oh honey no

ydoiexistlolidk · 2020-10-26T04:44:54+00:00

“It isn’t made of metal, so I can’t get it wet and I’m super paranoid about breaking the big stone.”

LOL is it bad that I laughed? 😂 I mean this is a new standard of low-value behaviour and this is considering the fact that he makes good money as well. He doesn’t care about her.

MercyGoldenrod · 2020-10-26T04:18:36+00:00

my heart is breaking, she has a horrible ring that she can't be proud of and it's made of rhinestones??? what is it made out of that she can't get it wet?? I'm so so sad for my sisters :( they deserve so much more

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-26T05:38:22+00:00

This is what happens when you ask a man for a $149 engagement ring. He thinks "If she'll accept that crap, then why don't I just give her a paper ring with glued on rhinestones." This is why we have high standards, because men will always lowball you.

But seriously I did not think it could get worse than the Walmart rings and Amazon rings I've been seeing. This woman is the epitome of stupid if she thinks this man loves her in any way. This is the biggest fuck you that I have ever seen thrown directly in a woman's face by a man.

2020-10-26T06:48:37+00:00

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huevos_and_whiskey · 2020-10-26T04:34:23+00:00

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OneOnionBhaji · 2020-10-26T10:30:51+00:00

The impassioned arguments that "intent is more important than effect" and that asking for something - anything - else to replace his primary school art project would be ungratefuuuuuull are breaking my brain. It's unsealed wood and poorly fastened rhinestones or nothin', apparently!

Marigold-ink · 2020-10-26T06:54:01+00:00

Let’s think of all the scenarios:

1) he’s purposely bating her to break up so she looks like the bad guy.

2) he’s testing her before he gives her the real ring. (If you have to test the person you’re proposing to, then you have serious issues.)

3) he’s a clueless romantic. (Who’s also an idiot who can’t think about time, place, and fancies himself knowledgeable about material properties without any research—what lack of forethought. Is she going to have to do the thinking for him when he decides to superglue the shelf to the wall? Can he even do housework? Come on, unsealed wood with plastic (rhinestones) superglued on top? Those cheap materials sell for a few dollars for a reason. They don’t last. That’s why rhinestones are used in nail art. Ineptitude isn’t an endearing quality in a partner you’re putting your trust in to make emergency medical decisions and being your medical advocate when you’ve suffered pregnancy complications and can’t consent and advocate for yourself.)

All 3 scenarios are red flags. Get out of there.

oi_oi_oink · 2020-10-26T06:32:52+00:00

It feels like her fiance is a man with the intellect of a 5 year old.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-10-26T11:36:39+00:00

What the fuck is it made of that she can't get it wet? Cardboard?

Oh fuck that, that's just stupid. He hates her.

Naturacat784 · 2020-10-26T12:17:08+00:00

The comments are like jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe that you want a more durable ring.

PorkNeckBone · 2020-10-26T04:49:55+00:00

superglued rhinestones..... jfc

daisy_0720 · 2020-10-26T08:36:38+00:00

If an 8 year old did this for his 'wedding', it would be the cutest thing in the world.

A grown ass man? He's taking the piss.

Gertrudethecurious · 2020-10-26T17:22:03+00:00

So I tried to find this post but found another one - yes this guy is trying to break up with her if this post is anything to go by:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hvwq9i/aita_for_being_upset_with_my_150_engagement_ring/ : AITA for being upset with my $150 engagement ring?

The update says:

To be brief, he bought a shitty ring from a jeweler who got bad reviews so that when I got upset over it he could dump me under the guise that I was a golddigger. He has apparently been having an affair (turns out covid had shortened his work hours, not extended) with a "younger model" that he's "earned" but knew that breaking things off when everyone loved me so much would "hurt his optics" so he had to make it my fault.

So yes - this dude is an arsehole.

llamasinspace420 · 2020-10-26T11:45:58+00:00

When my ex was trying to come back recently he kept using the whole "I want to marry you, I asked your dad if I could" and I'm just like okay? But you didn't when you had the chance. Easier to say than do of course, and he also likes to tell me how he went to jewelry stores with his mom and I kept thinking "but I didn't want anything from a jewelry store, I showed you what I wanted" and after reading this I'm glad I dodged that bullet.

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2020-10-26T13:44:24+00:00

Unless he’s a professional jewelry-maker, he should not be making the ring.

localgirlcult · 2020-10-26T09:21:32+00:00

Lol, the language here. I LOVE his EFFORT/It KIND OF makes me feel like I wasn't worth it/I wasn't asking for much...I DON'T THINK?/ I probably don't need to mention it. She's about to start apologizing for existing.

Jimeldz · 2020-10-26T12:39:45+00:00

What. Just WHAT. I spend easily more than that on shoes or makeup monthly. ZERO APPRECIATION.

Adawritesrules · 2020-10-26T12:28:32+00:00

Did he superglue them diamond on a pretzel?

vmuzondi · 2020-10-26T12:58:18+00:00

Oof. This is exactly why you should never fall for the idea of having low expectations or being low maintenance. Some how men find a way to go even lower. Closed mouths don’t get fed. I hope she breaks up with him and finds self respect.

SarcasmSlide · 2020-10-26T14:58:19+00:00

Fucking Christ I’m so excited to die alone y’all.

