34m accused of molesting daughter by wife 35f

gulagkulak · 2024-03-12T12:59:28+00:00

Find a way to save the company, because that marriage ain't worth saving.

Illustrious_Bus9486 · 2024-03-12T13:04:29+00:00

That accusation alone could have destroyed you and your business. Divorce her. Take what hit you must. Rebuild.

knight_call1986 · 2024-03-12T13:06:23+00:00

There is something more here. For her to do that and then fall for a coworker, this seems premeditated to a degree. I remember reading where this is a go to claim to get the ball rolling with things like divorce ro planning an affair.

Either way, what she did was awful and not normal. I think she is setting herself up to monkey branch somewhere else and you are the sacrificial lamb. I say get your stuff in order, because the trust has been gone the moment she went there with the accusations. Seek professional legal counsel and go from there.

vv91057 · 2024-03-12T13:20:22+00:00

I am thinking of divorce, but if I do the ownership structure of my company will change and the company will crash due to it being financed by venture capital...

You need a divorce. You could be in jail if from some other false accusations she makes. Obviously, seek legal help, but I would rather be homeless and broke than deal with the situation you are in. There are few situations I recommend divorce in but this is one. Even infidelity is more forgivable on its own than this.

overdoseontylenol · 2024-03-12T13:32:34+00:00

Sorry to tell you but your wife is evil. Based on what you said with her starting an affair with a coworker she is setting the ground work to destroy you and take the kids. It's a classic divorce strategy for the woman to claim the man abuses the kids. Their word over yours in the court of law ALWAYS. sorry about your situation but you need to get out before you are destroyed.

silly_birb_Banned · 2024-03-12T13:23:44+00:00

Women believe every feminist propaganda they see on social networks or tv, then they become paranoid and see monsters where there are none.

The false accusation made on a whim, the disrespect towards you as her husband and the "falling in love" with the coworker is all part of the same narrative "women can do no wrong".

I wouldn't be surprised if she started an OnlyFans, but even then you as her husband have no authority over her, you only have the responsibilities!
Society sides always with the woman, there are precedents were get away with murder because they had smoked weed, when weed just makes you cill and mellow...

That's why everyone tells you to "let it go", aka "suck it up, you are an inferior being, keep slaving at work to pay for her whims because you don't deserve a life".

That's why men should by all means avoid marriage! Once you put a chain on your neck you belong to your master.

IronJohnMRA · 2024-03-12T12:36:20+00:00

Is it common that partners do stuff to each other than are seemingly unforgivable?

No, this is pretty unusual for a partner to accuse their spouse of something this serious with little evidence or reason. I'm sorry but you have a bad wife. As for the financial questions please see a lawyer and an accountant. We help men with social and emotional problems. The topic you're raising is beyond our expertise.

StopManaCheating · 2024-03-12T13:52:01+00:00

Society: “Why are men turning away from marriage?”

solar-garlic1776 · 2024-03-12T13:15:18+00:00

IMO, obviously you are no pedo and love your kids. What I think is happening is this, she doesn't love you probably never has, who knows. But accusing you the dad of such a vile crime is future planning. She just fell in love with a co-worker? Are you really buying that. More probable is she was having an emotional affair or physical with this guy or even another guy, by accusing you of child abuse, even false, will carry a shit ton of weight in a divorce.

My best advice is to get as much written evidence from the Dr that treated your kid and the CPS report. Any evidence of an on going affair o past affairs and file for divorce. This is the only way out and you will most likely get the unlubed dildo in the process.

Bright side is you can use her false allegations against her, idk. But get a lawyer and file

nowheyjosetoday · 2024-03-12T13:41:16+00:00

Lawyer here. No legal repercussions available other than divorce. Visit with a lawyer and start planning your exit. You may have to wait a bit due to the business stuff

kandradeece · 2024-03-12T13:15:11+00:00

This would have been an immediate divorce on my part. Like what kind of monster must she think you are to even consider these thoughts. I could not be with someone who thought I would be capable of such acts.

Now it would be something else if the kid was complaining about pain there or mentioned something of the like... but from just a rash... any parent knows rashes appear there all the time and you just apply some ointment/anti-fungal cream and it goes away.

JCgamerX · 2024-03-12T13:01:40+00:00

I think your heading to divorce I recommend finding a good lawyer.

