14T11:53:21+00:00

What clothing styles do you like? Yeah I think I'm similar.

I have certain looks I'm more attracted to but can compromise on it.

Just as long as it's not too far off

anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2024-03-14T18:07:24+00:00

Title: you can absolutely change what your attratived too. I'm so tired of people saying you can't and that it's something else like biological, it's not and It's something that people learn.

We can see this is evident when you look at the last 100 years and how many times the "ideal" body has drastically changed, about every 10 years. Since it's changing more than once person each generation we know that it's a completely mental processes and isn't limited by time.

The most common effect of this change is probably culture like media etc.

I suspect one could easily change their attraction by simply associating the "new type" with a positive/sexual imagine.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-03-14T13:10:48+00:00

I can agree, physical appearance isn't important to me past "be liftable and have expected amount of chromosomes" point, but I find low intelligence repulsive. Just can't stand someone who behaves as if divine spark of enlightenment has never existed within their cranium.

jaybalvinman · 2024-03-14T14:13:08+00:00

You can change your preference about life arrangments, income, etc. But you cannot change what you are physically and sexually attracted to.

Example, you meet a guy who is just your type physically, you can change your standard about his income, career, even whether he has kids or not. But if you are definitely not sexually attracted, there is nothing in the world that will make you see him sexually.

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-03-14T15:59:39+00:00

I personally don't get the style or fashion but why does it matter if he's wearing a 50 dollar pair of Levi's and not a 200 dollar pair of some designer brand,wearing or not wearing some designer shirt, like why does a dude need a 400+ dollar pair of shoes you cant put a crease in...

boom-wham-slam · 2024-03-14T17:40:52+00:00

You can when you're a blank slate. Go bang a 10/10 18 year old girl with A game fashion sense and you will not want a 5 that kinda dresses nice sometimes. Lol

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-14T11:32:49+00:00

Of course you can change what you are attracted to. You just need to be sufficiently horny and desperate.

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Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-03-14T11:29:21+00:00

Of course.

OffTheRedSand · 2024-03-14T13:28:17+00:00

They can, but they don’t have to. Sometimes it’s just easier to be single and you can be happier that way. The people who compromise basically settle and most of the people who do this do it out of necessity, if that necessity doesn’t exist then why not stay happy and single?

SignifyingNothing5 · 2024-03-14T13:30:42+00:00

We tend to warm up to traits we're exposed to, but that's not a conscious choice and it has pretty severe limits. It's more like frequently seeing a body type you were neutral about and thinking, "I kind of like that", rather than training yourself to like traits you really don't care for.

But I've heard people talking about someone they know is interested in them and saying something like, "they're fine, but I see myself with someone more X or Y. Especially if you're not finding people to date or you're making other compromises to get with someone with X or Y, it might be worth questioning how much X or Y matters.

Choice-Substance-183 · 2024-03-14T14:48:48+00:00

What I've been attracted to has changed over the years. It's not the same as it was 16 or 26. Which is to be expected because people grow and change.

I've never had to compromise on my preferences. I don't know any human who has either.

GojosLowerHalf3 · 2024-03-14T16:45:22+00:00

This is why I always chuckle when people try to use preference statistics to decide who and what is "desirable". Who you prefer and who you can get are two totally different things for the average person and this is what the manosphere can't seem to grasp.

Soggy_Discipline1672 · 2024-03-15T06:42:19+00:00

I really love the 5/10 baseline, I totally agree

ZaWarudo234 · 2024-03-15T07:33:15+00:00

I've never gone out with a girl that was my "preferred type" because it isn't a dealbreaker. The most important thing is that I like being around you.

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2024-03-15T14:29:54+00:00

Sure you can compromise on artificial on paper things like salary. But you can't compromise on actual attraction, FEELING it. Well sure you can settle for someone you are just not attracted to, but you can't convince yourself to actually FEEL it.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-03-14T10:06:37+00:00

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Specialist-Action-33 · 2024-03-14T13:18:35+00:00

Compromise = lowering your standards

wolfloveyes · 2024-03-14T10:13:00+00:00

The most irresistible woman.

Attraction, they say, is non-negotiable.

For me, it's the kind of woman who ignites a fatal attraction, where I'm left breathless after just one glance:

I'm holding out for someone who resembles Robbie Margot. She must be a virgin and pull in at least 500K a year. Kind-hearted, compassionate, and weighing no more than 60kg – or else I'll be swiftly compensated with a cool half-million for her unwanted weight gain. She should be my biggest cheerleader, boosting my ego with affirmations of my greatness every few hours or whenever I hit a rough patch. She should relish in cooking, baking, and sharing in my hobbies, perhaps even playing the role of my glamorous assistant as I tackle tasks throughout the day, like holding my cigar during calls, lighting it up when my hands are tied, or ensuring my glass is impeccably clean to shield me from any lurking microbes.

Whenever my spirits dip low, she should approach me with a comforting reassurance: "Oh, my love, yours is just huuuuge," with the emphasis on "huge" echoing the unmistakable cadence of how Donald Trump would utter the word.

There should be no restrictions on the number of offspring we could potentially produce, and she must undergo regular plastic surgery to maintain her allure, ensuring none of my male counterparts' partners dare to outshine her. An anti-aging regimen should be a staple in her routine, perpetually turning back her biological clock. Any stray thoughts of straying from our monogamous bond should be met with self-inflicted punishment, perhaps a symbolic slap on the wrist with a ruler.

In domestic duties, she should handle them with the finesse of a seasoned professional – or simply foot the bill for hired help out of her own pocket. And of course, she should dutifully engage in online forums like purplepilldebate to understand the plight of men in modern dating, offering apologies to random men on the streets for the perceived shortcomings of her gender.

Yet, as my female friends outline their own dream partners, I can't help but recognize the futility of my pursuit. The odds of finding my perfect match are about as likely as them encountering a man who embodies their every desire – a devoted father figure, skilled partner, and provider capable of making life a joyous adventure for them both while being irresistibly attractive to them.

But hey, they say attraction is non-negotiable. So, I'll bide my time, cycling through a series of "placeholders" while women do the same, each of us chasing our own elusive ideal.

Title	You can't change what you're attracted to. But most people can compromise on certain preferences.
Author	Fan_Service_3703
Upvotes	20
Comments	147
Date	March 14, 2024 9:43 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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