I was one of those who bought into this "feminist" world where finally women would split bills, and men and women would be equal partners, with equal contribution.

I couldn't have been more wrong than this.

Growing up, I wanted to be a softer guy (who does not need to dominate others, doesn't need fame, doesn't need extroversion), but all these qualities are simply necessary if you want to love and care for a woman for the long term.

If you want to alone/single and want no family, this no longer matters.

But getting a woman is a lot of responsibility; your life will become worse than you imagine unless you have those things I mentioned. You'll become suicidal with a woman.

It's not rosy; no woman will support a soft man. Maybe she will be deluded enough by propaganda and try for a while, but she will quickly figure out through instincts why this isn't working, and then she will stop.

As a man, you need to be strong and lead and control and be benevolent and kind when it's right to do so.

You cannot hide behind modernity. When push comes to shove, those men will fold like a chair, and the woman will be left alone to suffer, and the man, upon seeing that, will become suicidal.

Even if a man wants a stable family, giving in to everything a woman asks for or giving her all power is a bad idea.

Be a leader, then be kind and benevolent as much as you want, but you need the power to be in your hands, you need all control in your hand.

Imagine you were the heir of a trust fund and you gave access to it to your girlfriend because she's the one you love the most.

Now some may think this is crazy to give away such access to a woman. But men are usually ready to take a bullet or a knife wound for their loved ones, so what's the big deal with a bunch of money?

But no, I've noticed this firsthand; women go completely crazy when they get access to power. Even without power, she will go crazy from time to time, and you'll need to hold her together; money/power is a multiplier of her craziness, she can inflict more damage if she has that power.

That's one reason why women with lots of power and money are not attractive to most males.

A man simply cannot hold her together, cannot stop her from self-destruction if she has those multipliers acting on her power.

Women think it's out of jealousy, but no, a man is simply powerless in front of a woman who has those multipliers acting on her on craziness (when the time is right).

There will be times in her life when she will lose her mind. It's only a matter of time and place, but I guarantee you this will happen.

Modern society tries to cover it with antidepressants, therapy, emergency wards, etc...

Most of the people who talk about making things perfectly equal in both directions are either young and inexperienced or they are older (suffering from survivor bias, having not been part of this crazy situation where the woman lost her mind for a while).

Imagine being led by a crazy king. This is why a man needs to make himself stable, powerful, well-known, and set up a reputation which shows you are a reliable person.

When I was young, I didn't quite understand why I needed to have some fake reputation; people will figure it out themselves when they meet me. But no, sometimes people will go blind and mad, and it's when your reputation will save your ass.