Study suggests that I don't give af

Pokegirloras · 2021-08-24T19:23:15+00:00

Next study should be about how many men takes steps to become sexually attractive

throwawayastrogirl · 2021-08-24T19:04:27+00:00

Oh no.

So, anyway..

Ironsculpture · 2021-08-24T18:55:24+00:00

I call bullshit on that. If that was true then men wouldn't go out of their way to look disgusting, they'd put effort into looking beautiful like women do.

apple_cores · 2021-08-24T20:16:40+00:00

Every man I dated alway knew I desired them. I did things for them, bought them things, had sex alll the time with them, complimented their accomplishments/looks/sex skills/told them I desired them. And I was genuine, I cared for them. Most of those men still had wandering eyes, cheated, or broke up with me lol.

This is actually a pretty simple: if your wife or gf isn’t doing a thing to boost your ego, it’s one or all of these: she’s fed up of having to cook, clean, take care of the kids all day and she’s exhausted; she’s resentful that you don’t help out; you’re lazy; you don’t romance her; you’ve let yourself go from drinking too much beer and being generally unhealthy; you’re being irresponsible with money, time, your family; or lastly she doesn’t like you and/or isn’t attracted to you.

If you look at the comments in that thread, there a hot topic about their wives or gfs buying them flowers. Most men said they don’t even like or care about flowers but they love that she does that 😵‍💫

1Here4Bach · 2021-08-24T17:56:52+00:00

This study does not change biology in any way. Men think throwing these kinds of study at women will change thousands of years of female sexuality.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-08-24T18:49:54+00:00

I saw that on the front page and rolled my eyes because of course men want to be desired. We ALL do.

But you can’t expect women to go crazy over you if you don’t take care of yourself, stay hygienic and treat your gf like a mother/maid.

Edit : they need to do a study on why women aren’t attracted to their partners.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-08-24T16:08:39+00:00

IME when men say they want to “feel sexually desired” by a woman, what they mean is: she acts like my own personal porn star, looks/dresses how I want her to, does all the dirty things I want with no regard to her own desires/pleasures, is up for it whenever I want.

The real mindfuck is (as some of us know) when you get with a guy who whines that you don’t “desire” him, yet he still gets turned off or salty if you initiate. 🤡

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-08-24T16:32:29+00:00

Erm women want to be sexually desired too!

And that means you don’t cheat, you don’t have wandering eyes, it means you pay ALL the bills, it means you perform emotional labour etc.

But I guess they never really cared about what it meant FOR US to feel sexually desired.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-08-24T15:51:31+00:00

Where are all the studies talking about how detrimental it is to women to be badgered to death by their male partners for sex? All the studies decrying the massive rape problem men have? Do we even care about all the women being raped by their male partners?

theredwolf07 · 2021-08-24T23:35:59+00:00

Have they tried being desirable?

Praximaros · 2021-08-24T16:14:45+00:00

Who’s “We?” We know that men as a whole are selfish and want everything all of the time, so why is it surprising that men complain about not being desired enough too? Watch scrotes use this as proof that men don’t get enough affection and try to shame women into being more sexually forward. Never mind that men are not conditioned into being truly desirable by women. They are conditioned into acquiring women by traits and behaviors that are attractive to other men. Also the fact that a lot of men are simply not receptive to women’s desire. If desiring a man is likely to reward you with contempt (Madonna-whore complex), suspicion (“gold-digger”), or simply nothing at all (porn addict), why would anyone bother?

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-08-24T16:27:28+00:00

So then where are all of the articles giving men advice about improving their appearances for women? Where are all the articles telling men to get in the gym, trim off all of his body hair, wear nicer/better-fitting clothes, take care of his skin, practice better hygiene, and actually make sex fun and exciting for his partner???

Because we have plenty of those aimed at women. Society constantly encourages women to “switch it up,” and “spice things up,” and stay in the gym because it’s perfectly reasonable for a man to be unattracted to fat women. But women are also shamed all over the internet for wanting a man that they’re attracted to.

You aren’t allowed to be attracted to tall men. You aren’t allowed to be attracted to fit men. You aren’t allowed to be attracted to hot, sexy men with big dicks and a full head of hair… but they’re allowed to call you unattractive for literally anything. Oh, but you BETTER be attracted to beer belly Bob even though he does fuck all for his personal grooming and appearance.

ItsFreezen · 2021-08-24T17:24:19+00:00

"Study Suggests " Sure Jan.

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-08-24T20:56:02+00:00

Men complain when we don't initiate sex...it's like bro, you're so horny all the time you don't give me a chance to initiate! You're always asking and don't give me space to even think about initiating.

aquietsword · 2021-08-24T20:18:30+00:00

So, we're doing them a favor by only dating hvm that we actually desire. But they still hate fds because the REAL study would show men want to be desired while being objectively undesirable.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-08-24T18:15:10+00:00

My initial response was, "aw, that's kind of sad."

But then, why are women the ones who are badgered to death to remain "youthful," "fuckable" and pleasing to the male gaze? If men want to be desired, where is the effort? Showing up with a penis isn't enough.

OrangeyPanda · 2021-08-24T18:40:29+00:00

This study was based on a reddit 'Askmen' thread btw. So they're literally taking a study based on basement dwelling misogynistic LVM and then throwing it in the science subreddit for pity points.

ilike2snap · 2021-08-25T00:13:02+00:00

I don’t buy it. If men actually wanted to be desired, they might try to… be desirable.

avokatze · 2021-08-25T00:14:44+00:00

They still won't shower though.

sassyheather · 2021-08-24T21:53:09+00:00

Study suggests that this woman 🙋🏻‍♀️ sexually desires her partner because he is sexually desirable and never forgets to keep winning and impressing her. 👏🏻

bombas- · 2021-08-24T20:29:14+00:00

Wait, I think that’s a good thing? If you don’t care whether your partner desires you or not that’s a rapist mentality.

Men should lean into this by: pursuing women who are actually interested in them, taking care of themselves so that they are desirable, behaving in desirable ways, making sure their female partners are turned on for sex and enjoying it.

This is in your hands fellas!

edelbiatch · 2021-08-25T06:14:47+00:00

New study shows: Women want men to be hot in order to desire them

ashcantcatchabreak · 2021-08-25T03:02:51+00:00

Maybe if they bathed regularly or put a brush through their hair they might get compliments more. Very few men I’ve dated even owned moisturizer let alone a hair brush

xsweaterxweatherx · 2021-08-24T16:55:08+00:00

Tell me why I woke up to my partner sending me this Reddit post with no other context

frostedgemstone · 2021-08-25T01:09:56+00:00

I saw that and immediately knew it would draw in the typical scrote comments talking about “woe is me no one likes me no one compliments me men need compliments too” like can they please just... not.... for once.........

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-08-25T10:33:04+00:00

Well duh. Now that theres a sTUdY, can men of this world please stop crying about and start working on not looking like bags of chips?

relationship_reddit · 2021-08-24T22:34:37+00:00

Still won't keep them from watching porn and cheating though!

ThrowRA_lantern · 2021-08-25T10:21:53+00:00

Did Jordan Peterson write this 🤣

Outrageous-Knowledge · 2021-08-25T17:15:00+00:00

I don’t care lol also psychology is barely a science

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-08-29T00:52:51+00:00

So do they want women to constantly give “chances” (read: pity sex) to men they aren’t attracted to, or do they want to “be desired” by their partner? Which is it? Cause you can’t have both.

Title	Study suggests that I don't give af
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Date	August 24, 2021 3:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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