Do you think it's fair to say that a lot of the issues faced in dating would be solved if men had a lower sex drive or women had a higher one?

Bandit174 · 2021-04-28T01:15:38+00:00

Im not sure. I think the difference between men and women is more than just the frequency they desire sex. It seems to also be how sensitive they are to visual stimuli. Based on looks alone the % of men that women consider fuckable is significantly smaller than the % of women that men consider fuckable.

So if you alter the frequencies but not the sensitivity we might just end up in a situation where women fuck the same conventionally hot guys they already fuck just a lot more of them. So instead of having an n count of 8 the average girl would have an n count of 30 but she'd still be fucking the same caliber of guys they fuck under the current paradigm.

ISimpForKweens · 2021-04-28T01:08:18+00:00

If men had lower sex drives than men would act more like women and have high standards. This would cause the price of pussy to plummet and would create a more balanced dating life for men and women.

Murphysmongoose · 2021-04-28T00:35:08+00:00

I think it would be more fair to lower men's to match women's. I think that would level the playing field more, b/c instead of the competition just getting more fierce with women demanding more sex, it would counter balance the power of that leverage women have over men.

SaBahRub · 2021-04-28T01:19:32+00:00

Less horniness would be less destructive, but men are awfully attached to their thirst, no matter how much unhappiness it brings them

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-04-28T01:42:34+00:00

I definitely prefer men with lower sex drives. Having been with both types, it makes for a much better relationship.

gammaJinx · 2021-04-28T02:19:06+00:00

No. I think the imbalance in sex drive is a symptom of imbalance in the relationship. I've never had a healthy relationship with a dead bedroom.

ogres_r_like_onions · 2021-04-28T01:56:52+00:00

If men had womens sex drives the species would have sub replacement level births and die out due to lack of fucking

If women had mens sex drives the species would die out from over exertion due to constant fucking

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-04-28T00:34:46+00:00

Not necessarily, probably just rearranged, we are human beings we'll always find dumb shit to argue over and hate about each other lol

Cobra_x30 · 2021-04-28T00:36:32+00:00

No. The problem isn’t that men and women need to be the exact same... that’s the fuckery that is making dating suck out attempts at social engineering. Instead for some 100,000 years we had a fairly well laid out system that generally worked at producing a qualified next generation. Today the feminists have dismantled it and the birth rate is below replenishment. So we will eventually go the way of the dodo bird and be replaced by people who actually have kids.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-04-28T01:45:34+00:00

I don’t think you can make a blanket statement like that about either gender. There are women who have huge sex drives and there are men who don’t have any drive at all.

FrivolousMood · 2021-04-28T01:57:29+00:00

Yes. The world would be an entirely different place if not for the gender libido imbalance.

superlurkage · 2021-04-28T02:46:45+00:00

Desire is the cause of suffering.

— Buddha

WilliamWyattD · 2021-04-28T04:24:58+00:00

Culture can bend this a bit, one way or another; but women are the picky maters and primary sexual selectors in homo sapiens.

So you cannot casually imagine messing with this basic dynamic too significantly without expecting massive knockon effects. So culture can tinker a bit, but don't think you can easily imagine the impact of women say having higher sex drive and less selectivity than men.

FreierSteinkopf · 2021-04-28T09:25:56+00:00

It's a world I'd like to live in. It's just changing supply and demand in favour for men so I am for it.

Obviously it's delusional and I don't know if there are downsides but I can't imagine it being worse for men than today.

SylvestorTalone · 2021-04-28T13:58:09+00:00

Virtually all of them would be solved. The mismatch in the male and female sex drives governs the entire meta of the dating scene.

cowfishAreReal · 2021-04-28T00:24:29+00:00

I think that would be part of it but there would also need to be no more gender roles whatever. Men paying for dates is a dumb gender role, women taking care of the house and children is a dumb gender role, amongst a bunch of other ones

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-04-28T00:25:14+00:00

In dating? Not really. If that was the only thing that changed, it wouldn't change women's preferences or feelings regarding the men around them. It would only amplify their drive or desire to do things with those particular men.

If men had a lower sex drive, assuming that was the only thing being changed, it would probably be men saying "we don't need" women, and actually be able to follow through on it. The world of the incel would basically become everyday life for women if men had a lower sex drive.

SebastianSio · 2021-04-28T01:14:34+00:00

gammaJinx · 2021-04-28T02:14:16+00:00

I found an article about sex drive:https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/why-am-i-so-horny#causes

It says " Some older research also suggests a possible association between higher testosterone levels in men and having a higher sex drive. ", so it could explain why men have a higher sex drive than women.

If a part of the sex drive of men is hormonal, it means it's partly biological, and to change that we must change the DNA of men, and that would be difficult now.

After, women can change their way of living the seduction, be pro-active for example, even if I'm not sure most women really want it.