Tombstonesss · 2024-03-12T13:44:26+00:00

If you know what happens to pedos in jail, even though you did nothing wrong, I would run as far and as fast away from this person as possible. Just the accusation can destroy everything in Your life you’ve worked for. I would not be able to forgive someone who accused me of such a heinous act. I don’t think there is any legal recourse but there is a logical one of gtfo. She called you a peso and fucked a coworker. The longer you stay the harder it will be. Plan accordingly

dangerbird0994 · 2024-03-12T13:32:27+00:00

Dude what are you doing? Leave her.

Temporary-State-3833 · 2024-03-12T13:42:59+00:00

Not only did she accuse u of being a pedo who assaulted his own DAUGHTER she also CHEATED on you…. I honestly would divorce and get away from that sick woman

Mehmet_Jamukhov_7860 · 2024-03-12T13:51:32+00:00

What a shitty person your wife is. First accuse you of this bad crime and then also falling in love with a coworker.

Crunchie2020 · 2024-03-12T14:49:23+00:00

I would want a written apology. Via email. Letter etc. I would want that in writing.

The emotional affair of a coworker. That also needs to be in writing. Her confessing in an email.

Then divorce her. She is not suitable partner and how with dangerous to be associate with. If she can accuse you. She will accuse someone else. She can say something awful to get her way. Shows you person she is. I bet money she knew you weren’t abusing children and is looking for a way out marriage and being a victim and get full custody of kids. You need to protect yourself now and your kids.

Woman sounds like she has no guilt or empathy

PossibilityNo8765 · 2024-03-12T14:13:30+00:00

She's trying to make you look like the bad guy because she wants to break up the family and start dating again. She doesn't want to look like the whore who cheated. She wants to be the victim who was driven away

gold_ark · 2024-03-12T13:56:33+00:00

Is there any chance the affair started earlier? Because I'm thinking she planned to get you out of the picture. This is a strange situation.

vanislandbroyo · 2024-03-12T14:04:20+00:00

She sounds miserable.

Mobile_Lumpy · 2024-03-12T14:52:03+00:00

You gotta talk to a lawyer buddy.

dankmemezrus · 2024-03-12T13:55:00+00:00

Dude, how tf are you still there 3 years later? I know for your daughter but still… get out of there and try take her with you

Aggravating_Ad_442 · 2024-03-12T14:17:03+00:00

Get out of there. She hates you

skelectrician · 2024-03-12T14:31:05+00:00

If this is true this woman is a monster and you need to kick her lying, cheating ass to the curb before you're wrongly accused of a very serious crime. Did she apologize for any of her actions? Not that that makes much of a difference, but if she refuses to admit any fault it confirms she has no conscience and this was premeditated, not just a case of horrific stupidity.

Yamariv1 · 2024-03-12T14:46:13+00:00

Brah, you stayed after that!!?? She accused you with no evidence, just some red marks that's insane. Yes it's an instant deal breaker, I would have never talked to her again except through email or a witness. That's messed up my man, sorry that happened to you.

That is the highest level of betrayal, cheating doesn't even come close to a false allegation like this

Slayer007X · 2024-03-12T17:49:43+00:00

I wanna add too, it is better to be literally homeless, than to be stuck with a bad woman. This is a fact. You can get out of homelessness, but a bad woman can literally get you killed, or worse. Again, run and fast brother.

Medical_Seaweed5003 · 2024-03-12T20:22:45+00:00

One word. Divorce.

Slayer007X · 2024-03-12T15:01:54+00:00

Divorce her, if she wants custody of the kid, let her. Move on, pay child support, write that marriage and family off and either stay single or find a better woman in time. That is what I would do anyway.

If she ever tries to talk to you again, make sure she cannot with a restraining order. Trust me this is for the best. More than likely your kid will be like her too. So cut ties. Any woman that falsly accuses you of being a pedo is trash, not to mention she also is a cheater. Trash through and through, the rot runs deep in her blood. Also make sure to get a restraining order against her parents. They will try to bother you in your new and improved life without them. Make sure the law stops that from happening.

jwd1187 · 2024-03-12T17:25:13+00:00

Short answer -- lawyer up and RUN.

