Advocates for the idea that dating apps and in particular Tinder are facilitating an imbalanced sexual marketplace wherein most of the women are being monopolized by a small number of guys will generally point to the swipe and match ratios as proof.

However if you instead look at the outcome related data such as how many men and women have either met up or hooked up through them, the results are a lot more balanced. Roughly an equal amount of both men and women report having met or hooked up through tinder/dating apps, if not slightly more men:

Despite this, many men and women still find success on Tinder. According to one survey, more than 20% of millennials surveyed reported meeting someone off of Tinder. Men were more likely to use the app as well as more likely to have met someone from Tinder. Excluding those who have never used Tinder, nearly 30% of people have met someone from Tinder.

https://thebolditalic.com/the-two-worlds-of-tinder-f1c34e800db4

https://simpletexting.com/dating-app-survey/

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I expect critics will attempt to argue that the results are skewed due to men and/or women lying about their success, and I would probably be willing to concede that that effect is likely present enough to explain the excess male success but you'd need good evidence to show it would be significantly imbalanced given 100% truthful reports.

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What I think this shows is that the bottleneck is less so women's supposed inherent hyper-selectivity and more so the skewed gender ratio, which has been thoroughly documented at this point:

https://www.statista.com/statistics/975925/us-tinder-user-ratio-gender/

https://www.netimperative.com/2019/04/05/online-dating-trends-men-outnumber-women-on-tinder-by-9-to-1-while-grinder-wins-for-age-diversity/

Depending on the location there are between 3 and 9 men for every woman that uses tinder.

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Obviously this opens a whole nother can of worms as to what causes this imbalance to begin with, but none of those explanations would change the fact that the data doesn't support the idea that there are numerous women spreading their legs for each successful guy, or 80 women going to 20 men or 95 to 5 or whatever numbers they want to make a false extrapolation from. That idea basically assumes an equal gender balance and doesn't have any outcome related data to support it.

And obviously this doesn't change the fact that it's difficult if not impossible for the average guy to find success on the app either, just that it's more nuanced than 'women only want chad'.