Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?

biscuitcatapult · 2024-07-05T20:22:34+00:00

I am experiencing older women in the dating marketplace, but saying it is a competition would definitely be a stretch.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-07-05T19:34:47+00:00

I do know one woman who is in her 40s that has Short term FWBs/hookups with much younger men.

Reason is: men her age want to get remarried/married and she’s not really looking to get remarried. So she’s found young men in their 20s are much more into casual hookups.

But then again, I’m not so sure these are the same kinda guys that the TikToker would be trying to “wife up?”

Maybe she she’s just mad men her age aren’t into her?

Windmill_flowers · 2024-07-05T19:44:06+00:00

Still not as much as I see younger men complaining about older men competing for the same women.

But yeah I’d say this exists.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-07-06T05:49:32+00:00

The older women aren't competing for the same men,

cuz men vastly tend to rather date/have-sex with younger women

I know a guy who fucks older women - if younger women would have him as often, he would go for them

Older men however are a bit more competition - for instance I know a guy my age who's gf/bf with a 26y/o

Anyway those instances aren't common enough to weigh on the market I think - most couples are within 4 years of each other

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-07-05T20:09:15+00:00

Somewhat. It's becoming more common on OLD to see 40+ women write "I seem to get along with younger men better" or something similar. I don't necessarily agree with the woman in the video though; I don't think older women are looking to be super serious with a much younger man. It looks more like they are having a mid-life crisis and want to experience and enjoy the perks of being desirable because they see old age looming in the not too distant future, AND they've kept themselves somewhat in shape and don't want to date a stodgy old gent who's their age.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-07-05T23:12:57+00:00

I’m in my mid-20s, and I actually quite enjoy dating women in their late 20s/early to mid 30s. Don’t think it’s competition though; I’m happy to go out with any pretty woman between 20 and 40.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2024-07-06T03:01:08+00:00

Here in Germany the dating market is wide open and older women/ younger men couples are more common than the other way around so there's definitely some competition going on but honestly it's the younger men who are pursuing older women in most situations.

ilike18yoblackpussy · 2024-07-06T06:17:47+00:00

Since the Sexual Revolution, decreasing marriage rates, and rising divorce rates from the 1960s onward, the number of older women on the market has no doubt increased.

I'd say this is one reason why you see a lot of hate against men dating younger women, men watching porn, and so forth.

OkProfessional9405 · 2024-07-05T19:40:12+00:00

Is it really that much of a competition though? Guys basically date as young as they practically can with the overwhelming dating attention going to women below 40.

NiceGuy_4eva · 2024-07-06T03:51:47+00:00

Nah, women don't have any issues in dating, age is not a factor at all.

qwertyuduyu321 · 2024-07-05T21:26:54+00:00

Unless they have redeeming qualities about them, older women are not going/able to compete with younger women.

“Old” is akin to “short” in the below context:

Short men are unable to compete with taller men, generally speaking.

It’s not what women look for in men. Just like a lady that is of “advanced age” is not something men look for in women.

I’ll embrace the downvotes, ladies.

Cunning_Linguists_ · 2024-07-05T20:00:25+00:00

Nah women 35+ are basically invisible to me (unless they're gym hotties)

AntonioSLodico · 2024-07-05T23:18:12+00:00

Cougars have been a thing. So have older dudes who get with younger women. If more older women are doing it now, more power to them. More gender symmetry in age asymmetric relationships should be a good thing, no?

Unable_Evidence_4028 · 2024-07-08T02:45:35+00:00

I havent seen a particular increase in older women.

It may be because I dont usually want women my own age or older but I just see a small difference.

If some grannies and aunties wanna be on the market it is their own choice. they are not the best suppliers, for obvious reasons. So they arent usually noticed much anyway. There was a sharp increase in the supy of fat women in the last 30 years and none noticed too right?

alebruto · 2024-07-09T19:03:46+00:00

In my experience, older women who are single tend to shame younger women and call them immature and other derogatory adjectives, especially when the younger woman is being successful in relationships. But this isn't "in the last few years", I'm 32 and to me it seems like it's always been like this.

blarginfajiblenochib · 2024-07-05T22:59:18+00:00

I don’t think older women are competing with younger women, no; I do think a lot more older women are envious of both younger women and also older men who can still attract younger women.

Women ages 30 to 49 are least likely to be single, about 19%, while women age 65+ are most likely to be single, about 49%.%20are%20single)

tiddermacss · 2024-07-05T22:43:19+00:00

from what i’ve experienced older women have the same standards as younger women.. its another feminist BS fed to some of these women.. that age is just a mindset.. past doesn’t matter.. etc.. but its not competing though.. women are not competing at all.. if they don’t get what they want they would rather stay single and fk around using dating apps

Cobra_x30 · 2024-07-05T20:27:57+00:00

You don't see this much, because only a small slice of these women are chasing younger men. What is really happening is they are homewrecking upper middle class families in the young Gen X category. If you are 55 year old successful guy, and your 55 year old wife is fat, frumpy, and asexual now... a 48 year old that is getting plastic surgery to look younger and is willing to flex down on her morality... that's going to look like a good deal to a lot of these guys. Think of it like a Jeff Bezos style problem, except his wife was hot as hell and he is just stupid.

63daddy · 2024-07-05T23:34:54+00:00

I’ve read that dating sites such as eharmony have a population of older often widowed women they need to match with younger men and this will have an impact a few decades down. The demographic distribution of older women means trying to match men with older women even though men generally prefer younger women. In that respect, I agree that older women “competing” has an impact.

On the other hand, I have come across some younger women willing to date quite a bit older, so one could argue it’s these younger women who are competing with older women. This is something I’ve certainly heard some older women complain about as well.

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ta06012022 · 2024-07-06T23:09:41+00:00

In 2012, half (49.68%) of American women were married or living with a partner by the age of 26.

In 2022, half (49.72%) of American women were married or living with a partner by the age of 26.

That's after the introduction and widespread adoption of swipe dating apps. So despite allegedly becoming much more selective and less likely to settle down, today's women are just as likely to meet a guy to marry or live with as they were before dating apps.

Things haven’t changed all that much in recent years. People always think they had it worse than those who came before them.

harmonica2 · 2024-07-05T19:26:21+00:00

I'm almost 40. My gf is in her mid 20s so maybe I am trying in the competition of younger guys to an extent in that case? Or maybe not.

just_a_place · 2024-07-06T05:35:46+00:00

In my experience older women are usually 99.9% either already in relationships, or already have kids, and are thus not in the market at all. The very few women who date usually do so just to do casual sex or to be in non-committed relationships.

The advantage that older women have is that they are more experienced in appealing to men's many other tastes that aren't just sex. Older women know how to be more mentally and emotionally appealing. By that, I mean that they are more experienced in what men want and respond to in the personal and emotional level; which makes older women massively much more appealing and intriguing than younger women - who usually only offer just their age and looks. In short, older women are more fun to be around with outside the bedroom. Younger women, although more sexy and physically hot, stop being so attractive when the open their mouths or start acting with their fucking drama.

nightcall379 · 2024-07-06T02:15:10+00:00

Absolutely

I see women get more and more bitter with age

They're losing both attention and attraction to younger women and it makes them furious

They might try and counteract that by getting a man that is lower status than those she used to "have fun" with, but it only ends up making them even more depressed

Title	Q4M: Are you experiencing older women competing with younger women more in dating nowadays?
Author	Windmill_flowers
Upvotes	6
Comments	120
Date	July 5, 2024 7:24 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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