Today in 'having a kid together won't fix your relationship'

plomerst · 2021-10-30T15:10:47+00:00

It’s interesting bc when I saw she was pregnant and moved to a PA farm with Zayn near her mom’s farm, I thought “what a dream life”. Of course nothing is as it appears..

goldiebaby · 2021-10-30T15:07:42+00:00

Gigi was screwed being raised by her trash parents and she unsurprisingly chose a trash partner. Having a kid in an on-off relationship is a bad idea. I hope she and her kid are OK.

up_d00t · 2021-10-30T13:18:37+00:00

Another reason the birth rates are dropping

Snugglyy · 2021-10-30T15:51:08+00:00

Didnt expect the vile language about biology/race, and definitely didn’t expect physical injury. But Gigi absolutely dug her heels deep in delusion when that pregnancy test came up positive a few weeks after their 5th breakup. She wanted to play happy house at all costs and it was only a matter of time before the fuse on Zayn’s LV nature ran out again. Yolanda definitely influenced her housewife fantasy as well, Gigi seems like she was caught up with her narcissistic mothers’s standards to notice the red flags with her relationship.

seadragon6 · 2021-10-30T14:08:34+00:00

This is disgusting. I want to add that Zayn also used the “private matters” phrasing in his response. So many abusers say that abuse should be handled outside of the public eye and behind closed doors. This is how men continue to hurt and treat their wives (and other women related to them) like property.

Ireadanything · 2021-10-30T16:43:47+00:00

Women that grow up in traumatic homes and have been on receiving end of physical or emotional or verbal abuse often pick partners that mimic the abuse they've previously endured. It's not shocking that she chose that man but it's sad that now she has a daughter with him.

This is a great example of why taking care of yourself mentally as well as physically is a must. Get therapy and invest in yourself before investing in a partner. Your future self will thank you for it and so will any children you have.

anne-goldy · 2021-10-30T13:53:25+00:00

Yolanda isn’t really a good role-model either, but that absolutely does not justify his actions. I feel like Gigi caught herself in-between her LV ex and her controlling, narcissistic mother.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-10-30T14:16:42+00:00

Any man who uses the word slut in an argument is automatically an abuser to never keep around.

Gigi is a bit of a pick me but she isn't a bad person, I feel for her. I think there's potential for her to do things right, I can see her winning full custody and it's probably better if the dad is not around. She can afford it, she's loaded and her own dad is like a billionaire. But definetly not a gamble any of us can take.

RaccoonSweaty3741 · 2021-10-30T13:05:52+00:00

In todays world you can have 130+ IQ, be an international supermodel, be the sweetest person to them or dedicate your life to caring for them. And they will still make you a single mom with the speed of light.

This is why I am supressing my wish for a child.

NotEvenRemotelyLisa · 2021-10-30T17:27:26+00:00

Abusive/controlling parent —> Abusive/controlling partner

You have to get trauma therapy to break the cycle

cris_cross_ · 2021-10-30T16:38:46+00:00

I hate the way he speaks about the women in his life (and his DAUGHTER!) and just how....casually he uses those words. I've heard males talk about women that way for too long that now they're all red flags.

I wish Gigi and her daughter luck. This is a shitty situation but at least she's got the money to (hopefully) keep him away.

East-Willingness513 · 2021-10-30T13:44:26+00:00

How horrifying. I never knew much about Zayn but saying that about his own daughter sounds like he has hardcore narcissism. I feel horrible for Gigi, I wish her and her baby the best.

thatjimmylove · 2021-10-30T15:47:26+00:00

he's such a narcissist like see how he sees everything as an extension of him.

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2021-10-30T14:55:06+00:00

Zayn has always given me creeper vibes. Hope Gigi leaves him and finds someone better.

Pigeon_of_Tesla · 2021-10-30T12:30:17+00:00

Your parents are blueprints for romantic relationships. It's not surprising that Gigi sees control as love. Im tired of posts about her now though.

modemarkt · 2021-10-30T20:27:31+00:00

I know this stuff happens in all cultures/races. But being a middle eastern Muslim, I am (sadly) not surprised AT ALLLLL by his behavior.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-10-30T14:56:17+00:00

A reliable YouTuber mentioned that he is a really bad drug addict. Which is par for the course, honestly. Most celebrities are narcissistic drug addicted abusers.

michellesgraphics · 2021-10-30T18:56:40+00:00

I always found it absolutely weird when people were tweeting that Zayn and Gigi were couple goals just from seeing them hold hands. You can’t judge a relationship from a picture! I also remember this tweet about how someone wanted to die so they could have a chance at being reincarnated as Khai before she was born. Wild! Didn’t people remember how Zayn treated Perrie Edwards from Little Mix? Behavior like that doesn’t just go away because “the right one” comes around.

sugarsays925 · 2021-10-30T13:00:11+00:00

This is so sad. I feel for these kids that get exposed to toxicity like this in their formative years.