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-10-26T11:07:25+00:00

the guy I know gave his fiance a ring he made using a stone he collected from the place where they went hiking for the first time. she wasn't happy at all, and of course people shamed her for it. not to mention that the guy is fucking rapist.

helppleasekk · 2020-10-26T10:13:32+00:00

I was in a situation kind of like this but it was a male friend. He makes good money and splurges large amounts on his friends (male and female friends alike) pretty often. A couple months ago I organized a birthday party for him by myself and got him an expensive gift. He had been going through a hard time so it meant a lot to him that I spent so much time and effort to give him a good day. Flash forward to this month, on my birthday, he rushed together a package of worthless junk and a dirty stuffed animal that looked like it was from a second hand store. We're not friends anymore lmao.

There were a lot of other issues not including the blatant audacity I described above, he had been demanding a LOT of emotional labor from me, I was basically his free therapist. I feel so much better without all that constant negativity in my life. I really shouldn't have stayed friends with him that long, but I will know better next time. Men are so often unworthy of our time and energy.

MomNateChloe · 2020-10-26T04:47:11+00:00

Girl, he isn’t it.

The right one will surprise you with a diamond even if you do protest 😘

Marigold-ink · 2020-10-26T09:13:57+00:00

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xdecadent · 2020-10-26T16:02:53+00:00

Jesus H Christ on a cracker.

HE MADE A RING AND GLUED RHINESTONES ON?! GIRL!!!! WHAT!

NiBBasBeCrazy · 2020-10-26T09:51:11+00:00

Oh good God I thought I’ve seen it all. Seems like the bar is being set lower and lower everyday.

We have to start expecting more ladies, this is just ridiculous.

2020-10-26T12:44:02+00:00

Never underestimate how cheap a man can be for you.

I do not entertain the male gender anymore, because I am tired of rolling my eyes. Tired of sighing.

C_Haggy · 2020-10-26T14:07:08+00:00

Rhinestones and super glue??

How can he be so ignorant about jewelry making, yet so confident that he can definitely make a passable engagement ring?

laserkatze · 2020-10-26T14:11:39+00:00

oh no but I kinda want to check the ring out tho to see if the dude is a romantic with an average middle schooler‘s mind and crafting ability or if he just wants to save the 150$.

plummyjellyfish · 2020-10-27T09:12:00+00:00

lol, I recently went to one of the jewellers in my area with a friend who wanted a custom necklace made. He showed us this fabulous opal engagement ring a man had commissioned for his fiance - the man had designed it with the jeweler, and then had it made professionally with good materials and the stones of his choice. That's how this whole, 'custom ring' thing is supposed to go. Not fucking arts and crafting it in the garage.

Mmmurl · 2020-10-26T10:34:25+00:00

I think I would much prefer a homemade ring over a shop bought one... as long as the person making it had the required level of skill. I think this dude must have watched a video of a similar ring being made and thought it would be easier to make something really special and different.

I'm waiting to see her update after she tells him she can't wear it. If I were him I'd have already bought the original ring as a back up but maybe he is a few spanners short of a tool kit if he thought untreated wood and superglued rhinestones would make a wearable ring.

Scarypaperplates · 2020-10-27T06:05:07+00:00

Omg read the update on this, guy wanted her to freak out so he could dump her for being a "golddigger". Hes been cheating on her but because hes a pos and everyone loves her he devised this to make her look like a bad guy. NVM scrote strikes again.

nonchalance77 · 2020-10-26T17:29:49+00:00

I want to comment but my eyes are blurry from laughing so hard I’m crying and then I got mascara in my eye. She needs to run before it’s too late.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-10-26T19:17:28+00:00

He should’ve made it out of macaroni noodles. That way, if it got wet, she could just eat it.

ferociouslycurious · 2020-10-26T09:45:26+00:00

Run away. Don’t bother asking him. That just gets you ten years of effort (marriage) that ends with the realization he was just a L/NVM. Ask me how I know.

lottienina · 2020-10-26T10:54:37+00:00

The rhinestones falling off had me in tears, not gonna lie lol. Did he use Elmers on paper for this ring... she’s not even worth Krazy glue?!?

When I was dating my husband and we talked marriage 6 months in, I told him I expected nothing short of a ring that cost 7k. That ring is a promise to me, and an investment in saying our marriage will work, that he truly believes that I’m the one he wants to go on the journey with. 9 months in he asked me to pick out ring styles I like and email them to him, because I also told him theirs no point in getting me a 7k ring that I hate. Exactly 1 year into the relationship he proposed with a 10k and some change ring that’s perfect for me.

A lot of women low ball their engagement ring because they don’t want to be seen as a gold digger / greedy, then end up with with a ring pop that melts when they wash there hands. A HVM will be proud to invest in a beautiful piece of jewelry for the woman he loves, because they understand that she’s the one wearing it for LIFE, and they also take pride in seeing it on her hand and the commitment to each other it represents. I know expensive rings aren’t for everyone, but if a man isn’t willing to get you exactly what you want in a ring at you’re agreed upon price point, he’s not the one. I honestly think men should have no say in the engagement ring (price or design), but that’s a different post for a different day lol.

veruscka · 2020-10-26T15:03:24+00:00

Ugh he should have taken all that time and effort into how he’d propose instead of making his own ring. :(

KitKat1705 · 2020-10-26T20:34:48+00:00

Lol not a money problem and she couldn't even get a 150$ ring. The thing some women put with always surprise me somehow.

Title	oh honey no
Author	honestlyidkfr
Upvotes	315
Comments	90
Date	October 26, 2020 4:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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