Men get what they deserve in dating and casual sex scene

Epiphrons · 2026-02-21T15:17:16+00:00

Low n men and women tend to attract eachother. High n men and women tend to attract eachother

Strongly disagree. High n count men attract low and high n count women. Low n count men are DOA and must do large amounts of work to gain time in market to again build confidence which increases value reoccurring. Women just need to vet for their personal taste (10 vs 100, height, income etc)

Edit: women can gatekeep relationships from low value men, but high value men disproportionately control commitment.

RevolutionaryJob7908 · 2026-02-21T21:36:32+00:00

And men arent forced to marry 40 year olds. Im not complaining, things fair out in time. I agree with you.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2026-02-21T16:07:31+00:00

There’s no “deserve”; flooding a smaller market devalues and cheapens your product, which is simple economics

winter_lover28 · 2026-02-21T15:17:38+00:00

Nah, if you’re a men who can easily have hookups or friends with benefits, you’ll never have trouble getting into a relationship, and you’ll always be higher-value men.

DrunkOnRamen · 2026-02-21T15:12:48+00:00

And there is no rule that men have to be honest about their intentions. Men aren't forced to give relationships to women they do not want to, men can select who they want to be honest and who not to be.

N_Count_Council · 2026-02-21T15:23:15+00:00

Men don't have to commit to you if they don't want to 😂

Barely-moral · 2026-02-21T15:03:52+00:00

Oh. Before I forget.

Are you telling me that a serial killer that murdered lots of women deserves more success than a boring, unremarkable but fully innocent feminist?

Lemon_gecko · 2026-02-21T15:12:40+00:00

I do agree with the body, but i disagree with the title. Dating isn't about what someone "deserves", it's not about fairness, or something like that. It's completely real to find yourself in situation when you might be the greatest person in the world, and you have no one to date because no one is up to your standards, or you're unlucky, or you lack some social skills, or haven't found your people. Then the question is who decides at all what is "great" and "deserving" in terms of dating. That just a road to nowhere.

Barely-moral · 2026-02-21T15:00:13+00:00

It is not an insult if a woman wouldn't have casual sex with you but would date you seriously, she just doesn't want to have another disapointing hookup.

Sure. I tell you how it works in practice.

I spend whatever time and effort I want to build value to bring to the table. Whatever value is doesn't matter for this example.

I put it all on the table. Women that are not interested in what I bring are out of the discussion.

Women that are interested in what I bring will have to do whatever the f*ck I want or they don't get it.

Some women will find that I ask for too much. They are out of the discussion.

The women that believe the trade is worth it are the ones I am after.

I want consistency. If she had sex on date one, I want that. If she made everyone else wait, I want that.

If she believes I ask for too much, she can leave.

The_WankingBuddha · 2026-02-21T15:29:09+00:00

It is not an insult if a woman wouldn't have casual sex with you but would date you seriously

More attractive men can get casual sex

The ability to get casual sex doesn't mean the guy is more attractive or better.

The jokes write themselves.

MarioWilson122 · 2026-02-21T22:30:15+00:00

Well women are to blame for bad sex if she wasn’t of any help during the process, since all men aren’t going to know exactly how to please every woman. So, it is her job to be informative to ensure a good experience. Also being able to get casual sex is a good thing, as it shows that the man is truly sexually desirable.

Since basically any man can become that though financial means, which is usually required through a relationship. So, it is great to not have to do that to have access, especially if a man really likes sex and doesn’t care much for a serious relationship.

BrianBorr23232 · 2026-02-21T18:02:55+00:00

If the world was as just as you want it to be then trump wouldn't be the president right now.

harmonica2 · 2026-02-21T15:00:25+00:00

As far as the notion goes that men get what they deserve. If men are better at getting something than other men does that mean they deserve it more?

Is the deserving based on talent?

DGenerationMC · 2026-02-22T04:40:57+00:00

"Deserve's got nothing to do with it."

