As if being single is a disease 🙄

BlueSeaWilt · 2020-04-06T22:25:05+00:00

He claims it was a compliment when by his own admission he was interrogating her to find out what awful secret she was hiding.

finalbosskitten · 2020-04-06T23:09:00+00:00

What gets me is that she says it straight: she was in an abusive relationship and...he doesn't seem to give a fuck at all, his takeaway is "whew, I triggered her, but nothing I did was wrong, maybe I just didn't say it in an optimally manipulative way." He's a fall's away from being a sociopath and doesn't seem to care at all about her. Wtf.

pissed_af · 2020-04-06T22:27:22+00:00

That was so intrusive and rude

_ladybusiness · 2020-04-06T23:10:11+00:00

Wow, single for two whole entire years! I guess when you’re in your early 20s and a complete idiot that feels like a significant amount of time.

thedrunkcuteblonde · 2020-04-06T22:20:58+00:00

He thinks he’s not an asshole for asking such a question that always has that second meaning behind it no matter how you say it to someone he’s not close friends with. Cute.

radical__daphne · 2020-04-06T22:21:19+00:00

She curved that pig! Good for her!

blackopium777 · 2020-04-06T23:03:29+00:00

Before I met my husband, I was single for 3 years. This is the only reason why I could get into the relationship I really wanted. I made sure to commit to a man who fits MY needs. So obviously LVM will try to make any woman lower her standards. Being single for years will make many women realize that they don't need a man that badly to put up with LV bullshit.

Nikita_kitty93 · 2020-04-06T23:36:18+00:00

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seashellseashell52 · 2020-04-07T01:24:30+00:00

I think what upsets me the most is the fact that she answered when she clearly didn’t want to. Who the hell is this guy that he feels like he has a right to know her personal history?

I’m willing to bet she wouldn’t have shared this with him if he didn’t push judgment on her. The biggest load of bull when a guy ends a statement like “well I just was curious...but ok.” Freaking creep.

Also, she’s 22. If that’s a serious red flag to this guy that she’s single at such a young age, he’s got way bigger problems.

aclumsygirl · 2020-04-07T01:52:51+00:00

"I can't imagine why some guy hasn't taken you yet"-- that drives me nuts when they say that. Taken?? Um, I decide-- nobody "takes" me. A few months ago a guy told me I must not have a bf because "he wouldn't let you out by yourself". Yes, these are supposed to be compliments, I get it, but they are CREEPY compliments. The underlying assumption is that we're chattel, something to be owned and controlled.

cyclodextrin · 2020-04-07T00:42:51+00:00

"I don't want to get stuck with someone crazy"

"She's not interested in me"

"I don't understand"

Novemberinthechair · 2020-04-07T00:02:02+00:00

This fuckwit is scared he happened upon a woman who isn't insecure or has been gaslighted into wondering way she isn't wiping a guy's ass emotionally. No, she isn't some man's slave and doesn't feel desperate because of it.

2020-04-07T00:51:12+00:00

Confirmation that only abusers ask this question

darlin_squishy · 2020-04-07T00:57:58+00:00

Because if someone is single and attractive it MUST mean there is something wrong with them.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-04-06T22:21:42+00:00

I feel like most men are legitimately mentally ill.

themissdaydreamer · 2020-04-06T23:59:51+00:00

so satisfying when the trash takes itself out.

Radtron3000 · 2020-04-06T22:20:53+00:00

Wow. Just WOW

TriSarahFlops · 2020-04-07T02:07:57+00:00

I love her response. ONE OF US. ONE OF US.

jibberjabber777 · 2020-04-07T02:58:08+00:00

It’s incredible to me how he sees her as basically a used car:

Looks good Seems to work Why hasn’t some guy claimed it...her?

Maybe she didn’t WANT to date. Maybe she was focusing on school/work. Maybe she has personal reasons.

It’s like they think it is a woman’s natural state to be in a relationship. If there are men who would want you, why would you be single? Ummmm....because I’m capable of independent thought?

