We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.

mandoa_sky · 2021-10-17T01:30:34+00:00

reminds me of my ex - he seemed upset i didn't praise him for "bare minimum".

i pointed out that since no one ever praised me for doing those things - he shouldn't expect me to remember that i was supposed to praise someone else for doing them either.

slayeroftruth · 2021-10-17T04:44:42+00:00

This is not feminine behavior. If you have to kiss mans butt every time he does something small he isn't masculine. He is weak male while women acting like doing something small is big deal is enabling loser behavior. He wont do anything big because you are making big deal out of something small.

daisy_0720 · 2021-10-17T07:01:18+00:00

What in the fresh Pickme hell?

I'm pretty sure a 'High Value Queen' isn't wasting her time trying to 'magnetize' men because she has better shit to be focusing her energy on.

@ HighValueQueens, please stop stealing FDS terminology to peddle your bullshit LibFem agenda.

excusemeILY · 2021-10-16T22:27:23+00:00

I thought this was a tip for talking to your child ?

Platipus6 · 2021-10-16T22:13:57+00:00

Small things aren't impressive.

shockingupdate · 2021-10-17T04:17:33+00:00

@ lowvaluequeens: learn how to appeal to incompetent sensitive manchildren who require your constant supervision

arnezuara · 2021-10-16T22:19:23+00:00

This “tactic” only magnetizes men who will f—k your life up. They will feed off of your pain to stroke their own egos.

2021-10-16T23:07:12+00:00

This sounds like a great way to repel actual HVM. A good, hard-working, loving and conscientious man would see through this as pandering and manipulation.

JulyParade · 2021-10-17T01:08:08+00:00

I used to do this because I heard men don't get complimented enough. But it was exhausting and men get unearned compliments all the time. Let them do things worth complimenting if they want it so bad.

arnezuara · 2021-10-16T22:16:24+00:00

This mentality is outright dangerous, given how many young women are getting exposed to it. The dating pool is infested with PUA/RP wannabe-abusers.

Vulnerable women of any background — especially WOC — pay for this with their livelihoods, with their lives.

I am tired of seeing different platforms groom women into making themselves vulnerable to men. We need to be doing the opposite.

CloacaDiddler · 2021-10-17T04:35:45+00:00

Remember if a man successfully shits in the toilet to shake a bag of treats, ask “who’s a good boy” and scratch him behind the ears

And don’t forget your husband’s sticker chore chart

hanjaporfavor · 2021-10-16T23:33:22+00:00

JFC. And if he picks up after himself, let's give him a treat and call him a good boyyyy 🤡🤡

madamejesaistout · 2021-10-17T13:37:43+00:00

This reminds me of when I was staying with my mom and she kept thanking me for doing dishes and vacuuming. I told her I didn't need to be thanked for cleaning up after myself because I'm not a man.

Ok-Performance5997 · 2021-10-16T23:10:39+00:00

Sorry but what does “feminine mentality” mean?

honeybadgerattitude · 2021-10-17T00:55:52+00:00

Learn how to magnetise men = learn how to be a magnet for abusive men. To be fair, if you just want any man, it would work… but so would going outside naked.

dkwantsdk · 2021-10-17T05:34:12+00:00

What in the fuck does this have to do with femininity?? Magnetizing men? The hell???

usernamewhichiafree · 2021-10-16T23:22:11+00:00

Saw a post yesterday in which a guy told a story about how he ordered an uber for a drunk woman instead of sleeping with her. He boosted his eho because he literally didn't rape a woman. And it worked because so many people in the comments praised him.

So yes, the bar is so low men get praised for not raping women now.

FuckSakez · 2021-10-16T23:04:35+00:00

Learn how to magnetise men

Perhaps if they were stuck to fridges they might reevaluate how they treat women? If not, hard pass.

randomgirl34861 · 2021-10-17T07:14:59+00:00

The tactic I use for when I see my cat sink her claws into the couch, then stop and think about it ✨

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-10-17T00:42:53+00:00

Equating femininity with submission is dangerous.

