[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/1/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

chuckst3r · 2013-07-01T20:11:03+00:00

If a girl refuses to give you her number and asks to take yours, whats the best way to respond? Would it be a good idea not to give her yours?

cawkpot · 2013-07-01T19:14:50+00:00

How do I display confidence without coming off as arrogant or scumy?

TheManAbroad · 2013-07-01T19:57:35+00:00

How do I be the "fun" guy and not the "friend" guy? The fun guy has girls hit on them all the time. The friend guy is never wanted for those casual romances.

pastafarian14 · 2013-07-01T22:42:08+00:00

How do I handle the "this is as far as you're getting" statement? Is that actually a major IOI?

e.g. a few days ago we had a major makeout session in her bed, I get her undressed, no bra, panties on, and I get the statement above. I was very intoxicated at the time so I didn't push any farther, but should I have?

StevieWonderDriving · 2013-07-01T21:04:00+00:00

Anyone got any tips on overcoming language barriers? Got a date with a Spanish chick tomorrow and she's still learning but knows enough to laugh at my jokes.

lyotardfactory · 2013-07-01T22:45:10+00:00

When is the appropriate time to stop pursing a girl in a set?

Approached a girl on saturday night and asked "how her night was going." She gave a one word answer and really was not making eye contact

Next I made a comment about her drink and how that was reflective of her personality. She gave a one word answer, but this time took some time to look at me.

Then I commented on her outfit and once again she gave a one word answer and was not opening up in terms of conversation. I decided that she was not interested and left.

I am not sure if I should of kept pursing or was best to end the conversation? Essentially at what point should I stop pursing a girl? If her body language is defensive or her conversation was lacking then should I leave? I could of kept pursing and made some cocky comment about "how she is a talker" or "seemed distracted" or said something random.

asad16 · 2013-07-01T20:43:55+00:00

I feel confident in my ability to open and escalate physically, but it has got to a point where I am meeting girls to only hook up. I want to develop some depth with the girls, and generate a genuine connection. Moreso determining if her values align with mine. Does anyone have any tips for value based questions or an honest way to try to connect with someone without going into an interview style mode?

Manawah · 2013-07-01T20:22:30+00:00

I'm a counselor at a day camp, and there's a hot new counselor this year that I'm trying to hook up with. Problem is, I can't figure out how to isolate her in a camp environment. There really isn't enough time for me to see her during the day to build up enough attraction between us. Any ideas on what to do?

voxanimus · 2013-07-01T23:50:12+00:00

is it bad to be too funny? many girls i know have told me that i am legitimately the funniest person they know. my fear is that i'm getting relegated to some sort of "sideshow entertainment" role.

adiyo011 · 2013-07-01T21:19:38+00:00

Any good daygame videos where it isn't only number close? I'm curious to see how far kino goes in it.

I watched a couple and it seems only display banter which is fine but I want to see kino as well.

puaCurveBall · 2013-07-01T20:44:42+00:00

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bl1y · 2013-07-01T22:25:25+00:00

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boomstick55 · 2013-07-01T20:51:47+00:00

How would you go about courting someone who is at your job/at their job? For example of latter, your favorite coffee shop.

bl1y · 2013-07-01T22:33:06+00:00

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bl1y · 2013-07-01T23:00:51+00:00

I have no problem meeting girls on dating sites and getting it to leave the internet into texting. I need to figure out how to get them really interested via text before we meet. Most of them are single moms, I am a single dad, I want to guide them to being attracted to me. This is not about one girl in particular, its happened with a few. You'd think the single parent thing would be a bigger difference.

CamelTowing · 2013-07-01T23:07:10+00:00

I've been wondering for a while now. What exactly is Kino and how do I escalate it? From what I'm reading, you touch her shoulder and try to touch more and more. What are these "steps". I was raised really reserved so touching people is a barrier I got to overcome, but I feel like I would become a lot better at attraction.

Gamma_Male_ · 2013-07-02T00:42:13+00:00

What is ego?

FacebookFighter · 2013-07-02T06:02:33+00:00

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learnlikeachamp · 2013-07-01T23:12:01+00:00

If a girl says she didn't see your message and texts you back five hours later whereas Whatsapp says she actually did see it when you sent, what's the best thing to do?

AlejandroE · 2013-07-01T19:19:20+00:00

Here's one:

How do I rekindle an old romance?

bass_n_treble · 2013-07-01T23:21:11+00:00

Why do so many PUAs try to hide behind these masks like Mystery and Style... it's so much work and it only attracts women with low self esteem... Why not just be a stand-up guy who doesn't take shit from people and doesn't need parlor tricks? Then you will get someone with class, intelligence, and humor

Signed, David DeAngelo disciple

bl1y · 2013-07-01T21:34:24+00:00

I know that looks don't matter but first impressions are crucial, right? How to give a good first impression besides the usual dressing well, grooming, etc...? If I'm average looking, how do I spike her interest up in the first few seconds? Thanks in advance guys.