Laeun · 2020-04-07T04:13:02+00:00

"Woohoo! She's not crazy! She was just abused. I can move in on this."

illusion_believe · 2020-04-06T23:22:34+00:00

I’m very concerned ! I saw a post yesterday from Matthew Hussey answering the women that ask him how to live when you are single.

Seriously some women can’t imagine themselves single ?!!!!! Waow

2020-04-07T00:41:35+00:00

He totally killed what could have been a fun flirty moment and made it totally uncomfortable.

PossibleCook · 2020-04-06T22:21:07+00:00

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Radtron3000 · 2020-04-06T22:35:49+00:00

Can someone link the original post? I'm having trouble hunting it down

Reachingout365 · 2020-04-07T04:18:52+00:00

If a man asks me this, it's appropriate to just get up and walk away yea?

Damn, misogyny is so bad for mental health... I really have a major complex about this shit and this irks me.

This man is way too insecure to be in a relationship... if she wasn't single you wouldn't have a chance why are men so dumb Jesus Christ... it's like they seek out relationship in spite of clear fear of real connection cause they can't even see women as having value as a full person... they view women, clearly, as existing to fullfil others and obviously if she's single she couldn't fulfill men or she must have some kind of "attitude."

"Women can have sex with whoever they want!" No we can't cause you might rape and kill us... I wonder how much of this is their way evading the subconscious knowledge of how shitty men are and they are projecting their own insecurities before she's even said yes. Oh yea... red flag..

Saitschik · 2020-04-07T09:30:39+00:00

Women who are very attractive but stay single for a long amount of time are usually the highest value women of all IME.

That guy with his pushy and rude personality is repulsive. He has a very basic and limited view to perceive the world and women...

betch_face_diaries · 2020-04-07T00:45:57+00:00

It is so rude to ask someone about that

MissVvvvv · 2020-04-07T00:52:25+00:00

Lololololololol! What a clueless twat! 🤣

throwaway93731 · 2020-04-07T00:55:26+00:00

I literally just cannot... and let me guess, the comments on the post are of people defending him?

Reachingout365 · 2020-04-07T04:20:58+00:00

I can't even read it I'm too triggered lol. I'm single cause of CSA and living with said man who "saw me as his." I already internalize that and not having experienced romantic love outside of that. We internalize already. I know I'm not the only one who internalizes shit. And now they're as a class saying something is wrong with us when clearly something is wrong with them for us to be healthier away from them... fuck this dude honestly.

cantstopthemachine77 · 2020-04-07T10:20:49+00:00

This is literally one of the reasons a friend of mine was insecure about being single for more than a few weeks or a month at a time.... she thought other dudes would think something was wrong with her.

She internalized this so much that she would start to act like she was superior when she would be in a relationship and I wasn’t. Yeah... we aren’t friends anymore.

light-love850 · 2020-04-07T11:41:08+00:00

Lmao what a jerk. She was so nice to him too. Some guys just don't get it and that's fine

goldustiger · 2020-04-07T00:38:11+00:00

The thing that spooked me was that it didn't seem to cross his mind that she was single by choice. Like she's pretty and nice so she must be "taken." He didn't even question if maybe she didn't even WANT to be with anyone? It might make his head explode to know that a woman can be pretty and nice and have a cool job and doesn't want just any Joe Schmo to be a part of it, because she gets to have that choice. Must assume she's crazy! Good lord.

ScarletFate779 · 2020-04-07T11:28:48+00:00

Meanwhile my sisters partner is embarrassed to even be in a women’s clothing section.

Blackishcat27 · 2020-04-07T17:45:29+00:00

Good for her for nexting this creep. Being single isn't some damn disease.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-04-08T00:47:38+00:00

"She's really nice and humble".

BLEGH. In other words, she seems mousy and meek to him, and he "can't imagine why some guy hasn't taken you yet". It's gross. For all he knows, she could be in a relationship.

She could have been "taken" by someone who sexually assaulted her, her abusive ex boyfriend, and here's this a$$hat asking her nosy prying questions about her relationship status.

Title	As if being single is a disease 🙄
Author	throwaway23004345
Upvotes	457
Comments	69
Date	April 6, 2020 10:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fw89ge/as_if_being_single_is_a_disease/
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