First of all, I am so sorry,. This causes PTSD frankly. Can't trust anyone. So run. Salvage the business but as best as you can but yes, pursue false allegations. It's tricky but If you can get a lawyer, you're chances increase. I'll share an anecdote:

My ex did this to me. I was a disabled stay at home dad. It worked. I did everything like a housewife, drove kids to school, did laundry and cleaned the house to satisfy my OCD, made fresh dinner for her, and everything in between. I changed every diaper and my kids couldn't fucking bathe themselves so it's pretty obvious how, up until a certain age, you have to bathe them. Also taught to potty train myself alone. I even began arranging homemade preschool courses for them during the day to prepare for school which they entered already advanced!

Yes, her and I were always toxic to one another after a point and due to health conditions I'd eventually be unable to caretake (despite knowing my illness was terminal, I was berated for laziness as it gradually progressed). But instead of coming to amicable understanding, she cheated to "show me", then stole my car and abandoned me at a friends house, and 6 months later detectives showed up at my parents door to investigate MOLESTATION (WHAT????) - -

you know -- b e c a u s e I r a i s e d m y k i d s - - like any father would.

Hadn't seen them in 2 years at this point and broke down in front of the detectives, as estrangement from your own babies feels like your heart shriveling into nothing.... I just wanted to know they're safe. I told them my duties as a SAHD as a matter of fact and never heard from them again except looking online to see the case was dropped. A step away from losing my whole life and any reputation, to die as an accused predator despite giving every ounce of myself, because a vindictive bitch used my love for my kids against me simply because she needed some vigilante justice. My own parents treated me like a criminal for a short time, an rumors inevitably spread. 10 years later, it hurts every day to think they were manipulated into thinking I was a monster when I simply did not get along with their mother I wish there was a simple solution but severing ties is the only option.

Some women are just disgusting, in the most intelligently* malicious way. I don't blame the resources needed for truly abused women, but the conniving of those will absolutely use it for nothing more than vengeance with zero thought about the consequences.

To answer the Q though, yes, I believe a false report is criminal. I never followed through, but you may need legal rep to fight her on this as the state may still see her as the victim. Now I'm estranged from her fam and my kids and god knows what they've been fed, but it didn't make it any less awkward with my own social circle. I fear poking the hornets nest of a psychotic woman so I have no choice but to wait until my kids make it to 18\ if I'm still kicking. I don't want to see others in this position.

TLDR, it's ambiguously illegal dependent on the detective really, and you should hire legal rep if you can. Save the company, get rid of this vindictive individual and slowly rebuild your rep.

E: *manipulatively, rather. they do not play their cards until its convenient for them, so I can't beat em, join em. fire with fire situation Imo

-- some context

pacsatonifil · 2024-03-12T13:59:40+00:00

Listen I believe in love and marriage so I don’t like telling people to split, but she falsely accused you and fell in love with another man?! What is wrong with you? Wake the fuck up damn. Not only accused you of that, but with your own baby daughter and that is sick af

tumblinfumbler · 2024-03-12T15:53:02+00:00

Unfortunately some things are unforgettable and I would leave her.

SirGuileSir · 2024-03-12T16:32:43+00:00

Dude. Lawyer. Separate finances. Get it done.

draxvalor · 2024-03-12T18:14:39+00:00

normal people don't jump to SA when they see a kid with a red bottom. Seek assistance immediately.

MoMonkeyMoProblems · 2024-03-12T19:21:59+00:00

I know what this feels like and I'm sorry you're going through it.

My ex accused me of all sorts of fucked up shit which all stemmed from insecurity and jealousy. First it was other girls who I was apparently cheating on her with, then it was my own sister, then eventually she claimed I was abusing our baby daughter. She went as far as having her examined by a GP to check her hymen was still intact. Part of her "evidence" was finding white stains on a muslin cloth, which her irrational mind decided was semen and not the milky vomit you'd expect to find on such a cloth. We broke up but I still had to deal with being made out to be a pervert for letting our young daughter sleep in my bed.

