People should be consistent with any criticism they have with men.

I noticed when it comes to gender issues. People will complain about wanting things to change. But still get upset with the alternative.

Classics examples of this is when women say they want men to show emotions, and then get the ick when men show their emotions or call it trauma dumping. Or when women say they hate it when men cold approach them. But then still find it odd when men don't cold approach them, wondering if the man is gay. Or thinking the man is too paranoid about worrying about coming off as creepy or false allegations.

Should men cold approach women or not?

My favorite double speak movement is when Feminists always talk about the objectification of women bodies and the male gaze. And how this is dehumanizing for women.

But Katy Perry can still make a music video, where she says in the beginning of the video, "we are not for the male gaze, but we are for the male gaze though" while turning her ass to the camera, when saying that. Or numerous comments of men saying "GYAT" on social media when seeing pretty women. Because at the end of the day even progressives know sex sells. Hence why some Feminists considered OF, or sex work empowering. And also consider female Rappers/Pop-singers (Sabrina Carpenter and Cardi B) empowering for their sexy videos.

So which is it? Do we sexualized women or not?

Another example.

People love to talk about how loud and obnoxious young boys are. And how society should raise boys better. But then the same people would find it odd if more young boys are quiet. Even making school shooter jokes about quiet boys.

I remember in school I would have teachers that hated male students for being too loud and aggressive. And wish boys were more behaved. But then the same teachers would think I'm odd or a weirdo for being quiet. And act concern and want to call my parents over me being quite. Wouldn't this be a good thing, especially if the teachers hate young boys for doing the exact opposite?

My point here is that society demonize men for acting a certain way. But then society still find the alternative for men odd. It's like the sexualizing women example. Which is it. Should boys be aggressive/loud or not? 🤷

Again you can't whine and moan about wanting men to change in society. But still get upset with the alternative.