So as the title says. She was talking to her mom and her mom asked me to read and respond to her texts. I did because I have a big heart. She is now fully regretting her choices and messing up our marriage. She says she doesn't hate me but I still have the messages with her telling me off and such. She is all I am sorry for hurting you and such. I still love her dearly but really don't think I could look past her doing the one thing I asked her to never do to me. I said in the beginning of our relationship thirteen years ago if you find you don't love me or are not happy with me anymore please just tell me and we can go our separate ways and the only thing I ever asked for was to please don't cheat on me. So now I ask if and I mean if I was to try and give her a chance how could I ever get over that she did this to me? I don't think I can. But we were happy upintill we made a move to be closer to her parents and ended up having to live with them for the last three years. I would save money to try and get us out of their house but she would always spend it. But once she cheated on me she got her own apartment and now her new man has become verbally abusive to her like all the other ones before me. She says she can't live on her own and he is still married and using her as child care for his daughter. I am packed and ready to move from Tennessee to California next Saturday. I have saved and worked to my normal time to get just enough money to pay for my rooms and gas to drive back to California. My mom is getting older and my sister is not going to see and help my mom enough as she should. My wife hates my mom for some unknown reason so her going back with me is not really a choice technically unless she chose to talk to my mom and work out whatever her problem is with my mom. I love my wife with all my heart but do not know if I could get past her cheating on me. I don't have anyone to talk to except her dad and he is not happy she chose to cheat on me as well. I am not wanting to make a big mistake but I also only have enough for a U-Haul big enough for my stuff and not hers if I brought her with me. Key word if there. We were happy for the most part and always worked out our issues before we moved here three years ago. She talked every day to a girlfriend of hers and let her taint our marriage. I fought for us but lost two months ago. Five months ago I hit my lowest point and wanted to kill myself because I couldn't make her happy and love me like she once did. She used that as an excuse to validate her cheating as I was not happy if I wanted to kill myself. Never what I said to her in any way. I guess I just need to ask for advice and go from there.