That was all 15 years ago and it still bothers me to think about, knowing that her family and friends all heard her side of the stories.

headphone-candy · 2024-03-12T20:25:10+00:00

This is heartbreaking. Reason number 1001 to never get married.

lastlaugh100 · 2024-03-12T21:23:45+00:00

Reverse the genders. You are being psychologically abused by your wife through false allegations of sexual abuse. You need to protect yourself. Your spouse is an asshole and psychopath.

gabrielbomfim · 2024-03-12T15:13:19+00:00

never going to marry, there is no good side in it anymore

DMFan79 · 2024-03-12T13:53:27+00:00

I guess the first rule in this case is to set your pride aside. It's hard, but it's your strongest weapon as letting your pride win means losing your clarity.

As other have already said, your wife is damaged goods. Love and trust always go along together, when one is missing, the other crumbles.

Is there a strategy you can put in place, even a long-term one, to make sure she's got no leverage on your assets? If there is, the only way out is to play cool until you're free of her claws.

Best to spend your money on a lawyer than having to give them to a person who's exploiting you.

Best of luck and keep us updated please.

Aggravating_Ad_442 · 2024-03-12T14:13:19+00:00

Bro get the hell out. She cañmost ruined your life and then fell for someone else and presumably told you about it???

lennoxlyt · 2024-03-12T14:40:55+00:00

Dude find a good lawyer and get out of there! She's gonna be gunning for your company, and your life!

A stint in jail isn't worth your company if push comes to shove mate.

lokifeyson806 · 2024-03-12T14:45:09+00:00

Sorry to hear about this.

Sounds like you have talked to a lawyer, and if she is unfaithful certain state laws will affect that..

I would try to work it a deal in the divorce... One that you get the kids and company and gives her money, trust me she'll take it but act like it's not what she wants, so it'll be a lot of money.

I got lucky and had full custody, literally given to me. She had to prove that she was capable of taking care of herself and our son before she got 50/50. My ex still asks for money, still tries to get me to take our son at any and all times. She still has mental issues but at this point I would be just throwing money into the wind if I tried to get full custody again.

One thing you can do and that I have been doing, take notes, like a timed journal that has all information in it that you can recall about every bad event that occurs because of her. Gather your ammo cause I hate to tell but she might be doing that same thing. Don't let her hit you with divorce papers first and you go signing.

Didn't let her break you, that's what she wants. Not a partner a slave, a currency. She doesn't respect you or the family.

Please take care of yourself

abramN · 2024-03-12T14:46:43+00:00

Get out of there now

Gwuana · 2024-03-12T15:11:00+00:00

You’re gonna take a hit man, definitely drop the chick! I would look at selling the business and starting it over with your half once the divorce is figured out. You have all the connections and the know how to do it again without her involved.

hero_killer · 2024-03-12T16:17:18+00:00

Divorce her with full custody of your daughter, have her pay child support. You have plenty of evidence.

Castruccio_Castracan · 2024-03-12T16:20:11+00:00

Going off what you wrote in the post and comments, it sounds like you're a fairly young guy that spent his best years pouring his everything into his business, relying on his wife for emotional support to the point where she's your only source of outside perspective. Which is why you've been accepting her unforgivable behavior.

You need to get some friends. Reconnect with old ones if need be. Go to a support group. Get someone in your life that you trust more than internet strangers, so when they tell you that this situation is fucked and you need to get out of it no matter you'll believe them and act on it.

Aracuria · 2024-03-12T16:27:49+00:00

If the marks are worrying enough for her to make a false/untrue allegation against you, and you are innocent - surely the next step would be to report her as the possible abuser, just in case she tried to cover up her abuse by blaming you? Or does the law not allow that when it’s this way round…?

DaUnionBaws · 2024-03-12T16:31:37+00:00

This is how people get killed. Not even trying to be crass or anything but your “wife” is baiting you. I’d remove yourself from her ASAP.

MisterLemming · 2024-03-12T19:47:02+00:00

I too have been accused of molesting my child. Her (ex spouse) timing was off though, and I already knew her game. However the purpose was clear, and has been repeated hundreds of times at this point.

Make an accusation that cannot be disproved and turn it into a narrative. Believe that narrative as gospel and others will believe it too. She's setting herself up to win divorce.

The trick for fighting that crap is realizing it's happening, and not buying into the accusations. Create your own reality and don't for a second buy into hers.

Don't bother defending yourself with evidence or explanations. A simple yes or no explanation is enough. Save the evidence for the courts.