RunsWlthScissors · 2021-04-28T04:08:21+00:00

Just a few. Doesn’t change how we empathize and understand each. Doesn’t change the fact that there’s certain baggage or personality traits you can put up with or would rather walk away from. I don’t think you could simplify dating with one thing.

OXOzymandias · 2021-04-28T07:21:54+00:00

lower dis shit ngl

Pilling_it · 2021-04-28T07:27:36+00:00

If it was lower for men sex wouldn't sell and we'd make it less of a deal. Also birthrate wouldn't be high, and a few decades in the next two generations would have to carry the aging population.

If it was higher for women everyone would fuck but be more casual about it. Sex wouldn't sell either anymore.

Goodthingstartssmall · 2021-04-28T09:22:40+00:00

Decreasing men sex drive and make it like womens would be individual utopia.

SuperSupremeKai · 2021-04-28T15:55:17+00:00

Decreasing the male libido would help in a variety of different ways, no doubt about that.

But it might result in a lot of women complaining about how little attention they're getting. Even that is happening right now to an extent.

Responsible-Bike9047 · 2021-04-28T00:55:09+00:00

women have extremely high sex drives lmao it’s just that a lot of men r unattractive

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Jacked5parrow · 2021-04-28T01:18:02+00:00

You want what you can’t have, and over abundance of something can get tiresome or annoying.

Estimator1313 · 2021-04-28T04:13:44+00:00

No.

To me, the only thing that would truly solve the issue would be is if there was less competition.

Sen_ri · 2021-04-28T07:05:51+00:00

No. I seem to have a high sex drive and I thought sex was very risky and not worth it until I met a guy that was ideal for me at 26 years old. I did ask him out though it took a while, we were friends at first. I would not appreciate any dick pics, or being flirted with a lot. I think sexting is risky and unappealing. Women with a higher sex drive don’t necessarily have the same perspective as men.

The fact that women get pregnant is a big factor in how women act with dating. Men have more satisfaction with a hookup than women do as well, making casual sex less appealing to women. Sex researchers always say men’s sexuality is more straightforward and women’s sexuality is more complicated. Also the hormonal cycle women have makes sex drive vary naturally. So women’s sex drives could never really match up with men’s.

trueanonymousperson · 2021-04-28T11:59:27+00:00

I don't think it's a question of sex drive, I've seen a lot of people say that men and women have similar sex drives but women are conditioned by society to suppress it, while for men it's the opposite, having a lot of sex in many societies gives men clout. Of course individual people will vary.

Women also often complain about constant dick pics and unsolicited flirtation. However let me ask when has a man ever complained about getting a titty pic or a vag pic. I guarantee you most men wouldn't mind. Hell, most men would pay for it. Both problems previously mentioned would be solved if there was an even amount of sexual desire between men and women. And I think it's safe to say that most other problems would be solved as well.

It's usually the more unattractive people who you hear about sending unsolicited dick pics etc. (Although I think attractive dudes should not be sending unsolicited dick pics either)

So imagine getting on your social media inboxes 2-3 explicit pictures of unattractive women per week, women you wouldn't sleep with, maybe it's apparent they don't know basic hygiene. And while at first you wouldn't really be bothered, after a couple of months of this you'd get pretty sick of it too. And when a more attractive woman sends one through (unsolicited) you've already got this preconception of the type of person who does this and it immediately turns you off.

UsualSouthern2168 · 2021-04-28T14:39:58+00:00

gammaJinx · 2021-04-28T16:57:15+00:00

I think it would solve the sexual discontent for many men but there will still be issues. For example look at gay men. On average, they have significantly more sex with more sexual partners. Using Grindr is a much different experience. For example from what my gay friends have told me if they’re feeling horny they can go on Grindr, find somebody, say hi and swap nudes then meet up for sex. It’s a much faster more sex focused process. Often they won’t even know each other’s name. In my opinion it reveals the true sexual nature of men when women aren’t there to gate keep sex.

hesipullupjimbo445 · 2021-04-28T20:08:09+00:00

Yes but it would create a whole other set of issues that women would face and to be honest I’m scared to see how they would react.

BestLibertarianTemp · 2021-04-29T06:07:32+00:00

Do you think it's fair to say that a lot of the issues faced in dating would be solved if men had a lower sex drive

Yes.

or women had a higher one?

Not exactly higher. Some of men's issues would be resolved if women had different preferences not higher or lower sex drive.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2021-04-28T00:28:49+00:00

Women don't have a lower sex drive, just more self control.

singdontcry · 2021-04-28T00:23:38+00:00

Women don't have on average lower libidos than men.

801735 · 2021-04-28T01:08:17+00:00

Everything is perfectly fine just the way it is. If it wasn't perfectly fine, it'd be perfectly fine some other way.

STEcelibate · 2021-04-28T14:58:58+00:00

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Title	Do you think it's fair to say that a lot of the issues faced in dating would be solved if men had a lower sex drive or women had a higher one?
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Date	April 28, 2021 12:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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