I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.

throwaway-fds · 2022-02-07T15:08:34+00:00

He got what he wanted and now he's throwing anything out there to make her "inconvenient emotions" stop. So sickening..Is there an update? Did she leave him?

Technical_Moth248 · 2022-02-07T15:47:36+00:00

I can't believe there are people that think she should forgive him!! No amount of "work is really hard and stressful rn 😭" entitles you to literally r*ping someone who is BEGGING you to stop. What a shitty, disgusting excuse from an equally deplorable person.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-07T15:51:35+00:00

She BEGGED him to stop!!

How ca someone keep going? How can he be this evil and blame it on her?!

This is so disgusting. I hope she posts an update soon when she can. This poor woman has been through so much….

spinsterchachkies · 2022-02-07T15:37:38+00:00

Nope divorce

thanarealnobody · 2022-02-07T17:12:31+00:00

We all know that feeling where you’re stressed from work and so you rape your partner, as they are crying and begging you to stop and you manage to orgasm from that. Classic symptom of being stressed from work.

Jandi18 · 2022-02-07T15:32:18+00:00

What’s with men being assholes when their spouse is grieving? When my brother passed away my ex husband was an absolute shit! He kept pushing for sex when all I wanted was to be alone. He tried groping me…he kept trying even when I said no. This continued for nights and then one day I snapped. I started screaming and wouldn’t stop. He got mad and left. Unfortunately it took a couple more years before I left.

katiekat0214 · 2022-02-07T16:20:33+00:00

Power, dominance, control. No respect for her feelings or needs. This is predatory in a moment of weakness. Begin divorce proceedings immediately, and plot revenge.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-02-07T18:33:45+00:00

"he apologized profusely" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

What a shit show.

"After he finished, he exited the room" Jesus fucking Christ

He sees her as a portable hole. Her grief, her space = nonexistent.

She married a sexist piece of shit who only caresabout his dick and jizzing at all costs. He probably thinks that if they are in a relationship, he shouldn't even bother with consent. Lori Alexander vibes.

A relationship =/= consent

Marriage =/= consent

Being naked =/= consent

I swear, men get more awful by the minute.🤮

dragon_wolf4 · 2022-02-07T17:37:05+00:00

Wtf did I just read. OMG. At the very least, she needs to press rape charges (where she specifically mentions how she was raped for first time on one of the worst days of her life, if not the worst, where she lost a parent) against this creature, and obviously divorce him as well.

Shot_Presence_8382 · 2022-02-07T16:59:05+00:00

OF COURSE he did. It's become common for men to leave their wives when she's sick, force himself on her when she's grieving, and cheat on her when she's pregnant. Men don't love women, they love other men and themselves. Women are seen as property and an extension of themselves; an object to pour all their abUse and vi0lence onto; something to dispose of and discard whenever they see fit.

scooter_se · 2022-02-07T18:04:09+00:00

Ah, yes, who doesn’t get stressed at work and react by raping their spouse who recently lost a parent. It’s just the natural response!!! /s obvi but just in case.

This man is a cold hearted rapist. You can’t claim to love someone AND ignore their pleas while literally raping them.

aslirakhisawant · 2022-02-07T17:57:17+00:00

Some of them get off on the pain that women face, so many reddit posts with men saying women crying and being vulnerable turns them on. Disgusting.

RhiannonEmilia · 2022-02-07T18:58:02+00:00

The fact that he tried to use stress and being “overwhelmed” as excuses for him RAPING her. Sir, kindly go to hell (not kindly though).

Snugglyy · 2022-02-07T15:52:50+00:00

I think if she didn’t ask him to stop and tell him what he was doing was rape, he would of still thought dick was going to help her with her grief.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2022-02-07T15:24:52+00:00

He is that 12 year old boy from the post earlier all grown up - his actions aren't his fault, he was just so stressed.