77shantt · 2024-03-12T20:13:12+00:00

Man she is trouble let the co worker have her man. Clearly she is a fruit cake and will make false accusations to get what she wants.

Rabbit-Punch · 2024-03-12T20:38:38+00:00

Dude, she was cheating on you the whole time. Sorry to tell you. Don’t be a victim about it either, but you really need to re-examine your priorities

Rock_Granite · 2024-03-13T00:34:27+00:00

FUCK THAT. There is no way I'm getting into the same room as a woman who accused me of molesting my own daughter. No fuckin way

Drachus_Maximus · 2024-03-13T06:05:45+00:00

Time to set up shell companies to hide your assets? through a process known as "asset protection." ,,This involves setting up complex ownership structures and using offshore jurisdictions with strict privacy laws. These shell companies can be used to hold assets such as real estate, yachts, and artwork, making it difficult for outsiders to trace the ultimate ownership.,,

Sig-int · 2024-03-12T13:10:14+00:00

Plan everything against your wife to be on the safe side and then fill divorce. I think I would have lost it completely for an accusation like this and slapped her. There are some boundaries you should never cross.

NameIs-Already-Taken · 2024-03-12T14:04:47+00:00

There's quite a lot to unpack here, and complications like her interest in her co-worker being partially driven by how (perfectly understandably) you treated her after her allegation against you.

You might want to get some talking therapy (Gestalt is good!) to help you work your way through this stuff.

asianfoodtofulover · 2024-03-12T14:25:47+00:00

I hope you mean ex wife

savro · 2024-03-12T14:32:41+00:00

Sorry bro, it sounds like your wife is done with you and is trying to find a way of ridding herself of you without her being perceived as the "bad guy". I'm sorry that this is happening to you.

I am not a lawyer, corporate, family law, or otherwise; but you need to worry less about your company and more about yourself. If you're sitting in jail because of some fabricated claim of spousal or child abuse, would that be all right as long as the company is still in business? Is your freedom worth that?

Current_Finding_4066 · 2024-03-12T15:10:19+00:00

I think you need to divorce your traitor of a wife, no one deserves to be with someone who does no trust them, and even accuses them of such crime.

I think you need to talk to a good lawyer to protect your rights, consider your kids too, and get rid of your soon to be ex-wife ASAP.

Consider if the company is worth living with her? She sounds like a piece of shit.

Uncle_Touchy1987 · 2024-03-12T15:43:05+00:00

DIVORCE

Feeling_Advantage108 · 2024-03-12T15:48:09+00:00

This is my absolute worst fear as a dad. I don’t know how I’d handle being accused of such by the woman I am completely open with. I personally would flush the company and just start over. Your kids will know who you are, that will work itself out but Jeeze man, she is not your ally. Get out.

aigars2 · 2024-03-12T15:55:36+00:00

This sounds like a plan to get rid of you which failed. She planned it with the other guy probably and went all out with accusations to maximize impact but it still failed.

cryptus-maximus · 2024-03-12T16:37:51+00:00

Hey bro I'm sorry she leveled these accusations at you, I know how it feels and how difficult it is to even talk about this. My ex (NPD) accused me of the same with my daughter, it is unforgivable. This happened years ago so know that she is way ahead of you on her divorce plans, you need a plan and to file first ASAP. You want to be the proactive one and not be on the defense because its you who is protecting your children, not this monster.

Before anything however, buy yourself a digital audio recorder and have it on you at all times and running when interacting with your wife.

Its going to be a hell of a fight, she will try to get you kicked out of the house by claiming a false DV charge. You are going to be living in a tinderbox ready to be set on fire, but stand your ground and don't move out of the marital home and away from your kids. At this stage in the fight its all about being the right mental space, get exercise in and meditation.

There are legal repercussions in civil court, if you can prove she deliberately falsely accused you and are able to demonstrate monetary loss as a result of it. Trust me, I have looked into this extensively with a criminal attorney, the burden of proof is on you and its immense. What I would do is after filing and the accusations get added to the case, ask the court to seal your file because the accusations could harm your kids. Feel free to shoot me a message.

Narrow_Gap6681 · 2024-03-12T16:42:04+00:00

Was she sleeping with the other guy ?. Is it possible to transfer your stocks under your mom or dad's name.

