Speaking as a woman: One secret pop culture eludes or dances around, is that women are almost as visual as a man.

If she didn't find you attractive when you first met, but liked you enough as an individual to become friends, the chances of her suddenly doing a 180 degree and seeing you in a new light is marginal.

In some cases, she may change her opinion on your sex appeal/attractiveness, but the reason may not be that palatable. I will explain why.

In some rare cases, I have seen women falling for one of their male friends over time. It was usually one of these situations:

She was committed to someone when she became his friend. She probably thought he was cute, but didn't act on it as she was in a relationship. When she was single, she indicated interest.

Now comes the unpalatable reasons why a woman can go from friendzone to more than friends. And I doubt, most self-respecting guys would tolerate this.

She needs a rebound relationship. Heard of women seeking comfort, and solace in that devoted male friend as she is smarting from a heartbreak.

The male friend had a glow-up. Went from obese to fit, or cleaned up well. This led to the woman discovering that she does not view Raj, a brother from another mother or BFF after all. He is hot stuff.

My question is, if you belong to the last category, would you be ok knowing on some level that this 'glow up' and not years of loyalty and unconditional support made her 'see the light'?

I mean, I have seen former overweight female friends get bombarded by dating offers by their male friends who just saw them as 'one of the boys' before. Many of them feel resentful and bitter about this fact.