EDIT: Grammar

SharkMan4real · 2013-07-01T22:04:20+00:00

There was this surprise party for these girls I went to awhile back and there was one girl I didn't know, let's call her Jay. This was a pretty small surprise party. When we were at the restaurant I was the one cracking the jokes. On the limo ride back one of the girls called me over because I was having fun. Jay and I didn't really have one on one time, but the girls that the party was for are good friends with her. My question is should I ask them to hook me up? Also am I in a good place to do this?

IamBrazil · 2013-07-01T22:33:54+00:00

Should virgin girls receive some difirent kind of treatment? Can I escalate the same way I would escalate a girl with sexual interests? Or is it better to not show sexual purpouses to a virgin girl I've built attraction to me?

lyotardfactory · 2013-07-01T23:02:00+00:00

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thisisgoingtogobad · 2013-07-01T23:10:54+00:00

A continuation of This askseddit thread.

Read that and new updates - so I texted her, and she said she was going away for this long weekend. Verbatim "I'm going out to myrtle beach for the fourth, but definitely another time" We texted back and forth over an hour or so with 10m or so between texts on both sides. I ended it with i'll keep in touch and she said goodnight.

Should I contact her again maybe later this week? Like a "Hope you are having fun" kind of deal?

Dr-JanItor · 2013-07-01T23:37:09+00:00

What is the best approach when a girl gets cold all of the sudden? I've been seeing this girl for a couple of weeks, and everything was great/picking up and then suddenly she is cold. Is it best to give it a week or so and give it another go or maybe even just ask her straight up about the sudden lack of interest? And I know, next. I'm not talking about putting a ton of effort in here, just another text to see if I can make something happen.

fakethrowaways · 2013-07-01T23:43:07+00:00

How do i maintain sexual interest after having sex with someone? Last year in high school i had sex with someone after leading up and working for a few weeks. We had amazing sex and her interest died off. Leading up i was humorous and cocky. But i couldn't maintain the attraction.

Fast forward a year ago and im back from college i do the same routine with her and we had sex this week. She snapchats me sexy boy and cutie and we finally had sex a year later. But now im having trouble with keeping her attraction. We dont snapchat or text as often or flirty after that night and its hard to be humorous with her.

Two nights ago i was at a friends house and some ppl were just hanging out and drinking. I got there late and she was already kind of drunk and i was sober and didnt want to sleep over so i didnt drink. At the end of the night we both were watching a movie, together and alone but weren't sitting super close, except she had her legs on my lap. But it was like 2am and she passed out fast and hard so i just left.

I hate fighting for attraction, it makes me feel desperate and pathetic. How do i maintain this?

bl1y · 2013-07-01T23:58:53+00:00

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Fish009 · 2013-07-02T00:00:03+00:00

how can you isolate a girl to give her a kiss if your on a date or with her friends?

FluffyPigeon · 2013-07-02T00:02:25+00:00

What do you do after you get the number? what happens if she doesnt respond to your messages? should i just leave it alone.

dysrhythmic · 2013-07-02T00:49:50+00:00

Serious question: how can I let loose in a club if my muscles are so stiff that I just can't move smoothly? I know it's a problem with letting off but I don't think I'll get comfortable with dancing without dancing - and now I cannot do this, I hate clubs because of that. I'm pretty sure my "dancing" is more like embarassing but let's say it doesn't matter, I can't even be embarassing when I can't move my body as I want!

Any of you guys learned dancing in clubs from absolute 0 of being "unable to move"?

soxruie1414 · 2013-07-02T01:06:31+00:00

I'm staying on my college campus over the summer and there are multiple girls i'm trying to get with down here. What should I do when I see both of them at a bar and they don't know each other?

Sweeney1 · 2013-07-02T01:09:18+00:00

Met a girl at a party. Didn't number close.

What's the Facebook followup protocol?

thisisgoingtogobad · 2013-07-02T01:35:47+00:00

How the fuck can you deal with living at home with your parents? I am 25 and due to college debt and my location (NY) I am kind of stuck at home. I want to get out there more but how can you deal with having a bedroom on the first floor of your house, next to the living room and your little sisters room? Regardless of the logistics it is just so emasculating, even if there are SHITLOADS of men in my position.

jorge198 · 2013-07-02T01:42:39+00:00

How do I move on, on a missed opportunity to get a girl that I really liked ??I never asked her out I never knew if she liked me or not but I think I should of asked her out... Now I'm never going to see her again (she doesn't have a fb) and I can't call her, my old phone got stolen... I changed a lot recently and I'm never missing an opportunity with a girl again I regret not making a move on her...

Heebie-Jeebie_Guy · 2013-07-02T02:53:13+00:00

1) Get number from cute girl in class just before summer starts.

2) Text her to set up a day to go out and do something. Also mentions she's a bad texter.

3) 2-3 times over our outing, she says/hints that she wants to do something again. I'm pretty sure we both had a lot of fun. Greeted and left with hugs.

4) Text her 3 times over 8 days until I get a response from her, as I was wanting to see her again.

5) Agreed to get coffee with me. Greeted me with a high-five (briefly, severely threw me off). No physical contact with departure. I thought we both had a good time.

