If a man tell you to shut-up do you think it’s wise to keep talking

OtisDriftwood1978 · 2025-09-17T01:58:48+00:00

No one should be in a relationship with someone who resorts to violence in arguments or implies they’re going to become violent in an argument. The best thing a woman could do in that scenario is leave and find someone that can have normal arguments without abuse or the threat of abuse. You wouldn’t and shouldn’t tolerate this kind of behavior from a friend or relative. Why would you tolerate it from your romantic partner?

fucksiclepizza · 2025-09-17T02:00:33+00:00

Men aren't the authority on everything. Men that tell others to shut up would do well to learn that and how to keep their emotions in check. If a man lashes out then he lacks self control and is the one at fault, not those who refuse to do as he says.

toasterchild · 2025-09-17T01:59:20+00:00

So are you saying men emotional snowflakes who can't control themselves?

badgersonice · 2025-09-17T01:59:53+00:00

I’m not saying women should “shut up and obey.”

You literally are saying “shut up and obey or else he’ll kill you”.

I think it’s better to just avoid violent stupid men at all costs, myself.

the wisest move is to deescalate or just plain shut the fuck up.

It is far far wiser to run away and avoid that man forever, rather than stick around to “deescalate” or shut the fuck up. Once he uses violence to control you once, he’ll use it over and over and over to get his way.

A man like that is trash. For the streets. You’re just pro-rewarding shitty men with obedience and deference they do not deserve.

KayRay1994 · 2025-09-17T03:09:41+00:00

This seems like such a weird post, it basically teeters into threat territory.

For one thing, one partner actively arguing while the other needs space or silence to process isn’t a gendered phenomenon, many men also struggle at giving their angry partner space.

Also, the direction of your post is odd. “You best do what he says for now cause you don’t know what he’s gonna do next” - its basically “shut up, or else”, hence why I’m calling it a threat. Telling someone to shut up in a heated moment is, while it’s not a good thing to tell someone - especially not your partner, is in itself not violent - we slip up and say dumb stuff (like “shut up”) when we’re angry. But “you better listen” basically gets into threat territory cause you’re not asking for space or empathy, you’re making a threat

alotofironsinthefire · 2025-09-17T01:59:36+00:00

I love how things like this are posted, and then the red pill turns around and gets upset over the bear debate.

Competitive_Lion_260 · 2025-09-17T02:37:05+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

shut up because a man says so?

That's fucking hilarious

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ThatBitchA · 2025-09-17T02:06:02+00:00

Thank you for confirming that men are emotional and unable to handle a woman being right and the man being wrong.

A man saying "shut up" to someone and not being able to say, "I'm getting upset and need to end this conversation for now", is a red flag.

attendquoi · 2025-09-17T02:26:51+00:00

Why the fuck would I ever date a man who would physically attack someone?

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-09-17T01:57:22+00:00

Why should we negotiate with terrorists, now ?

JustGeminiThings · 2025-09-17T02:05:51+00:00

Maybe we should just walk away and end relationships after the first time someone tells us to "shut up." Or don't and turn their ass in for DV if necessary.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2025-09-17T02:18:10+00:00

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MoreCheesePlease8675 · 2025-09-17T02:40:34+00:00

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2025-09-17T02:01:30+00:00

I’ve never heard of this meme.

bluepvtstorm · 2025-09-17T02:29:59+00:00

There’s a reason I get my knives sharpened every 3 months.

LaFrescaTrumpeta · 2025-09-17T02:30:07+00:00

til i grab a knife and uno reverse 💀

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-09-17T02:32:15+00:00

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BrigidFairy · 2025-09-17T06:17:00+00:00

If I felt threatened in the moment I would just leave so no more talking from me 🤷‍♀️ happy days I guess

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wtknight · 2025-09-17T05:16:27+00:00

Man v bear?

Meallaire · 2025-09-17T11:29:44+00:00

It's highly dependent on why I'm being told to shut up. I've never been in a relationship with a man that would say that to me, but with my dad, I would usually shut up because he did indeed get mildly physically violent (spankings, etc) -- unless he was bullying my little sister.

Pick your battles, like you said.

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Popeoath · 2025-09-17T02:35:48+00:00

I'm not a wuss so someone telling me to shut up is gonna have to make me.

I’m 5’10. You think imma go talk crazy to some 6’3 200 mf because my feelings are hurt?

If he disrespects you, it's straight up pussy not to. Stay strapped so you don't have to worry about the consequences.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-09-17T20:00:19+00:00

I have been in an abusive relationship before.

If I ever had the sort of argument with my husband that seemed like if I didn’t shut up it would end in violence I would shut up then leave

Tylikcat · 2025-09-20T12:25:34+00:00

De-escalation is generally a good plan, regardless of gender. But if someone is violent or threatens violence (either verbally or otherwise) - get out of the relationship. I know that's not always simple, nor does it always happen at once, but GTFO.

And people who can't control themselves aren't ready to date... or really, be out in public.

I'm a martial artist, and I fight with men all the time. And win a strong majority of the time. Sure, it does help that I'm the 5'11" daughter of a linebacker. But most of the guys here don't actually fight, and a lot seem to believe that having a penis means you win fights, and that's just not how it works.

My ex-husband attacked me, BTW. It went badly for him. (He also tried to rape me, which also ended very badly for him.) I still left, because I don't want to live with a) someone with the emotional maturity of a toddler and b) someone who attacked me.

IHaveABigDuvet · 2025-10-02T00:41:12+00:00

She should keep talking so that he can get locked up. That’s and easy charge that will wreck the rest of his life.

Bassist57 · 2025-09-17T02:16:23+00:00

Femsplaining is as much a thing as Mansplaining.

Odd_Quit_8905 · 2025-09-17T06:00:22+00:00

There’s a dark joke about a wife having two black eyes lmao

Title	If a man tell you to shut-up do you think it’s wise to keep talking
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Date	September 17, 2025 1:51 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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shut up because a man says so?

That's fucking hilarious