Nearly 25 years in she tells me she’s done and basically has no feelings about it. At first she denies anyone else is involved until I uncover some evidence and call her on it and then she says they have only been talking and haven’t even seen each other. I know that’s BS but have no proof until this weekend she got back from a supposed friends retreat(which I already knew was bullshit) and I found some more proof they met up. How do you avoid the urge to go scorched earth on both of them?? Im not talking about anything physical and I know it’s wrong and will get me nowhere but I really want to blow up both of their worlds by outing them to her family and friends who thinks she’s a fucking saint and I’m the asshole and to his family and job. I want them to feel the same pain I do. Even tho we are still married and haven’t separated yet she has been saying it’s not cheating since she declared we are done. Someone please tell me how to get past this. I know I’m better than that but it’s all I can fucking think about.