Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.

FuckSakez · 2022-03-09T10:29:07+00:00

Imagine being in agony and vulnerable with limited communication skills. Her boyfriend gaslit her, dismissed her pain and then abandoned her. Then he has the audacity to bitch about it to friends and Reddit-the complete lack of empathy and self awareness is wild.

But she’s like soo sensitive guys 🥴

Big-Respond8481 · 2022-03-09T13:08:51+00:00

Another episode of women being punished for not dying.

makeawomancum · 2022-03-09T08:50:11+00:00

Oh my god, I hate him for trying to start off by saying his gf is “pretty sensitive”, as if what he did wasn’t a total dick move that any one with basic empathy would feel upset at.

Thestral-glow6 · 2022-03-09T12:14:34+00:00

He sounds like he really doesn’t like her 🤨

AnastasiaRomani · 2022-03-09T09:25:19+00:00

He finally, "GAVE IN" and took her to the HOSPITAL. For APPENDICITIS. As a person for whom English is not her first language. 😵‍💫

nolongerhume · 2022-03-09T14:38:59+00:00

He reveals so much about himself with his use of words. “She’s pretty sensitive”, “I finally gave in”.

Without even knowing that English isn’t her first language he’s already a pos, but that detail makes it so much worse. It’s one thing to speak a 2nd language confidently in a casual context, but imagine doing so while you’re in excruciating pain and in a hospital setting where you may not even fully understand medical terminology in your 2nd language. Also Hospital systems aren’t universal and navigating it as a foreigner can be very overwhelming. To anyone else it would be so obvious that you would want to help this person, especially in this situation but this dude is such a psycho that he can’t even empathize with her after being called out.

BedazzledSwashbuckle · 2022-03-09T14:53:02+00:00

"So, like, I have acquired a great Vaj and the accompanying accoutrements and life support systems that come with such things. Unfortunately, I think my unit is pretty touchy. It was malfunctioning the other day, so, like a responsible Vaj owner, I took it to the shop for repairs. Now, my own family is saying I am, like, NOT a responsible Vaj owner because I did not sit there and wait for the repairs to be completed. Well, and also because this model doesn't have the same instruction set as the repair shop uses on their own models (my model is AsIaN, btw! *slap my back here, right! SCORE!*) so they couldn't figure out what was wrong as fast as they usually do. That's not my fault though - maybe they'll prioritize being more global next time, huh? I can't be the only guy cool enough to have an Asian Model Vaj in this joint, so I just enlightened them to a new business opportunity for them, amirite? Anyway, they finally figured it out - probably googled some youtube repair videos. You can find anything on youtube these days.

AITA?"

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-03-09T11:48:53+00:00

I had a similar story to this. A friend went bike riding in the summer and fell off her bike and broke her arm. Her fiancé at the time said that she was being dramatic and refused to bring her to ER. She cried the whole night and couldn’t go to sleep and he finally gave in and brought her there so that doctors can tell her it was nothing. Called her dramatic on the ride there. Get this, upon seeing the doctor, he didn’t have to do x-rays, one look at it and he said that it was broken. There was a bone near her elbow that popped out and apparently it’s not supposed to look like that.

akashyaboa · 2022-03-09T14:56:54+00:00

Too bad his mom didn't leave him at the hospital

Platipus6 · 2022-03-09T09:50:27+00:00

The type to dump her for "drama" so he can go back to sitting on the couch and being dead inside.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-03-09T11:48:51+00:00

It's so easy for bad things to happen in a hospital setting with imperfect communication - from misunderstanding allergies or previous adverse reactions to medication, to family or personal history (that can have an impact on speed of diagnosis), to just not being able to communicate symptoms or their evolution right.

His selfishness, stupidity and contempt for her literally endangered her life.

... but some of his friends think it's "not a big deal", so you know, who's to say? /s

swaylyn · 2022-03-09T11:43:39+00:00

It’s the “quotes” for me… trying to belittle her accurate and very valid feelings & interpretation on the situation

She’s “hurt” because I “abandoned” her.

I’m troubled by how he indicates that while she was speaking of her pain for x amount of time he waited over a day not a couple hours but a lengthy amount of time before taking her to the ER to shut her up.

No empathy, no compassion or consideration. Dangerous dude. Then dislikes her response to his action and seeks out supporters so he can feel justified and good.

