I started trying to improve my “game” as a 17 year old ugly high schooler. Fast forward 7 years and I have an active dating and social life. Here’s how I did it.

I started out reading “seduction” books and dated a couple of girls that were complete messes. The lines I used from the books only worked because their self esteem was so low they accepted any musky positive interaction they had from a man.

Then I started realizing that I had a lot of fucked up inner demons. I saw a therapist, I finally acknowledged I was obsessed with women and that was turning all the healthy girls off, and I realized I needed to learn how to actually relate to people.

I started reading ACTUALLY HELPFUL BOOKS. I read Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie and Vanessa Van Edwards.

I took responsibly for my health and focused on eating right and working out.

I started caring about what women go through. I began asking myself if those damned crazy feminists I always hated might have had some legitimate points (spoiler alert: they do indeed).

Most importantly, I stopped being self obsessed. Negativity in your life is a form of narcissism. The constant “woe is me” feeling is a sign that you need to take responsibility for the hurt in your life and actually confront it. You wanna be a big strong man that’s tough enough for the ladies to love? Then be strong enough to admit you got actual deep problems beyond just women not being into you.

Stop reading or watching seduction channels or gurus. They are morons and have no clue what they are talking about. The only ones I would recommend are Mark Manson and Tucker Max. David Buss is cool if you like more heady stuff.

You don’t need magical fixing from some pickup artist. You are an incredible achievement of billions of years of evolution. So much shit had to go right for your daddy’s sperm to find your mommy’s egg. So quit ignoring what you actually need to do in your life and start doing the hard shit.

You will be glad you did.