It's so much harder for them to grow up to choose high-value partners because they have a low-value parent(s) as a role model and grow up thinking this shit is normal.

End the cycle ladies.

scorchedsouI · 2021-10-30T14:18:22+00:00

Lol at the male's attempt to stake a claim to parenthood through his pathetic ejaculation while the mother contributed more DNA, created the child in her womb and gave birth to it.

My guy, you wouldn't even know you are a father if this "Dutch slut" had decided you shouldn't.

ussr_ftw · 2021-10-30T23:15:55+00:00

Oh my god that is unbelievably repulsive! Let's do a red flag count from this statement and article alone.

Calling a woman you don't like a slut, with a racial identity.
Telling your child's grandmother to stay away from her, using vulgar language about your own daughter.
Referring to your daughter as "the f–king sperm that came out of [his] f–king c–k."
Saying it's a private matter to the press, after literally being a public figure.
Straight out denying to the public that it was that bad (second rule of the diabolical narcissist's prayer, everyone go read it)
Admitting in court that he pretty much did it by pleading no contest.

Any one of these is worth leaving over.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-10-30T16:40:15+00:00

Guy looks like a f--k boy.

What a scrote!

SupremeDearLeader · 2021-10-30T20:26:01+00:00

Yolanda is a straight up narcissistic nightmare of a mother . What kid could have a normal childhood or adult relationship w a mommie dearest breathing down their neck 24/7??

vintagexrose · 2021-10-31T06:55:55+00:00

Wtfff, Poor Gigi and her daughter! Gigi needs to stay away from them both, at least that’s what it seems like.

AmethistStars · 2021-10-30T15:15:58+00:00

Well geez. As a Dutch woman I am extremely disappointed in Zayn Malik's misogynistic and anti-Dutch choice of words here. What an ass. Even though Yolanda indeed also is problematic, he totally could have used different words to describe her, but instead he chose to use those words out of everything he could have called her.

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-10-30T14:02:21+00:00

Notice the racism as well as misogyny jumping out by needing to call her "Dutch" (as if it's something bad, like being a "slut") when it's obviously completely unrelated to their dispute.

TellCerseeItWasMe · 2021-10-30T16:09:22+00:00

Yeah, drugs can make you do terrible things

gravedestruct1on · 2021-10-31T02:47:16+00:00

I mean you’re gorgeous & one of the richest women in the world and you have a child out of wedlock and your relationship falls to pieces before the child is even in elementary school 🤦🏻‍♀️....yes her mother is incredibly narcissistic and I have dealt with my narcissistic mother tearing down my self esteem and ending up with a terrible narcissistic/ emotionally unavailable partner. But I always drew the line at subjecting a child to that....I vowed that if I were to have a. child it would be with the most kind and gentle man because I couldn’t make my future child go through what I did in this already hard and unjust world....now she’s going to bring up an innocent child in a chaotic environment and the cycle repeats. She has the money to escape her mother, she has the money to get therapy and work on the damage her mother has inflicted upon her as well as delving into why she’s attracted to certain partners but instead chose this.

Forgive me if I’m being harsh, but it’s hard for me to feel bad for someone when I have broken the cycle of narcissistic abuse without money/access to therapy. I really hope for her child’s sake she goes no contact with her mother and has full custody.

Interesting-Bat3992 · 2022-01-10T09:22:10+00:00

I never understood what my friends saw in Zayn. He's a south east asian and a "man". Do people really think that culture does not seep down? I am a third culture child and I will never recommend a single western woman , especially none of us FDS women, to ever chain yourself to any men from developing, Asian, Middle east and African countries. Looking at them through an FDS lens, they legitimately make me reel in disgust whenever anyone mentions them- that is how strong my reaction to them are because I KNOW what these men are like.

Men are awful. And we will not be doing anyone favours if we willingly ignore stereotypes of men in different countries- they exist for a reason. These exact stereotypes can save us from tragically chaining ourselves to scrotes that are always aiming to destroy our lives.

We have to keep on vetting, have to cut them off at the first red flag, and have to be accepting that we are better living off without them.

Title	Today in 'having a kid together won't fix your relationship'
Author	imtryingtotryhere
Upvotes	824
Comments	54
Date	October 30, 2021 12:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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