6) It's approaching 2 weeks since we got coffee. I've texted her twice, and she responded to neither text. She commented on a post of mine on FB since then.

7) I'm 21 and embarrassingly inexperienced with women. I'm not sure if the infrequent texting and high-five were "bad" signs. Is she trying to tell me she's not interested? Ought I call her and sort this out or forget about her?

Nebula829 · 2013-07-02T03:18:23+00:00

How can I get over my self-limiting beliefs that being 5'7" and 125 lbs. makes me unattractive to women? I try to but then some girl will say something about how she's probably stronger than me and I lose my state.

deadwicthdoctor · 2013-07-02T03:21:01+00:00

planning to ask a girl to grab an ice cream, how to maximize attraction?.

YoloSwaggotMcgee · 2013-07-02T03:31:51+00:00

I don't have a car or a place alone because I'm still in high school. What are the best ways for me to escalate? What are the best ways to spend time alone with a girl in my situation?

Mesum · 2013-07-02T03:32:21+00:00

Simple question: do girls want sex as much as men?

puapope · 2013-07-02T03:49:54+00:00

When you bring someone back to your place to "watch a movie" do you actually start watching the movie or do you do the dirty deed as soon as you get in?

Also do you keep the mood up while you are on the way back to your/her place?

Afeni02 · 2013-07-02T03:54:22+00:00

Where's the best place to go sarging excluding bars?

Vitilago · 2013-07-02T04:29:10+00:00

How do i get this girl to go out with me? story here

Its not a typical "i dont know how to ask her out" type of story

Really need some advice!

IPlayUkulele · 2013-07-02T04:37:37+00:00

Being 20, how do I approach older women during the day? I'm talking 30's and maybe early 40's?

What is your experience on dating coworkers?

Where do you go to day game? I'e done some searching in the sub, but I'd like some more thoughts. I live in a very conservative city - not sure if that makes a difference.

paki123 · 2013-07-02T04:49:24+00:00

Alternatives to bars during the night? I can't really go out during the night. Is daygame alright to work on game as well?

HuhWaitWhy · 2013-07-02T04:54:18+00:00

Where can I find another serious forum or mailing list? Seddit is great and has a ton of information, but many of the daily questions revolve around texting. Don't get me wrong, texting can be useful but definitely not for building rapport with someone.

paki123 · 2013-07-02T04:57:58+00:00

Btw, b1ly thanks for all your responses in this thread! Excellent advice man!

Another question, what are some good date ideas to take a woman(or even places to go with friends)

Heycallme · 2013-07-02T06:19:58+00:00

Awesome timing. I was just about to post a simple question. Actually I have two so here we go.

I'm having a lot of difficulty in social situations diverting from an objective or goal oriented mindset. What habits can I adopt to help move away from this?

Also, for me there are few feelings better than making someone laugh but I SUCK at it (which is probably why it feels so rewarding.) Now that I think about it I actually don't find many things that funny. Is there a way I can work on developing a sense of humor?

Ridicicraycray · 2013-07-02T07:49:55+00:00

First date with a girl this coming thursday, we're currently planning on going over to her house to watch some movies, but as a first date it doesn't really leave much room to talk. Alternate suggestions? as i have 2 days to recommend something new

FR12345 · 2013-07-02T08:16:16+00:00

How do I work towards a FWB relationship with a girl post-sex?
Similarly, are there things I should not do for fear of giving her the wrong impression (e.g., holding hands everywhere, kissing too often)? I don't want it to be a big surprise to her that I don't want a full-blown relationship when the topic finally comes up.

no_sissies_allowed · 2013-07-02T08:33:03+00:00

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 8 months because she apparently ran into her ex at a party a month ago, he walked her home, and since then she's been "confused". ^{whilst snap chatting him behind my back.}

Can I use this in any way to talk to/pick up women?

JimNasium123 · 2013-07-02T09:03:39+00:00

How do you become the type of guy girls want to fuck, and not the type of guy girls want a serious relationship with?

deksamkcab · 2013-07-02T09:23:02+00:00

How should I react when a woman who was clearly attracted to me and gave me her number does not respond my call?

roxxe · 2013-07-02T09:34:23+00:00

what i can do against my apathy?

iKurac · 2013-07-02T10:38:55+00:00

Simple questions simple answers

theskyisthelimit9 · 2013-07-02T12:24:55+00:00

I see the same lady on the train, about Once a week. She remembers me, I got on the train going home once and gave me a funny look. This has been happening for months now. Should I approach.

EXTintoy · 2013-07-02T12:44:34+00:00

is it okay to game my workmates so that I can get in their inner circle and game their friends?

SpearOfTheDragon · 2013-07-02T14:15:15+00:00

If you meet a womans eye in a normal day time situation, what is the correct reaction? Please be as specific as possible, eye contact does not come naturally to me at all.

asiank1ng · 2013-07-03T04:59:51+00:00

Is it possible to portray yourself as the "alpha" without being that overly outgoing guy? Personally for me, I've had success with just being myself, which is NOT being ovely outgoing, but I would love tips to enhance this part of me, without changing who I am.

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Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/1/13 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	July 1, 2013 6:57 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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