I would strongly encourage women to avoid getting involved with men who claim to be separated from the spouse. Firstly, monkey branching to the next relationship before the previous one is formally dissolved is low value behaviour. If you get into a relationship with a man who is separated, you will have to accept the fact that he is still legally married to someone else. Divorce can be extremely stressful and expensive, and you do not want to be caught up in any drama. A HV man will have made sure that any previous relationship ties, including a marriage certificate, are fully severed before trying to court you.

Secondly, and perhaps most importantly, men lie about their relationship status. A man once tried to approach me in a nightclub by claiming that he and his wife had separated. Once he had a few more drinks it then slipped out that they were “separated, but still living together.” After a few more drinks, he admitted that he was still in a relationship, it’s just they were going through a “rough patch”. Essentially, he wanted to cheat on his spouse and he thought the “I am separated” line would work on me. Separation to men can mean anything from the divorce papers are being signed tomorrow to “I’m looking to cheat on my wife, but I’ll lie to you and say that we are separated so you’ll stick around and I can have my cake and eat it.”

We all know that low value men often don’t know what to do with themselves at the end of a relationship, so they’ll seek out their next victim as soon as possible, even if the previous one isn’t officially over. Don’t get caught in the separation lie. Only date men who are actually single and emotionally available.