Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-05-01T13:30:25+00:00

They know. They don't care.

Only_Lime2520 · 2021-05-01T15:33:22+00:00

STOP EXCUSING MEN'S BEHAVIOUR. STOP JUSTIFYING THEIR BULLSHIT. STOP NORMALISING ABUSE WITH EXCUSES. STOP TREATING THEM LIKE CHILDREN.

I wanna run this in a big ass ad in Times Square. Some day when I have more funding, maybe I will.

whiteflowers_minnows · 2021-05-01T14:22:35+00:00

Yes girl.

I just found this sub after telling a woman with a shitty, judge mental partner that she deserves better. That comment got downvoted to hell. It is absolutely insane how relationship dynamics in which women are expected to do EVERYTHING are so normalized.

burritogirl101 · 2021-05-01T12:02:50+00:00

That's why I don't visit any of those subs anymore. The misogyny is rife.

gosamadhi · 2021-05-01T13:58:07+00:00

Oh this is how I fell into "How to be a better wife / partner" trap. Instead of admitting (to myself) that his behaviour was disrespectful and confronting him about it, I would read books, articles and go to workshops how to improve myself becasue of the ingrained belief that it's woman's fault if something is wrong with the relationship. Like there has to be something wrong with ME becasue if I was better then he would treat me better.

Guess what happened when I started treating him like a king and praising him?

I think maybe it's some form of gaslighting women in general - doubt yourself, not his actions. Like they are clueless and can't help being stupid and it's your job to teach him how to treat people? It makes me angry but I'm glad I realized how much of a scam it is. Remember ladies, he does that becasue he wants to! I was an expert on excusing men but no more.

2340000 · 2021-05-01T13:08:31+00:00

It's insane, and quite sad, how many women do not understand that men ARE INTENTIONAL; They enjoy abusing you; They know they gaslight you; They know it's their fault😐

However, there's a certain degree of danger with information like this. Especially considering how women are socialized. Rejecting cool girl stereotypes and refusing to justify male depravity, affect all aspects of your life. My adjustment period was 2 years. And during that time I was LIVID. The first months I cried everyday, then I cut people off. It becomes easier once you use that knowledge to your advantage, but damn is it hard.

Ignorance is bliss. And denial is a drug. Women that perpetually excuse men's behavior, are more traumatized than they know. We all have breaking points. But when some women hit that point, they'd still rather sacrifice themselves than ditch the LVM😪

YourWordsMeanWar · 2021-05-01T15:33:32+00:00

I feel like so many women tolerate NVM and LVM for so long. Honestly, men don’t have a clue. I was in two different relationships with guys who were in love with me and did what they thought was the best but was still sub par. Both were emotionally stunted and you couldn’t get them to cry over anything. But the day I stopped putting up with them and left, they bawled like babies at the thought of me no longer being in their life. They thought I was just going to suffer their mediocrity for the rest of my life! Sis, just leave! Trust me. It’s tough but it’s so freeing

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2021-05-01T13:23:38+00:00

Why is it that when a male refuses to value us, we take it as challenge accepted instead of kicking their asses out of our lives (looking at former ME)?? I'm bookmarking this

throwaway32132134 · 2021-05-01T14:56:03+00:00

I love this! A lot of times my comments will put the ownership on us. I'm not doing it to victim blame I'm doing it to reinforce that we have power! We have control over our lives. It's super important to recognize that, so if something isn't serving us we feel powerful enough to leave. We control our lives. If someone can't meet our standards we leave. It's not our fault that they treated us badly but we do need to take responsibility for consistently tolerating bad behavior.

lucidlotus · 2021-05-01T17:47:26+00:00

On a related note, the libfems' encouragement of hookup culture/women hooking up just like men has UTTERLY SPOILED recent generations of men. When most women don't ask for more from men, men learn they have NO REASON to do better. This is one of the top reasons we're in this mess.

Hoarse_Girl · 2021-05-01T14:31:29+00:00

In some of those subs it's like the husbands are NPCs (looking at you, BrMo)

lansburysoda · 2021-05-01T20:13:16+00:00

This last generation of men is the most spoiled generation of men in recent human history. Women still have to do what we always have—bear children—but most men live cushy, easy lives that produce weak, pathetic “men”. My grandfathers went to war, could build anything from scratch, and brought home money for the family. There was no “his” and “her” money—it was all OUR money. They were proud to protect and provide for their families.

Now men snivel about how wahhhhh it’s so hard to be a man because “MeN HaVe tO wOrK” 🥴 no shit Sherlock, women have to work too! Most of them are so spineless and pathetic, they get off on manipulating women because they have nothing else going for them in life. They have no dragons to slay, so they blame women. Disgusting

BulletproofBurner · 2021-05-01T13:10:11+00:00

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMe4dckaD/0

Yes. The answer 9 times out of 10 is to DUMP HIS ASS.

eviewevie · 2021-05-01T16:40:52+00:00

I had to leave those subreddits they made me want to poke my own eyes out

Confused_One_ · 2021-05-01T12:08:45+00:00

YES!!! Getting what we deserve is much more important than getting what we want.

We deserve peace and happiness > we want to fix these boys

peasbwitu · 2021-05-01T17:04:31+00:00

Oh captain my captain. (Stands on kitchen chair)

undertheunderbelly · 2021-05-01T21:53:17+00:00

Theres a post on 'r' relationships about a woman with her foot broken and needing help and upset because her man won't help her with anything. Her post was "how do I commuicate without being overbearing?"

Shows how invasive the patriarchy is when a man can treat his gf like trash and she STILL is concerned about being "overbearing and naggy" rather than question why a scrote is even in her life.

W1nniethebish · 2021-05-01T13:52:54+00:00

Preach, Queen!

tiavarga · 2021-05-01T17:10:42+00:00

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Lnnam · 2021-05-01T13:13:31+00:00

I follow an account on IG about mental load and I really have a hard time being sorry for most of these women. If he isn’t willing to take his part in your home and family then you leave instead of crying about it.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-05-01T15:24:43+00:00

It’s the definition of being brainwashed!! We’re out of it now so we can see it clear as day whereas they still can’t.

judithyourholofernes · 2021-05-01T16:52:58+00:00

This is so important. Time is finite, spending it on these men is a complete waste and dangerous too.

There’s a post on a “womens” sub, poster subjected herself to a man she didn’t like for HOURS. Hours?! Then as he walks her home, another bad move, he assaults her. Luckily she escapes, but we know what happens to too many of us. Of course a guy she knows tells her it’s no big deal, that she needs to empathize with the creeps penile needs.

Crows-and-Ravens0 · 2021-05-01T23:39:14+00:00

Can FDS start a garbage collection agency? We'd have a lot of business.

haunted_vcr · 2021-05-02T00:37:36+00:00

The less effort, the stronger and more powerful you shall be. - a great philosopher

Title	Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.
Author	NoneOfYourBusinessPS
Upvotes	1019
Comments	80
Date	May 1, 2021 11:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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