A man

Ok_Complaint_8560 · 2026-02-21T15:15:02+00:00

Reasonanble POV. Still wouldnt date low n woman with a history of "trying" casual sex. Sucks cus the women who fit this description were attractive to.

DriverInitial8305 · 2026-02-21T16:02:27+00:00

I agree that men don’t deserve casual sexual. But the idea of men being the pursuers is a dumb one. If you’re a man focus on the woman that really want you and stop chasing validation

Important-Stable-842 · 2026-02-21T16:09:00+00:00

A thing I do want to say is that when women I've seen on Reddit have tried to communicate "I wouldn't have an ONS with you, but would date you", they seemingly pick the most cack-handed way to say it and end up saying something that does actually sound like "you're ugly but you're a nice guy". and one case I remember seemed to just double down and make it worse for herself.

I know this is how a lot of men interpret the sentiment like that anyway, but some of the ways I've seen it said do sort of sound like that lol. Apparently "too special for an ONS" or "worth more than an ONS" is beyond reach. "You only caught my eye when I got to know you" might be a bit ambitious I guess. personally I just wouldn't want to know if that was my partner.

sample size probably around half a dozen, tbf

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midnight_blue77 · 2026-02-22T04:49:16+00:00

Women are the gate keepers of sex and relationships...

Correction: Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Men are the gatekeepers to relationships.

Men are the ones who decide if he wants to stick around or move on. Women's entire mating strategy and instincts are geared towards increasing her best chances in retaining a man's fidelity whereas a man's is geared towards getting sex. Thus, women decide which man is worthy of sex, but it is men who decide which woman is worthy of his time and effort.

So, yes, men do the approaching. Which means we are the ones who decide who we want to approach and then decide if we want to stay with her or move on.

Men are the persuers and persue women by applying to be a casual sex partner or serious dating partner. She chooses if she is interested in the man for either.

Correction: Sex and Relationships may be obtained from different women. We pursue sex and relationships though not necessarily from the same woman. Again, men are the gatekeepers to relationships. We choose if we want to stay with you or not.

It is not an insult if a woman wouldn't have casual sex with you but would date you seriously, she just doesn't want to have another disapointing hookup.

It is most definitely a VERY huge insult if a woman pretends to like a man but then - after allowing the previous 3 guys to have sex with her - decides that the next idiot is "special" and expects him to take this deep insult as if it were a compliment. This is what makes this insult even worse, the fact that you believe we are so fucking stupid to believe you're somehow complimenting us when you're insulting us.

Smart-Oven-9391 · 2026-02-22T13:36:36+00:00

WRONG.

Women do NOT control access to relationships.

Women control access to SEX.

MEN control access to relationships and marriage.

AlarmingArm9919 · 2026-02-23T00:55:12+00:00

oh wow, this place really is devolving (evolving?) into a mirror image of itself.

the women have adopted the red pill lingo, including the misspelled words, hostile titles, and cringe takes.

unification is almost upon us!

Symnoptik- · 2026-02-23T03:38:51+00:00

All is fair in the art of love and war, you don't get what you deserve. You simply get what you get.

wtknight · 2026-02-28T15:33:09+00:00

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Creative_cacti · 2026-02-21T16:03:20+00:00

Women are not gatekeepers of sex. Everyone can say no. Sexually liberated people who respect boundaries and are accommodating in bed don't tend to have these problems.

Local-Willingness784 · 2026-02-21T16:37:05+00:00

guys really are that desperate if they make people like you think all that....

Terrible_Lift · 2026-02-21T15:43:21+00:00

This sub makes getting laid/attaining relationships into something SO MUCH MORE difficult than it actually is 🤦🏼‍♂️

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2026-02-22T08:00:45+00:00

I'm the end will all do. If you don't work or put yourself in a position to get what you want, then you have no one to blame but yourself

Title	Men get what they deserve in dating and casual sex scene
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Date	February 21, 2026 2:52 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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