Mysonking · 2024-03-12T17:14:49+00:00

If she accused you.... Well she will certainly do it again at first opportunity. You need a lawyer yesterday and prepare divorce many months in advance

Unwell8304 · 2024-03-12T17:57:49+00:00

I bet she's thinking... "holy shit, I was sure he's going to divorce me after that..."

mjuntunen · 2024-03-12T17:59:00+00:00

If she accused you once she will do it again. Do everything in your power to no be alone with your daughter.

nagiallison · 2024-03-12T18:23:50+00:00

Terrible personality. Failed parenting from her parents.

aBlackKing · 2024-03-12T18:39:00+00:00

Lawyer up first and foremost so you know what to expect. I would not be surprised if your wife divorces you soon because she fell in love with another coworker. The statistic where I’m from shows that 80% of divorces are filed by women. Better to have it on your terms.

AccomplishedBig7666 · 2024-03-12T19:22:52+00:00

I would totally suspect that woman to have an affair with some young man. This marriage ain't worth saving. I am so sorry this happened to you. Find a way in secret to save your company.

SaltSpecialistSalt · 2024-03-12T19:48:17+00:00

head to /r/Divorce_Men

Ruben0415 · 2024-03-12T20:12:27+00:00

She fell in love with a coworker.... sounds like she was projecting her awfulness.

Competitive_Ad6346 · 2024-03-12T22:12:43+00:00

How are yall still together?

Status-Associate6318 · 2024-03-12T22:15:51+00:00

A woman in Schenectady killed her 11-month old child. She didn't want to miss a party, so she tossed the baby in a tunnel 8-10ft, water up to its neck, and the baby lived for a few hours there.

The father was fighting for custody.

I'm so fucking sick of the bullshit excuses being made for female criminals. "Maybe she's not well..." But if the roles were reversed, people would be screaming for the electric chair. She had nothing wrong with her, she'd been photographed in the past partying and doing drugs while holding the baby.

Ninjurk · 2024-03-12T23:53:39+00:00

Why would you stay married?!
You sue that B for slander.
You care about your company crash even though BS accusations and absolute disrespect would land you in prison for life?!

You need to grow a spine and counter ASAP.

Crixusgannicus · 2024-03-12T23:55:56+00:00

1)Trust no bitch

2)Is there any repercussions against my wife for falsely accusing me? Theoretically: depends on the laws of the jurisdiction. Practically? Probably not. But might still be worth the fight.

3)Is it common that partners do stuff to each other than are seemingly unforgivable? "Partners"? No. Women/wives hell yes. Seriously man, have you not been paying attention?

4)You are in a WAR. She's knows it and is acting accordingly. In fact, you have been at war for longer than the past three years.

She knows it and HAS been acting accordingly.

Wake the fuck UP and FIGHT!

3flaps · 2024-03-13T00:26:04+00:00

I wonder if she did something to your daughter.. has she always been like this? Crazy?

ShiftyShifts · 2024-03-13T03:48:45+00:00

Woman logic btw... Accuse husband and father of child of something vile, that hes proven innocent of.

Fall in love with another man and bring man around your children and increase the risk of said vile thing you accused your husband of by 4000% (not an exaggerated number real statistic Children are 40 times as likely to be abused sexually by a step father than their real father)

Rancor_Keeper · 2024-03-13T12:33:27+00:00

Divorce her. That’s fucked up. Get a good lawyer too. You can’t trust someone who pulls such a heinous act like this.

Randumpz · 2024-03-13T14:54:44+00:00

She falsely accused you of something that would destroy your life and ruin your relationship with your daughter and because you don't have a backbone, you decided to just sulk like a 2 year old instead of being decisive and leaving her.

To add further insult, you let yourself be deceived by HER parents telling you to let it go as if you thought HER PARENTS were on your side and not hers.

On top of that, you stayed with her until she fell in love with a coworker and you're "thinking" of divorce and using your company as an excuse.

Go talk to lawyer and for fucks sake, when the thought enters your brain to not be ruthless with her in the courts, IGNORE IT because she'll be ruthless with you.

And remember, HER parents are not on your side.

Oh and FYI: Transfer your business into someone else's name whom you trust. Get a divorce then transfer the business back into your name. She wont get a dime. This is not legal advice. Talk to a lawyer.

fanatic26 · 2024-03-12T14:57:02+00:00

Why did you not divorce her IMMEDIATELY after she leveled this insane accusation at you?