And her English… he left her knowing she may struggle with communicating at that time.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2022-03-09T14:57:01+00:00

She needs to run. WTF? How does someone wind up THIS out of touch with their humanity? He needs to ask Reddit about basic human decency?

seraphinelysion · 2022-03-09T17:41:37+00:00

What is even the point of men like this? 😂

Bargin-basket · 2022-03-09T11:49:14+00:00

Yes my guy! You are the asshole. JFC! He must know! Surely he can’t think that is ok! God I hate that subreddit. Full of gaslighting abusive assholes!

inventivesquid · 2022-03-09T13:38:54+00:00

Urgently ill ***FOREIGN girlfriend….

Red flags also include “finally gave in” to taking her to the doctor. What a turd

the-worst- · 2022-03-09T13:56:03+00:00

He sounds like my narc mom. One day I woke up with bad stomach pain and was like “oh, it’s just the flu, once I puke I’ll feel better” fell asleep and napped until the afternoon, where my mom yelled at me…. For “being dramatic and rolling around, moaning in pain”… I was like “what? I was asleep!” And then her face went stark white, she asked where the pain was (for the first time) and then frantically cancelled the rest of her work… doc said my appendix was THE SIZE OF A BASKET BALL and that if they had started surgery any later, it would have busted.

But even my crazy mom stayed with me… and English is my first language. Why would you abandon someone you love at the ER? Especially when they might not be able to communicate what is going on, or understands what’s happening.

Also, bonus points for him putting her down for social anxiety.

mynameisrominka · 2022-03-09T17:34:42+00:00

The fact that he needs to ask.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-03-09T20:11:37+00:00

I took her to the hospital as she told me. But I didn't stay, because she didn't tell me to, duh! I can't like... Be there for her all the time or at all. Aita? Guys, aita? UWU

🤡

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-09T14:01:53+00:00

Are you joking???

This boy is grade A levels douche bag, what the hell.

Not only did he abandon her, she. had. APPENDICITIS!!! That isn't a stomach bug that is "you're done if you don't go to the hospital now" levels of crap and I've heard it's PAINFUL.

He needs a good k*ck in the plums so he can feel a modicum of pain she's feeling...JFC

s_slayer · 2022-03-09T23:54:03+00:00

I once went to the ER for cervical bleeding from rough sex (that I didn’t want or ask for). I texted my ex who I was still in contact with that I was in the hospital and he replied “omg” and that was it. No follow up, didn’t ask to come down, nothing. Last year I had a bad UTI and my boyfriend (current boyfriend, very amazing man), went to a doc in the box with me. I ended up having a seizure (due to intense pain) in the waiting room and was transported by ambulance to the ER. When I came to, my boyfriend was right beside me, he stayed the whole time. He was worried sick. The difference between my ex and him is night and day. Do not ever forgive or make excuses for any man that doesn’t care about you with all his being. Trust me there are plenty of guys out there that really don’t care. It’s better to be single if you can’t find one who does. Much, much better. He continues to support me and nurse me back to health (I’ve had complications from Covid), makes me dinner every night, helps me with anything I need, and would do anything for me. I’m sorry I wasted years on the selfish loser, but at least I know what I’ve got now and I’m never letting him go. Never settle, it’s a special kind of hell.

flowerpower102938 · 2022-03-09T11:58:05+00:00

He lost me at "she's pretty insensitive"

jjlew922 · 2022-03-10T04:47:41+00:00

This is so F’ed Up I imagined a “mail order bride” situation where he thought he was getting a sex robot, like ordered, and not a human being. This is absolutely disgusting 🤯.

Makes me ponder some of the more extreme behavior we’re seeing with men today - engulfed in porn and video games, extreme entitlement, and a deep disconnect of reality. It’s almost as if they’re no longer even human anymore…

esthermaniii · 2022-03-10T11:25:58+00:00

I hope she leaves him!!!

FluffandRainclouds · 2022-03-10T06:35:19+00:00

Don't some ERs refuse visitors at admission because of COVID? we're missing some context here.

(Obviously not defending him if he literally abandoned her and could have accompanied her)

Title	Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.
Author	OneOnionBhaji
Upvotes	749
Comments	47
Date	March 9, 2022 8:46 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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