This is really the problem not just for nice guys but for the manosphere too. They only see assholes as dangerous felons or cheaters. They don't even see rude behavior or bigotry as a problem, such as men here not seeing the issue with this guy's behavior in the video. It's very telling that they tell women to 'Choose better' and then see women as unreasonable when they do choose better. To them, as long as a guy isn't the most obvious red flag, he's okay. Even if he's blatantly a bigot.

These guys seem to think there's a low bar for being good and a high bar for being an asshole when the opposite is actually true. Also, they think actually being a good moral polite person is pussy beta male behavior, which tells you their definition of good/nice is performative and with an end goal in mind, not genuine.

As the meme goes "why would girls choose the entitled and misogynistic jocks instead of the quiet nerds, whose attitudes towards women are exactly on par with the jocks but who are less attractive?" To someone who hates assholes, both groups are terrible to be around. For someone who's okay with assholes, of course the hotter extraverted one catches her eye.

"But men are taught-"
No. Boys are taught that being nice to a girl makes her like him. It's not mommy's fault if a man's understanding of dating didn't evolve with age. This is when ACTUAL observational skills are important. No, going "all my bullies get pussy and I dont means I'm a good boy and females only want meany bullies" is being observant. That's just being biased.