What makes a man bad enough at sex that you wouldn't want to see him again?

deste_eloise · 2021-10-01T16:32:38+00:00

Not respecting boundaries, pushy, only cares about his pleasure, doesn’t communicate well, poor hygiene…

Kalvaire · 2021-10-01T16:52:32+00:00

My virgin ass is just here to take notes to recognize good sex when the time comes. Don’t mind me friends :)

lingualistic · 2021-10-01T17:24:16+00:00

Doesnt genuinely and legitimately make a solid effort to get me off as well. Nearly anything else I can forgive as “first time jitters” or us needing to learn each other’s bodies better.

januaryphilosopher · 2021-10-01T17:24:41+00:00

For me personally, selfishness, aggression or degradation in bed would do it.

ashpr0ulx · 2021-10-01T16:06:11+00:00

Pushy, disconnected from the experience, selfish, unwilling to take direction.

CloudBerryPunch · 2021-10-01T16:03:28+00:00

Doesn't focus on your pleasure. He's going to bust either way so if he isn't even trying to get you off first then it's a no.

s00perhan5 · 2021-10-01T18:34:38+00:00

I'll have a fuckbuddy that is really good in bed but doesn't have my kinks, but I wouldn't LTR a guy like that.

For me to ghost a guy normally it's:

Has a kink I find icky. Problem maintaining an erection. Small/huge dick (like bellow five or over eight) Jack hammers Poor/non existent foreplay. Selfish Pushy and disrespectful.

Fortunately good sex vastly outweighs good sex for me.

StuDentMyCar · 2021-10-01T16:39:10+00:00

no intention of making me orgasm. If a guy tries and fails I’ll give him the A for effort but if you don’t eat or touch my vagina, just stick your dick in, finish, and roll away, then yeah you’re not getting the benefit anymore.

also disrespecting boundaries. like when they try to escalate, you say no, they say it’s okay, then they try again 10 minutes later. did you think just 10 more minutes of making out would make it okay for you to reach up my pants? no

TomorrowsWar · 2021-10-01T16:32:36+00:00

I think bad sex at first isn’t a deal breaker. Sometimes the guy is nervous or feels a lot of pressure and I get that.

But to answer the question, if he’s pushy, no eye contact, not passionate, doesn’t listen, doesn’t like oral.

I’ve never dumped anyone over sex. It’s best to communicate and not be too shy or precious about it honestly

cupcakegensis · 2021-10-01T16:11:15+00:00

Going too hard. I'm pretty delicate and small. Even super excited I might not fit you please don't push into my cervix. Please don't use your entire fingers and please please please don't put more then one.

mistresswhat · 2021-10-01T17:11:45+00:00

Not enough oral on me, non-reactive/too quiet, failure to take direction, dick problems aren't usually a dealbreaker on their own but absolutely can be if he handles them poorly.

-Paradigm- · 2021-10-01T17:03:37+00:00

Disrespecting boundaries is number one. If they are pushy or do something thats not within the realm of a normal hook up (i.e. something kinky we've never discussed).

As long as they are attempting to please you and are willing to accept direction I will most likely come back because no one starts off good at sex and partners can vary vastly in what they enjoy.

Penis size is actually the opposite for me. I dont really like large penises as I am very petite and don't like to feel like I'm being split in half.

CFinCanada · 2021-10-01T17:35:53+00:00

It's never happened for me personally.

I'm pretty GGG, if I didn't want to see a guy again it's because I didn't like how he acted or who he turned out to be as a person.

Sxdhaley · 2021-10-02T00:04:07+00:00

Great question… I just slept with a man and ghosted him.

Poor hygiene. I made it extremely clear to him that I was a germaphobe, when I showed up his dick literally smelled and I had to ask him to shower.

I just feel like that was really disrespectful and because of that I will not be going back

simeneta_two · 2021-10-01T16:53:03+00:00

Not making me cum. And I’m a chick who can cum from PIV so a guy has to be really bad to not accomplish this.

VexingTetrimino · 2021-10-01T16:53:53+00:00

disrespectful
degrading
easy to give up on my orgasm
ignores boundaries
cares about his experience more than mine
not having natural fuck talent
no curiosity on how my body works
does not improve
not in touch with me or the situation
isn't friendly
isn't fun
has terrible assumptions on how sex works
has a fuck-a-bitch mentality

milkyymochii · 2021-10-01T16:08:43+00:00

small dick, doesn’t know the difference between “harder” and “faster”, busts too fast, busts too slow, weird body, not respecting boundaries, too involved in his own pleasure and not the woman’s, poor hygiene, no rhythm, no chemistry, etc

These are all reasons I’ve heard from women

LadyM2 · 2021-10-01T17:10:52+00:00

Small dick, bad breath, refusing or reluctant to use a condom, disrespectful in bed... 99% men are extremely off-putting in bed. Terrible species.

s00perhan5 · 2021-10-01T18:06:07+00:00

Either it sparks joy or it doesn't. There can be myriad reasons for this.