CConnelly_Scholar · 2024-03-12T15:05:01+00:00

Have you had an honest conversation with her about why things aren’t going well? It sounds like she breached your trust by mistrusting you, which means if this is going to work that needs to be rebuilt. That can happen if you talk honestly and are both willing to work together. A lot of people here are clamoring for divorce, which is certainly a possibility. But presumably you married this person for a reason, and would rather make it work if that’s a possibility?

AdVivid9056 · 2024-03-12T13:58:13+00:00

Free yourself. Try to find (with professional help of course) a way to save your company or at least the money of it (to rebuild your very own company). That's what I as an idiot could advice. Don't know. All the best to you!!!

HelpfulViolinist3562 · 2024-03-12T14:19:14+00:00

Sounds like she's been planning the exit for a while. Depending on who else she's been talking to and the fact that she is most likely spreading other vicious rumors maybe liable? (Or slander I forget which is spoken) Either way lawyer up and try to get full custody, your children don't need to be around that jump to conclusions psychopath. As for the business see an accountant and try and detangle from her as much as possible. If she's going to pour gas on the bridge by at least emotionally cheating, you might as well strike a match hope the bitch gets burned along the way and use the light to strike a new path...

Lost_Energy2111 · 2024-03-12T14:23:09+00:00

You can always start another company. Divorce. Don't waste your life trying to figure out all the answers to the questions. You can do that when you are Divorced.

abarua01 · 2024-03-12T14:44:33+00:00

You should've talked to a lawyer during this incident. Better late than never though

randomaviary · 2024-03-12T15:57:29+00:00

Jesus dude, sorry you’re going through this. Crazy af to me, but par for the course, in slit of women holding grudges over the smallest things.

SoggyHotdish · 2024-03-12T16:02:09+00:00

You need to go to a legal/business finance sub as well

baumbach19 · 2024-03-12T16:08:31+00:00

You should figure out a way to leave. The accusation is crazy and should have left after that, but the other men now for sure you should leave.

The company is not a reason to stay. You just buy her out of her shares. You value the company using some standard method, or pay someone to value it. Then buy her shares from her.

PFCthrowAwayMTL · 2024-03-12T16:10:17+00:00

Your gf is an awful person and mentally deranged

Net_Flux3 · 2024-03-12T16:21:12+00:00

Your creep wife tried to publicly sexually harass and humiliate you to fuel her own fetishes and get you killed. That's not something that can be forgiven. Ever.

Thick-Cry-2440 · 2024-03-12T16:24:41+00:00

The wife is handing you red flags and emotional left the marriage already. When the doctor and social services deem no wrong doing on your part. It’s time to get ducks in row for divorce.

hiyupjh · 2024-03-12T16:25:11+00:00

Have you asked your wife if she loves you and wants to be with you as a partner?

Mi-Infidel · 2024-03-12T16:38:37+00:00

Something similar happened to me. Send me message if you want.

Neat-Fish-4593 · 2024-03-12T18:37:03+00:00

I would have filed for divorce at the first accusation. Trust is the foundation to a good relationship and your marriage has no trust. She accuses you of horrible things and she cheats on you. This marriage is way past its expiration date.

They say “let it go it’s not a big deal”, but they’re not the ones dealing with the accusations.

Salamadierha · 2024-03-12T19:26:19+00:00

Make sure she gets the company in the divorce settlement, you get the house and kids.

EveryThingHasAName · 2024-03-12T22:39:50+00:00

Do not warm her. Do not let on that you are considering leaving. Your hesitation and warning will be her opportunity to fuck you. The law protects the first person to claim the status of victim. Once you are the accused the narrative will take years and 10’s of thousands of dollars to fix, if that is even possible. Get the best attorney you can afford. The early stages set that narrative. Document, document, document. Good luck.

thatGUY2220 · 2024-03-12T22:57:37+00:00

Her accusations are incredibly serious and you let her off the hook way too easily

dtyler86 · 2024-03-13T00:56:17+00:00

She fell in love with a coworker?? sounds like your marriage is dead anyway. Maybe the court would rule in your favor because of the adultery

ChristmasStrip · 2024-03-13T01:43:17+00:00

Honest_Egg7919 · 2024-03-13T02:11:24+00:00

I’m not one to judge but… hell seems like the place she’s going for sure for sure for sureee

Intimate100 · 2024-03-13T02:24:16+00:00

You need to divorce, this is an unhealthy relationship! I hope your child will be okay.