Edit. It just occured to me it might have been a deliberate move to break her spirit, rather than just egocentric selfishness.

oscine23 · 2022-02-07T19:02:19+00:00

I saw this yesterday. I always feel so badly when I read this stuff and think, “Just leave.” But clearly that easier said than done. By the time something like this happens to a woman there’s usually a lot of manipulation and gaslighting that has happened and they can’t even think straight. I’m so sorry for her.

Uruzdottir · 2022-02-07T17:54:28+00:00

When will men ever learn that HOW THEY FEEL is not women's problem to fix? If he's "too stressed and overwhelmed with work" then he needs to search for solutions and implement them -- change jobs, get some SSRIs, start some kind of meditation or workout program, or whatever. It's not her job to medicate his feelings with sex, it's his job to TAKE ACTION to solve his fucking problems like an adult.

Meanwhile, she had a problem that nothing can be done about at all (death of her father), AND has been raped by her worthless POS manchild of a husband in the bargain.

She needs to call the cops to report a rape, then file for divorce STAT.

seymakrs · 2022-02-07T15:09:27+00:00

He punished her by raping her for ignoring him, while she is in mourning… Did he think it would be good lesson? And she just lost respect? Not her love? She didn’t decide to get a divorce?

Sometimes I think these rape stories affect me more than the person writing them. How do they just move on and still be with these people?

Good_crisps_73 · 2022-02-07T21:17:55+00:00

She said “I feel like something broke inside of me and will never get fixed after this” and she’s absolutely right. There is no going back. The relationship is over now and she needs to move on. Find herself and then find a high value partner.

VintagePallor · 2022-02-07T15:05:57+00:00

I hope all of the comments are telling her that this is r*pe and she needs to get out of that house.

JoanGreenCat · 2022-02-07T15:34:27+00:00

As always at the time you will need your partner the most, he will use you, make it look like it was your fault "you ignore me!", and play a victim "I'm so stressed!". I hope she left him.

Attheatelier · 2022-02-07T15:54:18+00:00

This is literally rape... What the actual fuck. Horrifying.

clytemnestra_23 · 2022-02-07T16:55:50+00:00

There are no apologies for what he did. When I'm stressed and overwhelmed, I don't rape people.

I'm glad she won't let him come back from this, I hope she leaves him.

VelveetaIsBae · 2022-02-07T15:58:55+00:00

Throw the rapist in jail!

Misskalkuliert · 2022-02-07T20:08:47+00:00

Okay. I've been reading this a couple of times now and I am really, really shocked. How could someone I should trust without any effort- my husband- force himself on me out of stress? I dont want to discredit his stress, but it does NEVER allow you to force yourself onto another person. Like holy shit? Hello? If the other tells me to stop and begs me- why would I continue? I'm shocked. And I am so sorry that happened to that person. This man should feel disgusted beyond anything. I don't think I could ever forgive that.

ImpressiveCharge2619 · 2022-02-07T16:31:21+00:00

How much do you want to bet that this isn’t the first red flag he’s thrown her way. Disgusting and I hope she divorced him.

PinkPilledOphelia · 2022-02-07T20:15:53+00:00

She won't leave him.

South-Wolf1610 · 2022-02-07T20:18:58+00:00

How do you vet for something like this? I imagine they've been married for a whxile and this is the first time its happened but how do you see it coming?

Equipoisonous · 2022-02-08T03:26:34+00:00

I sometimes feel some weird "guilty" feelings when things start with my boyfriend but then I lose interest or realize I'm not in the mood, that are clearly the result of the patriarchy that I feel this weird guilt about it, but my boyfriend would never try to push past it in any way. He is always really respectful about it.

_mangoes_ · 2022-02-08T19:42:07+00:00

That's so messed up. A HVM will stop at any sign of pain or distress during sex or when initiating, they get turned off by it.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2022-02-08T05:08:23+00:00

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Title	I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.
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Date	February 7, 2022 2:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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