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-10-01T19:00:40+00:00

Being too fat to perform. My last prospect was fat (not a dealbreaker for me) but paired with a tiny dick, sex was a one and done, don’t call me again situation.

But there are so many reasons FOR ME, really I have a huge list for me, this was just the latest example.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2021-10-01T19:24:24+00:00

Won't take direction and lack of foreplay

Also I'm happy to try shit and I admit to being adventurous, but if you whinge and push it's annoying and I want out.

2021-10-01T21:09:36+00:00

Soft weak sweaty hands and penis, slobbery kisses w bad breath, not being Chad

AquaChip · 2021-10-01T16:13:30+00:00

Small peen, poor hygiene, extremely awkward, inconsiderate, forceful.

poppy_blu · 2021-10-01T18:29:44+00:00

Jackhammer

2 pump chump

Doesn’t know what a clit is or where to find it

Trying to re-enact porn scenes

Fizzygurl · 2021-10-01T18:38:46+00:00

Although I like a nice pounding, not fond of the porn moves like slapping, choking, hair pulling, pushing your head on bjs or requesting facials or anal. I’ve rarely had a guy who’s bad in the sack but having a good imagination, sensuality and being open and fun goes along way for me.

Mimoxs · 2021-10-01T17:01:35+00:00

Obsessing over trying to make you cum lol like some dudes get really really insecure over it. If I say it's not happening and tell you to just have fun actually listen to me, don't take it as a challenge bc you will be disappointed and then that sucks for both parties

Men stake way too much of their personal ego in their ability to create female orgasms and that's really annoying. I don't care what you read on the internet to do, listen to what I'm actually telling you

Miserable_Yam4778 · 2021-10-01T18:26:18+00:00

Being pushy. If I say no to something and you try to do it again I'm throwing your ass out a blocking your number. Also the inability to take direction.

ohheyhi99 · 2021-10-02T01:06:29+00:00

‘Bad at sex’ just means ‘not hot enough and not dominant enough’

wtknight · 2021-10-01T16:27:54+00:00

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MuttonDressedAsGoose · 2021-10-01T17:08:30+00:00

I think it's my job to inspire man to great sex. If he's not WOW then I figure it is down to me not lighting him up

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neetykeeno · 2021-10-01T19:00:35+00:00

Well fortunately I have never experienced that but I should imagine that ignoring physical signs I was having very little enjoyment in sex or blaming me when things went bad and it was his fault (for example if he came to bed having just handled cut chili peppers unbeknownst to me) would result in me just never wanting to bother with the man again no matter how good he looked and how much sense the relationship made.

TheElusivePeacock · 2021-10-01T19:46:39+00:00

Sexual compatibility is a big. I think there’s bad in bed (which probably the majority of men are), but I also think two people need to be sexually compatible. If you’re a women who likes it slow and romantic, you’re not gonna do well with a guy who likes it rough and vice versa. I like a dominant man, and if you’re not that, we probably aren’t compatible, doesn’t mean you’re bad.

But things already mentioned here. Doesn’t respect boundaries, doesn’t listen, doesn’t communicate, only cares about themselves, small dick, lack of foreplay, lack of kissing, lack of passion, lack of touching.

basicbiddy · 2021-10-01T19:49:06+00:00

Not listening to what he’s told during the act

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-10-02T01:03:52+00:00

Stinks, can't get it up, no foreplay, talks too much, is over 15 minutes late or needs me to take him to a million places in my car. I have other things to do

biggestshItofalltime · 2021-10-22T10:40:33+00:00

Reading a lot lot lot lot of bullshit here, it's pathetic.
For women, if you can't fuck for hours, you are literally nothing. A piece of shit, according to women. Don't get fooled by "careness", "tenderness" and other stupidity. Only one thing matters: how long can you last.
Watch any kind of porn and observe women's reaction through comments. No one is talking about "respecting women's needs" or bullshit like that. In fact, every comment written by women is about dreaming of a rough fuck like that in the video.

Title	What makes a man bad enough at sex that you wouldn't want to see him again?
Author	firefireburnburn
Upvotes	30
Comments	259
Date	October 1, 2021 3:57 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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