Which is why this movement is so suss & just another cash grab for dating gurus and ‘how to be a gold digger’ coaches.

onceuponasea · 2021-10-17T04:15:00+00:00

Ahahahahahaha

ironglaciers · 2021-10-17T02:14:49+00:00

This sounds like negging, and in a way that will end up harming women who do it in the long run. Also quit praising men for doing the bare minimum.

mini_baguette · 2021-10-17T04:56:39+00:00

Lmfao this femininity shit is just liberal feminism rearing it’s ugly head in a different form. Sex as “liberation” finally receiving backlash? Fine, we’ll just find another way to brainwash women into still serving men! Sick.

XNjunEar · 2021-10-17T12:33:45+00:00

How can something "impressive" be small? To me something impressive is:

lifting a car so a kid can get the ball underneath
curing cancer
saving someone fromdrowning
de-escalating a confrontation that could turn violent
raising a million for charity

Like how low is the standard for impressive these days that it equates to small?

Help me understand. /s

w0rmsongs · 2021-10-17T00:37:14+00:00

That is one of the worst "tips" I've ever seen. It doesn't make sense. That's not what femininity is.

Activating my feminine energy (my ability to receive) changed my life. I have been healing from traumas and feel empowered over men. There is a misguided idea that femininity is pink, flouncy, always happy, and submissive. No. A woman who is truly in touch with her feminine energy is empowered.

Personally I think hating on femininity in general is harmful. Too many stereotypes have tainted the word. But it's in our interest as women to reclaim the word and be in touch with that part of ourselves.

VanessaViews · 2021-10-17T07:10:46+00:00

I've read this several times and still don't understand. Can some one ELI5? If they did something truly impressive why would I care if they "can do even better". Wouldn't I just be proud and happy for them that they did something impressive? I'm like imagining a guy making a table out of epoxy or something.

Outrageous-Knowledge · 2021-10-17T06:07:51+00:00

Femininity truly is brainwashing

FDS_elderGoth · 2021-10-17T17:08:25+00:00

Or treat him like the functioning adult he is and not patronize him? Even the scrotiest scrote I've ever dated would've been offended if I talked to him like a kindergarten teacher.

Datonecatladyukno · 2021-10-17T00:21:51+00:00

Wtaf is this garbage

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-10-17T14:20:55+00:00

about the above: I am willing to make that sort of effort only for a small puppy, not for a human male.

Japanese-Spaghetti · 2021-10-17T15:39:03+00:00

NEVER BUILD A MAN! Only thank him and appreciate him for actual accomplishments. If you think you deserve better, you do!!

miaumiaoumicheese · 2021-10-16T22:16:33+00:00

It shows how little is expected from men if any small bare minimum behavior every women does is viewed as something special and unique he should be praised for

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-10-17T20:07:20+00:00

This sounds more like advice for raising children, or perhaps even training a dog.

Professional-Pea-317 · 2021-10-17T21:14:21+00:00

Ya... this will only "magnetise" scrotes... especially those with mommy issues.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-10-18T02:05:21+00:00

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

more like:

~~ @HIGHVALUEKINDERGARTENTEACHERS

edit: Also I definitely feel like being this condescending and self righteous in "teaching" and "training" your "man" would actually elicit a violent, aggressive or resentful response from most men

2021-10-17T00:03:46+00:00

I agree. I like some feminine platforms but get annoyed when they center it around men. If you want to be feminine, fine, but do it for you.

thb_fds · 2021-10-17T00:40:40+00:00

Look how the account is named "high value queens" and yet despite using the same lingo as FDS its values are polar opposites. Praising the bare minimum and being "feminine" and "playful" to attract men and reward behaviors= basically be fake and play subtle mind games like you're training a dog, similar to RP tactics.

Actually come to think of it, I've heard of the pink pill, is this aligned with the kind of advice offered there?

poison_snacc · 2021-11-11T16:39:38+00:00

Bad idea. I congratulated my ex for doing a good work vacuuming 🤡 and after that he never did a thorough job again.

Equivalent_Crow4280 · 2022-08-21T23:09:23+00:00

Well said. Ask a Queen for advise never a pickme. All these advise on the internet about femininity are posted by pickme’s 9 out of 10. Only ruthless Queens give the best advise.

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