Admirable-Potato-616 · 2024-03-13T04:17:48+00:00

Wow. So sorry bro. That's absolutely disgusting that she just assumed that. With no other evidence

NatSoc16 · 2024-03-13T04:42:15+00:00

Move everything into your moms name like that soccer player

PnkPwrRngr · 2024-03-13T04:51:02+00:00

The child is the only one that matters. Keep up the facade for them and find ways to cope until they grow up and the separation affects them less. I am 22 and unmarried so take this advice or leave it

KPplumbingBob · 2024-03-13T12:09:04+00:00

I'm not one to say "divorce her/him" over a post on the internet but it's wild to me that you are apparently still together after she accused you of being a paedophile and molesting your own daugher. Like what the actual fuck?

Expert-Economics-668 · 2024-03-13T14:46:31+00:00

divorce thatbitch

Expert-Economics-668 · 2024-03-13T14:47:33+00:00

fuck money you can make more....you deserve respect

Electronic_Travel962 · 2024-03-16T13:05:25+00:00

She sounds like a real peach. Kick her to the curb.

MrRagnarLodbrok · 2024-03-12T19:01:49+00:00

I woulda divorced her ass and suspected her after the accusation lmao. Immediately I’d think she had a guilty conscience. As for the rest, I’m not sure how you divorcing her would affect your company, if it’s a matter of what she can take, if you have proof of her adultery bring that with you to court. If they cheat, they’re for the streets my guy.

Southern_Sweet_T · 2024-03-13T01:36:57+00:00

Wow I am the last person that rushes to advise people to divorce but I just don’t know if I could ever come back from this. I just don’t see a way forward for you guys. Maybe wait until you get things figured out with your business, even if it’s years away.

iriedashur · 2024-03-13T02:42:24+00:00

Speaking as a woman, no, it's not normal. Yes, relationships have their ups and downs, sometimes there are rough patches, sometimes one partner hurts the other without thinking. That's normal.

It's 100% NOT normal for your wife to accuse you of abusing your own daughter based solely on diaper rash, which is pretty common.

Does she know how much she hurt you? Did she herself believe you actually did something, or did she think she should've mentioned something to the doctor "just in case" or something? Neither is acceptable, but if she's just a colossal dumbass, maybe the two of you will be able to work through it. Was she sexually abused by a family member or something?

omegaphallic · 2024-03-12T12:57:25+00:00

Suggest counseling with wife and try to find a men friendly councillor ir thearapist.

Kwen_Oellogg · 2024-03-12T12:50:59+00:00

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Southern_Sweet_T · 2024-03-13T01:40:39+00:00

Also maybe you can pay your wife for her ownership of the stock? Even if you had to get a loan to do it it might be worth it. Or write up an agreement with her that you will pay her out down the road. Otherwise if she takes it now it’s basically worthless so it might be in her best interest to agree.

JasTHook · 2024-03-12T14:07:25+00:00

Imagine the roles reversed:

You don't believe what you are seeing, but you know most people don't.
You don't know if you have a bad spouse and need to save the child, or if your worries are groundless.

Note that your wife did not call the police, she called the hospital.

She didn't wait to resolve the impossible contradiction in her head, she took steps to protect the child, but didn't actually accuse you.

That's the sort of protective wife you want and the sort of mother your children want.

Never mind the "How could she think..." - she couldn't think, but she had to act.

Props to her, and I hope you get over it. I know people who were damaged for decades because the mother didn't act because she couldn't believe it.

EDIT: Get serious guys - if someone has what appears to be evidence of abuse, you think they should not protect the potential victim as a first priority? Say that out in public, and see how long you last!

EDIT: For those lunatics who think she should have investigated more before seeking medical support for a potential victim, don't you think a medical examination would also be the first investigative step?

dangerbird0994 · 2024-03-12T13:27:52+00:00

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Title	34m accused of molesting daughter by wife 35f
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Date	March 12, 2024 12:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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